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GenBuhari: Approx 2 million people has died of rabies since 1976 compared to 2,500 from Ebola in the same period. This is despite rabies having a vaccine. So why no hysteria for rabies? Do you know that flu accounts for 500,000 deaths per year. Why only Ebola? It is an orchestrated campaign by western press for panic African, for what reason is unclear it may just be to sell us dangerous unnecessary vaccines.

Where is your mind?

The topic is the spreading of the Ebola virus - not people being vaccinated for rabies or dying from rabies. The Ebola Virus is making headlines and spreading panic among people - not rabies.

Why? People are dying.

You asked: "How many people have died of Ebola since 1976?"

Answer: From 1976-2011 1545 deaths have been recorded. Source: WHO (World Health Organization)

Unlike, a rabies infection, which can be usually cured with the appropriate medication, the Ebola Virus has a mortality rate of 90%.

There is no vaccine or effective treatment for the Ebola Virus, so why are you fixated on a vaccine for Rabies and the deaths from contracting rabies?

Give it up, mate.

You're embarrassing yourself.

MrKnowitall: You asked a very nonsensical question my friend. A better question would be: under what circumstances would you stay in Nigeria. The only circumstance I can imagine anyone staying in Nigeria is at gun point. A reasonable person would get out at first opportunity.

I don't feel my question is nonsensical, sine some Americans are also asking the question:

Under what circumstances would you leave America? (Job Opportunities)

Where would you go? (Canada & UK)

GenBuhari: @jpphilips
I have supported my arguments with video you have not provided any videos or sources for your.

Regarding the inflated W.H.O figure your explanation does not hold water, because the interview was live on the 31st July 2014 and as madam president was reporting 47 deaths, CNN flashed up W.H.O. figure which indicated the inflated deaths figures. Videos dont lie.

So because rabies has a vaccine that is why there is Ebola hysteria and not rabies?

Let me ask you this how many people have died worldwide from rabies since 1976 and compare that with the 2,500 that have died from Ebola. How many people in Africa has had the rabies vaccine probably close to zero - therefore rabies remains a more deadly disease than Ebola in Africa

Re: Rabies Fatalities Since 1976

Discrepancies in Data Reporting for Rabies, Africa

"Established as a major disease only after multiple introductions during the colonial era, rabies continues to spread into new reservoirs and territories in Africa. However, analysis of reported data identified major discrepancies that are indicators of poor surveillance, reporting, and cooperation among national, international, and global authorities. Ultimately, the absence of reliable and sustained data compromises the priority given to the control of rabies."

Read more: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3647406/

Bottom line...current sources documenting fatalities from rabies are not reliable...anything else is pure speculation.


Re: Ebola Fatalities Since 1976

"By mid-August 2014, 2,127 suspected cases including 1,145 deaths have been reported, however the World Health Organization has said that these numbers may be vastly underestimated." Source: WHO (World Health Organization)

Main article: 2014 West Africa Ebola virus outbreak


Re: Videos of Ebola Victims

Amazing! I've provided you with links to more than enough videos.

You know your stance is wobbly-legged.

Why not just bow out gracefully and save face?

Under what circumstances would you leave Nigeria?

Where would you go?

Snooping is just like crack - addictive as hell.

But is it ever justified?

Some people believe that the moment you feel like snooping through your partner's or spouse's emails, text messages, etc., you should probably end the relationship, regardless of what the truth is.

Others believe that what you don't know will hurt you and a-snooping they go.

But where do YOU stand?

Do you think you're justified to snoop on your partner or spouse, given the right circumstances or suspicions?

Or do you feel that snooping through partner's or spouse's emails, text messages, etc. is and will always be wrong?

Can Snooping EVER Be Justified?

How will you explain your actions, if you're caught red-handed?

GenBuhari: Were the links you posted meant to answer the questions I raised about Ebola?
All you videos showed was the same baseless propaganda to whip up fear and hysteria .

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

Pictures are worth a thousand words. http://ebolaviruspictures.com/Ebola-Virus-Victims2.php

What were some of the things your parents (or other elders) told OR taught you as a child that you found not to be true, once you grew up?

My mother told me that if I broke a mirror, I would have seven years of bad luck. Well, I've broken several mirrors through the years and suffered no undue 'bad luck' than the average person...just the usual ups and downs of life.

GenBuhari:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AUvxsqcsWoc


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBRvNJ5rEJM

For me the white man is over-hyping the Ebola out break if it existed at all - definitely there is propaganda about the deadliness of Ebola, it may surprise many that there is at least one disease more deadly than they claim ebola is. Why do you think Ebola propaganda is being propelled by the white man? Why do you think they want to panic us and make us fearful of Ebola.? What do you think about the theory that they want to panic us into accepting dangerous experimental vaccines (and probably other unrelated dangerous medical tests) to be used on Nigerian / West African population. Do you know it is almost impossible to find somebody who has been filmed suffering from the symptoms of Ebola? It makes you wonder if the disease exists at all. Why are is WHO creating hysteria for Ebola and not Rabies? Is it because Ebola is for discrediting Africa only? I saw this video where Liberian president was on CNN saying that there has been 47 deaths in Liberia and that 28 of those has been medical staff. As she was saying this CNN was flashing up that 730 deaths in the West African region.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IGx66evPmk

It struck me that CNN or W.H.O. are exaggerating the deaths because if as we are told that Liberia is one of the major epicentres of the Ebola, then surely its share of the 730 deaths should be in the region of at least 200 deaths instead of 47 deaths. But even more surprising is the part that she said 28 of the deaths were medical staff, meaning only 19 patients have died in Liberia. So a major epicentre of the illness has only recorded 19 deaths ? Then she reveals that her people are resisting authorities .. W.T. .? what does it mean? is it that Liberians were not aware of the epidemic until the USA medical mission told them? What do you think?

Researcher talks about a case of how epidemic hoaxes are used to sell dangerous vaccines

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PK_7ZrYlOs8

Ebola vaccine share stocks rise on back of epidemic propaganda

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dqxZr_iY6c

Ebola – The Plague Fighters (NOVA)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=4Gh8sqHs-1Q

Monkey Meat and the Ebola Outbreak in Liberia
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=XasTcDsDfMg

Ebola Outbreak in Uganda: CDC Rushes to Contain Virus
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=aE69K_lP2ug

What do Nigerians really think of EBOLA VIRUS??
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=_V0e3XI-tng

EBOLA VIRUS DISEASE AWARENESS IN NIGERIA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=B16lFRjU8i8

U.S. To Establish Health Centres For Ebola In Nigeria
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=yQ3niwpjSt0

Sierra Leone Video Diary: Ebola Outbreak
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=ZGanrV7LzTY

Ebola Discoverer: 'This is Unprecedented'
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=xSthap4JULM

Health Specialists Say Ebola Is Not A Death Sentence. Pt.1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=nyXJU2JyDwc

Health Specialists Say Ebola Is Not A Death Sentence. Pt.2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=2poGGJMazZI

Health Specialists Say Ebola Is Not A Death Sentence. Pt.3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=zisfZObr7Pc

Health Specialists Say Ebola Is Not A Death Sentence. Pt.4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=fn6ggr7P8mE

Ebola Virus Does Not Come From The Bite Of A Bat, Dr. Tochi Okwor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=yBXYvBiGS7s

No more bush Meat to Avoid the Ebola VIrus, Dr. Tochi Okwor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=-7wZbczjwWk

Bush Meat & Ebola Virus: Local Eatery Operators Debunk Any Links
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=ca9IQPkPrJY

Ebola Virus Outbreak 2014: A Village Devastated | The New York Times
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=jcsIiqr6Wlw

DIFFERENT VIEW Regarding the Eating of Bush Meat

Ebola Cannot Be Contracted By Eating Bush Meat- Yewande Adeshina PT. 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=9w8-LzzIXPI

Ebola Cannot Be Contracted By Eating Bush Meat- Yewande Adeshina PT. 2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=nhgjUHTG9f8

Ebola Cannot Be Contracted By Eating Bush Meat- Yewande Adeshina PT. 3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=CY4kIBQwSxI

5minsmadness: Op the man must have specifically asked her if she had albinos in her family and she said 'no'.
Only to deliver and he got the shock of his life.

