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TYLER, Texas (AP) - A Nigerian woman, Vivian Adiza Yusuf, charged in a nearly $10 million Medicare billing scam in Texas has pleaded guilty to conspiracy to commit health care fraud.

Read more at: http://africanoutlookonline.com/index.php/news/99-outlookscroller/8829-nigerian-woman-pleads-guilty-to-us-10million-texas-fraud

Amnesty International in a new report released Tuesday morning has provided fresh evidence of war crimes, implicating the Nigerian military in the extra-judicial killing of over 600 in the North-East, especially Maiduguri and Bama, as it battles Boko Haram insurgency in the region. The new evidence is captured in gruesome video footage, images and testimonies gathered by field officers of the human rights group from numerous sources during a recent trip to Borno state. Some of the evidence also nailed the Boko Haram militants, committing various atrocities.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=GA7SIbvEO64

computerboy: Tips all over Nairaland. Still wondering who gave our parents these tips when they were dating

Living here, in the States, I've met people from other cultures whose parents and grandparents were in arranged marriages - no dating. That's why some parents can't or don't agree with the dating thing. Not so with the young folks. Times change. And this causes a bit a of conflict...because some parents just don't understand the whole concept of dating.

Why do some single men/women think it's acceptable to have affairs with married people?

What's worse, some of these shameless ones brag about it and tell all who'll listen how they 'bagged' the married person, how good they are at bedmatics, how many gifts, money, etc. they've received, with the cheated on spouse none the wiser.

Why can't single people 'just say no' to married people?

With all the other single people running around, why have an affair with someone you KNOW is married - many times with children?

As for adulterous married people, why did you get married, if you didn't think you could commit to one person, 'til death do you part'?

Why do you think it's acceptable to cheat on your spouse?

cococandy: This maga better divorce that crazy woman.does his house look like an asylum where the mentally ill get cured?
One day she'll flip out in future and kill one of their kids then he'll be too heartborken to know where to pick his life up from.

You're very right! This is serious business!

Example:

Andrea Yates: Ill or Evil?

http://www.crimelibrary.com/notorious_murders/women/andrea_yates/index.html

cococandy: To get a divorce without clear proof of adultery, according to church teachings, required complete and total celibacy and no hope of ever remarrying. To remarry after a divorce with no clear proof of adultery, invariably and abruptly lead you to being excommunicated from the church entirely, wherein even your own family and close friends would have nothing to do with you.

So...must the cheated on party hire a private detective to follow the cheating spouse around, take pictures, record a video, provide proof of having contracted an STD, etc.?

Nonsense!

snowprince07: Source pls

Both sources are at the end of the stories.

It's their personal stories - something may be lost if shortened.

Jetsfan1980's Story:

My Wife Is Abusive

"I hate my wife, I mean I absolutely hate her.

We Have been together for 4 years and married for 2 1/2. There are days we get along, we have a lot in common. We have many of the same hobbies and share the same profession. Our relationship started out perfect. I was friends with some of her relatives and I met her through them. I took her out on dates and was very romantic towards her. I really held nothing back, I spent over $2,000 dating her the first 3 months( I am a frugal person, so spending that type of money was big for me.) She was so happy, her family loved me, I felt on top of the world!

Her two brothers and sister all got married in a 1 1/2 years, so she was itching to follow in their steps. Everyone was pressuring me to get engaged, I was so happy, that I conceded and made the idiotic decision to get engaged after 8 months of dating. After I spent $5,000 on a ring ( she said it had to be at least 1 carat). I purposed to her at a large jazz concert. We were in the audience and I had prearranged for the band to call me on stage, I went up a spotlight on me, and I gave a sweet message and asked her to marry me. The crowd went crazy! It was a scene out of a movie! The next day she said nothing that she was excited to marry me. All she talked about was wedding plans. The next 9 months she became obsessive, she turned into a lunatic, and never turned back. She stated breaking stuff like cell phones, and sunglasses out of rage. She started punching me in the arm often, and spazzing out in public. I thought it was just the wedding planning and I loved her blindly.

Our wedding was so lavish, I hated it. Our wedding cost over $50K. After the wedding, and a Honeymoon that was OK. She spent the next few months beating the crap out of me. One day she was spazzing out so much, that she tried to hit me with her car as she sped away. I called her Dad out of desperation, and when he and I were outside talking she returned and swerved her car at us. I took her to the hospital, but they said nothing was physically wrong and that she needed to go to a day clinic for a week. That didn't work at all. Several counselors after that didn't work because she would lie to them and say that I was a manipulative person. I know this because she told me that she lied to them on purpose. She would go in waves of being happy for two weeks, and I would get false hope, then she would go back to breaking stuff in the house cursing and spitting on me for idiotic reasons. She would get mad at me for stuff that normal people would never argue about.

One day I asked her very politely to not leave the clothes dryer on when we leave the house. (Our house drying vent was clogged when we first bought it). I heard of a news report of a house burning down, so I wanted to fix it. Any way, she beat the living crap out of me. She said I attacked her character and made her feel worthless. We finally found another counselor, he gave her the most accurate diagnosis: Borderline Personality Disorder. She was put on medication and it relieved a lot of the symptoms. The outbursts were farther apart and she was working on her issues. I stated having hope! She one time stopped taking the medication for a month and lied about it. The only reason why I found out about it is because she hit me, then felt so guilty about confessed that she stopped taking the medication.

