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Why are so many women, who go to church year after year, praying to God to bring them a man worthy of marriage, still without husbands?

One of the best kept 'secrets' in Christendom is how predatory pastors and their minions, in some churches, profit from the labor and money of single women who harbor a fear of never marrying.

On any given Sunday (or Saturday), the pews of churches are filled with women -- with or without kids -- married and unmarried -- divorced and widowed. In some churches women greatly outnumber men. And sadly, for single women looking to marry, the chances of getting married get slimmer and slimmer as women grow older and older, doubly so, if children are involved.

While some women, in general, are socially conditioned to go to church, many single women attend church, because they have been brainwashed into believing that, if they're faithful enough and profess love of God with all their being, He will send them a worthy man to marry.

And who taught them these beliefs? The Robe-Clad Ones standing in the pulpit. That's who!

Some of these Robe-Clad Ones are rotten apples that have tapped into a seemingly never-ending source to enrich themselves and exploit, in the form of desperate, unmarried women, fearful of remaining unmarried and never experiencing motherhood as married women.

But, how do these greedy ones do it?

Below, are some of the most common ways the Robe-Clad Ones manipulate single women:

First, they prey on one of single women's greatest fears -- remaining unmarried and childless -- facing life alone -- knowing quite well how many societies looks down on women who remain single after their 20's and treats them as lesser humans.

Second, they make single women believe that they (the Robe-Clad Ones) are their biggest cheerleaders. They urge single women to view the church their sanctuary, a safe port in the storm of life, the only social network they will ever need and, warn them that stepping out into the secular world will risk their salvation.

Third, they counsel single women to keep themselves 'pure' for their future husbands, pray faithfully every night and wait on God to send them the man of their dreams -- the one He has chosen for them to marry.

Fourth, They cunningly convince single women that the more they do God's work, the more 'seeds they sow', the more blessings they will receive, specifically, the blessing of a man worthy enough to marry and end their singleness. And some women fall for it, working their hearts out in the church and generously donating money they can ill-afford, even when they have bills to pay and children to feed and clothe.

And what have these devout sisters received for all their hard work, nightly praying and the sowing of countless seeds?

NO HUSBANDS!

Other single women are even s-xually exploited by some of the Robe-Clad Ones and their pastoral and ministerial staff, in the guise of 'counseling sessions', sometimes involving 'instructive' teachings on how to please their new husbands s-xually and keep them happy. In reality, these master manipulators are only interested in pleasing themselves and are abusing their positions as church leaders.

Even more disturbing are those Robe-Clad Ones who prey on single mothers with children, and are nothing more than undercover cradle robbers who befriend the mothers, so as to groom these little ones and s-xually exploit them to satisfy their sick desires.

Believe it or not, some churches are well-aware of their pastors' shameful proclivities and will protect and defend them, particularly if a woman insists on pressing charges, regarding s-xual impropriety on the pastor's part. Such an action almost always turns the church against the woman, gets her kicked out and permanently mars her reputation in the community. Any defense or distress on her part falls on deaf ears. In the congregants' minds, no amount of defense or distress can make up for a shameless hussy besmirching the name of one of God's Anointed, even if she's telling the truth.

Unbelievably, when some of these Robe-Clad Ones are caught, they have the nerve to blame it on the woman whom they accuse of being a Daughter of Eve, a Jezebel, the Devil's Handmaiden, a Wicked Sorceress who bewitched them, like the biblical Eve, who was seduced by the Snake in the Garden Of Eden and persuaded Adam to sin, bringing about the Fall of Man. Yet, most Robe-Clad Ones aren't naïve, or stupid. They are well aware of the women, single and married who are infatuated with them and some will use this knowledge to financially and s-xually exploit them.

As for the women who fancy themselves 'in love' with these wolves in sheep's clothing, choose to frolic in the fields with them and worship them like demi-gods, they also risk discovery, shaming, banishment and loss of reputation from the church and community too, especially if they are married with kids.

In the meantime, the Robe-Clad Ones are laughing all the way to the bank, patting themselves on the back, deeming desperate, single women easy prey, easily duped, weak and foolish...the perfect prey.

In some churches, you have single women in their 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond who took vows of chastity, promising to keep themselves 'pure' (or so they claim) for their future husbands.

And what has staying 'pure' gained them?

NO HUSBANDS!

Some pastors have even resorted to passing out prayers to lonely single women, like the one below.

God Send Me A Husband

"Lord, I pray today that you connect me to my mate. Whatever obstacles that are preventing us from meeting, I pray that it's removed from our path I pray that our paths to each other are shortened and connected.

I pray that God send him into my life now. I pray that he's faithful, loving, generous of spirit and loving toward me, spiritual. I pray that he is faithful and caring. I pray that he would be a great man of God, and that he would love my daughter as if she was his own daughter. I pray that he would protect her, and will not bring any harm to her.

I pray that he would be the missing part in my life. God, marriage is a good thing. Let my husband find me. Let our paths cross in my everyday life. Let him find me. In Jesus's holy and precious name I do pray. AMEN."

And what have such prayers gained single women looking to marry?

NO HUSBANDS!

How long will single women wither on the vine of singlehood, never experiencing true love and intimacy with a man that fits them perfectly?

How long will they continue to wait for God to send them a man -- a lifetime?

How long will they wait for a man, worthy of being called husband, to magically appear on their doorstep -- a blessing from God -- forever and a day?

Maybe other avenues should be explored, in this matter.

If single women are fed up and frustrated about not being married, maybe they should take their future desires into their own hands and be more proactive, by availing themselves of all the secular means of meeting good marriageable men.

It's said that God helps those who help themselves.

Of course, they can always continue to work their hearts out in the church, pray faithfully every night and continue to sow seeds, in return for the blessing of a God-sent man to marry, while watching the best years of their lives pass them by.

Copyright © 2014 zboyd

Nigerian King Tells U.S. Investors Nation Is Open for Business

When Oba Adedotun Aremu Gbadebo visited Detroit this week to meet with local business leaders and promote development projects in Nigeria, all were eager to hear more about the array of investment opportunities in the African nation and what they might expect in terms of return on investment. What may not have been expected though was to become so absorbed in the possibilities of conducting business in Nigeria — enough to make travel plans — that they began visualizing what these bricks and mortar developments would look like in the continent’s largest economy.

As the charismatic and knowledgeable traditional ruler addressed potential investors at Detroit’s Music Hall on Tuesday, Aug. 26, he presented practical concepts for economic development in the “Giant of Africa.” Shouldering the responsibility for the lives of more than 5 million citizens, is a daunting charge, but one that Oba Gbadebo was born to — literally, and a charge he intends to implement with all of the resources that his position and prestige bring to bear. He is a reserved confident man who tells a compelling story of his mission to improve the quality of life for Nigerians.

“The King is everything to the people over whom he is king. Some see him as the person who should solve all of their problems for them. Just as with the Jews in the Bible, when they selected Saul, they said they wanted to have a King like other nations. And some said, ‘God is already your king, you don’t need another king.’ But some said, ‘We want someone who will fight our battles for us, who will lead us in battle, and who will promote our development.’ And that is what an Oba is … someone that people will come to in tears and leave with a smile.”