Sending this your long epistle to him am not sure it will help. It sounds more like he is feeling betrayed.

I am ashamed to say I'm not comfortable around albinoes. Lord forgive me but its one of the deal breakers for me in a relationship. I know its not their fault and I'm proud to say I have three of them as my friends, but..hmmn. It ain't easy.

Op put yourself in the man's shoes. Be honest. How would you react?

Interestingly enough, my friend doesn't, but there are three (2 men & 1 woman) on MY side of the family. And I attended school with fraternal twins who were also albinos.

As for the husband asking my friend if albinism ran in her family, I have no idea. But why would he even ask her such a question? But I have heard of people asking each other if they were a 'sickler' or carried the sickle cell trait. That's what's dreaded over here, next to asthma, in the AA community. As for my reaction, I would only be concerned about the physical problems and limitations associated with albinism.

Albinism, is just a quirk of nature. Even animals like squirrels and opossums can produce albino offspring.

Albinism doesn't carry the same type of stigma over here that it does in Nigeria.

However, albino kids are sometimes teased in school and, as they get older are a bit shunned in the dating area.

But still, they aren't generally discriminated against or rejected by their parents.

As far as me sending my 'epistle ' to the husband, best I leave that to my friend.

A couple of hours ago, I received word that an AA friend who is married to an Urhobo man has been sent packing, by her husband, back to her mother's house with her 2-week old twin boys who were born with albinism. The husband has filed for divorce and expressed no interest in seeing his sons, calling the babies 'cursed' and 'freaks of nature'. She and her family members are forbidden to come by the house and, the husband has told her and her family not to bother calling, because he will not pick up.

She is devastated and her family is rightly angry and confused, because they don't understand why the husband is acting so crazy over what is nothing more than a genetic defect. And why file for divorce, after almost three years of marriage? Since my friend is not one to divulge too many details about her marriage, I thought it best to e-mail her links to the following article and videos that could give her some insight into the husband's reaction, not that it will help, because according to her sister, the husband is standing firm - there's no changing his mind.

ARTICLE:

Albinos And Their Many Predicaments In Nigeria
by James Uzondu

"Nigerians have misconceptions about albinos. These misconceptions, no doubt have been responsible for the discrimination against them in the country."-Rita Onuoha

"Nigerians have misconceptions about albinos. These misconceptions, no doubt have been responsible for the discrimination against them in the country. But experts have made it clear that albinism is just a hereditary condition which shows an absence or lack of the dark pigment, melanin, in the skin, hair and eyes and that it has nothing to do with human intelligence. Many top Nigerians have expressed that most of these persons living with the skin pigmentation problem are highly intelligent and educated and should not be allowed to suffer discrimination."

Read more: http://www.nigeriannewsworld.com/content/albinos-and-their-many-predicaments-nigeria

VIDEOS:

Dealing With Albinism In Nigeria


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_IbxfAQAEFc&feature=player_detailpage


Dealing With Albinism In Nigeria 2


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VXxZ79M_EIU&feature=player_detailpage


Nigeria News: Albinos in Nigeria


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fF1foSSbhUA&feature=player_detailpage


Albino Foundation Condemns Killing Of Albinos In Nigeria


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31_uzJ67EYY&feature=player_detailpage


GROWING UP DIFFERENT IN NIGERIA - Part One


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFkyhEhDZ5o&feature=player_detailpage


GROWING UP DIFFERENT IN NIGERIA - Part Two


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rt4PZSoF2B0&feature=player_detailpage

'I Have Lost Trust In My Wife' - Nigerian Guy Shares His Unhappy Experience Living With A Deceitful Wife

Theo’s Story:

I have brought this personal issue to the forum for the following reasons:

1. I do not want to seek counsel from family and friends. One cannot repair a damaged reputation.
2. I have no intention of judging or disgracing my partner.
3. I do not want to cut the bridge. It has never been my hope to try another woman.
4. I need to pour my heart out somehow. There is a limit to how much one can keep bottled in.

I met my wife about 11 years ago and our marriage will be 9 years this year. I was a virgin and very naïve in the ways of the world; but she was sexually active. In fact she had a child (whom I have since adopted). I met her in church and being a devout Christian, it is my belief that I was a positive influence on her. I am one of those who believe that the past is past as long as the other person is willing to turn a new leaf. I must confess that I really loved her. I still do.

During our courtship, she was really into me. Always by my side, very respectful, very dutiful. In short, she was had all I wanted in a woman. However, I got a shocker early in our courtship. I found out she lied to me about her age. The initial age she told me made her 9 months older. The age I found out through her friends showed she was 3 years and 9 months older. I was very furious. She pleaded with me on her knees to forgive her. Due to her otherwise good nature, I was willing to overlook this. Besides, she was more respectful than other ladies I have dated and whom I am older than. I used that occasion to warn her never to lie to me again…Ever.

I also made it clear that I can forgive anything except s-xual infidelity. I had kept myself for twenty-nine years before getting married to her. Even today, I still have not slept with another person beside her in spite of overwhelming temptation from time to time. She promised not to lie to me again and we made up. Because of her advancing age (I always knew a woman should have all her kids before 40 years of age), and possibly because of mounting temptation, I encouraged her to let’s get wedded in time even though I wasn’t economically sound at the time.

Everything went well until 2 years into the marriage when I discovered a funny sounding sms on my wife’s cell-phone. She saved the person’s last name with her maiden surname. The sender sounded too familiar for comfort. From what I knew about my wife, she would tell me every little thing happening to her, either in her office or in her family. How come she had never told me about this person? This got me curious and I started following their conversation. Soon I found out the man in question was someone at her workplace. I also observed she initiated most of the conversations (sms and calls). These conversations occurred minutes after I leave the house.

After some days, I casually asked her, ‘who is so and so?’ She said, ‘my cousin’. That night, hell was unleashed. When she saw that she was caught in a lie, she went on her knees and started pleading. I waited till morning and stormed out of the house. She held on to me and begged on her knees but I still left. In my absence, the other man sent me an sms explaining that my wife only helped him at work and that he was willing to come meet me anywhere I chose, together with his own wife to explain things to me. I responded that he should not worry and that the issue was just between me and my wife. To be candid, this man’s sms sort of calmed me down. Maybe I was still naïve or not, I cannot tell.

When I left home, I was bent on cutting off with her but that was when I discovered how painful divorce can be. It felt like a knife was piercing my soul. In fact, I believe that was when I developed high blood pressure. The inner struggle was intense. I came home after 36 hours to hear her out in a more calm mood. I got home and asked her to explain their relationship. The most implicating sentence she let out was that the man actually toasted her but she didn’t agree. I told her how much she hurt me but that I was willing to give us another chance. We made up that day. About 4 years passed again and I discovered a conversation between them. Only this time, she had crammed his number as it was not saved on her phone. The conversation wasn’t unusual but it sent a bell in my head considering the man no longer worked at her office. That day I talked to myself to never check her phone again.