A few months later, 3 days before Christmas, I told that it was 3 weeks since we had sex and I wanted to be romantic with her. Well, that was it, she flew off of the handle, punched the crap out of me. I tried to leave and she got in the car and punched me in the face, got out and walked away. I returned 4 hours later and she said I was a worthless person ( and used a ton of curse words to describe how) for leaving for that long. I told her that I needed to leave so that she could cool down, well I got hit for that too. She barricaded the bedroom door I was in and kept hitting me, and my glasses broke. I restrained her and pushed her onto the bed and held her down, and told her to stop. She spit on my face, and went to her parents and called the cops. She told the cops and her family all these lies about me. When the cops came over to the house I explained what had happened and I had proof. I had her diagnosis, her medication, broken glasses, bruises and other evidence. They said that they believed me and I was not arrested. Which is good because I work for the government, and I would lose my job.

It took us many months to resolve the issues. We went to counseling and our therapist said that if we go out to dinner more often, then things would get better. I said to her "lady, my wife beat the crap out of me and called the cops and you think that dinner plans is gonna fix it? We already go out to eat!" Well, I gave my wife an ultimatum, and that if she touched me again I would divorce her. I called a lawyer and made plans and showed her that this was no bluff. Well it's been ten months, and she has not hit me, but she still flips out and uses abusive language. It is not nearly as bad as it once was, she has made progress, but it’s been slow.

Meanwhile, my heart hurts and I do not feel I have a future unless things change. A lot of days I feel so depressed. She wants to have children, but I said that if she does not flip out for a year and things are much better, then we can. I also told her that in a year, if things were not better than I am moving on with my life. I am still young enough (30) to move on and get married to someone else and have children. There have been so many days that I felt like an idiot, the only thing that has kept me going is the students I work with."

Source: theexperienceproject

Lin's Story:

"One of the most frustrating things for people not personally involved in an abusive or battering relationship is trying to understand why a woman doesn’t leave. Far too often they judge domestic violence situations. They may ask, “If it’s that bad, why doesn’t she just leave?” They may say, “She must stay because she enjoys it.” And may say, “This could never happen to me. I wouldn’t allow it.”

The most important thing to keep in mind is that extreme emotional abuse is always present in domestic violence situations. On average, an abused woman will leave her partner several times. The reasons they return or stay in the relationship vary from woman to woman.

This is a topic I am all too familiar with in my previous marriage. My personal experience of spousal abuse may not make me an expert or authority on the subject, but I am someone who truly understands the difficult issues involved with leaving such a relationship. Carefully consider the following information, as it pertains to abused women in general, as well as the aspects that affected me personally. You may see yourself in this Emotional Dance of Domestic Abuse, or someone you know and care about. Educating yourself on these issues may help you save yourself or someone you love.

Some women who remain in abusive relationships may do so for “the sake of the children.” They may feel that an abusive husband and/or father is better than none at all. The abusive episodes they endure have greatly diminished their judgment, leaving them in a constant state of anxiety and fear. They question their ability and strength to live alone and care for their children. Also, the threat of a child custody battle, fear of losing their children and worry about the financial strains of raising children immobilize them.

Personally, I had tremendous fear that my then-husband would take our children to Mexico, where he is from, and I would either never see or hear from my children again, or the struggle that would ensue in trying to locate and return my children to me.

Abused women are usually threatened by their abusers if they try to leave. Continuous “fear” of what the abuser could or might do in retaliation may cause some women to stay even when she knows she should leave. Statistically, abused women and their children are in the most danger when they try to escape the violence. This is referred to as “separation violence.”

Personally, I left my then-husband three separate times over the course of our fifteen year marriage. In his usual, no-nonsense manner, he informed me that if I were to leave, I would “lose the children.” How or why he believed I would lose the children was never made clear, but was only meant to intimidate me into staying. It worked, but only for awhile.

Violence often escalates when women leave or are in the process of leaving the relationship. News reports of murder/suicide involving estranged couples, or reports of a parent leaving the country with their children during separation or divorce proceedings, clearly shows the serious dangers involved therein.

Many abused women feel they have nowhere to go and “lack financial resources.” Frequently, they do not have the immediate financial resources necessary to leave, and fear they will be unable to provide for themselves and their children’s needs. Most women suffer dramatic financial loss, much more so than men, following divorce. Because of the emotional abuse endured, women may believe that they are not capable of surviving or succeeding on their own, perhaps due to limited job skills and income potential.

Personally, I was a stay-at-home wife and mother, with no form of income of my own, with little or no access to “his” money. Purchases made had to be cleared with him first, and without such clearance, I was physically locked out of the house with the warning to return the items I had bought (usually for our children) and to bring him back “his money.”

Abusers often attempt to “isolate” their partners from family and friends. Without a support system and outside validation, partners gradually become more and more vulnerable. In time, abusers are able to control their partner’s perceptions of the abuse and victims may begin to doubt their own sanity. Abusers inflict gradual, yet increasing, emotional abuse on their partners, often to the point where the victim comes to believe they are responsible and to blame for the abuse.

With my intense religious upbringing, I dutifully approached religious leaders as well as my own father in an attempt to get help. This, unfortunately, only made matters worse for me. Without carefully listening to me and what I had to say, even my own father, a church leader, told me in no uncertain terms to get my “butt back where I belong”, meaning with my abusive husband. The embarrassment within the church community was the furthest thing from my mind, as I was more concerned about what was surely going to happen once I got my butt back “home.”