The 30th ruler of the Egba people, which includes 4.6 million people in Nigeria and countless more in the Nigerian diaspora, King Gbadebo is remarkably adept at negotiating with government entities on behalf of Egba and Nigerian citizens. Having been groomed by centuries of tradition and scores of learned leaders, he is a naturally astute and confident when it comes to affairs of the state.

“The King does not play partisan politics,” Gbadebo states emphatically. “But as for the politics of development, I relate to the government at the local level, at the state level and at the national level, to demand what truly belongs to the people. As father of all I can’t afford to be partisan … but it is from the government of the day that[ I] can get support and comfort for the people.”

The support and living comforts King Gbadebo works so arduously to secure, involves working with governments and economies around the world. “We have our doors open now for investments from all parts of the world. What I am doing is interfacing with what governments are doing at much higher levels, and that is to attract investors to our country. … like the conference that took place in Washington only two weeks ago to get the United States to show more interest in bringing investments to Africa, now I am here to talk to Americans so they can invest in Nigeria in general and in Egbaland in particular.”

Larry Alebiosu, President and CEO of Fashion International Men’s Clothing says the king’s visit is significant for a number of reasons. “This is huge,” exclaims Albesiou, we need to accentuate the positives and eliminate the negative stigma of Africa, especially in the United States. When royalty visits it sheds light on the positive things that are happening in Africa and helps backward thinking people understand that Africa is a civilized society.”

Foremost on King Gbadebo’s list of priorities for economic development in the nation is education. He adamantly asserts that building state-of-the-art schools and preparing students to assume well-paying jobs in construction and service industries is essential for quality living in Nigeria.
“The economic climate in Nigeria is 1,000 times better than it was 14 or 15 years ago. At that time the government controlled the economy, but now the private sector has been allowed to move in. Government only creates the atmosphere for business to develop,” concluded King Gbadebo.

*King Gbadebo and his advisors will visit Dallas and Houston, Texas before traveling to London and then home to Nigeria later this week.

Gbadebo will discuss natural power initiatives as part of his economic development agenda for Nigeria and Egbaland.

Source: chicagodefender.com / Article by Roz Edward, National Content Director / Aug. 29, 2014

Note: Here are some but you may have others of your own.

Top Ten Complaints Men Have About Women

No matter how many women write in to say, ‘I don’t do this!’ the fact is many, many, many women practice the behavior that follows. Men have complained about these problems in various male-oriented forums before, but here, now, are their 10 biggest complaints, so that everyone can finally see how women make complainers out of men.

1. You like to play coy.

If you like us, let us know. If you don’t, let us go. This game where you pretend you don’t care and secretly hope we chase you down is for teenagers. You think men like the chase? Perhaps. You think we like guessing whether we’re wasting our time? No.

2. You fixate on what we’re thinking, when you should be watching what we’re doing.

You ask, “What are you thinking?” and we say, “Nothing.” You figure this must be a lie, and decide that we aren’t willing to communicate with you. The problem is, this is the wrong question to ask. We’re action-oriented. You don’t need to ask what we’re thinking, just watch what we’re doing. Coming home late every night? We’re not happy at home. Uninterested in s-x, probably crushed by stress. Not calling you back even though we said, “I love you?” We don’t love you. You can save the questions about musings until you see a change in our behavior. That’s the surest sign that something needs to be discussed.

3. You don’t understand and/or like our need for alone time.

This often expresses itself with regard to hobbies. Say a man likes to play golf and has played for years. Many a man has gotten into a relationship only to have the woman complain about the time he spends playing golf. She’s jealous of this time. Of course, if she loves him she should know that he NEEDS this time on the golf course. It’s his passion. It’s his release. Without it he will burn up with anxiety and frustration over life’s little indignities. Why does she get involved with a man who has a hobby she doesn’t like?

4. You have a complicated set of double standards.

I could write a novel on this one. We only need look at the example of going Dutch on a first date. You offer to split the check, and if we let you, you hold it against us. Really? You demand, quite rightly, to be in on all important relationship decisions, yet when we take you out and ask, “What would you like to do tonight?” you are angry that we haven’t taken charge of the situation. It’s a confusing set of double standards and antiquated rules that make it very difficult for us to know which move is the right one.

5. You want us to change, and then lose respect for us when we do.

It’s an interesting phenomenon. When a man and a woman get together it is likely that he will have some hobbies, tendencies, or habits that she doesn’t like. For instance, I have a friend that met and married a woman who wasn’t thrilled that he played in a band. She was a bit threatened by the attention he received and his time spent pursuing this. She told him, “I really wish you didn’t play in this band,” and because he loved her, he quit. Within a few months this woman was confiding to her friends, “I’m a little less attracted to him because he quit the band, and just did what I asked. Now, he just hangs out at home.” It’s a specific example, but a common problem. Clearly, the man should do what he feels he has to do, but we try to be accommodating, and to have that count against us is infuriating.

6. Your expectations are set by Hollywood and sky high.

Hollywood strikes again. I have a buddy that has plans to attend a Nicholas Sparks book signing so he can tell the man to KNOCK IT OFF! Most women know at an intellectual level that their man isn’t going to be like George Clooney, or Brad Pitt or that Italian guy from 'Under the Tuscan Sun', but in their heart they want it. They’ve been fed a fantasy about romance and passion for so long that when a REAL act of love comes down the pike, he notices that the tread on your tires is low and buys a new set; it hardly even registers with you.

7. You see us as projects you can 'fix.'

You meet us. You like us. You date us. You marry us. And somewhere along the way it might seem that you love us just as we are, but rarely does it work out that way. Women see potential. They see rough edges, and they want to sand them off. This makes us crazy. We don’t want to change. We have chosen our car, hair, friends, home and hobbies because we enjoy them. The knowledge that you are thinking, “If he could only...” is a deeply disturbing thought, and perhaps more sinister is the idea that this behavior is so common that even if you aren’t the kind of woman who wants change, we expect that you do and are only biding your time.

8. You're always looking down the road.

Women tend to think about the next major step in life. Men tend to think about the next major meal. Certainly part of this is driven by biology. A 34-year-old single woman who wants to have children has to think about the future. She has to think about finding a quality partner, where they are going to live, is there enough room for the baby in the study? A 34-year-old single man has far less interest in planning or pushing towards some future major life goal. This difference in priorities often leaves women in the unpleasant position of saying, “next,” “next,” “next” when it comes to relationship events. There is a female drive to get answers to questions like, “What ARE we?”, “Are we exclusive yet?”, “Are we going to get married?” that makes it seem like they aren’t enjoying the now and only worry about the future.

9. You use your emotions as a weapon.

You don’t mean to. I suppose it isn’t your fault that during an important conversation about the future of our relationship you start crying, but surely you understand that this derails the ability to pursue the issue at hand. You’ve, essentially, played a kind of trump card. If we continue to advocate our side, we’re bullies. If we give in, we’re weak.

