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MYTH: Antibiotics kill viruses.

TRUTH: Antibiotics work to destroy a living bacterium's ability to reproduce. That's their only job. But viruses aren't alive, and they don't reproduce by themselves, so antibiotics can't do anything to them - there's nothing "alive" for them to "kill." Viruses are just bits of DNA or RNA that inject themselves into a living cell, where the cell itself makes copies of the virus.

This is why there is no cure for the common cold and HIV.

Source: http://curiosity.discovery.com/question/antibiotics-immune-to-viruses

Nano Silver? Nigeria's Potential Ebola Treatment Unlikely to Work
By Tia Ghose, Staff Writer / livescience.com / August 15, 2014 01:43pm ET

NOTE: Ebola is a virus, therefore it has no official cure or vaccine. Treatment is primarily supportive, meaning that fluids, nutrients, and blood can be transfused via machine, and patient is made as comfortable as possible. But taking care of symptoms can only help so much. Depending on the strain of Ebola, the mortality rate is as high as 9 out of 10 infections.

Eight Ebola patients in Nigeria will be treated with an experimental drug called Nano Silver, the Nigerian minister of health said, according to news reports.

The drug was reportedly developed by a Nigerian doctor living overseas, and is being shipped to Nigeria's biggest city, Lagos. But the health minister did not disclose the name of the doctor who developed the treatment, and little else is known about it, the Wall Street Journal reported.

One possibility is that the drug is made from nanoparticles of silver, but it may also be made from other components, experts say. In any case, it's highly unlikely the medicine has ever been tested against Ebola in nonhuman animals, experts say.

"I am suspicious of the claim … of this being a viable treatment for Ebola virus, and I am worried that this will cause more harm than good," said Dr. Amesh Adalja, an infectious-disease specialist and a senior associate at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center's Center for Health Security.

The current Ebola outbreak — the largest in history — has killed more than 1,000 people in West Africa. Because there is no approved vaccine or treatment for Ebola, and the virus has a high fatality rate, the World Health Organization decided this week that it was ethical to use unproven drugs in the current outbreak.

Two American health care workers and a Spanish priest received doses of an experimental, antibody-based drug called ZMapp. (The Americans are reported to be improving; the priest has died.) A Canadian company is donating 1,000 doses of its experimental drug to Liberia, and the U.S. Food and Drug Administration lifted a hold on using another drug, developed by Tekmira Pharmaceuticals. All of those drugs have been tested in nonhuman primates, and the Tekmira drug is going through initial safety trials in humans.

But the drug that Nigerian health officials plan to use is much less well known — and likely less tested — than any of these experimental compounds, experts say.

No one has reported on what Nano Silver is made of, or how it works.

One possibility is that the drug uses tiny — or "nano" — particles of silver. There is some evidence that silver has antimicrobial properties, said Dr. William Schaffner, a professor of preventive medicine and infectious diseases at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, Tennessee.

But as far as taking it orally as medicine, "silver has been tried in various other circumstances against several different infections with very limited effect," Schaffner told Live Science.

Adalja noted that silver coatings on bed railings, catheters and endotracheal tubes can inhibit bacteria from colonizing those surfaces. Silver is also added to certain topical antibacterial creams, such burn creams, to prevent infection, he said.

But there's no peer-reviewed evidence that silver could help a person infected with the Ebola virus, Adalja said. And if the drug were actually made of tiny silver nanoparticles, then the particles could potentially penetrate cells and "wreak some havoc there," Adalja added.

In the U.S. and elsewhere, the diet supplement colloidal silver is popular, although drinking too much of the liquid silver suspension can have an ugly side effect: Colloidal silver can turn people blue.

But it's possible that the phrase "nano silver" is just a catchy name for a totally different compound, Adalja said.

It's unlikely that Nano Silver has been tested in animals infected with Ebola, Adalja said. In the United States, Ebola is incredibly hard to gain access to: Anyone who handles live Ebola virus must work in one of a handful of biosafety level 4 (BSL-4) laboratories, and must be cleared by both the FBI and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) to work with such a dangerous agent, Adalja said.

Another reason to doubt the treatment's validity is that any success in Ebola research tends to be big news, he said. In other words, if Nano Silver were showing promise, it would likely not have just been noticed now.