Often, abused women feel committed to their partner’s “for better or worse.” Although unrealistic, they want the abuse to stop but the relationship to continue. They hope that “with enough love” the violence will stop, being attracted to their partner’s good side and the period during which there is no violence. However, research has shown that the abuse will not stop, and will likely escalate, without the help of others. Belief in Counseling for the Abuser, and the dream of a life without the violence, holds many women to the relationship.

Even though marrying very young, I took my marriage vows before God and witnesses very seriously. I never imagined that my marriage would become as it did. I was born and raised third-generation of this particular “faith”, wherein the only acceptable grounds for divorce was that of adultery that could be proved by “two or more witnesses”, according to church teaching. To get a divorce without clear proof of adultery, according to church teachings, required complete and total celibacy and no hope of ever remarrying. To remarry after a divorce with no clear proof of adultery, invariably and abruptly lead you to being excommunicated from the church entirely, wherein even your own family and close friends would have nothing to do with you.

The Process of Leaving Issues – Most abused women leave and return several times before permanently separating from their abusers. Separation from abusive partner’s takes time, because of strong emotional involvement and investment in the relationship, as well as a fierce desire that there be change. Every time a woman leaves, they gain more courage and strength, as well as valuable information pertaining to available resources and their own abilities. Because of the potential dangers involved in leaving, it is vital that they do so in the safest way possible, with knowledge of available resources and a plan.

I planned and prepared for leaving the marriage for six long months. I began working part-time a short distance from our home as an Office Manager for a dental office. My organizational skills and ability to close patients’ outstanding balances, lead to my being taken on full-time and a nice raise. I opened a secret bank account and began saving every penny I could pinch towards my lawyer and court fees. Until I had the monies needed to file for divorce, I told no one. No one. The mental and emotional strength and validation I received while working and earning my own money, quickly diminished my fears of how I would care and provide for not only myself, but also my children. The person I was before the marriage was returning in full force, and I was quickly becoming a force to be reckoned with.

Often times, women feel that no one will believe that their partner’s are capable of abuse, often referred to as Societal Denial. Outwardly, abusers are often friendly, popular, charming, successful and professionally confident. Treatment and behaviors towards the community and work place are very different from those with whom they live. They are highly skilled at keeping their controlling and abusive behavior behind closed doors.

I cannot emphasize enough the tenacious ability abusers have in covering up their true colors while in public. I would often hear, especially within the church, “Your husband is so nice”, or “You must be so proud of your husband having been recommended for a leadership role” within the church. If these ones only knew the strength it took for me not to scream out loud “Are you kidding me?!”

The Perpetual Cycle of Violence – Women may stay in abusive relationships because their partners promise “it will never happen again.” Abusive partners may check violent tendencies for a time. But, without professional intervention and help, this “honeymoon phase” of tenderness, apologies and even gift giving, will invariably end abruptly and violently return once again.

If I had a nickel for every time I heard “it won’t happen again I promise”, I’d never have to work another day in my life. But sadly, even I fell for that one time after time. Until the last time.

Domestic abuse and violence shame and humiliate woman. When women live in a constant state of humiliation, they lose the ability and power to assert themselves and assess accurately what is going on in their own life. As a result, women who endure emotional and physical abuse live in a state of perpetual or intermittent denial in order to simply exist day to day.

Since gaining the emotional strength, and needed financial independence, I have lived up to the promise I made to myself as I walked out of the courtroom, that I will never, ever accept that way of life again.

Since my divorce in 1993, I no longer could accept the religion I was brought up in, for many reasons. Although leaving the religion on my own accord lead to the church decision to excommunicate me, therefore losing contact with my family and then-close friends, I am now truly happy and free of abuse. I remarried in 2003 to a wonderful, kind and loving man, who knows me to be a strong, outspoken woman, a force to be reckoned with."

Source: tellinitlikeitis.net

creamylicious: 4. It is important to endure cheating in marriage no matter d number of years he/she has been cheating , you will definitely eat d fruit of ur patience.

smh

MadCow1:

Secondly.. There is no such thing as an unforgivable sin in marriage.. What's unforgivable is repetition. So say he slaps you once, it's nothing. But when it becomes a habit that is recurrent, then it's abusive and that relationship is toxic.

smh

One of the most widely misread verses of the Bible used by some Christians husbands to justify spousal abuse is…

Ephesians 5:22: “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”

Some husbands feel they have god-like authority over their wives and are justified in disciplining them, if they refuse to “obey” or “submit” to their authority. In their sick, twisted minds, it’s their job to “keep their wives in their places”, as ordained by God.

With the rising tide of domestic abuse within the Christian community, why isn’t it dealt with more openly? Why are some pastors still counseling wives to stay put, pray harder and submit more to their abusive husbands, as a way of changing their husbands’ wicked hearts for the better and saving their marriages, because 'God hates divorce'?

In some cases such counseling has led to the deaths of wives and their children, at the hands of their abusive husbands who sometimes commit suicide after the act. Family and friends may also contribute to abused wives finding it difficult to leave their abusive marriages, by urging them to, in one way or another, stay with their abusive husbands, because "No one in our family gets divorced!"

Besides feeling tremendous pressure from their church and relatives to “keep the family together no matter what, many wives stay in abusive marriages because they...

