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Originalsly:
Hmmm.... would they have showed up if Ned wasn't a billionaire? They came to introduce themselves to Ned.

You seem to forget they are Regina's professional collegues, whom she has worked with for over a decade. She has been acting as a child and they saw her grow to become a woman.
She had achieved fame even before meeting Ned. Why wouldn't they come to support their own?

Jceeee:
Yes I’m a citizen in this country and I’m working full time , honestly if he break up with me , it wouldn’t be affecting me financially because I have a lots of opportunity here and he will be the one to leave the house for the kids and I , It will affect me emotionally because I don’t want a divorce , all I want is for my children to grow up in a happy home with both parents. I just don’t know how to open up to him but I have no option left than to do so and see the outcome

Keep your secrets till your daughter is old enough to withstand whatever the outcome is.
Even if your husband decides to stay, he won't want to see the girl as she will be a constant reminder of your infidelity. I suspect she will be made to pay for your indiscretions.
I understand he was also unfaithful, but those children are not living under your roof.
There is a time and a place for everything. Let that child grow up till she is confident enough to be her own person before rocking her world.
Renegotiate with your sister.

TheRedpillguy:
I appreciate your honest opinion. This came from some whare deep filled with true concern. If humans are evolving pass marriage then it will hurt women more. No institution to bring up children in and the people in the future will be mindless drones controlled by the government. Life is complicated, especially in a city. sure women manipulate men. The thing is. Men are growing wiser now seeing women for what they are.

Why are you so concerned about women?
Women would be just fine, if there were no marriages anymore. They would be absolutely fine, as there are many married women who live less fulfilling lives than their single counterparts.
Infact, it will help many senseless ones sit up and take control of their own lives and future.
Women have shown time and time again that they are easy adaptable to prevailing circumstances around them. Over and over again they have shown this adaptability and resilience despite tough situations.
They have continued to show strength in their financial capability (yes, more women are achieving financial independence now, compared to previously).
They have been single handedly raising their children since time immemorial, so that's nothing new to them.
They have also been taking care of their households and running it even while they were still children- yes, they wake up daily to clean, cook, look after younger ones even while they were teenagers or even younger.
They have also learnt that the world is a jungle, and there is no paddy anywhere. Put trust on anyone, and you will end up dissapointed.
Even sex has been replaced with vibrators and dildos. Infact, those ones have gained ground tey tey,. Yet sex dolls have gone out of fashion quick quick, just like that.

The question should be , what would happen to men if there were no marriages anymore? Are they equipped for that eventuality?

See as his face strong kakaraka..

This one na hardened criminal..

What many in the North need is just some enlightenment. Many don't know the responsibility their government has.
I think there should be a lot of focus too on empowering disabled people, because of those who beg due to one disability or other.
There are many skill acquisitions programs they can set up for disabled people.
Beggars who have no disability should be chased off the roads. Local councils can employ them to sweep the streets, pack garbage into trucks etc.

If they want to

Jceeee:
Thank you I agreed with you, my sister is not evil at all because what she has done for me , a lot of sister would’ve never done the same thing for the fact that she chooses to be humiliated for having a child without a father just to saved my marriage means a lot to me which I really appreciate her a lot by providing a good education for her daughter but my sister doesn’t want to understand me, all she care about is for her daughter to join us abroad which would never be possible. Even our mum had talked with her with no avail. I just don’t know what else to do

Renegotiate with her.
Either agree to bring the child there/any other western country when she wants to enter the university, or when she wants to do her masters program. Or give her a huge amount of money to settle her.
Keep your secrets, secret.
I won't call you names because you were separated from your husband for 11 years, and he also had 2 children from 2 baby mamas while married to you. He did his own to gain papers, you did yours to get money. You're both made for each other, so it's better to maintain the status quo .

Whizbuzz:
Be a good wife to your husband If you don't want your's to be filed there also....that's my take madam...

Women are the ones filing more for the divorce these days.

Blyzz:
and because women nowadays are too educated, making them know too much

Getting knowledge is a good thing for everyone. While some people believe ignorance is bliss, others believe knowledge is power.
It's 2020, ignorance won't cut it anywhere.