To crown it all, about a year and half ago, she miscarried a pregnancy (we have 2 biological sons). While she was unconscious, the nurse handed her file to me to process the drugs etc. That was when I discovered again that my wife had lied once again about her age. The age on the file showed she had subtracted 1 year again. I waited several months till she had fully recovered and confronted her. She was quiet for a long time. Eventually, she owned up. I felt sick. By now, trust had effectively been destroyed. How can I believe anything that comes out her mouth again? Moreover, the age issue cast my mind to the fidelity issue. This most probably means she lied too. In fact, her child bearing issues probably are not un-connected to her age and probably intimate history.

I had celebrated her 40th birthday for her the previous year. All the while, she knew she had already crossed 40. Our first son together is very healthy. Our 2nd son has congenital health issues that have cost both of us fortunes and several nights of prayers. We lost a third pregnancy. The doctors and friends advised us to stop searching for more. Although there may be other reasons, I believe she is definitely past healthy child bearing stage. Truth is I don’t care if she has more or not. I am glad for the three God has given us.

What makes me sick, what makes my blood boil, what makes me wonder whether I am a good Christian or a fool is that I have loved and given my life to a woman who is devoted to deceiving me. She has observed the effect her several lies have had on me. She tried severally to prove to me that she is faithful to me. She stays home when she should go to work. She shows me attention, respect and care more than I can ever hope for. She calls me when she is late to explain what is keeping her. She does all these without my saying a word.

But the past keeps haunting me…and her too. I never say anything but it sometimes shows in my mood. I wonder if I can spend the rest of my life this way. I don’t want to leave her because I love her. But also, I do not and cannot trust her. She probably senses this and I feel that she is now insecure. Having rebounded from several relationships in the past, I feel she is ready for me to do my worst. These days, she is less concerned about me as she was at first. Can I blame her? I have thought to myself how long someone can keep trying knowing full well the other person has refused to be convinced.

Right now, her fashion sense has heightened. In fact, if there is anything that plunges me into bad moods, it’s her inappropriate dressing. I have complained about this many times. She will discard that clothing but the next one she will buy will still be questionable. I have complained until I got tired and all I do now is just watch. She loves high heels though she is taller than me, regardless that I told her how I feel about it. All these make me wonder, ‘am I wasting my time or am I just suspecting something that does not exist?’ Maybe she is just being glamorous? Or maybe she is dressing to impress another man? She is an extrovert while am introvert. She gets over things at an amazing rate, no matter how nasty while I dwell on things too much. That is a psychological make-up over which I have little control.

I desperately want my marriage to work but our history is not helping. I cannot bring myself to leave her unless I have solid evidence because our children are involved and because I really love her. Leave her or not, I am a scarred soul. It has affected my Christian faith (I am colder).

I often think of retaliating through infidelity so I can have my own secret. But my innermost part always tells me: ‘THAT IS NOT WHO YOU ARE. PEOPLE WILL BE WHO THEY ARE. NO MAN HAS THE POWER TO CHANGE ANOTHER. ALLOW OTHERS TO BE THEMSELVES BUT A MAN MUST BE TRUE TO HIMSELF, IF NOT TO ANOTHER’. This is my coping mechanism. That is how I have stayed this long in this relationship.

Source: obipost.com / GENERAL NEWS

On his Instagram page, Jim Iyke shared his thoughts on successful women and why men are afraid of them:

"Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don't want to get hurt. Instead they get the cold manipulating easier climbs. So, the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality away from d spotlight."

As more and more women are gaining and increasingly surpassing men in educational and professional achievements, why are some deemed unsuitable for marriage by some members of the male population?

Why do some men seem intimidated by successful women?

Why do some men SAY they want to marry a successful woman who can carry her own weight, stand on her own two feet, yet shun said women for other women with less to offer?

Successful women want love, attention, support and adoration from an important man in her life...so why are some still looking and waiting for romance and marriage?

10 Types of Women That Men Do Not Want to Marry

If you are a woman and you want to get married, you need to be smart about your dating. This means avoiding certain male types, but it also means recognizing what YOU are doing wrong in your dating and whether the type of woman you are putting out there to the male population attracts or repels them.

To figure this out, you can start by considering the list below and whether you, at times, are any of these QUITE UNATTRACTIVE female types:

Miss "Bossy Pants": This woman usually can't help herself; she has bossy in her DNA. When a man first meets her, he might think this character trait is cute, for awhile. However, once he starts to feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his second grade teacher, he will give this woman her walking papers.

Miss "Playing Games With His Heart": This woman thinks that being a game player will help her land a man. However, even though a man might be intrigued by a hard to get lady in the beginning, as soon as he decides that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straight shooter. If this woman doesn't remove Battleship from her repertoire quite quickly, she will be shown the door before she can even sink his vessel.

Miss "I Want To Change You": This woman is lurking everywhere. She is the type of woman many men are the most leery of. (Of course, there are some men who love this woman because of their own insecurities.) She claims that she loves her guy just the way he is, but little by little, she chips away at just about everything about him. First, it's his wardrobe, then it's his taste in music. However, when she gets to his friends and his hobbies, she is usually kicked to the curb.

Miss "Suspiciously Jealous": This woman is on edge all the time because she is very distrusting. Many times, she has been burnt in the past, so she is on guard for anything that looks or feels wrong. When a man first meets this woman, he sees her as a damsel in distress and wants to reassure her that he is nothing like that guy in her past. However, once she accuses him one too many times, he will have no choice but to leave her because he can't go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else's crimes.

Miss "I Live For You And I Have Nothing Else Going On": This woman is very difficult for a man to date, let alone marry. At first, he is flattered that she is so into him, but very quickly, he feels overwhelmed and suffocated by her. As a woman, you must have something going on in your own life so that you are not just waiting by the door for him to come home.

Miss "I Have Daddy Issues": This woman usually dates older men and deep down is looking for a father figure, not a boyfriend or husband. Initially, her guy might like how she looks to him for approval and the answer to all of her questions, but soon, he realizes that he wants to have s-x with a real woman, not someone who is stuck in her teen years trying to get Daddy to notice her.

Miss "I Speak To My Mother Five Times A Day About Everything": This woman has her mother on speed dial and can't seem to make a decision or do anything without getting her opinion. When a guy first meets her, he thinks it's nice that she is so close to her family, but soon, he finds it to be way too much. A man just doesn't want to have to ask her mother's permission about things in his life.

Miss "Shhh, I Shouldn't Really Be Saying This, But...": This woman is like a human Page Six. She loves to gossip and talk about other people and she loves to hear things about other people as well. Initially when a guy meets her, he might be entertained by her anecdotes but eventually, he begins to wonder what she is saying behind his back.

Miss "Keeping Up With The Joneses": This woman needs to be at least as good as everyone else she knows. She is constantly talking about what other people do and what other people have. This places a lot of undue pressure on her guy and eventually, he just gets fed up that she can't appreciate what they have instead of wishing she was someone else.

Miss "I Don't Eat": This woman picks at her food, is on a never-ending diet or doesn't eat pretty much everything that most people eat. When a man first meets her, he thinks to himself, at least she will never become overweight, but eventually he realizes that it's no fun to eat alone. The fact is men like to eat; they like steak, they like trying different foods, they like dessert and women should be eating too, at least sometimes.

Keep in mind that most men just want a happy and easy going woman who has good values, so just focus on putting the best YOU out there.

Source: huffingtonpostwomen.com / Article by Samantha Daniels


Can YOU think of any other types of women that are unattractive to men?

Why?

In the words of psychologist Dr. Gina Barreca:

“Envy depletes you. A healthy way to do that is to be able to look to each other for inspiration, not from a “let me see where you are, so that I can do something more or be better”. Everyone you are comparing yourself to is going through their own journey. Their own challenges. And to be quite honest no one really knows what part of their journey that other person is experiencing. Comparison envy holds you back. It prevents you from being able to wish that other person well. And it also prevents you from seeing how great you are doing on your own journey."