...believe marriage is "'til death do us part”
...were taught that a woman is not considered a complete woman unless she's someone's 'Mrs.
...don't want to be pitied or gossiped about
...don't want to be blamed for the breakdown of the marriage
...don't want to disappoint their families
...don't want to be the object of jest by other married women
...are ashamed and embarrassed to admit they married the wrong man
...have been raised in abusive homes and believe violence is the way husbands and wives relate to each other
...don’t think they can support themselves and their children
...fear retribution from the abusive husband
...fear emotional damage to their children
...believe their abusive husbands will kidnap their children and they'll never see them again

In some cases, women in abusive marriages are made to feel they're responsible for their husbands’ brutish behaviors. Otherwise, why would supposedly good, loving, well-intentioned Christian men do such terrible things to their wives and sometimes their own children?

When abused women do find the courage to approach their pastors for help and advice, their pastors sometimes believe they're mistaken, exaggerating or just being too emotional. What some pastors don’t realize is that abusers are master manipulators and sociopaths and quite adept at presenting themselves as ideal husbands, fathers and pillars of the church and community. Even worse, some pastors are abusers themselves and less likely to empathize with an abused woman, give sound advice or steer her to counselors who have been trained to deal with domestic abuse.

Good pastors counsel troubled couples because they believe the power of Jesus can improve the worst marital situations and save the marriage but, in some cases, it’s just not possible.

Effective pastoral counseling, regarding domestic violence, requires education, excellent communication and listening skills and being open to seeking outside advice and counsel from other pastors and professionals who are more qualified in dealing with domestic abuse.

Abused women should be very wary of any pastor or person who advises them to stay in an abusive marriage, especially if there are children involved. If need be abused women should be open to finding a better pastor or a professional domestic abuse counselor who can safely guide them and their children out of an abusive marriage.

This is not the time for women to be silent. The lives they save may be their own and their children.

Copyright © 2014 zboyd

Here are some dating tips and advice that you may find useful and make those dives into the Dating Pool easier to navigate. Feel free to add those that have worked for you.

1. Finding a romantic partner shouldn't be the only priority in your life. Don't make it an obsession.

2. For women, to attract the men you want, treat them like the men you're not really into. Think about it. Men you're not into will chase you and chase you and chase you...with no luck. Most finally give up - others may turn into stalkers. So, if you make yourself too available or too accommodating to the man you're really into, don't be surprised, if he loses interest and backs off. It may be 2014, but most men still like the 'hunt'. So when do you let that special man 'catch' you? Listen to your instincts. You'll know.

3. If you continue to hear negative things about your BF/GF from family and friends, you may want to take a closer look at your relationship. That new person may not have your best interests at heart.

4. Mr. or Miss Perfect doesn't exist but Mr. or Miss Perfect-For-You does. So delete that 'What I Want In A Wo/Man' list you're carrying around in your head. You're not grocery shopping. You're trying to attract a romantic partner.

5. Develop or finetune your Gaydar. It'll make your life much easier.

6. Most everyone has annoying little habits but disrespect shouldn't be one of them. At the very first instance, address it. Make sure your partner knows that disrespect is a relationship deal breaker for you. If it happens again, you may want to move on.

7. Bars, clubs, dances and house parties aren't the only places to meet a potential romantic partner. Branch out. If your friends don't want to go - YOU go. Tip for women: Men are more likely to approach you, if you're not traveling with a herd of friends.

8. Rejection is all part of dating. Learn to deal with it. People who simply are "not the right fit" exist. The sooner you weed them out of your life, the happier you'll be. Tip for men: It's ungentlemanly to call women nasty names, just because they rejected your advances. It shows a lack of maturity and reveals a mean, hateful streak in you. Besides that, a potential romantic partner may overhear you and scratch you off her list of potential suitors.

9. A first date is not an audition for marriage. It's just a tryout for a second date. No one ever fell in love while analyzing every detail of their first date. As for topics you should NEVER EVER discuss on a first date (or in some cases future dates) are past exes, (for women) your monthly cycle, s-ex, s-xual history, your drinking or drug use, politics, religion and abortion. Also, NEVER EVER tell racist/sexist/demeaning jokes.

10. If you talk less and listen more, people will tell you who they are. Believe them. Some people are too emotionally damaged to be in ANY relationship. Don't fall into the 'I can fix him or her trap'. You can't. They need professional help. Move on - quickly.

PapiWata: Ha ha we got a lot of "happily married" men up in here, wishing they could go tycoon-style and get some high class tail on the side, but then getting angry because they ain't gettin' none of that. Please, gentlemen, kindly just make do with Mama Momodu, the mother of your extensive brood, and accept your fate like a man. That oil tycoon lifestyle is not for everyone. The very rich are different from you and me ha ha ha.

But hey, its cool y'all. You can at least look at the fine yang, but DON'T touch, and just be glad that choking the lizard in your private moments will always be free by definition.

In other words, there is no service charge for self-service, as the discipline is affectionately known to this website forum's auto-dictionary.




Ha ha wait a minute. I thought fuckry was the objective all along.

What page are you on, dude ? My operating manual stresses that "fuckry" is in fact the desired end result of all man's aspirations, so I do not follow your logic at all. Your objection does not compute.

Tail is tail.

Whether high class or low class - the ones who buy are still 'johns'.

The real question is...

What is it about these 'johns' (rich Sugar Daddies) that they can't get it, unless they pay for it?

You have some drop dead fine young men over here that don't have a pot to pizz in yet women run after them like a dog running after a hambone and, the women take care of THEM.

When I was younger and old, ugly men were trying to hit on me, it was disgusting! Even the thought of them kissing me was enough to bring on nausea -- made me want to throw up. As for laying up with them, groping me and etc....God forbid bad thing!!! And these old perverted geezers actually thought that flashing money and offering rides in their sports cars was going to sway me. NOT!!!

I don't see how these young women do it.