"Most of the things that are going on with Ebola are very well publicized," Adalja told Live Science.

Giving untested treatments to Ebola patients is a risky proposition, Schaffner said.

People may think to themselves, "'These are desperate circumstances. What's to lose?'" Schaffner said. "There's a terrific amount to lose."

If the drugs harm people, or are just useless, "the already shaky confidence in the health care system could be threatened," Schaffner said.

Even focusing on more tested drugs could undermine the public health effort. Quantities of all the experimental drugs are scarce, and are no substitute for "tried and true" methods for stopping Ebola, Adalja said.

"That involves basic public health and hygiene, finding cases, reporting them and tracking them," Adalja said.

http://www.livescience.com/47389-nigerian-experimental-ebola-drug.html

When someone says that they are sick of their husband or wife treating them like a child, what comes to your mind? What is being treated like a child like? What do we adults mean when we say that? Below are two letters from a husband and a wife who say their spouses are treating them like children.

How would YOU advise this husband?


MY WIFE TREATS ME LIKE A CHILD

Dear Nairalanders:

"I am a 45-year-old man. I have been married to my wife for 15 years and we have two children. The first two years were my happiest but since then it has been downhill. I feel like an abused man but I do not know what is abuse. I have never told anyone about the way I feel but the more I read about women’s abuse, I feel it describes my situation at home. I walk on eggshells around my wife because I am tired of hearing her scream abusive insults at me. My self-esteem is shot. I feel I can not leave her because no one else would want a loser like me. She speaks to me like you would not even speak to your child. She orders me around and if her friends are around she would say 'go get this' or 'shut up', if I offer an opinion.

I feel worse than our pet dog. She treats the dog like a human, then she wonders why she feels I am no longer attracted to her. I hate her but I cannot leave her. I feel trapped and dehumanized by my wife. The only thing she has not done is to try to hit me physically. I am so happy to go to work each day because there is compassion and respect with my colleagues. I believe that’s what keeps me going because some days I feel so down that there seems to be no point. I have tried talking to my wife about the way I feel and she says that I should be a man and stop whining. I have to leave but I need my children. How can I do this?

Signed,

Despondent

Reference: globalcounselor.com
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How would YOU advise this wife?


MY HUSBAND TREATS ME LIKE A CHILD

Dear Nairalanders:

My husband treats me like a child! I am at the end of my tether. My husband is 35 and i am 26 and he treats me like a child all the time. We've been married for 7 years and have a 3-year old little girl. He has always been a little bit of a stress-head but since our little girl was born he has become so bad. It's reached a point now that I can't take it anymore. I'm not a push over and I stand up to him, but it doesn't make any difference. For instance, we went out on our bikes the other day and at one point I was on the wrong side of the road, but it was brief and we were on a quiet side street; he just started shouting at me 'get to where you should be! your doing it wrong!!' I just ignored him, but later he started saying things like, 'If that's how you use a bike, how can I trust that you will respect the rules of the road, while driving the car with our daughter in it?', Then, if I am ever going anywhere in the car, he wants to know where I am going, how I will get there, which motorway I will use. He wants to print maps out for me and lectures me on safe driving. I'VE BEEN DRIVING FOR 8 YRS AND NEVER HAD AN ACCIDENT!!!!!! He tries to say it's because he cares about us but really, it's because he doesn't trust me. When our daughter was younger, he used to ring me up and ask what id given her for her dinner and if she was getting her 5 a day. When he is a passenger in the car with me, he is always flinching and jumping about and shouting at me, even though I'm driving normally.

When I go out to a friend's, which is very rare, he'll ring me 4 times to ask when I'm coming home and, when I do come home, he'll spy on me out of the window, when I'm in the taxi, or the car of the person who's given me a lift home. Then when I come in, he'll ask what took so long. I just wish he'd give me a bit of space and afford me some credibility as an adult. When he questions me, I don't give him what he wants. I refuse to answer and, I explain how I feel but he just says I'm wrong and out of order. I can't take it anymore. Please help!

Signed,

Desperate

Source: yahooanswers.com / Family & Relationships - Marriage & Divorce

Although both arranged and love marriages are acceptable in many cultures, they have very different characteristics, outcomes and emotional affects on individuals. They also differ in how they are used, where they are used and who would be interested in using them.