Yet...some women compare themselves to other women.

Whether it's looks, clothing, education, careers or men they date, women often compare themselves to other women. It could be a friend, colleague or even a stranger; everything is a competition.

As a woman, do YOU compare yourself to other women? Why or Why not?
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Some men compare themselves to other men.

Whether it's looks, education, careers, intelligence, man toys, women they date, p-nis s size, bedmatic talent, so on and so forth...everything's a competition.

As a man, do YOU compare yourself to other men? Why or Why not?

11 Signs You May Be Dating A Sociopath

Could that amazing new person you or a loved one is dating actually be a sociopath? It's not as far-fetched as you might imagine. Of course, not all sociopaths are dangerous criminals. But they certainly can make life difficult, given that the defining characteristic of sociopathy is antisocial behavior.

Here are 11 RED FLAGS to look out for:

RED FLAG #1. Having An Oversized Ego. Sociopaths have an inflated sense of self. They are narcissists to the extreme, with a huge sense of entitlement. They tend to blame others for their own failures.

RED FLAG #2. Lying And Exhibiting Manipulative Behavior. Sociopaths use deceit and manipulation on a regular basis. Why? They lie for the sake of lying. They lie just to see whether they can trick people. And sometimes they tell larger lies to get larger effects.

RED FLAG #3. Exhibiting A Lack Of Empathy. They don’t really have the meaningful emotional inner worlds that most people have and perhaps because of that they can't really imagine or feel the emotional worlds of other people. It’s very foreign to them.

RED FLAG #4. Showing A Lack Of Remorse Or Shame. Sociopaths lack remorse, guilt or shame.

RED FLAG #5. Staying Eerily Calm In Scary Or Dangerous Situations. A sociopath might not be anxious following a car accident, for instance. And experiments have shown that while normal people show fear when they see disturbing images or are threatened with electric shocks, sociopaths tend not to.

RED FLAG #6. Behaving Irresponsibly Or With Extreme Impulsivity. Sociopaths bounce from goal to goal, and act on the spur of the moment. They can be irresponsible when it comes to their finances and their obligations to other people.

RED FLAG #7. Having Few Friends. Sociopaths tend not to have friends -- not real ones, anyway. Sociopaths don’t want friends, unless they need them. Or all of their friends are superficially connected with them -- friends by association.

RED FLAG #8. Being Charming--But Only Superficially. Sociopaths can be very charismatic and friendly -- because they know it will help them get what they want. They are expert con artists and always have a secret agenda. People are so amazed when they find that someone is a sociopath because they’re so amazingly effective at blending in. They’re masters of disguise. Their main tool to keep them from being discovered is a creation of an outer personality.

As M.E. Thomas described in a post for Psychology Today: "You would like me if you meet me. I have the kind of smile that is common among television show characters and rare in real life, perfect in its sparkly tooth dimensions and in the ability to express pleasant invitations."

RED FLAG #9. Living By The "Pleasure Principle." If it feels good and they are able to avoid consequences, they will do it! They live their life in the fast lane -- to the extreme -- seeking stimulation, excitement and pleasure from wherever they can get it.

RED FLAG #10. Showing Disregard For Societal Norms. They break rules and laws because they don't believe society's rules to them.

RED FLAG #11. Having "Intense" Eyes. Sociopaths have no problem with maintaining uninterrupted eye contact. In humans, our failure to look away politely is also perceived as being aggressive or seductive.

Source: The Huffington Post | Article by Macrina Cooper-White

As women earn more money and work longer hours, new statistics show that more women are cheating on their husbands -- but that doesn't mean that men are as forgiving about affairs as some women can be.

Some women are willing to forgive their husbands for infidelity.

Most men aren't willing to forgive their wives for infidelity and view it as the end of the marriage.

According to relationship therapist Phillip Hodson, contributing columnist for England's Daily Mail:

"Men can forgive themselves for their indiscretions but find it harder to forgive their partners for the same. For a betrayed woman, an affair is an offense against her dignity. For a betrayed man, it's an offense against his manhood. It goes right to the core of his identity. Most husbands can't get over the fact that their wives had s-x with another man. For men, the s-xual component of their wife's affair is important.

Women are much more likely to ask: 'Did you love her?'

Men are much more likely to ask: 'Was he bigger than me?' 'Was he better than me in bed?'"

And women are cheating for the same reason men do: they want affection and attention, and the Daily Mail notes, that's going to lead to s-x.


As a woman...could you forgive a cheating boyfriend or husband? Why or Why not?

As a man...could you forgive a cheating girlfriend or wife? Why or Why not?

It's said that your real education starts when you travel away from home and is one of the best experiences in your life. But, travelling and/or living abroad entails discretion, a working knowledge of a country's local customs/etiquette and diplomacy. What may seem normal or regular in Nigeria may be condemned, seen as embarrassing or viewed as shameful in another country. Similarly, things done with good intentions abroad may be regarded as a criminal offense or socially unacceptable in Nigeria.

In your opinion, as a Nigerian...

What are some things a Nigerian should never do, when traveling or living abroad?

What would you advise a non-Nigerian to never do, while visiting or living in Nigeria?

Have you ever committed a social 'faux pas' or inadvertently offended someone, out of ignorance, while living or traveling abroad?

Have you ever observed a non-Nigerian commit a social 'faux pas' or offend someone, out of ignorance or deliberate intent? Did you correct the person or ignore him or her?

As a Nigerian, living in Nigeria or abroad, what is the most common offense a non-Nigerian has ever committed against you or another person?

dytbabe: Sorry o op
Bt am forced to ask
Acratches head
Erm
Dunno how to put
But are u ok?

Quite OK...thank you...just bored a bit...

...YOU...

...would never date someone just because you felt lonely or were afraid to be alone;
...would never settle;
...would never tolerate a partner flirting with other people;
...would never accept a partner who disrespects you;
...would not be with a partner who pays little or no attention to you, especially when in public;
...would not continue to accept a partner who constantly belittles and criticizes you;
...would not stay with a partner who abuses alcohol or drugs;
...would not stay with a partner who cheats on you;
...would not tolerate a partner who abuses you;
...would not accept a partner who possesses any other relationship deal breakers;
...would start to pick partners you actually wanted to be with, and they would want to be with you equally as much;
...would be filled with joy and live a joyful life.

So...are you living a Joyful Life?

If not...how long will it take for you to realize you deserve a life of living joyfully?

Some people are definitely discriminated against in the Dating Game.

Are there some types of people you wouldn't date?

If so, why is it that you wouldn't consider them?

Would you consider them 'undateable', because you already have it set in your head to not give some types of people a chance?

Or...are you an equal opportunity dater?

Why Your US-Based Son-in-Law May Kill Your Daughter
By Rudolf Ogoo Okonkwo

I thought Olisa wanted bring to my attention another of our "This American Life" stories. But he had more to say. He knew the 63-year-old man long before he went to Nigeria to marry the 36-year-old Isioma, over ten years ago. They lived in the same neighborhood in Lowell, MA for two years after Martin came back from Nigeria with his new wife. He saw the couple at Nigerian events. Before they packed out of Massachusetts for Texas, Olisa saw signs that things were not going very well with the marriage.

When the news broke that Houston-based Nigerian man, Martin Ebegbodi shot dead his medical doctor wife, my friend, Olisa Adigwe, called me from Lowell, Massachusetts.

I thought Olisa wanted bring to my attention another of our "This American Life" stories. But he had more to say. He knew the 63-year-old man long before he went to Nigeria to marry the 36-year-old Isioma, over ten years ago. They lived in the same neighborhood in Lowell,MA for two years after Martin came back from Nigeria with his new wife. He saw the couple at Nigerian events. Before they packed out of Massachusetts for Texas, Olisa saw signs that things were not going very well with the marriage.