Do they have to be high or half-drunk to do the dirty deed?

They are definitely pass me!

Ewwwwwwwwwwww!!!

Just the thought of it sickens me!

Why do some African/Black folks feel they need to give excuses for their decision for dating outside their own ethnic group or race?

Why do they feel they need to put down their own men and women as justification for their choice to date non-African/Black men and women?

Some Common Excuses Given By Some African/Black Men For Dating Non-African/Black women:

*African/Black women are arrogant, ignorant, conceited and have bad attitudes.
*African/Black women are too materialistic.
*African/Black women rejected them while (fill in the blank) women accepted them.
*African/Black women expect/demand too much.
*African/Black women don't know how to treat men.
*(Fill in the blank) women are easier and they (African/Black men) can do what they want.
*African/Black women don't have the African/Black man's back.
*African/Black women don't make beautiful babies.

***************
Some Common Excuses Given By Some African/Black Women For Dating Non-African/Black Men:

*Most non-African/Black men really do think the 'blacker the berry - the sweeter the juice', unlike some African/Black men who consider dark-skinned women as too black and/or ugly and worry that their kids may come out sharing the same complexion as the mother.
*African/Black men are too financially irresponsible, when it come to taking care of their kids.
*African/Black men don't treat African/Black women as well as non-African/Black men.
*Non-African/Black men don't need constant ego stroking, praise and propping up.
*Non-African/Black men don't have issues about women making more money than they do.
*Non-African/Black men don't think it's unmanly to help out around the house or babysit their own kids.
*Non-African/Black men are more affectionate and don't have a problem with showing African/Black women AND telling them they love them, whether at home OR out in public.

Something to think about...

“Real” love doesn’t need any excuse or justification. Your decision for dating men or women of other ethnic groups or races should stem from your attraction towards the person, genuine love, and respect, regardless of the color of their skin or ethnic origin. Real love is not based on past bad relationships or occurrences with men/women of your own ethnic group or race. And just so you know, non-African/Black men and women are having some of the very same issues African/Black folks are complaining about with some of their own men and women.

You can date outside of your race but you can’t escape your race. If you want to jump the fence and date non-African/Black men/women then do so. But if you have to put down your own men/women to justify your actions, your motives are questionable. When a person is sure about their choice, they won’t provide an excuse or express revulsion toward their own. To do otherwise is said to be a sure sign of self-hatred. After all, weren't you created by members of the very same ethnic group or race you are now putting down, find disgusting, revolting, bottom-of-the-barrel and not worthy of serious consideration for dating and/or marriage?

When you really think about it...what does that say about YOU?

Old Men Fighting At Church
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=58f4FLXkM34

Imagine !! Fighting Disrupts Church Service..#Busted

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJY2Bjxq9oc&feature=player_detailpage

10 Types Of Black Preachers (just for fun!)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=FTnbCjo7BGg&list=RD58f4FLXkM34

10 Types of Black Preachers Part 2 (just for more fun!)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=SLPDL6UYOjg&list=RD58f4FLXkM34

Church brawl
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=xhT6rBgqUMs

American Wedding. Monster Brawl At Redneck Wedding Reception
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=SIQDYyLT4yg

Pastor SLAPS Woman IN CHURCH!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?list=RD58f4FLXkM34&v=1_v3IfDHv98&feature=player_detailpage

Shouter Gone WILD!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7P67mVoWHg&feature=player_detailpage&list=RD58f4FLXkM34

Ex-girlfriend Turns A Wedding Ceremony INTO A BRUTAL FIGHT!!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=xtBJfYGB22Y

Mt. Arie Valentine's Brawl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IDHz5LjMiZU&feature=player_detailpage

Fight breaks out in the middle of church service

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tV-GEp5PAcQ&feature=player_detailpage

Pastor Snatches Mic From Terrible Singer

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9l5BtkypCs&feature=player_detailpage

Police Break Up A Fight In Church & Arrest Pastor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=AdynJSTsOPA

PASTOR GETS ATTACKED AFTER PREACHING

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRALyMDoCBw&feature=player_detailpage

2ND PART TO PASTOR GETTING ATTACKED
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=bI-qX5qw-JQ

Family Brawl At Christopher Thomas' Funeral

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1P4kCtCsYK0&feature=player_detailpage

Philadelphia Wedding Brawl
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=BxLVzYCiZtA

Fight @ Church

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M1ZSglyg0w&feature=player_detailpage

Racist Priest slap black woman in Church
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=Wy522x9CX8M

Ewwwwwwwwwwww!!!

Oh my goodness!

Porsha Williams is messing around with that old, ugly man! And he's married too?!

Aren't there any single, young, handsome 'Sugar Daddies' around, if a woman is into that kind of thing?

So...what's all that smack she was talking about proud, intelligent Black women being independent, doing for self, having self-respect and yada, yada, yada? All crap talk! If this is a true story, it's a BIG SHAME! She's nothing but a hypocrite, as ALL women who talk this mess. And then they have the nerve to point fingers and throw insults at other women who are doing the exact same thing.

I will NEVER understand young women OR young men who do this sort of thing and then have the gall to try to present themselves as respectable, God-fearing Christians.

Some women will date or do any man, just because he has money.