ARRANGED MARRIAGE...

...sometimes done for reasons such as culture, money, bloodlines, vocation, reputation, convenience and ability to find a mate resulting in never being alone;
...can always find love, but it usually doesn't start with love;
...can come with knowing you will not be alone, making those happy who wanted the marriage and in some cases it is the only way for a person to keep their wealth;
...can start off love-less if you don’t know the person you’re being arranged to marry, but the truth is love does usually come; when you are with someone for so long, a sense of love, understanding and comfort tend to come along in the package;
...most arranged marriages stay together longer then love marriages because the marriage wasn't based on love in the first place; the marriage is usually done for a personal benefit or to keep a family happy; the thought of disappointing so many people creates a strong bond and will;
...it’s not as common to escape, even if the marriage is unfulfilling.

LOVE MARRIAGE...

...one where two people fall in love and decide they want to share that love for the rest of their life, in a committed and long marriage;
...you have someone who loves you and will protect you for as long as you’re together; you have the comfort, piece of mind, and knowledge that you’re genuinely happy with this person;
...although it may seem real, could possibly be a lust marriage or based on delusions, misunderstanding, lack of self-knowledge or misrepresentations;
...isn't about making others happy; it’s about making the partners involved happy, so when things get tough or unbearable, those in a love marriage are generally able to escape via divorce.

SUMMARY

⦁An ARRANGED MARRIAGE is usually done with the consent of the partners involved. Many arranged marriages involve two strangers or two people to get to know each other briefly before choosing to accept the partner chosen and/or accepted by their families.

⦁An ARRANGED MARRIAGE can be categorized as a love-less marriage in the beginning, but also with a strong feeling of care and respect. Love may come after a period of time.

⦁ARRANGED MARRIAGES means getting to know their spouse better after the wedding, a love marriage has two people who already know and love one another.

⦁LOVE MARRIAGES are generally acts of love that one human being feels for another, wanting to spend their whole life together and committed to one another.

⦁LOVE MARRIAGES are full of emotions and thoughts of a beautiful passionate future with their other half but this is no guarantee of success.


Which do you think would be better for YOU?

Take your pick.


Source: "The Book Of Marriage" by Grace A. Mofoye

HOW TO START A REVOLUTION

There are times when it's necessary to fight against things that have become so wrong that they should no longer be. Things that were once small that have become big, but are no less wrong, must be made small again; a revolution, or a complete circle, is needed. Whether you want freedom from another country, or you want to overthrow an oppressive government, every fight is the same.

A revolution (from the Latin revolutio, "a turnaround" is a significant change that usually occurs in a short period of time. Revolutions have happened throughout human history and vary widely in terms of methods, duration, motivating ideology, and the number of participating revolutionaries. Their results include major changes in culture, economy, and socio-political institutions.

STEPS

1. KNOW YOUR GOAL. You are about to dedicate your life to this goal. Decide well and make your decision from the heart. A good question to ask yourself is, “What about the political system in which I live do I think is wrong? And what kind of system do I want to create for the people of my country?” Remember, the goal you chose is the Heart of your revolution.

2. BUILD SUPPORT AND CONSENSUS. Nothing is going to happen if the only rebels are you and your buddies. This is an important step and the setup for either a successful revolution or a small civilian rebellion flop. For the first part of this step you must build support by handing out flyers and pamphlets, by word of mouth and advertisements and through today’s technology. Do whatever it takes to get the word out of your revolution and build support. Once cultivated, your support doesn’t have to meet together or agree on actions or even know each other, but they must be united under a common goal and shared fundamental principles.

3. EDUCATE YOURSELF AND OTHERS ABOUT EVERY ASPECT OF THE IDEA OF THE REVOLUTION. Know what and why this fight must happen and how it can be won. Identify the goals and the most efficient means of achieving them without compromise. Appreciate and respect a diversity of tactics. The revolution must be directed towards making things better. This is what is called a "positive vector".

4. BE FOCUSED. Understand that one of the most important aspects of a revolution is that the people are angry. However, the cause for anger ought to be of true convictions, and in their anger there must also be discipline to their cause.