There is no comprehensive statistics on how many Nigerians have killed their wives in America. Our statisticians are busy scrapping cars in US junk yards for spare parts; visiting flea markets for second-hand clothes; buying nails and used tires and used laptops and stuffing them inside 40-foot containers to ship home. But if there were statistics, it would show that there is a great chance that your U.S. based in-law, that one that showed up from nowhere and said he would want to marry your daughter, would kill her in America.

Would he do it with a gun or a knife? Would he crush her with the family car, he put in reverse? Going by the aggregate of the weapons of choice, most likely he will use a knife. Nigerian men appear to prefer knives over other weapons. Recent Nigerian men who killed their wives, however, made use of guns. I guess the National Rifle Association (NRA) has reached the Nigerian kind. If your daughter and her husband live in the Southern states, like Texas, Georgia, Florida, Virginia, North and South Carolina, well, you can be sure that he will use a gun. It’s a cultural thing down South.
Yes, things are that bad. In the last ten years, if you try to put a dot on a US map for every incident where a Nigerian man killed his wife, the map would be covered by dots. If the dot is red, it would show a U.S. map that is dripping the blood of Nigerian daughters. It has happened in cities and it has happened in the suburbia. In each case, death comes as the end.

In a rational world, there is no reason a husband should kill his wife, the mother of his children. But America the beautiful is not always a rational world when you look deep into it. For instance, in America, corporations are people and guns don’t kill people. And that your daughter, the one you brought up so well, has no power to make America rational. Because her value system, the ones you imbibed in her, could not moderate America’s irrationality, they end up enhancing those irrationalities.

Your daughter may not tell you this, but the moment she got into America, she encountered a culture shock. It is like no other she has ever seen. It is steeper than what she imagined it to be. It is a total inverse of the world she used to live in. How she reacts to it will literally determine if she would stay alive or be dead.

What am I talking about? The first person that encountered that culture shock was your son-in-law. In more ways than one, America is a different world from the one he knew. His decision to come back home to find a wife is the ultimate acknowledgement of that fact. It is an escape. It is a last spirited attempt to reject the uncomfortable and embrace the familiar. The trouble is that a man who could not adapt within the new culture thinks that the solution is to bring a wife from his culture into the same alien culture. It has worked for those men who could adjust. It has not worked for those who could not.

So the odds are stacked against your daughter, right from the beginning.

You did not help matters when you failed to follow the traditional marriage due process. You waved them off because the man came from America. It didn’t matter how old he was. It didn’t matter if there was compatibility or not between him and your daughter. If he were to be living in Nigeria you may not have let him marry your daughter. I know. You just want your daughter to join those American brides. Instead of asking the normal questions about pedigree, profession, passion, you were imagining your vacation in America to visit your grandchildren and shop and show off to your friends whose daughters only married men in Lagos and Abuja.

Because there was no time for dating, your daughter was also jumping into the marriage essentially blind. She was afraid to ask too much questions. She didn’t want to find out so many things. She didn’t want to miss the chance to go and live in America. Even when she found out unpleasant truths, she waved them off. “Lets get to America first,” she said. She will work things out as soon as she got to America.

But America always has a different idea for those she lets in. It often throws a lot at its immigrants that many are lost for a long time while trying to juggle things coming their way, sometimes in silence. They are silent about it because they do not want to disappoint those at home. They do not want it to be said that they got to the river head and still are thirsty.

America is full of thirsty daughters. How the daughters decide to drink the water that will quench their thirst will determine whether their husbands will kill them or not.

Source: saharareporters.com / 08/13/2014

What do you think of this author's views?

anonymous6: wow it takes something big to make someone go 360 and the "N" was that for him, to finally cut ties with his wife. I'm glad the kids stayed with the dad, imagine the kids growing up with a person like that and the environment. The courts did a good decision

Agreed!

I also knew an mixed Naija/AA man who was with his White girlfriend for 3 years, engaged and planning a big church wedding. They got into a HUGE argument over the cost of the wedding.

In the midst of the argument, he said she shouted at him: "See, my parents told me not to marry a nigger, because they're low-class and cheap as hell!"

WHOA!!!

Well...he said he saw red, slapped the taste out of her mouth, grabbed her hand, snatched off the engagement ring, called off the wedding and told her to kiss his natural-born black azz. He did get a misdemeanor assault ticket for $536 dollars though, but he said he didn't care. It was worth it. Even better, knowing that he had avoided the biggest mistake of his life. No more white women for him. lol

Sometimes women kill when they're fed up with their husbands or just plain evil and wicked, yet murder can never be justified.

Below are stories of women who SNAPPED!

Woman Kills Husband Over Baby Food, Pampers
Publish Date: February 20, 2012 / vanguardngr.com

LAGOS- TRAGEDY struck Saturday, at Ago-Okota area of Lagos State, when a middle-aged man, identified as Ifeanyi Anaekwe, slumped and died during a scuffle with his wife in their apartment.

Vanguard gathered that the deceased and his wife had an argument over money to buy pampers and baby food for their child which degenerated into a fight. It was gathered that during the fight, the widow, Chikodili Anaekwe, allegedly grabbed a pestle and hit her husband on the head which made him to slump. When he slumped, she allegedly stabbed him several times. Mr. Anaekwe was said to have died before help came.

A police source who did not want to be identified, told Vanguard that “neighbours reported that the victim was first clubbed from behind early with a pestle and he slumped. She reportedly stabbed him several times. “They claimed an argument ensued between the man and his wife when the wife requested for money to buy pampers and baby food for their newly baby.“The husband, who was said to be preparing for work at the time, was said to have explained to the wife that he did not have enough money. This they claimed infuriated the wife and a fight ensued.”

Lagos Police Command Spokesman, Joseph Jayeoba, while confirming the incident, said the Command was currently investigating the circumstances surrounding the death and would make its findings public.
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Abused Woman Kills Husband, Feeds Him to Cats and Dogs
Publish Date: March 2, 2012

EGYPT- An Egyptian woman had intimacy with her husband all the night to exhaust him, waited for him to fall asleep and stabbed him to death.
She then cut his body into little pieces and fed them to cats and dogs. The woman, who was arrested two weeks after the murder, told police she decided to murder her man because he had persistently mistreated her. One newspaper quoted a local university professor as saying it was an individual crime which showed the killer had been under strong psychological pressures given the hideous nature of the murder.

“This crime should serve an alarm to any one who exercises oppression and cruelty against the one who cares for him, whether a wife, a worker or a son…yet, a murder can never be justified,” said Dr. Mohammed Abu Al Futouh, psychology professor at Cairo University.

Read more: http://news2.onlinenigeria.com/news/top-stories/147764-abused-woman-kills-husband-feeds-him-to-cats-and-dogs.html _______________________________________________________________________
Wife Kills Husband For Drinking Instead Of Buying Family Gifts
Publish Date: December 28, 2012 /allafrica.com

KENYA- A woman killed her husband at Kinamba Estate in Naivasha on Christmas Day after a quarrel. Witness Jane Waithera said the man spent the day drinking and staggered home at midnight.

"The two started arguing and a fight broke out forcing neighbours to intervene," she said. "The woman was accusing the man of drinking instead of buying his family Christmas gifts."

As neighbours separated the couple, the wife grabbed a knife and stabbed the man on the neck before fleeing. Efforts to rush the man to hospital were futile as the father of two succumbed to his injuries minutes later.