I bet her grandfather is turning over and over in his grave!

smh

Females fighting over wife's husband

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qp9kyJ_xfPo&feature=player_detailpage

Best Cheaters Episode EVER! Get You Some Business!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yBj4I7gyaDM&feature=player_detailpage

Drama at a Wedding in Nyeri

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e5qIypQBzy8&feature=player_detailpage

Woman cheats on husband with trini man, Best Fight!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1N_aLbgbvL0&feature=player_detailpage

Wife Caught Cheating
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=dUqZTmEVeK0

South African wife cheats and gets busted (Audio)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EI9tVxDZN8w&feature=player_detailpage

Boyfriend Cheating?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=IqXbLiSn9Rc

Cheaters African Style....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=_NO2IOwFgqA

Pastor Caught Red-Handed With Another Man's Wife In Nyeri

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Az9XUHmb_kc&feature=player_detailpage

Woman catches her husband with his mistress in the street_(in Brazil)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7e3ZmLF_8CM&feature=player_detailpage

Pastor Caught In The Act With Another Man's Wife

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_AZaD-Dyig&feature=player_detailpage

A pastor caught in the act – pants down

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2hMxA8JaiL0&feature=player_detailpage

Dude Caught In The Act Cheating On His Wife On Cheaters

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JVt4DP-mKI&feature=player_detailpage

NIGERIAN CHEATERS EPISODE.mp4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wO1SRjlel4A&feature=player_detailpage

Husband catches wife cheating
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=tMCVIlOD9UY

Angry wife crashes husband's SUV into their jeep
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=3uMDncH4RjE

WIFE GOT CAUGHT CHEATING

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIFF7Sh2ErI&feature=player_detailpage

Wife Caught Cheating On Husband by Radio - Subtitles (Audio)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=rKXWHR7piVY

Wife brutally beating up her cheating husband in India

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-cEkeVj6rQ0&feature=player_detailpage

Wife 'Beats Husband Thoroughly'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDV_W3noyJQ&feature=player_detailpage

Why do some young women refer to their boyfriends as 'Daddy'?

Better question...

How does a young woman relate to and/or handle being intimate with someone old enough to be her Daddy?

On the flipside...

Why do some young men refer to their girlfriends as 'Mommy' or some derivative of Mommy?

How does a young man relate to and/or handle being intimate with someone old enough to be his Mother?

Many people consider sexual abuse one of the worst crimes a person can commit. In these circumstances, it has been proposed by some that such an offender should be punished, normally in addition to a jail term, by castration. Castration is the removal of the sex glands, and is normally defined as a chemical process, using hormones to render them impotent. The goal of such an operation would be to remove the sexual drive of sex offenders which, proponents of the procedure advocate, would drastically reduce the chances of re-offending.

Opponents of the punishment argue, in contrast, that the punishment does not fit the crime and that it would not deter sex offenders once freed.

Is castration about punishment or about treatment? Is it abhorrent, inhumane or the only way to protect society from dangerous people? Is this too simplistic an argument?

Source: slate.com

Where do YOU stand on this issue?

Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up Against
The Huffington Post | By Sara Boboltz | Posted: 09/26/2014 2:30 am EDT

A long-running Ladies' Home Journal column that started in 1953, called "Can This Marriage Be Saved?," features real-life couples and the juicy details of their marital issues. Very often, counselors found a way to pin problems on the wives, calling them "childish," "juvenile," "emotionally immature" and "frigid," for example. Early "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" columns, which continue today at Divine Caroline without the sexist overtones, show us how far women's equality has come -- but also how far we have to go.

Here are five pieces of advice from the magazine.

Lesson 1: Wives "attitudes" and "personalities" are to blame for marital problems.

Lesson 2: The longer you've been married, the more you should let domestic violence slide.

Lesson 3: Wives should be able to read minds.

Lesson 4: If you don't give your spouse enough attention, he has a fair excuse to cheat on you.

Lesson 5: Never out-earn your husband.

Full article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/26/can-this-marriage-be-saved-advice_n_5829870.html
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This kind of thinking is still around and is what some young girls are taught at home and in the church. Any deviation is seen as rebellion and a sure way to cause strife in the household. I remember some of my friends telling me their mothers advised them to not 'show off' (act too smart) around their boyfriends -- that it would scare them off because men didn't like women who were smarter than they were.

Why can't women be free to be who they are and not some man's fantasy on what a 'good woman' is or isn't?

Such demands aren't put on men.

I wonder what would happen, if women flipped the script?

Why do some African/Nigerian men enter into serious relationships with women they have no intention of ever marrying?

Some parents frown on their sons (or daughters) marrying outside of their cultural group. Yet when their sons immigrate, they sometimes fall in love with foreign women. Usually, the foreign woman has no idea that her boyfriend may NEVER marry her, because he fears being shunned by his family. It takes guts to go against tradition. The boyfriend knows he may even be disowned by his family and peers, if he marries a foreign woman or, even a woman from a different ethnic group in his own country.

So what does a woman do, if she's been dating an African/Nigerian for a year, never been in his house, never met any of his family, especially his mother who lives with him and doesn't know where his job is located? His papers are in order, so he doesn't need help that way. He also seems to be reluctant to talk about himself, even acting secretive at times.

Should she be worried?

How To Deal With Stalkers

Stalking is not new. It has been around in one form of the other for years. What has happened is that with more and more people leading virtual lives it has become easier and more widely publicized. If you think you won’t be stalked, you might want to think again. Apparently, according to statistics in the USA, 1 out of every 12 women will be stalked during her lifetime and 1 out of 45 men will be stalked at some point in his life.

The most common type of stalker is the Intimacy Stalker. Should you be concerned? The answer is a qualified yes. And you should never get to the point where the fear of the crime is greater than the crime itself. In other words keep it in perspective and take what is written here in perspective. What follows is the definition of an Intimacy Stalker, including a few of the motivational reasons behind their behavior as well as a personality type.