10. You have a tendency to be critical.

I’ve tried to avoid the word n-a-g, but there seems to be some internal mechanism that makes women predisposed to criticism, in the same way that men are predisposed to seek their man cave. It’s almost a cliché -- the wife that complains and makes demands, and the husband that just wants to be left alone to watch TV or work out in the garage.

Source: eharmony.com / Article by Grant Langston, Sr. Director
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Top Ten Complaints Women Have About Men

We love you guys, but there are some things you do that drive us crazy! Here, we share women’s biggest gripes about the men they love. Our hope is you’ll learn a little, all the while remembering that we truly appreciate many of your other fine qualities.

1. All Talk and No Action

No, we’re not talking about bedroom behavior. What many women have an issue with is men who SAY they are going to do something, but don’t follow through. Some good examples include telling her you will call -- and not picking up the phone. An even better example is telling a woman you are ready for a relationship, but your actions completely prove otherwise. Guys, be honest about who you are and where you are in life, and we’ll respect that a lot more.

2. You’re Dishonest About What You Want

This meshes well with point one, and deserves further explanation because this is really one of the biggest complaints we see from women about men. You tell a woman you are truly ready for commitment, pursue her … and then freak out. OR you have past entanglements (like that darn ex), which are really holding you back from being available for a relationship. Women would appreciate it so much more if men could be genuine with themselves and their partners about exactly what they want. We don’t want to get invested in you if you aren’t worth the time.

3. Too Much, Too Soon

On the opposite end of the commitment-phobe is the guy who actually talks marriage on a first, second or third date! Numerous women in the Advice community said their dates came on way too strong, invaded their personal space and raised serious red flags in the process. Demanding and overbearing were common complaints from women dealing with this issue.

4. Mr. Angry/Possessive

It is really hard to be around this personality type – for anyone! Women definitely do not like when men treat them like possessions. Avoid things like checking up on your woman constantly, questioning her friendships with other men or women, or telling her what she can and can’t do. The same goes for the guy who just seems angry at the world, and has his girlfriend walking around on eggshells. Nice will get you a lot further than nasty, guys.

5. It’s All About You

Women want you to take an interest in them, to pay attention to things they like, and to WANT to know what is going on in their lives. A big complaint about some guys is that they just aren’t thoughtful and are downright self-absorbed, not concerned with their partners wants or needs. As we all know, for a relationship to be successful, both people must give of themselves.

6. Too Much Boy, Not Enough Man

At some point it’s time to grow up -- and ditch the Billabong t-shirts, guys. It drives women crazy when they have to remind their men to dress like a grown up and more importantly, act like one. There is definitely a time and place for having fun and being childlike, but the refusal to grow up and be responsible is a very tough pill to swallow for most women, who do want a mature or at least a maturing man with some sense of direction.

7. The Ogle-Master

You may think you are being slick, but we caught you glancing at the hot chick as she passed by. We completely get that you are a visual creature – but it is really hurtful if we are out with you and you can’t stop scoping out the brunette at the table next to us. Many women complained about this behavior, saying it truly bothered them and even ruined the entire evening. Practicing a little self restraint in this area will earn you major points.

8. The Bump on a Log

We saw this complaint a lot – guys who are no fun, uptight, dull, take no initiative to plan any dates, or who never have any ideas about where to go for dinner, vacations, activities, etc. If you are like this, it’s time to wake up and find your passion. Put a little energy into your relationship. Boring equals D.O.A in the dating world.

9. The Mama’s Boy

We are happy that you have a great relationship with your mother, but we don’t want to date your mother! Meddling mama’s can be a huge problem in a relationship, and even a deal breaker for many. Guys, it is important to set boundaries with your family and don’t let mom interfere in your love life. It’s also important that you strive for balance in your romantic relationships, because women, as a rule, don’t want to play mama. Childish does not equal attractive.

10. He’s Way Too Comfortable

We’ll end on an easy-to-fix issue … the man who gets so comfy with his relationship that he lets it all hang out! Guys, close the bathroom door (and put down the toilet seat), put a little effort into your appearance (yes, that means showering and shaving before we go out) and keep on impressing us with your romantic gestures -- just like you did when we first started dating.

Source: eharmony.com / Article by Jeannie Assimos, Managing Editor

Top Ten lists are quite popular.

What would be on your 'Top Ten' list?

I'll start!

Top Ten Pet Peeves

1. People who spit on the sidewalk, directly in your path.

2. People who get in the fast lane and drive 40 miles per hour.

3. People who are constantly texting, while you're trying to have a conversation with them.

4. Single and married men who continue to try to flirt with you, even when you've flashed your wedding rings, as a sign you're married and not interested - then tell you it doesn't matter if you're married.

5. People with horrible table manners, sitting near you in a restaurant.

6. Parents who bring their children to functions and let them run wild.

7. Grown people who throw tantrums in public like a 2-year old, when things don't go their way.

8. Supposedly 'high class' people who act like 'low class' people, especially in public - proof that money can't buy class - you either have it or you don't.

9. Men who insist on cat-calling and massaging their 'family jewels' whenever women walk by.

10. Women who run down other women they don't know, based on how they look, dress or what man they have on their arm.

Curious about the lives of Nigerians living abroad, the successes they've enjoyed and the challenges they face?

Peek the following videos for an inside look at Nigerians living abroad.
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Pilot Episode Of Nigerians Abroad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9vBCVmYxAs&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians Are Doing Extra-Ordinarily Well In America -- U.S. Diplomat

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PevXCrTn_nY&feature=player_detailpage
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NIGERIA COMMUNITY IN RUSSIA (KAZAN)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHZxKIVddHI&feature=player_detailpage
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Some Top Nigerians in the UK
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=NtfPwF91tqo
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Nigerians in America Tackle Rampant Sudden Death Amongst Them

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sRvcTG139bg&feature=player_detailpage
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Adora Okeke's Youth Forum: TV Topic: Nigerian Americans

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCyIWNgM1hw&feature=player_detailpage
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Africans in Europe - Nigerian Connection 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xi3agZ52yY&feature=player_detailpage
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Africans in Europe - Nigerian Connection 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=tIoBAQc1cUg
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Voodoo and Africans in Europe - Nigerian Connection 3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMArUXcorrc&feature=player_detailpage
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Baby Factory - Nigerian Connection 4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOTnoF7nmo8&feature=player_detailpage
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MADE FOR NIGERIANS / LIFE ABROAD V2 (could not locate)
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MADE FOR NIGERIANS / LIFE ABROAD V2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G61a7CHjDbc&feature=player_detailpage
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MADE FOR NIGERIANS / LIFE ABROAD V3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0MjOLQ3bb8&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 1 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FphV7jUtJas&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 2 of 11)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=6oiLZoMqV08
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 3 of 11)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=6oiLZoMqV08
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 4 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gBHUUhrHfk&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 5 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-jpav4YQBA&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 6 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHBhqGRICSE&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 7 of 11)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=yAhwdTtMIgY
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 8 of 11)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=GeL1u5P2_HY
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 9 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mzAxzmAezQ&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 10 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1n_RY-dGDU&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians' World Abroad (Part 11 of 11)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGcmzT46w3o&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerian Americans Documentary
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=AGEWWQ6XwW8
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Young Nigerian-American Entrepreneurs in Chicago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=27dX544ULw0
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What is Nigeria's image abroad?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=27dX544ULw0
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Why are Nigerians treated so BADLY abroad??