5. PUT TOGETHER INTENTIONS WHICH MUST BE VERY POPULAR AMONG THE POPULATION. Put together intentions which must be very popular among the population. It must aim towards the improvement of certain aspects of society, economics, culture, or any other aspects of a social group. Appreciate and respect a diversity of tactics. As Egypt has shown us, the devil can be in the details, here -- and your revolution can easily be co-opted. Recognize this as a sign that your idea was popular enough to attract attention, and be prepared to overcome attempted splintering.

6. FIND LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE WHO ARE READY FOR ACTION. Find like-minded people who are ready for action. Set up a field of communication. You must work in a non-hierarchical group in which all voices are equally heard. If you have even a small group dedicated to the same cause, it may be useful for someone to serve as a front woman/man; these should be humble people- individuals chosen because they reflect consensus.


7. TAKE ACTION. This is the most important step because the revolution dies without it. You must take action whether it is a nonviolent protest or a sit-in or a boycott. Your leader must motivate the support and dutifully work day and night to improve your Revolution. The power in place will defend itself, for that is the nature of power. Illegitimate "governments" are not happy about a rebellion from their people and will do anything to crush resistance. Remember that armed struggle is not an option. No matter how well armed or trained you are, you cannot withstand an organized country's military - especially if a superpower and its allies are backing the regime in place. Last of all, do not let up. Often you may be discouraged by loss or lack of morale but remember, many other countries have revolted and after several losses still have still overcome overwhelming adversity. Remember, your goal is the heart of your operation, your consensus is the mind of the revolution, and the actions you and your support take are the hands of your revolution.

8. WORK FOR COLLECTIVE LIBERATION. Everyone's liberation is tied to each other's. If we are going to be free, we all need to be free. If we are to have a voice, all must have a voice.

9. BE VISIBLE. Demonstrate the popularity of the movement to the people of power, legislature, and military. The greater the popularity among the society, the more the likelihood of violent repression is reduced.

10. UNITED YOU STAND - DIVIDED YOU FALL. Realize that a drastic political or social revolution is almost always about freedom. In general, revolutions are about major changes in some aspect of society. A peaceful revolution requires solidarity and agreement.

TIPS

⦁To be successful, you need to be totally committed; compromise is failure.
⦁There is strength in numbers. The greater the mass and unity of the movement, the better chance of getting demands met.
⦁Keep your eye on the 'big picture.' Don't drown yourself in the details.
⦁Always use the truth, and never succumb to the temptations of power or money. Believe in your cause and in your power base. Revolution is belief.
⦁Remember to trust the people who you fight for. They are your legacy.
⦁Take input from others. Revolution can't happen because of just one person; don't be a vigilante.
⦁You will benefit no one if you are just attempting to consolidate power or gain recognition only for yourself.
⦁Listen to your heart and think about what is needed most.
⦁If you want to change the world around you, then you have to change yourself first!

WARNINGS

⦁Have some idea about how you want society to look like after the revolution. If structures to take over are not in place innocent people might suffer.
⦁As in many revolutions in the past, you could be killed in war, attacked, tortured, become a prisoner, etc. by people in power who are protecting their interests. But that does not mean the movement and cause cannot overcome if enough resolve is there. They are only methods those in power partake in to intimidate and try to put the fire of revolution out before it consumes them.
⦁A revolution is not about you, it's about everyone collectively. Do not try to take fame.
⦁Never let the purpose of the revolution be led by the will of a single person or group; adherents must be ruled only by their legitimate cause.

SOMETIMES IT TAKES A REVOLUTION FOR CHANGE TO HAPPEN

Source: "A New Day Coming: A New Africa Dawning" by Silvanus G. Umosen

pickabeau1: Good to see there is a human behind the moniker

I will have ignored your rant but I thought otherwise... as some hypocrites are already making crappy allegations of cyber bullying.

Now to your post



I have never denied here males perpetrate abuse on their partners . however it is posters like you and the multitude of females that go gung-ho when there is some way to bring down males.

If you look at your own threads dispassionately...you will see the theme of your topics

Naija Men are abusive
They phock AA women and abandon their offspring
Naija men are dominating
Men should not be heads of the home
Men should be emasculated

Bla Bla Bla...

But women happen to b divine and don't fart..

Tell me something good and new




Insults already?

Same words . Different posters...you aggressor females never fail to disappoint

I have no issue with assertive females..its insulting females like you who see no good in the male gender I call out

Shame on you also




Keep whatever offline issues you have with haters offline..