Some people be reaching sha.
Is someone supposed to believe this nonsense, when you can have a rental car far nicer and cheaper too, considering the costs of shipping?
Is she planning to ship it back again to Nigeria after her meet and greet?

You need to learn how to deal with such people.

I enjoy such projects...

You should have turned the tables on him, and become the aggressor, but do it subtly.
Be very passive aggressive.

Adgideon:
You are in deep shit, for your sister she is a witch, for you a I reserve my comment witchcraft is not only flying by night, but also one who want to destroy ones progress which your sister is doing you committed adultery prepared for the worst, cos the secret must surely come out, your husband was busy fighting for you and your kids to join him, but all you can think of is to go and have sex. you, your mother and sister, are all praticing witches and your sins shall find you out,

The sister is no witch.
She was a good sister to the OP.
She bore OPs shame, and was disgraced by their father and family members for bearing a child outside wedlock.
She married as a single mother, while she wasn't one.
I can't blame OP for not taking the sister's own daughter if it's not possible, but that sister should be worshipped by OP.

madridguy:
Time registered: February 22, 2020

Nairaland is now a place where the admin hire writers to write different lies just to drag traffic

But let's not lie to ourselves, the story is juicy jor .
I won't mind watching a movie of the atoey

She's lying, and just wants to ensure you keep in contact with her
Stop picking her calls. Block her on all social media.
In the meantime, find out all about her husband- his social media handles, his workplace, his friends and family.
If she tries contacting you again with all the nonsense, report her to her husband

franchasng:
don't let any lady lie to you or deceive you, getting married to their desired man is their greatest achievement in life, they just don't want men to know and be using it against them.


Even Queen Elizabeth of England was angry sometime ago when she realized that prince Philip her husband cheated on her, she threatened to divorce Prince Philip but till date she is still with him.


Oprah Winfrey have tried all she can to secretly get married but the younger guys she is trying to rope in aren't buying the idea, they only want to hit and run.


Many ladies all over the world will abandon their well paying job, career, fame to marry their desired man if that's the condition from the man; Janet Jackson did it, Shakira did it, Beyonce, Victoria Beckham, and so many other famous women, but hungry Nigerian ladies will tell you it's only in Nigeria just to feel funky

Oprah Winfrey has been dating her long term boyfriend- Stedman since the 80s. Some people on NL weren't even born then. She's never wanted to marry or have children, so they have remained boyfriend and girlfriend since then.
Non of the women you mentioned abandoned nothing for their men. Their careers continued to soar after marriage. Shakira is richer than her partner, beyonce continued to rise in her career after marriage, Victoria Beckham was never much of a good singer, and she went into other ventures, Janet took a hiatus in her career and once she had a child, got her divorce and she's back with a bang-she will be going on tour soon.

Wink at his own friend too

LordKO,

While it's easier and perhaps even woke to do so, you truly cannot simply explain away the intricacies of interracial relationships as just fetishes.
There are good guys and bad guys out there. You become an easier target to bad guys when you're too trusting, stupid, poor and isolated.
The worst cases of abuse of any form are usually between people of same race. I've seen many terrible cases of white on white abuse.
I personally don't think she's experienced any racism. It wasnt because of her race she got the worst end of the stick, but simply because she was vulnerable.
Having a sexual fetish doesn't mean you have to be a sociopath or psycho. This guy was one. He even hid her passport until she found it and ran. He wasn't just tired of the 'fetish' he had. He would have let her go with her passport since, or even thrown her out , called immigration on her once he got tired. He didnt do any of that, but he enjoyed dehumanising her, once she became an illegal immigrant- a vulnerable person.

Mariangeles:
They are o!
They can barely stand a biracial, talk more of a black person...ask Leo Balogun

There are racists, tribalists, colorists, etc everywhere.