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ot9KIuA3M88&feature=player_detailpage
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Nigerians in China

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLP4srATZyk&feature=player_detailpage
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The Expat - From Nigeria to Thailand
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=ybzcu9GxtJY
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Discussing the Plight of Nigerians Abroad with Richard Nwankwo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXTq2Vl82hA&feature=player_detailpage
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The BEAM: Killing And Ill Treatment Of Nigerians Abroad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_68XC2DbMg8&feature=player_detailpage

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5minsmadness: Please oh, albinism doesn't carry any special stigma here in Nigeria. Its the same teasing in school and shunning in the dating area that they experience over there that they experience here. If anything they are treated with kindness(pity?)here, and because of that many of them like to prove themselves. Thank you.

Re: The Challenges of Albinism in Nigeria and Beyond

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Albinism in Africa

"The poverty and lack of education suffered by albinos does not stem from any mental or physical disability, but mostly as a result of discrimination, social exclusion and stigma, and in some cases the human rights abuse they suffer as a result of their skin colour."

Read more: http://albinofoundation.org/albinism/albinism-in-africa/
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"The increasing cases of missing albinos among the over six million of them in Nigeria have posed fresh threats to albinism and challenges to the government. The albinos, who suffer health and social challenges, have more to contend with this time, the threat posed by witch doctors; Nigerian spiritualists now crave for albino parts for love or money rituals."

Read more: http://en.starafrica.com/news/the-challenges-of-albinism-in-nigeria.html
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MYTHS, DISCRIMINATION, AND THE CALL FOR SPECIAL RIGHTS FOR PERSONS WITH ALBINISM IN SUB-SAHARAN AFRICA.

"Many women have been divorced by their husbands and shunned by families after giving birth to
children with albinism. They have been accused of sleeping with men of other races; of being cursed
and unclean; and of being witches. Children with albinism have also been hidden from the public,
forbidden from socialising with others and treated as outcasts."

Read more: http://www.amanikenya.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Rights-for-People-with-Albinism-in-Africa.pdf
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Fueled by Superstition, People Are Violently Attacking Albinos in Tanzania

"In many parts of Africa, albinism occurs at higher rates than in much of the world. In Tanzania, one in 1,400 people have the disorder — roughly 35,000 people nationwide. Globally, the rate is generally one in 20,000. With limbs regularly selling for hundreds of dollars and entire bodies reportedly costing up to $75,000 in a country where the median annual income is less than $600, there is a widespread assumption in Tanzania and elsewhere in Africa that members of the business and political elite are behind the demand. A rise in attacks has been documented in several countries ahead of elections, when candidates have reportedly employed witch doctors to increase their likelihood of victory."

Read more: https://news.vice.com/article/fueled-by-superstition-people-are-violently-attacking-albinos-in-tanzania
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The Plights Of Albinos In Nigeria

"Investigation by LEADERSHIP Weekend reveals that Nigerians living with albinism suffer discrimination from their families, school mates and peers. Some families even commit infanticide on babies born with albinism. There is also a deliberate failure to educate children living with albinism, while chances of persons with albinism gaining employment are limited, and therefore their education is often considered by most parents and guardians as a waste of resources."

Read more: http://leadership.ng/features/371265/plights-albinos-nigeria
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Albino Foundation Condemns Killing Of Albinos In Nigeria

"Speaking in Abuja ahead of the national albinism day, Mr Epelle says Nigerians living with albinism suffer discrimination from their families, schoolmates and peers in addition to a deliberate failure to educate children living with albinism.

Read more: http://www.channelstv.com/2013/05/02/albino-foundation-condemns-killing-of-albinos-in-nigeria/
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‘Albinos in Nigeria suffer discrimination’

“Some families abandon newly born children with albinism,” he said. “Due to this, an albino has a slim chance to make it in life with most parents reluctant to invest in the education of albino children.”

Read more: http://www.dailytimes.com.ng/article/%e2%80%98albinos-nigeria-suffer-discrimination%e2%80%99
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Human ALBINOS in Africa Killed for Body Parts

"Albinism is a curse in certain parts of Africa. Albinism is a disaster in certain parts of Africa today due to illiteracy, wickedness and extreme superstitious beliefs. African Albinos are on the run and they are being hunted like wild Animals by some mad men who believe the body parts of albinos contain supernatural powers. Why is this so? you will not hear this in the cities and big towns but this is happening right now in some of our villages and small towns.. However, as most of us know, albinism isn't and shouldn't be a curse because Albinos are complete human beings just like you and I. Albinism is just the absence of the genetic factor responsible for skin color. Albinos are complete Human Beings just like any other Human being but some illiterate Africans are too blind to see and some Africans are too superstitious and sometimes too dumb to reason."

Read more: http://www.africaw.com/forum/f17/human-albinos-in-africa-killed-for-body-parts-t2128/


Note: Fascinating subject!

Is cheating BEFORE marriage a sign to cut your losses and run?

If you cheat on your partner BEFORE marriage, does it matter, even if you confess or they find out?

Should you still marry?

Have YOU ever been cheated on?

Did you ever discover the reasons why your BF/GF/Spouse cheated on you?
Did you forgive him/her for cheating on you and move on?
If you chose to stay in the relationship/marriage, did the two of you work things out or not?
Did the experience of being cheated on change your opinion of the opposite s-x and/or affect your future relationships?
What lessons did you learn about yourself and the opposite s-x from being cheated on?

Have YOU cheated on someone?

Did you ever discover the reason/s why you cheated on your BF/GF/Spouse?
Did the person you cheated on forgive you and move on?
If the person chose to stay in the relationship/marriage, did the two of you work things out or not?
Did the experience of being a cheater change your opinion of the opposite s-x and/or affect your future relationships?
What lessons did you learn about yourself and the opposite s-x from being a cheater?

Would you like to share your experiences as a Cheatee or Cheater?

Someone going through this or actively cheating may benefit from your experiences and gain some valuable insight into the dynamics of cheating and life after cheating.

Thanks for your contributions, in advance!

cococandy: Why didn't they adopt?
These kinds of stories piss me off

Some people don't want to adopt.

cococandy: Oh you beat me to it.
I was trying to give a layman's approach to the explanation.
I studied genetics (elective four semesters). You can imagine my frustration when most people I see all the time prefer to believe in superstition and 'generational curses' for diseases that are purely and plainly hereditary.

The family enemy that doesn't let them live past 50yrs is off somewhere again making more juju to kill the last standing male child of the family after killing off his 3 elder brothers.
And everyone is busy pointing finger at the uncle whose house in across the road.


Meanwhile the whole family is suffering from a hereditary condition that manifests around middle age(like serious hypertension or angina)

It's depressing.

Agreed.

But what of this?

I know a couple where the man has sickle cell disease and the wife has the trait. After 9 years together they decide to have a baby, in the off-chance that the baby would only be born with just the trait. Now their geneticist had already told them that the baby would most likely be born with sickle cell disease. But they ignored him. They said they were going to put it in God's hands.