Naivasha police boss Charles Kortok said the woman was arrested two hours after the incident. "The woman is in custody. The body has been taken to the Naivasha District Hospital mortuary," he said. Meanwhile, a man was lynched in Naivasha town after he was accused of being part of a group that stole a motorcycle.
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Wife Kills Millionaire Husband for Impregnating Young Girlfriend
Publish Date: March 18, 2013

NIGERIA- A housewife, allegedly conspired with two perpetrators to murder of her husband, a prominent businessman and contractor with Nigerian Agip Oil Company, who was found dead at his country home in the Mgbeoshimiri, Rumuolumeni area.

It was gathered that the woman hid the alleged killers in their house before her husband returned from work, having told them that he was “a strong man” whose powers needed to be neutralised before they carried out the evil operation. According to her confession to the police, she decided to eliminate her husband when she discovered that he was making plans to marry another wife, a young lady who he got pregnant.

Read more: http://nigeria-gist..com/2013/03/wife-kills-millionaire-husband-for.html
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Woman Kills Husband, Sets His Body Ablaze In Lagos, Nigeria
Publish Date: April 18, 2013

LAGOS- A Nigerian woman named Esther Peter, on Tuesday April 16th allegedly killed her husband, Kenneth Peter Anayo, then set his body on fire at their home at NEPA Phase I Road, Ijagemo, around the Ikotun area of Lagos, Nigeria. Neighbours said the couple was always fighting in public and in fact there was a serious fight between them a few days before the Tuesday incident, where Esther stabbed her husband with a broken bottle and he had to be treated at the hospital.

Read more: http://xclusiveafrica..com/2013/04/woman-kills-husband-sets-his-body.html _______________________________________________________________________
Woman Kills Husband Over Food
Publish Date: May 22, 2013 / ghanamma.com

GHANA- A disagreement between a woman and her husband over food has ended their 30-year old love relationship in fatality.

The 60-year-old housewife, who could not stand the husband’s refusal to eat food prepared for him, allegedly hit the neck and back of the man three times with a piece of wood, leading to his death. The suspect Margaret Ayensu, alias Esi Amankwaa, has since appeared before the Akyem Swedru Circuit Court for the alleged murder of Kwame Amponsah, her 65-year-old husband, at Kwaboadi Number 2 in the Akyemmansa District in the Eastern Region.

Prosecuting, Chief Inspector Adelaide Appiakorang said Ayensu and Kwame Amponsah, the deceased, a retired banker, had been married for 30 years. She said there was a misunderstanding between the couple on April 4, 2013 when Amponsah refused to eat food prepared for him by his wife. Chief Inspector Appiakorang said the quarrel continued until the next day. She said Margaret claimed that Amponsah assaulted her by hitting her head with a stool during the exchange of words between them. According to the prosecutor, in revenge, Margaret allegedly hit Amponsah’s neck and back three times with a piece of wood she picked from the compound and he collapsed. The prosecutor said Amponsah was rushed to a nearby clinic, where he was revived, treated and discharged. He however, died few hours later in bed. She said after the death of her husband, Margaret absconded until her family members handed her over to the Oda Divisional Police Headquarters three weeks later. _______________________________________________________________________
Newlywed Wife Pushes Husband Off A Cliff During An Argument Just 1 Week After Wedding

MISSOULA, MONTANA (USA)- New bride Jordan Linn Graham, 22, was charged Monday with killing her husband Cody Lee Johnson, after allegedly shoving him off a cliff in Glacier National Park as the pair fought.

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/newlywed-wife-pushes-husband-cliff-argument-1-week-wedding-article-1.1450646#ixzz3Av0310mN
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Woman Charged With Killing Ethiopian Husband Over His S-x Demands
Publish Date: Dec 4, 2013 / amharictube.com/article

RICHFIELD, MINNESOTA (USA)- A Richfield woman fatally stabbed her husband in the heart for "wanting to bring another woman into their bedroom," according to a criminal complaint filed Tuesday.

Amreya Rahmeto Shefa, 40, was charged in Hennepin County District Court with second-degree murder in the Sunday slaying of her husband, Habibi Tesema, 48. About 5 a.m., police were called to the couple's home at 7338 12th Ave S., where they lived with their 2-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter, on a report of an assault with a knife. Shefa ran from the home with blood on her hands and arms, "yelling hysterically ... about her husband and her kids," according to the complaint.

Officers coaxed the two children from the home and then found Tesema -- unclothed and covered in blood -- in a bathtub. He had multiple cuts on his body, and there were two knives in the tub with him, the compliant said. Paramedics pronounced him dead at the scene. Shefa was taken to Hennepin County Medical Center for a cut on her hand. She told hospital staff that her husband stabbed her "because he had been drinking and taking khat," the complaint stated. Khat, made from a shrub cultivated in the Horn of Africa and the Arabian Peninsula, has a stimulant effect when chewed. However, Shefa later told police she stabbed her husband in the chest and back about 30 times because "he wanted to bring another woman into their bedroom and wished to use a sexual device on her during intercourse," the complaint added.

The Hennepin County medical examiner determined that Tesema died of a cut to the heart.

Shefa was being held without bail in the Hennepin County Jail late Tuesday. According to the Associated Press, a neighbor said the family is from Ethiopia and moved to Richfield a few years ago.
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62-Year Old Woman Nabbed For Murder Of Her 61-Year Old Husband
Publish Date: December 18, 2013 / lusakatimes.com

ZAMBIA- Police in Nchelenge District in Luapula Province have arrested a 62-year old woman for allegedly murdering her 61-year old husband.

Luapula Province Commissioner of Police Malcolm Mulenga confirmed the development to ZANIS in a statement. Mr. Mulenga identified the suspect as Asa Kalumba and the deceased as Lazarous Chisanga all of Mutepuka village in chief Kambwali’s area. He said police officers rushed to the scene after a tip off from the members of the public and found the deceased body at the backyard of the couple’s matrimonial home. He explained that the body was fund a big wound on the stomach and it is suspected that a hot brazier was used. Police officers however suspect foul play. He noted that the deceased was in the habit of drinking and observed that this could have angered the assailant who could have vented her fury on the deceased by burning him leading to his death. Mr. Mulenga said Chisanga’s body is lying at Saint Pauls’ Mission hospital mortuary awaiting post mortem. _______________________________________________________________________
Rwandan Woman Kills Husband Over AIDS Fear
Publish Date: February 6, 2014 / newindianexpress.com

KIGALI- A Rwandan woman recently killed her husband after he inherited a widow whose husband is suspected to have died of the incurable AIDS, media reported Wednesday.

The incident occurred in Gisagara, a district in southern Rwanda. The middle-aged woman, Annonciata Kampororo, hatched a plot to kill her 48-year-old husband Anaclet Majyambere after he inherited his late brother's wife, Xinhua reported.

The local vernacular daily "Umuryango" quoted villagers and the police as confirming that the woman had strongly opposed her husband's plans to inherit the widow, fearing that she would also become infected. But when the stubborn husband moved the widow to her home in accordance with traditional customs, she denied him his conjugal rights and demanded an HIV test first. He flatly refused the request, sparking constant friction and quarrels in the matrimonial home. Fed up and determined to protect herself against possible infection, the woman, a traditional liquor seller, hatched up a plot with her son and sister who lived nearby, and hacked the husband to death.

According to Rwandan health officials, unprotected s-x and having multiple-s-x partners are some of the major causes of AIDS in the central African country, where around 300,000 patients are living with HIV.
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Amagoro Wife Kills Husband
Publish Date: February 10, 2014 / the-star.co.ke

KENYA- A man in Amagoro has allegedly been killed by his wife on Friday night.

Richard Otogo died on arrival at Kocholia District Hospital. A neighbour, Patrick Etyang, said he responded to the woman's distress call that she had killed her husband.

“I helped her put him on the boda boda and rush him to hospital," he said.