I have a good friend who is married to a German, with children and living in Germany. They are both professionals who met while doing their masters program in another western country. They got married, and moved to Germany. He has a good job, she later left her own good job and started a now very successful business, and her husband is very supportive. His family is not racist and neither are his friends.
Her own black friends and family are always welcome in their home.
However, the story is sweet because she is from good stock. She had value before meeting him, had her life all planned out, had skills she could use and she didnt sell herself short.
A Nigerian graduate with a decent job gets more respect from her Nigerian husband and his family, than one without a degree or at least a very good job/business. That is the way of the world. It doesn't mean their marriages are happier btw, but that respect is usually there. (Of course there is no 100% guarantee/certainty in life on anything)

You would have been treated just about the same way with a Ghanian man, if you brought nothing to the table. Same with a Nigerian man.
Abusers come in different forms or shape, and the easiest people to abuse are those who cannot get support or help easily. The same way orphans, maids are so easy to abuse in Nigeria.
You had no job or means to get a job, you left your country to a strange land for a stranger who had no plans for you.
You allowed your desperation to travel abroad and be with a white man cloud your judgement.
You were stupid enough to take his words that you could overstay your visa, and not expect repercussions. If he were that into you, he would have offered you the protection of marriage in his country. These were discussions you should have had before leaving your country. Why didnt he marry you immediately you got there, so you wouldn't commit a crime by overstaying your visa? A crime you have to bear the repercussion for a long time, as you can't even travel to other countries without this blight on your record

You owe it to yourself to be as smart as a fox, and as deadly as a serpent.
You should always be calculating. How is this deal going to pay you in the long run?

You should have your plan A, and if it doesn't work out, there are 25 other letters of the alphabet.
Always be ready for contingencies.

Another fake story spotted

Do they pay you people for the ridiculous stories you post on here?

Ouchbabe,
Inform his family/parents of his late night walkabout, and let them know you've warned him severally.
This is to protect yourself if wahala happens and he is kidnapped, arrested or whatever.
Nobody will blame you as you've informed them before hand, and they can also try to speak to him about the dangers
If anything should happen, they would also prepared to bail him out.

ImmaculateJOE:
Please someone should help me out. I Just registered for my final year study yesterday.

But my biggest nightmare since 2016 that I got admitted to the Varsity is PROJECT. I'm so awful when it concerns Researching.

Just last week I made up my mind that I'll just patronize the Project seller here in NL. But seeing this, fear don catch me as I don't want anything that will dent my image in the near future.

Biko, Dear Niaralanders, How do I go about this project stuffs? where do I start from? I'm so bad at it I need guidelines, starting from selecting the project topic. Please help out.

My colleagues here in the Varsity has cleaning up my mess.

Anytime group assignments is given. We do division of Labour. They'll source out information and compile it, then I will study it and present (I'm averagely good at this one)

overcome your fears, and don't allow them revoke your univeraity degree because you defended a fake project o

seunlayi:
Something that is regular here in Nigeria, some are even advertising it online. Maybe this will open the eyes of many undergraduates

I'm sure serious universities have the software to check for plagiarism. Such software have been available for decades, so I'm very sure it's in Nigeria now.
Universities must put the works of their students online, where it can easily be picked up . It's a very serious issue

Get her to be more accountable to you, and even to herself.
Help her get a loan for her business, under her own name. You can act as a guarantor, so that las las if she defaults on payment , you will bail her out but that will allow her know that she can jeopardise her credit worthiness.
Allow people appreciate money, and don't make it seem as though it's so easy to get the money. She doesn't appreciate all you do because it probably comes on a platter.
If she is travelling and doesn't tell you of her plans, do same to her. Plan a travel for the weekend, perhaps to visit your parents or a business related trip and tell her the night before, or on the day before. Some people do things without consideration for others, not necessarily out of malicious intent but because they dont think deep enough. When you do same to her, she will develop empathy for that same thing and would have learnt a lesson. But if she doesn't care whether you tell her or not, sorry, love isn't a strong forte in your marriage. It doesn't mean you can't still have a good marriage. Many marriages still thrive on less, even without love so no biggie.
As per the sex thing, 3x a week is more than enough. Negotiate a timetable for sex. Yes, I said it. It should be spontaneous blablabla, but real life events may mean you won't get any, despite being married. So, negotiate early now. Why doesn't she like sex anymore? Is she always tired? Are her hormones playing up?, let her get her thyroid checked too. Fortunately, I hear there's a new drug to help women's libido sexually. It's not yet approved in most countries, but it could help her. There's also the Spanish fly nonsense they talk about. In the past, which position did she like during the act, let more of that happen now than just the one you like. Also, make sure you're still attractive to other women. Nobody likes a pot bellied, smelly person who wears one boxer shorts 2-3 days in a row. Always smell fresh, come home fromm work, take a shower , relax to have your meal and watch TV to unwind. Wear nice pyjamas or sleep wear , fresh ones daily. Even if its sleeping in a singlet due to heat, wear a fresh singlet.
I'm not been sarcastic here. You have to look after yourself. Not just because of your spouse, but for your own selfworthiness. Join a gym too while at it.
If you dont show others you value your looks, body and you're a god, how would they value it?