Long story short, girl baby was born 2 months premature. At around 2-3 months old, she was found to have sickle cell disease, asthma, acid reflux, and is lactose intolerant.

So now, the wife has to look after two who are in and out of the hospital, due to a crisis.

Both sides of the family love the child but call her and her husband fools, for bringing the baby into the world, because of the disease and her other health problems.

EfemenaXY: ^^ A complicated read (for some), but thanks for buttressing my point.

You're welcome.

I learned something myself.

@walcolm...

I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse, if he cheated.

(Did you read my earlier response? My spouse and I are in agreement: Cheating is not tolerated. It's a deal breaker, a serious breach of trust that will lead to divorce.)

I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse, if he abuses me.

(Abuse is not tolerated from either of us. It's a deal breaker, a serious breach of trust that will lead to a quick divorce.)

I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse, if he was no longer a good father.

(If at any time, my husband turns into a Mr. Hyde, beats our children like Hebrew slaves, molests them, curses them out on the regular, refuses to spend time with them, refuses to take interest in or assists in their upbringing, expects me to feed and clothe them alone, it's a deal breaker and will lead to a quicker divorce. Note: If I had wanted to be a single mother, I would have become a single mother.)

I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse, if he refused to work.

(A refusal to work is different from being unable to find work which is understandable. However, some men, seeing the kind of income their wives bring in will find all kinds of excuses to not work, even when their are jobs a-plenty and all kinds of legal hustles. Over here, some shameless Naija men, especially those married to nurses, are beginning to copy the lazy, shiftless behavior of some American men and have started to call themselves "house husbands". Yet, the wives still come home, after a 10-12 hour shift and work a second 8-10 hour shift, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, looking after the kids, helping with homework, and then have to summon up the strength to struggle through a round of bedmatics. That's not the definition of a house husband and, it gets old -- real quick.)

I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse, if he was convicted of a crime.

(I'm not married to my parents or siblings, so this question not applicable.)

I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse, if he stole from me.

(If my husband went into my purse and stole money or got ahold to my bank card and took money out of the bank, without my knowledge, that's stealing from me and, that money is for his OWN personal use -- and not for family use. If not, then why not just ask me for some money? And that goes for opening up credit cards in my name or acquiring loans in my name, without my knowledge, which some unlucky women have experienced, at the hands of their husbands, leaving them in some serious debt. In my household, there are 3 primary bank accounts: HIS, MINE, HOUSE -- keeps down arguments and misunderstandings.)

Edusouls: look at women asking who would stand by their spouse no matter what, women are one naturally selfish creature, they dont even konw exactly what they want, they dump men here and there at the slightest trail,many men are down and devastated by women that dump them after going through a lot for them.men borrow money, borrow clothing, borrow even food just to see that it works out, uncountable cases of men going through the very hectic and difficult task of training a girl all the way from year 1 to final year in the university, at the end after bringing the rif raf from their very hell and wretched homes, she now open eye and becomes more intelligent than you and goes wild, before you know it she dumps you for another fellow rif raf man, women stupidly jump out of a relationship that has been painfully built and nurtured for years, that have a future and go to their doom,women are very senseless creatures any calculation they do is wrong, women instantly loose their respect ans love for their husband just because things are not so smooth as it was before,women are super greedy that they date their fathers and sleep with them painting her future black, she just want bb, or money, or i pad. nowadays how many women date one man, nooo tht one is for girls wey never open eye, a normal nigerian girl carelessly date anything datable, once money or goodies comes out of it, even if monkeys have money they will date, women are so dishonest that they even lie to themselves talkless of another person, women hate the truth, women are natural betrayers and they disappoint anyhow at the least expected time, their smelling life style can be seen everywhere by any person who is not blind..they tell you they want to marry a good man, when the LovePeddler have dated up to 9 different individuals plus 2 married men added with some abortions. and have had sex with all of them, during school years. women are lost creatures, they shouldn't even talk because thier case is hopeless and worsens by the day.......

The original question wasn't gender-specific but some women CAN be just as scandalous as some men.

However,

BOTH genders...

...possess different levels of tolerance when it comes to marital issues -- what one spouse will tolerate in a marriage -- another won't;

...are capable of being "naturally selfish creatures' who are ambivalent about what they expect from the opposite gender;

...are capable of dumping each other over the slightest transgressions or travails;

...are capable of becoming 'down and devastated' when spouses dump them after going through a lot for them;

...may find it necessary to swallow their pride when they have to borrow money, borrow clothing, borrow even food when times get hard, but husbands seem to be more stigmatized than wives, when this occurs, because husbands are considered head of household and are expected to provide for the families independently, by working or 'hustling', not go about begging or borrowing from other people;

...have members who can sing the 'How I Got Used Blues', regarding this scenario. Are you not aware of the countless women who have pulled men up from their bootstraps, provided them with a place to live, food in their stomachs, clothes on their back and perks of all sorts? These are the women who urged their husbands to just face their studies and not worry about working; they took on a second job or asked for extra hours, took out school loans to pay for tuition and books, so they could pay for their husbands' schooling, sometimes up to Phd level and even typed up their papers; once the Mr. Toads of the world obtained their degree/s, they dumped these women, afterwards, for another woman -- sometimes a woman who was not even up to their wives' level; any kids that came from the union were sometimes considered "complications" and left behind, forcing the women to file for child support; these women, generally came out stronger and wiser from their experiences and moved on with their lives; and that incest reference was just sick and nasty;

...are capable of prostituting themselves to get what they feel they're entitled to, whether to survive or just to show-off, will rationalize that what they're doing is not immoral, will betray and deceive whomever they please to reach their goals, hate hearing the bitter truth about themselves and will disgrace themselves in all kinds of ways to get bling and money;

...are just as capable of being promiscuous, pretend they are 'good', when it comes time to settle down and, then spend countless hours wondering if and when their past will catch up to them;

...are capable of changing their wayward, immoral ways and becoming individuals that can take pride in themselves and end up becoming wonderful spouses and doting parents.

Another thing, emotional baggage is not good for anyone's emotional health and will block the good people and the blessings that may come your way.

No sane person wants to hook up with one of the 'Walking Wounded'.

DukeNija: So you'll divorce your husband at 43 if he cheats once? Lol. Very rational

Absolutely!

I will divorce him at 43, 53 or 63, if he cheats on me. Why? He violated his marriage vows which I take VERY seriously. And he would definitely divorce ME, if I cheated too. We are both in complete agreement on this issue. You don't cheat on the one you say you love. Adultery, for us, is a serious breach or trust. Imagining each other doing bedmatics with another person would be intolerable. It would be WWIII everyday, if we tried to stay together, with the kids caught in the crossfire. Best part ways and keep a civil relationship going for the sake of the kids.

So yes, it's very rational for me to divorce him, if he cheats on me ONCE...and the same goes for him.

Over here, women aren't generally stigmatized for divorce, especially if the divorce was due to a cheating or abusive husband.

Also, most women over here aren't financially dependent on their husbands.