REASONS WHY THEY STALK

For some reason the stalker believes the victim is an ideal partner. There is usually very little grounds for them to believe this but that is the usual starting point. It might be that the victim appears sensuous, mysterious, sexy or even vulnerable. The stalker may start to believe the victim has strong feelings or may even be in love with them. As a result, simple acts of communication can be misconstrued. With the internet it can start with online flirting. Let's be honest. Lots of people say things online that they would never have the guts to say in a face- to-face conversation. But can you fall in love on line? Can you fall in love by reading somebody's blog? People do. That does not make them stalkers but the mental health professionals would question such peoples' state of mind. The stalker believes that the victim is the only person who can satisfy their desires.

PERSONALITY TYPE & CHARACTERISTICS

Very often the people who become stalkers are isolated and shy. While this does tend to suggest that they often they live alone, it is not an exclusive. Many people lack meaningful intimate relationship in his/her life. There are a lot of lonely people in the world and lots of them are married and respectable. How many people reading this are in marriages, thinking: "I wish I weren’'t here." They are lonely yet to the outside world they have a spouse, kids etc. By the same token, don't take that to mean that everyone who lives on their own is a nut job or a stalker. In some cases the stalker may suffer from a mental disorder, including a narcissistic personality disorder which is characterized by extreme focus on oneself. In a few cases stalkers may just pick complete strangers or somebody they have just met socially or in internet cases met online to stalk.

STALKING BEHAVIOURS

These are pretty obvious really.

1. They may make repeated telephone calls or emails to the victim. In some cases these will beg the victim for attention. These could also be comments on blogs or web sites because that way there is an interaction between stalker and victim. The problem with this is, of course, is that the victim will unwittingly respond and thus interact with the stalker and in doing so can fuel the stalker's belief that there is an element to the relationship that just is not there.

2. They may send unwanted gifts to the victim. Bloggers with wish lists on their blog are just asking for trouble.

3. They will often show signs of being jealous or over-protective towards their victim. Because the stalker is jealous and often over-protective towards the victim, they may, in the first instance, secretly follow the victim. This eventually gives way to openly following the victim.

4. In extreme cases, the stalker may break into the victim’s email account to monitor discussions with others. However, there is an increased trend where the stalker will actually discuss the victim openly with others on blogs or in chat rooms. either using a pseudonym or their real identity. Some stalkers even openly discuss the victim with other friends or contacts of the victim on message boards, on blogs or in chat rooms. This can seem quite harmless but it is a way of building secondary social relations around the victim.

THE PROGRESSION

Eventually though, the relationship for want a better term of phrase, is going to reach a point where it will either progress or flounder. It has to, because we either develop our bond with someone or we kick it into touch. Because the relationship between stalker and victim is one-sided and not founded on mutual trust and affection, 9 out of 10 times, it results in rejection for the stalker and, this is where these cases become nasty.

In simple terms the stalker can't handle rejection and, because their view is not balanced, then, their reaction is not rational. Consequently, the stalker may become threatening or violent. The most famous cases are where stalkers violently assault or even kill their victims. But in a lot of cases, they can destroy the victim's life with blackmail, false allegations, etc.

SOME BASIC STEPS TO PROECT YOURSELF FROM A STALKER

1. First and foremost, try not to put yourself in the position where you become a victim. Don’'t get in too deep with people you don'’t know. This really applies to people online or on the telephone.

2. If you feel that you are being stalked, take the situation seriously!

3. Don’t ignore the person’s behavior and assume that it will go away over time — chances are in won’t!

Here are a few things that you can do to protect yourself:

1. Report all incidents to the police.

2. Destroy all personal paperwork properly. Buy a good quality shredder. Many stalkers (and other criminals) have been known to go through their victim’s rubbish to get personal information.

3. Keep a daily diary of incidents. If possible take photos This will be invaluable should you have to go to court.

4. Tell your friends, colleagues online and offline, managers and human resources department of your situation. If you work for a company with a security department, tell them, so that they are aware of the threat.

5. Do not change your telephone number because the dedicated stalker will just see it as a challenge. If you don't already have one, buy a telephone with caller ID or simply install an answering machine and screen your calls.

One last thing, because the stalker often does not get what he or she is looking for, they get hurt feelings. We all suffer from those and know that it can make us angry and silly. But in extreme cases, rejecting a stalker can make them violent. Look for the warning signs and be sure to take possible situations seriously.

REMEMBER YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE IN FEAR.

Source: okcupid.com / Excerpted from the article "Stalkers – Some Basic Advice" by "Uncle Norman"

"James Sowole followed men of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency on a dangerous voyage into the marijuana farms in southern Nigeria, from where Nigerian drug cartels trafficked cannabis to the rest of the world."

Read more at: http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/inside-nigeria-s-marijuana-business/189093/

What is wrong with a pastor making millions of dollars in the ministry?

There are a good number of pastors that are making millions of dollars in the ministry. Some of these pastors have mansions, expensive cars and private jets. They receive money from their churches (salaries). They sell millions of books, CDs, prayer cloths, holy oils and other trinkets to people all over the world. These pastors consider such possessions blessings from God - not examples of man’s greed.