OgbeniOptional:
U are hurting people's feelings in the process. Don't be heartless.

He's an alfafa male. Dazz how NL alfafas behave, they scatter and don't build things.

pocohantas:
You can actually tweak it, depends on what you wanna use as the side. When will you cook and post for us na? Make we see your own handiwork.

Some people are using style to troll and you're giving them the craved attention by quoting them.
Post one single picture they've cooked, mba.
But they're the worst critics out there..
People wey be say na mama put 3x daily on lucky days they have money. Normal days na ewa agoyin with agege bread in the morning, afternoon it's gari with groundnut and at night na plain indomie

dasparrow:
Many people commenting here don't realize how painful sex is for post- menopausal women. It was a white American woman who told me that as women get older, their genitals become dry and will need vaginal lubricant sold in some stores or pharmacies. Without lubrication, penetrative sex becomes very painful for elderly women.

I cannot blame the wife for denying him sex when she herself is no longer enjoying it. Now that the divorce is finalized, Mama can rest from the constant pressure to perform sexually by her high libido old now ex husband. It's a win-win for all parties involved.

Let papa go and look for some young woman with high libido to satisfy him. Let's hope papa does not overdose on sex enhancement pills trying to sexually satisfy a young wife. Wish all parties involved the best!

You are right.
If you calculate when she stopped having sex with him, it was just around her menopause.

IprintMONEY:
i have been pondering on this after i read about jeff besos and other very rich westerners that you see their wives claiming a chunk of their fortune after a divorce. in the united states it is even used as business. blac chyna is a prime example.
lawyers and other learned guys in the house and people that have experienced this, please tell me if this is possible in nigeria

Who was black chyna married to? And who's fortune is she claiming a chunk from?

Tim16:
See this smelling dirty Afonja talking. Before you talk to people like me please go and tell your Ode dirty disgusting mother to stop defecating inside plastic rubber and stop living, cooking and eating inside Lagos gutter. Who doesn't know yoruba people are the most useless, dirtiest, confused jobless fools in Africa. Please go and stand on the road and collect 50 naira from keke and okada operators so you can eat today because that is all yoruba people only know how to do best. When Buhari mentioned Lazy youths he was referring to yoruba people. Quote me and die by thunder now now. Smelling yoruba animal. Dirty pig. Spits

Ògún láká'yė kill you there.
Ayélála afflict you.
Last last, you will be used for sacrifice for the gods.
No two ways about it
You this filthy bastard.
Your father, you don't know
Prostitution is the legacy your family has left for you. You this product of a LovePeddler of a woman and an armed robber of a man.
Your whole family, HIV inflicted.
Na one by one you will all drop dead before my eyes.
Babalu-Ayé will continue to inflict you all, one after the other.

The more I read OPs post again, the harsher words I have to give.
So, I will just keep kwayet since I have nothing nice to say.

JOHNSONSOLAFUNMI:
Storm are given male names while hurricane are given female names


Now you know

No

Storm Ciara is female named and it came some days just before Dennis.

Storms are also given female names.

The gender of the name determines how severe it is going to be.
If it's named female , it will be very terrible, but male ones are milder.

Fear women o. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned etc. Female named storms are more destructive in short.

I'm sure it's men doing all these namings