And for those thinking of applying for government benefits to help, cradle-to-grave welfare benefits are long-gone over here. Welfare benefits usually last only 5 years. With few exceptions, if you apply for welfare, your behind (male or female) is expected to work and/or enter into a vocational job training class...finish it successfully and get off the rolls. If you don't comply, you will be denied half your benefits -- further non-compliance and you are kicked off welfare, whether you've reached the 5-year limit or not. One more thing, any single, separated or divorced parent must supply the name/s of the absent parent or risk having his or her case denied. This is for the purpose of the state collecting child support on behalf of your child/ren, to offset a portion of the benefits being paid to the welfare recipient.


Now...why are YOU dodging the question?

Would YOU divorce YOUR wife, if SHE 'slips' up ONCE?

Furthermore, could you handle imagining her doing bedmatics with another man?

Most men I know couldn't.

It would drive them crazy...especially those who have never cheated on their wives.

Domestic Violence: The Problem Pervading Nigeria

"On a daily basis, Nigerian women are beaten, raped and even murdered by members of their family for supposed transgressions, which can range from not having meals ready on time to visiting family members without their husband’s permission," adding that "husbands, partners and fathers are responsible for most of the violence". -Stephane Mikala, Deputy Director of Amnesty International’s Africa Program

Institutions that fail to support victims and laws that protect perpetrators contribute to widespread domestic violence.

Between half and two thirds of Nigerian women are subject to domestic violence in their homes. Domestic violence affects all social groups and can consist of physical, sexual and psychological abuse. Although men can also be affected by domestic violence, women suffer disproportionately.

This trend occurs across much of the world, but Nigeria’s discriminatory laws and dismissive police compound its particularly high rates of domestic violence. Most potently, its prevalent culture of silence and stigma for the victims of domestic violence hinders public acknowledgement of the problem. There exists an urgent need to challenge the social prejudices and institutional structures in order to protect its women, not just from danger, but also from ridicule, fear and isolation.

Stephane Mikala, Deputy Director of Amnesty International’s Africa program, said:

"On a daily basis, Nigerian women are beaten, raped and even murdered by members of their family for supposed transgressions, which can range from not having meals ready on time to visiting family members without their husband’s permission," adding that "husbands, partners and fathers are responsible for most of the violence".

Although more widespread in South Asia, acid attacks on women which cause extreme pain, disfigurement and can be fatal, have also been on the rise in Nigeria, and have failed to be taken seriously as an offence by the Nigerian authorities.

What is happening and why?

A combination of factors contributes to the high rates of domestic violence in Nigeria. In general, domestic violence is seen as a 'private' matter to be dealt with by the family, typically a domain of male authority. Nigerian women are expected to behave with subservience to their husbands, and domestic violence is often accepted as a part of marriage. According to Amnesty International, many believe that a woman is "expected to endure whatever she meets in her matrimonial home", and to provide “sex and obedience” to her husband, who has the right to violate and batter her if she fails to meet her marital duties.

For some victims, domestic violence is seen as a sign of love.

Domestic violence in Nigeria is often viewed as a necessary corrective tool for women, at best a part and parcel of married life.

Two key factors help to perpetuate domestic violence. The first is the inability of many women to escape violence and domination due to their disadvantaged economic status. Many women and girls depend on the financial resources of their husband, father or families. This forces them to put up with domination for fear of the withdrawal of this financial support.

In Nigeria, female adult literacy is below the national average at 54.6% and the number of women below the poverty line is 65% compared to that of men at 35%. Yet even for educated women, domestic violence poses a serious threat to their safety and wellbeing. According to a recent study by the Global Press Institute, 65% of educated women have been beaten by their husband or boyfriend.

A second crucial factor is a culture of silence that stigmatises the victims of domestic violence rather than the perpetrators. Funmi Tejuoso of the Lagos State House of Assembly claims that women were told to "go home and be a good wife" when they brought complaints to the police, making women fear the label of being a "bad wife". This reinforces the need for raising awareness about women's political rights and to educate women that they are not to blame for the physical, sexual or psychological abuse to which they are subjected.

Lack Of Institutional Support

Many Nigerians have little faith in the integrity or capacity of the police to redress crimes of domestic abuse. This can be attributed to corruption and under-resourcing of the police as well as perceived pervasive institutional sexism. Itoro Eze-Anaba of the Legal Defence and Assistance Project (LEDAP) said, "The police and courts often dismiss domestic violence as a family matter and refuse to investigate or press charges". Like much of the world, women in Nigeria face humiliating rules regarding evidence in court when it concerns violence against them.
This results in a very low level of reporting. In 2005, only 18.1% of 10,000 women who said they had been raped went to the police. Furthermore, women who have been raped were unable to obtain medical examinations and did not know how to report rape or obtain help.

Dr. Mairo Mandara, Chairperson of the Right to Information Initiative Nigeria (R2K), and Director of the charity Girl Child Concerns, spoke to Think Africa Press regarding the futility of making police complaints:

“Domestic violence is pretty common in Nigeria and rape is on the increase...Unfortunately, the police and support systems for these cases are very poor. Unless the victim is lucky to be supported by Civil Society groups, seeking redress is almost a waste of time.”

Unprotective Law

Discriminatory national laws pose a serious threat to women's safety in Nigeria. The penal code in Northern states allows the correction of child, pupil, servant or wife as long as it does not amount to grievous harm (Section 55). Furthermore, marital rape is excluded from the definition of rape under state-level Sharia penal code in Northern states and under the criminal code in Southern states. Specifically, section 295 of the criminal code recognises “the resort to some degree of violence for correctional purposes”.

Nigeria is failing to implement its current obligations under international law. In early 2007, Nigeria’s National Assembly rejected the domestication of the international law of CEDAW (the Convention on the Elimination of all forms of Discrimination Against Women), despite having ratified it in the 1980s without reservation.

However, some legal reform has got underway. In 2007, the Lagos State House of Assembly passed a law “to provide protection against domestic violence”. However, Funmi Falana, Chairwoman of Women Empowerment and Legal Aid (WELA) said that since being passed, “the law has rarely been tested by victims of domestic violence”. The Domestic Violence Protection Bill 2006 has only passed its first reading at the National Assembly, and out of the 36 states in Nigeria, only four have enacted the Domestic Violence Law.

There are certain alternative authorities to the courts that are often consulted when settling a case of domestic violence. However, discrimination against women may continue in the consulting of community elders, and women’s version of events may be dismissed out of hand. Rape cases in particular are often settled financially out of court.

This results in a serious lack of data on the levels of rape in Nigeria. Not only does a culture of silence and distrust prevent women from coming forward, but government policy prevents records of gender-based violence such as rape going public. The reasons for this may be manifold but it is notable that violence against women is perpetrated not just inside homes but directly by the police and security forces. An Amnesty International report documents sexual violence including rape by members of the police against women in their homes, in the street and in detention. Currently, the Public Officers Protection Act prevents prosecution of state actors charged for rape.

Clearly, the provision of gender sensitivity training to Nigeria’s police and security forces, judges, and other officials in the criminal justice system and lawyers would go a long way. However, long-term behavioural changes will not be incurred through top-down approaches. The public must be educated about women’s rights, women and men must have access to safe houses where they can escape domestic violence, and thorough documentation of cases of domestic violence must be gathered, and the statistics made publicly available. Only then will the culture of impunity be confronted.