Busia County Commissioner Josephine Onunga said they have launched investigations into the killing.

Sources said the woman was enraged when her husband slapped her for forcing their six-month-old daughter to take porridge when she had already fed her. The wife took a knife and stabbed the husband on the neck. ______________________________________________________________________
Chinsali Woman Kills Husband After A Domestic Dispute
Publish Date: March 7, 2014 / indepthafrica.com

ZAMBIA- A 42 year old woman of Chinsali has been arrested for allegedly murdering her 50-year old husband. Peggy Chewe of Makoba village in chief Nkula’s area in Chinsali district of Muchinga province was arrested yesterday around 11:00 hours.

The arrest has been confirmed to ZANIS in Chinsali yesterday by Muchinga province deputy police Commissioner Bonny Kapeso. Mr. Kapeso said Chewe hit her husband with a stick on the head after a domestic dispute erupted on Tuesday around 20: 00hours after he followed her at her house. He said the deceased sustained a deep cut on the head and later went to his home where he died in his sleep. It is believed that the couple Chewe and Bupe where on separation for over two years. The body of Bupe is currently lying in Chinsali district community hospital mortuary awaiting postmortem while Chewe is detained at Chinsali central police station and will appear in court soon. Mr. Kapeso has since warned people in rural areas not to take the Law in their own hands when aggrieved.
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Jealous Wife Kills Husband
Publish Date: March 13, 2014 / in2eastafrica.net

TANZANIA- Police in Mbeya Region are holding five suspects in connection with two different incidents, that involved a murder of one person and selling of alcohol beyond the allowed periods.

The Mbeya Regional Police Commander (RPC), Mr. Ahmedi Msangi said in the first incident police has arrested one suspect, Etina Silumba allegedly for stabbing to death her husband, Mishecki Mwashuya (52) on Monday night. RPC Msangi said the suspect is alleged to have used other items too in beating the deceased to an extent of breaking her husband’s left leg and broke his neck. The regional police chief said the incident took place at Ipapa village in Mbozi District. Mr. Msangi said the suspected woman had been booked for questioning. The RPC said the killing was in connection with love affairs.

Meanwhile, RPC Msangi confirmed the arrest of four businessmen suspected of selling alcohol beyond set periods. The RPC mentioned the names of the suspects as Ulile Erasto (30), Ernest Mjembe (40), Hamis Mwanyombole (28) and Halidi Sauli (33), all residents of Soweto in Mbeya Region. Mr. Msangi said that the suspects were arrested on Tuesday at around 01:15 when they were caught allegedly selling alcohol. ___________________________________________________________________
Wife Who Killed Husband With Hammer Gets Life In Prison
Publish Date: June 7, 2014

PHOENIX, ARIZONA (USA)- Marissa DeVault will spend the rest of her life in prison, the convicted hammer killer learned Friday in a hearing in downtown Phoenix. Maricopa County Superior Court Judge Roland Steinle sentenced DeVault to natural life in prison for killing her husband, Dale Harrell, with a claw hammer in 2009.

Read more: http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/06/06/devault-hammer-killing-arizona/10106141/
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Woman, 28, Kills Husband
Publish Date: July 12, 2014 / allafrica.com

Kenya- A 28-year-old woman is being held at Kapsowar police station for killing her husband.

Asca Jemutai surrendered to the police after killing Benjamin Kipkore with a sword in Kapyego village, Elgeyo Marakwet. The couple had quarreled.

Neighbours said the two were drunk. Area chief Vicent Kimutai said he has settled several disputes between the couple. Alice Chemweno, a neighbour, said Jemutai and Kipkore throttled each other whenever they quarreled.

anonymous6: 1. Sometimes in genuine case's people fall in love in a community they hate and change, or change before they fall in love with the group they previously hated
2. Some people Like to have their cake and eat it to
3. Some people have psychological problems when it comes to hatred of other groups.

I have noticed that many in the African american community, especially with the men on youtube, their forums even media to a extent complain about white americans or other non-blacks and express hatred for them but are the first to marry and have children with whites; they tend to have this Pro-black/afrocentric mentality and are the first to call other blacks who don't have their mentality self haters(particularly foreign blacks) who majority of the time are married to their own Black people from their culture.

I think with Nigerians they tend to have a change of heart for the most part when they end up falling for someone of another tribe they hated before. However that "have your cake and eat it to" mentality(hate a group you marry to) I see in America, I don't see it with Nigerians but in America it's not only with african americans, many white americans and other races have it, just check Youtube, and etc where non-black americans will sleep with african americans, have children with them, brag about it, then trash them at the same time with hateful rants.

Very true!

Very weird!

I once knew a Naija man who was married to an Australian woman. She was the worst of wives. She was nasty, slovenly, neglected the kids, cheated on him and even abused him...yet he stayed. But...during an argument, she called him a nigger...and that was it for him. He divorced her and was granted sole custody of his three children.

Oh well...

chulla12: Haba...unless specific ethnic groups are intrinsically Igbo haters, my comments need not warrant your essay.

The moderate, level headed people have no reason to worry while Igbo haters will get the unvarnished truth on account of their vile attitudes.

Are other groups Igbo haters by default? No. I am far from being tribalist unless you express hatred.

Are you an Igbo hater? Yes? Then maybe you should digest the bitter truth.

No? Relax and take my posts as another penny for your observational thoughts.

If it don't apply, let it fly .

Sorry...too much negative energy...not good!

I don't understand ethnic hatred...and I don't want to understand it

Carry on, mate!

chulla12: This thread is already ethnocentric by its very nature. I was bringing your observation home to naija while answering your question. See the third paragraph of my first post here. I didn't castigate any particular tribe though...was hammering some home truths that even Igbo haters will agree with. Feel offended all you wish.

1. Some people are weird like that...no matter the location.

2. A Naija man was also mentioned in the thread.

3. You say you "didn't castigate any particular tribe"?

Hmm...

castigate: 1. (transitive) to rebuke or criticize in a severe manner; chastise

Well, from my perspective, you DO seem to be indirectly castigating ANY ethnic group in Nigeria that you feel hate Igbos, consider Igbos murderers, d-ick heads, boastful s-xual opportunists, instigators of e-battles, consider Igbo women 'spoils of war' and creepy a..ss muthafockers, with the major perpetrators of this behavior- non-Igbo men.

4. Why would I feel offended about something I don't fully understand?

The closest I can come to understanding the animosity displayed between different Nigerian ethnic groups is a similar animosity displayed between some Mexicans and Central Americans and, a similar animosity displayed between West Indians from different Caribbean islands. With them, it's usually politically and socio-economically based hatred, reaching back centuries.

Btw...I see no reason for you to get snippy with me.

I'm no hater of ANY Nigerian ethnic group.

chulla12: You want to start americanizing your observations?

Why not start from Nigeria and notice the avowed Igbo haters and murdererers who have Igbo wives, girlfriends and fockbuddies? Some of these dickheads are all abound Nairaland boasting about their sexual conquests while instigating ebattles.

It's war booty psychology. To them getting the women is a means of asserting superiority. Notice that it is only men who indulge in this behaviour. Creepy a..ss muthafockers

From your experience, what generally happens when you 'tribalize' a thread on NL, especially when it pertains to the animosity harbored toward members of certain ethnic groups?

Example: Your response.

myads890: I would say the problem lies in the misconception of what's in a name. A white man might bear "Biro" because he actually invented the ball point pen(I'm referring to Michael Biro in this case) or his name might be Honda(Soichiro Honda). Africans tend to feel their names give them relevance whereas its the person that gives a name relevance.

When the white man noticed this, they decided to fill us with their fairytales of THEIR great men in the bible and told us if we beared those names, we'll be just as great as them.