But the tide is turning for some pastors of mega churches. After witnessing some of their fellow pastors being roasted alive over the bonfires of public opinion, when revelations of their wealthy lifestyles, conspicuous spending and undercover proclivities were made public by whistleblowers, media watchdogs and disillusioned members, they are now wisely focusing on 'feeding their sheep' instead of 'fleecing their sheep', as well as trying to portray themselves as being as morally upright as possible, with the help of intense counseling.

Where before these pastors saw nothing wrong with making millions of dollars in the ministry and indulging in various types of undercover diddling, they are now rethinking, revising and rebranding their own private and public personas, as well as their sermons focusing on the gospel of prosperity.

This is definitely a welcome change and a sign that not only are the times changing, but also, the mindsets of pastors of some of the biggest mega churches in existence.

More?

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLA30870AD8648FBF0


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbgV5f038AA

As long-term financial security becomes a pipe dream for more Americans, a growing share is giving up on marriage.

One in five U.S. adults aged 25 or older had never been married in 2012, a record high, according to a new report by the Pew Research Center that analyzed Census data. In 1960, the number was one in ten.

According to an accompanying survey Pew conducted this May and June, only 53% of all never-married adults said they would like to marry eventually, down from 61% in 2010. Around 32% said they were not sure, up from 27% in 2010.

The figures in the Census data are more striking for African-Americans. Some 36% of blacks aged 25 and up had not been married in 2012, compared to 25% in 1990 and 9% in 1960. For whites, the share of never-married was 16% in 2012, up from 11% in 1990 and 8% in 1960.

Americans are putting off tying the knot in greater numbers for a variety of reasons.

The s-xual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s along with rising numbers of women attending college and entering the workforce have helped increase the age when Americans get married and soften public attitudes on marriage.

The decline of religious institutions and the growing importance of higher education in an increasingly services-driven economy probably play a role, too.

But a major factor is simply the economy, which has grown slowly–and increasingly unequal–in recent decades, Pew notes in analyzing the survey of 2,000 American adults.

Incomes haven’t risen for most Americans since the 1980s, after adjusting for inflation, even though housing and child-rearing costs have. Young men have been hit particularly hard: For men 25 to 34, median hourly wages have declined 20% since 1980 in real terms.

Despite their growing economic difficulties, many Americans consider financial security (or at least a partner with a job) a prerequisite for marriage.

In its spring survey, Pew found nearly 80% of never-married women said finding someone with a steady job was very important to them in choosing a spouse or partner. Among men and women who had never married but wanted to, nearly a third said they were not financially prepared for marriage.

The problem, Pew explains, is the economic malaise of the last few decades—hidden for a time by a home-price boom—has shrunk the pool of available employed men. At the same time, women’s educational attainment and labor-force participation has generally risen.

Put simply, for today’s never-married women, a “good” man is harder to find.

Among never-married adults aged 25 to 34, the number of employed, available men per 100 women has dropped to 91 in 2012, from 139 in 1960. That means if all of 2012’s never-married young women wanted to find a young, employed man who also hadn’t been married, about 9% of them would automatically fail—due to a man shortage. (Of course, these women could find and marry divorced men, or older men.)

Once again, it’s worse for blacks. Among never-married black adults aged 25 to 34, there were 87 employed men for every 100 women back in 1960. In 2012? Just 51.

The upshot?

For many Americans, staying single, cohabiting or raising children out of marriage increasingly looks like the best available option.

Nearly 25% of young adults 25 to 34 who have never been married were cohabiting last year, up from under 22% in 2007, Pew says. Roughly 7% of adults 30 to 44 were cohabiting in 2010, too, according to a different analysis, up from 3% in 1995.

Source: wallstreetjournal.com / Article by Neil Shah

Is international media coverage helping or hurting Nigeria's image?

In your opinion, what should or should not be exposed about Nigeria, to the outside world?

Why do you think journalists prefer to write about Nigeria's challenges, rather than its successes?

Should the Nigerian government be able to sue journalists who launch smear campaigns designed to 'tarnish Nigeria's image'?

What's your opinion of visiting celebrities or politicians who criticize Nigeria in the press?

pickabeau1: Women have now come up with a rebuttal

Why buy the pig, when you can get the sausage for free

All is fair in love

Actually, it's mothers over here that tell their daughters that...as a way of making them think twice or thrice...before dropping their panties for a man.

Not trying to be mean, but...generally speaking... over here, the only girls I know that ask men for regular allowances, money for manicures, pedicures, cell phones, to get their hair done, buy clothing, undies, pay their bills, etc. are the ones you wouldn't dare take home to meet your parents. Women, other than that don't expect such things and don't ask for such things.

As for the men who come out of their pockets and bankroll these women, they rarely take them seriously or marry them. Such men are considered 'tricks'....just like desperate men, ugly men or old men. As a matter of fact, the propensity of Nigerian/African men (especially the ones from wealthy families) to bestow monetary favors on such women over here is why these women usually consider them 'tricks'...easy marks...stupid. And mind you, these hookups are not necessarily motivated by 'papers'. Some of these low-class women end up with high-end cars, houses, eye-popping jewelry, designer clothing, etc....but they're still low-class. And...at the end of the day, these Naija men will rarely marry them.

OGHENE316: Na wao! Weti me n u go enjoy mk i pay u? Na b sy u b ashawo na

lol

A girlfriend is not a wife - so why should she act like one and be compensated like one?

Think about it.

Why should men want to get married?

They get everything they need from the women they date.

Some men have one girlfriend to cook for them and another one for sex.

If women want to get married, then they need to stop acting like wives.

In other words...why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?

And some women wonder why they're dumped, when the man they treated like a 'husband' goes off and marries another.