Murmurs Of Improvement

There are murmurs of improvement on some of these issues. After years of wrangling, the Freedom of Information Bill, which guarantees the rights of access to information held by public institutions, was passed by Goodluck Jonathan in June 2010. In terms of public awareness, WELA held a seminar in 2012 on domestic violence aimed at encouraging civil rights organisations to utilise the new law on domestic violence.

Funmi Falana of WELA highlighted that the current Lagos law on domestic violence had failed to deter perpetrators because it was still being viewed as a private matter, and called for advocacy, counselling, and political activism in order to rid Nigerian society of ”all inequities and discrimination against women”.

Nigeria’s successful film industry also has the potential to defy the patriarchal culture that currently accepts violence against women. A recent music video from Nigerian artist Waje about a woman who refuses to let her husband’s abuse get to her is one example of the ways in which popular culture can be mobilised to raise awareness of human rights violations such as domestic violence.

Men and women in Nigeria have no small task ahead of them in challenging the sexism that keeps women at a disadvantage in society, starting with their low levels of literacy, education and economic dependence on men. Furthermore, civil activism must hold the government to account and push for a transformation of the legal and institutional structure that, at present, puts women’s lives at risk.

It is unacceptable that members of the Nigerian government, police, military and the legal profession are able to treat women’s safety and security as a private concern that deserves little recognition at best, and ridicule at worst.

Source: thinkafricapress.com

Tallesty1: So love isn't unconditional after all?

Not for me.

I can't speak for other folks, though.

I will love my husband, 'under the condition' that he continues to love me and show that love.

If he doesn't, then why should I become a 'Marriage Martyr' -- wasting good years of my life on an unworthy partner?

And what am I teaching my children?

If I stay, I will be teaching my daughters: this is how men are supposed to treat women. And she'll learn from her Daddy to expect this type of treatment from men.

If I stay, I will be teaching my son: this is how men are supposed to treat women. And he'll learn from his Daddy that it is okay to inflict this type of treatment on women.

Result: All have a 50/50 chance of finding themselves in relationships or marriages that reflect the toxic marriage of Mom and Dad, because that is their primary frame of reference -- their model of marriage.

Some parents seem to forget that children pay more attention to what parents DO than what they SAY.

passionate88: @bolded, but you expect him to stand by his woman when she steals his money right?.

What is wrong with you?

Of course not!

Why would spouses want to steal from each other, in the first place?

That's wickedness!

What's good for the goose is good for the gander!

Genetics of Albinism

The genes for OCA are located on “autosomal” chromosomes. Autosomes are the chromosomes that contain genes for our general body characteristics, contrasted to the sex chromosomes. We normally have two copies of these chromosomes and the genes on them – one inherited from our father, the other inherited from our mother. Neither of these gene copies is functional in people with albinism. However, albinism is a “recessive trait”, so even if only one of the two copies of the OCA gene is functional, a person can make pigment, but will carry the albinism trait. Both parents must carry a defective OCA gene to have a child with albinism. When both parents carry the defective gene (and neither parent has albinism) there is a one in four chance at each pregnancy that the baby will be born with albinism. This type of inheritance is called “autosomal recessive” inheritance.

Ocular albinism (OA1) is caused by a genetic defect of the GPR143 gene that plays a signaling role that is especially important to pigmentation in the eye. OA1 follows a simpler pattern of inheritance because the gene for OA1 is on the X chromosome. Females have two copies of the X chromosome while males have only one copy (and a Y chromosome that makes them male). To have ocular albinism, a male only needs to inherit one defective copy of the gene for ocular albinism from his carrier mother. Therefore almost all of the people with OA1 are males. Indeed, parents should be suspicious if a female child is said to have ocular albinism.

For couples who have not had a child with albinism, there is no simple test to determine whether a person carries a defective gene for albinism. Researchers have analyzed the DNA of many people with albinism and found the changes that cause albinism, but these changes are not always in exactly the same place, even for a given type of albinism. Moreover, many of the tests do not find all possible changes.

Therefore, the tests for the defective gene may be inconclusive.

If parents have had a child with albinism previously, and if that affected child has had a confirmed diagnosis by DNA analysis, there is a way to test in subsequent pregnancies to see if the fetus has albinism. The test uses either amniocentesis (placing a needle into the uterus to draw off fluid) or chorionic villous sampling (CVS). Cells in the fluid are examined to see if they have an albinism gene from each parent.

For specific information and genetic testing, seek the advice of a qualified geneticist or genetic counselor.

Read more: http://www.albinism.org/publications/what_is_albinism.html

lofty900: even if she cheated, I'll still stick with her cos I know that if I cheat, she'll also stick with me

What if she gave you a STD, especially an incurable one like genital herpes or HIV?

Would you stay?

Would you expect her to stay with you, if you afflicted her in the same way?

And it's a definitely possibility, too.

DukeNija: All these women shouting infidelity. Lol
So your man 'slips' just once and next thing you are running off! lmao yea right?!!

Would you stay if your woman 'slips' up just once?

Either answer wouldn't surprise me though.

Mrval20: The American Heritage College Dictionary, has two meanings. Firstly, racism is “the belief that race accounts for differences in human character or ability and that a particular race is superior to others.”... In that case, most Nigerians are racist because most of them believe that "race accounts for differences in human character or ability" (every white guy working here in Nigeria is considered to be a genius), and that "a particular race is superior to others" (I don't even need to cite examples here).

@poster, what is this type of racism called
#curious

lol

That's one of the definitions of racism. They are all a bit different - yet try to explain the same concept.

After reading through the various definitions of racism and noting the different types of racism below --

Do you think it's possible for members of a minority population to be racist?

Or, do you think it's not possible for members of a minority population to be racist?
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What Is Racism?

The use of the term 'racism' is relatively recent and as such its definition is not entirely settled.

The American Heritage College Dictionary, has two meanings. Firstly, racism is “the belief that race accounts for differences in human character or ability and that a particular race is superior to others.” Secondly, racism is, “Discrimination or prejudice based on race.”

The Oxford English Dictionary defines racism as the "belief that all members of each race possess characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races" and the expression of such prejudice.

The Merriam-Webster's Dictionary defines it as a "belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority or inferiority of a particular racial group, and alternatively that it is also the prejudice based on such a belief."

The Macquarie Dictionary defines racism as: "the belief that human races have distinctive characteristics which determine their respective cultures, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule or dominate others."

There Are 8 Major Types Of Racism

1. COLORISM. Colorism is often viewed as a problem that’s unique to communities of color. It occurs when minorities discriminate against those with darker skin than they have. For years in the black community, lighter skin was viewed as superior to darker skin. Anyone with skin color that was lighter than a brown paper lunch bag was welcomed into elite organizations in the black community, while darker-skinned blacks were excluded. But colorism doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It’s a direct offshoot of a white supremacist ideology that values whites over people of color and equips Caucasians with what’s known as 'white skin privilege'. Colorism also exists outside of the African-American community. In Asia, sales of skin whitening products remain sky high.