Unfortunately the black man failed to realise that Sango and all other heros in our land achieved just as much right here

So...are you saying that Africans/Nigerians were gullible?

I once had a African-American neighbor that married a white woman but was very vocal about his hate toward white people. Once during a neighborhood block party, he got drunk and was ranting and raving about how much he hated white people and wished he could kill them all, while his white wife and their four kids stood there looking like they wanted the earth to open up and swallow them. When an AA neighbor asked why he married 'Becky', if he hated whites so badly, he told the neighbor to "Shut the hell up!" and swung on him. At that, his white wife gathered up all the kids and went home. A couple of months later, we found out she filed for divorce and eventually moved back to New York where her family lived. We never saw her or the kids again. He passed away about three years later from a massive heart attack.

Same thing with an Nigerian associate. He would go on and on about how he couldn't stand "akatas", made fun of their names, the way they spoke, how ignorant and uneducated they were and how his parents warned him about associating with them, on any level. So where is he now? Married to an 'akata' woman from Mississippi State, USA, for 18 years- father of seven awesome kids and going strong.

Lastly, one of my first cousins (AA) is married to a woman from Okinawa, Japan. Coming up, he hated all things Asian. If he went to a convenience store and saw an Asian cashier behind the counter or anywhere in the store, he would turn around and walk out. But now, he has been married to his Japanese wife for the last 15 years and they have five adorable children and dote on each other.

So...the question remains...

How can you marry someone from an ethnic group you claim to hate?

Some years ago, one of my young cousins relayed the story of how the Nigerian teacher in her Catholic high school was stumped by the following questions one of her White classmates asked him during Religious Studies class:

1. Why do you have an English name?
2. Why do Africans adopt English names during their Christian Baptisms or Confirmations?
3. Are there no African names that are Christian enough?
4. If God understands all languages, why change your African names to English ones?

Well, she said her teacher never answered the questions, became a bit irritated, quickly changed the subject and proceeded to give them a 5-Question Pop Quiz.

How would YOU have answered this student, if YOU were the teacher?

In some societies, a woman's fatness is celebrated not denigrated. In fact, some women are 'fattened up', in preparation for marriage...but at what cost?

For your viewing...

The Rubenesque Women of...


MAURITANIA


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-BPDEtzU3Q


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xCMrB8oF2pk


NIGERIA


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5QypK_0Ofg


UGANDA


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=quPcN-2Kl3c

"If you preach indecency and alcoholism in our music, how do you correct an indecently dressed child?" - Etcetera

I got a call on Wednesday morning from one of our popular female artistes asking if she could be a guest on my radio show to promote her new album that is meant for release this month.

I said, “Why not? It will be my privilege to have you on my show.”

As we talked on, I tried chipping in a little advice that it might not be a good idea releasing an album in the middle of an Ebola crisis; suggesting that right now people might be too worried and preoccupied with the Ebola scare to care about a new album. I told her she would stand the risk of being branded insensitive for dropping her album at a time the country is having a crisis of some sort.

I went on thinking I could convince her to postpone the album release to a time when she can easily get people’s attention. But she wouldn’t hear of it.

She said: “Bros forget dat tin abeg, Naija no dey send tins like dat. After all, Dorobucci was released on the day of the second Nyanya bomb blast and just after three weeks of the first blast? Why didn’t they call it insensitive or irresponsible?”

She got me chewing on that for a minute as I couldn’t think of anything further to say than, ‘Ok dear, you are on for 7pm this Thursday.’

Isn’t it wonderful how the peculiarities of this country knows no limit?

Even in entertainment, we are of a different cloth. It’s a party with no checks. How possible is it that Dorobucci’s release on the same day of a major disaster could go unnoticed even by the legion of entertainment journalists in Naija?

Little details as the timing of a song release has never been an issue here as much as it is in other climes. In the U.S. for instance, a simple thing as that can make or kill a song. But how lucky it is for the musicians and music stakeholders in Nigeria that nobody bothers with such. The social irresponsibility of the artist has never been an issue. As a celeb you can slap a police officer on your way to an interview, brag about it live on air and get endorsed by a multinational brand that same day. We are indeed a unique people. Maybe that explains the bulk of unnecessary issues we face as a nation.

Let’s move further into today’s topic before they say Etcetera has started again, with his exaggerations. I am already having akpatoyi (goose pimples) with the thought that some have already called for my excommunication from entertainment’s holy of holies for daring to defecate on the alter of Naija entertainment’s ecclesiastical sanctimonium . Please forgive me Father for I have sinned against the Cherubims and Seraphims.

Inomine patri et fili et spiritus sancti. Amen.

When I mentioned artist responsibility, I am not talking about the responsibility of a musician when he receives money for his studio upgrade, or the responsibility he owes the arts when creating his music note by note or chord by chord. The responsibility I am referring to here is the personal responsibility that he owes to the society, his obligation to his fellow human beings.

Some have attributed the nonchalant nature of the Nigerian artist to a deeper societal moral decay that has developed into our entertainment tradition. But it can also be traced to the separation of the artist as an individual from the message of his art. Very little connection is seen between the evaluation of the artist as a person and the evaluation of his works and its messages. You don’t have to look very far for evidence of this separationist attitude in the industry. You only just have to look at the artist whose songs about humanity, equal rights and justice touched millions, while he goes to concerts in his Bentley protected by vicious bouncers flogging his fans away; or the ones who preach against corruption but always disobey traffic regulations.

In some other countries, the aesthetic judgment of an artist is intrinsically linked to how the artist lives. The concept of an artist’s craftsmanship that is not connected strongly to other aspects of the artist’s life is unacceptable. As a matter of fact, the ideals of the religious songs that formed the basics of our beliefs in these parts should be integrated into the devotional life of the artist.

Why has this hypocrisy flourished in our society?

It has become a standard operating procedure for the social interface used by creative artists today. And by accepting this status quo, we ensure its survival. Now more than ever, it is extremely important that people realise that they are personally responsible for their actions. When an artist is able to isolate himself or herself from the messages in their songs, they come chillingly close to the “I’m just doing my job” mentality of a suicide bomber. If you preach indecency and alcoholism in our music, how do you correct an indecently dressed child? In fact, it is through the role models that we hold forth for the rest of society that we can work to change the society.

I am certain you can list some artists who are active in trying to shift our culture towards more humane approaches to living. But my emphasis here is not the rhetorical espoused in an artist’s song, but the way in which the artist leads his or her life; the practice-what-you-preach idea. But in my opinion, the practising is far more important than the preaching. As creative artists, we are in the business of manufacturing culture.

We are helping to define cultural attitudes.

Through our works, and more importantly the way we work, we can demonstrate to the rest of the society more desirable and appropriate ways of being human. Why not use your fame and visibility for the betterment of humanity? Some of you might read into what I am saying as a call for some sort of police to crack down on social violators within the entertainment industry. But I am only just insinuating that the methods some of us use to achieve our goals say a lot about the goal itself. Of course I am not advocating for music designed to show off some imaginary golden world that artists live in because I believe that the traditional picture of the artist as the quintessential bohemian existing outside of society, marching to the beat of a different drummer, is tempting, but also false. The very act of we artists placing ourselves outside of society is a profound statement about the society we live in.

I don’t want you to take this as an attempt of handing down a list of “Thou Shalt Nots” or see it as trying to establish a moral yardstick by which arts should be measured. I just want to appeal to our inner sense of right and wrong. We shouldn’t model our arts in conformity with some set of political and social preconceptions (unless that’s what you want to do). And as you go ahead and create whatever you are inspired to create, you should also think about the model of the society that you are putting forward.

Would you want to live there?

"Etcetera"

SOURCE: informationng.com / August 16, 2014 / Posted by: Haliwud