2. ECONOMIC RACISM. This form of racism is alleged to be a form of discrimination caused by past racism and historical reasons, affecting the present generation through deficits in the formal education and kinds of preparation in previous generations, and through primarily unconscious racist attitudes and actions on members of the general population. For example, in 2011,Bank of America agreed to pay $335 million to settle a federal government claim that its mortgage division, Countrywide Financial, discriminated against black and Hispanic homebuyers.

3. ETHNOCENTRISM. Ethnocentrism refers to a tendency to use your own culture as the standard by which to judge and evaluate other cultures. The ethnocentric individual will judge other groups relative to his or her own particular ethnic group or culture, especially with concern to language, behavior, customs, and religion. This can lead to biases and a tendency to view cultural differences as abnormal or in a negative light. It can also make it difficult to see how your own cultural background influences your behaviors.

4. INSTITUTIONAL RACISM. Institutional racism is racial discrimination by governments, corporations, religions, or educational institutions or other large organizations with the power to influence the lives of many individuals.

5. INTERNALIZED RACISM. Internalized racism is when a minority believes that whites are superior. A highly publicized example of this is a 1954 study involving black girls and dolls. When given the choice between a black doll and a white doll, the black girls disproportionately chose the latter. In 2005, a teen filmmaker conducted a similar study and found that 64% of the girls preferred the white dolls. The girls attributed physical traits associated with whites, such as straighter hair, with being more desirable than traits associated with blacks.

6. HORIZONTAL RACISM. When this occurs, members of minority groups adopt racist attitudes towards other minority groups. An example of this would be if a Japanese American prejudged a Mexican American based on the racist stereotypes of Latinos found in mainstream culture.

7. REVERSE RACISM. “Reverse racism” refers to anti-white discrimination. It’s often used in conjunction with practices designed to help minorities, such as affirmative action. The Supreme Court continues to receive cases that require it to determine when affirmative action programs have created anti-white bias. Social programs have not only generated cries of “reverse racism” but people of color in positions of power have also. A number of prominent minorities, including the biracial President Obama, have been accused of being anti-white. The validity of such claims is clearly debatable. They indicate, though, that as minorities become more prominent in society, more whites will argue that minorities are biased. Because people of color will surely gain more power over time, get used to hearing about “reverse racism.”

8. SUBTLE RACISM. Subtle racism, sometimes referred to as 'modern racism', doesn’t make the headlines that, say, reverse racism does, but it’s likely the form of discrimination that people of color most often experience. Victims of subtle, or covert, racism may find themselves snubbed by wait staff in restaurants or salespeople in stores who believe that people of color aren’t likely to be good tippers or able to afford anything expensive. Targets of subtle racism may find that supervisors, landlords, etc., apply different rules to them than they do to others. An employer might run a thorough background check on an applicant of color, while accepting a job applicant from a prospective white employee with no additional documentation. Racial prejudice is the driving force behind subtle racism.

Reference: Psychology Today / Article: "Race and Politics In Minority Communities" by Dr. Nnamdi S. Okongwu

If it's true love, will you stick by your spouse, no matter what happens, or what they do?

Under what circumstances would you not?
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I would not stand by OR stay with my spouse if he...

...became abusive
...cheated
...was no longer a good father
...refused to work
...was convicted of a crime
...stole from me...among other things

Many women have been asked this question by a man, in the getting-to-know stages and have pretty good idea of what type of man they want
to date and/or marry.

But how many women know how to answer this question, so as to weed out the 'Great Pretenders'?

If a man asks you: "What are looking for in a man?"...answer..."I'll let you know when I get to know you better."

If you stand firm and resist the urge to reveal what you are looking for in a man, there's a good chance this answer will throw him off-balance. It can also prevent him from changing, chameleon-like, into the kind of man you say you want, based on what you told him, even if he's not that type of man (the Great Pretender).

Result: He has no choice but to be himself. It's then that you can study him at leisure and determine character traits you like, dislike or can compromise on or tolerate and then make your decision.

If he doesn't have your best interests at heart and can't find a way to hook you, he will leave, but only after he tries to bed you. But don't give it up! Throw this one back into the Dating Pool and recast your line. Your time is too precious to waste on any man who is not seriously looking for a relationship.

On the other hand, he may not vamoose but stick around, out of curiosity, trying to figure you out -- the old 'men like a challenge' thing. But be extra mindful. Such men can be very cunning and manipulative.

Upside: Sticking around could be risky for him because HE could end up being hooked on YOU!

MrKnowitall: You asked a very nonsensical question my friend. A better question would be: under what circumstances would you stay in Nigeria. The only circumstance I can imagine anyone staying in Nigeria is at gun point. A reasonable person would get out at first opportunity.

The question stands.

Under what circumstances would you leave Nigeria? Where would you go?

Example: My old alma mater offered, at one time, a two-year exchange teacher position, where 12 American Teachers would go teach in
Nigeria, Ghana, Kenya and Tanzania, and 12 African teachers would come to the U.S., all expenses paid for the two years and a monthly salary of $2,000. Best of all, you could bring your family with you. The response was immense, but spaces were limited.


If you were in Nigeria, would you, under these circumstances leave Nigeria?

Btw...if you're Nigerian, then you already know what will keep you in Nigeria.

But some may not have thought about what they would do, if offered a change to leave Nigeria and better their lives elsewhere.

Have you ever wondered why some people think they're better than other people, and if they think they're better, what makes them better?

Has someone ever said to you: "So, you think you're better than me?"

Have you ever told someone: "Yes, I do think I'm better than you!", when asked the question: "So, you think you're better than me?"

If YOU think you're better than other people, what makes you better?

GenBuhari: Face accounts please

For what?

What is that going to prove?

Give it up, dude!

EBOLA KILLS 90% OF THE TIME!!!

MissMeiya: He's a raving lunatic.

Oh my goodness!

I have come across some helluva characters on the net...but this one takes the cake!

GenBuhari: There is none - that is my point all the people in Nigeria are most likely fake IDs.

Let somebody put me to shame and shut me up by finding a face book account for the spanish priest., The Nigerian Doctor that died, Patrick Sawyer or the Nigerian Nurse or any of the doctors or medical staff that allegedly died in Liberia or Sierra Leone

ALLEGEDLY DIED?!

Surely you can't be serious?

So...unless the deceased had a Facebook page, they have allegedly died - not really died?

Dude, come on now!

That's a bit delusional, don't you think?

So...the families of the deceased are mourning figments of their imagination?

Lawd have mercy!!!

tit: the vector factors could be the reason.
flu kills the weak in society.
we do not always come in contact with rabid dogs/critters
but we get ebola from people we contact daily.
without a great behavior modification, this disease propagates.

Agreed!

GenBuhari: A word is enough for the wise!

I challenge you to find facebook pages of anybody that has died of Ebola.

I can assure you that it would be impossible.

Nigeria is the victim one of the biggest scams perpetrated against us.

I challenge YOU to post any Facebook members who have supposedly died from the Ebola Virus!

GET TO IT!

The ball is in your court!

Btw...how the hell did Facebook enter this discussion?

You are REALLY reaching, my friend!