You say u r no misandrist...your posts speak otherwise
Deal with your anger..woman

Me a disgrace?..you are so far from the truth..maybe you are the disgrace..




Good you know there is no perfect man..
You and others like you will do well to know that.



Check yourself with your anger and misandry before you wreck also

A woman who claims to be happily married for 5 years will not be as dismissive of the marriage institution and make head ship of the nuclear family as your posting history show not to talk of 2 decades.


If it works for you in your home, don't spread your poison

Your problem is that people like you project the lack of responsible male authority figures in your life to all men

Men are not perfect but with great power comes great responsibility

Fathers have been known to give their heart to their kids
Fathers intercede for the home and their children
Fathers go into mines to work months at a stretch to ensure their kids have a decent shot at life

In your community with all the empowerment to single mothers we have increased crime and more young sons being killed

I'm sure you know of the issues in Ferguson


Read into that anything you will..

REPEAT...

Nah...not buying it.

You've shown me who you are...and I believe it!

HYPOCRITE!

GOOD MEN aren't standing on their hind legs baying at the moon naysaying domestic abuse...BAD MEN are...and are defended by their warped supporters...just because they're men.

GOOD MEN aren't beating the s-hit out of their women...BAD MEN are...and are defended by their twisted supporters...just because they're men.

GOOD MEN aren't killing their women...BAD MEN are...and are big upped by their backward thinking supporters...just because they're men.

The more you post - the more you show who you REALLY are as a so-called man.

HYPOCRITE!!!

Instead of going back and forth with me, why not start a thread on how men should honor the women in their lives...and not use them as punching bags or take their lives.

MAN UP!!!

No matter how you twist it...your scat stinks...no matter how you try to clean it up!

Fkforyou: Yep,most times you are often torn between the devil and the deep blue sea.

Very true!

Godmystrength: I am not saying you are from those kind of homes, neither am i from such. Just trying to say your list is too long. just that.

lol...once I get going...I get going...childhood memories and experiences...thank goodness I paid attention...even when I didn't think I WAS paying attention!

TribalEAST: I trust hoes; when the kids are around is when they'll make aggravating demands from you knowing you won't want to break this rule I think you'll break countless times. #never say never

What's your definition of a "hoe'

Why are you referring to women as "hoes"?

Will you refer to men as "hoes" too?

bellong: Madam Zboyd,

Why would I insult your intelligence? I am not a coward, if my intention was to accuse you, I would have gone ahead to do so without mincing words. Only cowards do what you are accusing me of. You have failed to understand my last response to you and I will not explain myself further if you fail to see my point.


You have 116 topics, how many of them did you write against female abusers compared to your numerous threads against male? If you indeed have good intention as claimed, your topics should be balanced. Your double standard is obvious for all to see.

Yes, I do commend your passion against domestic abuse but you are not the only one in the fight against it. Not everybody makes noise about what they do.

If you didn't believe my previous explanation on what I said, how do you expect me to believe your "I HATE ABUSE OF ANYKIND AGAINST ANYONE"? It could just be a blanket statement with no sincerity since I don't live with you.

Thanks for emphasizing domestic abuse is not gender specific.

Mrs, you don't have to be too serious about everything on a faceless forum. You may not see humour in what I wrote but I expected you to understand what I was telling you if you've got that depth. Alas, you failed to understand it.

Calling the abused FOOLS says so much about your personal crusade.

Nah...not buying it.

You've shown me who you are...and I believe it!

DEUCES!!!

pickabeau1: Zboyd..good u know people r seeing thriugh your smoke screen

Its only a matter of time.....

Motives speak louder than words....

Anyone can portray family utopia online

OK...ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

There IS no smokescreen here...no matter how you wish it to be so. You are just another one of those Naija people I detest. You are so caught up in your stereotypical mindset that you can't see the forest for the trees, same as some narrow-minded African-Americans who hold a similar mindset.

But let's be real, shall we? Your REAL PROBLEM with me is that I dare challenge YOU...A MAN....or is it a BOY... in a man's body. You are no better than American men who have issues, when confronted with an intelligent WOMAN who dares to voice her opinion on serious issues, specifically DOMESTIC ABUSE.

You and your co-signers are no better than the cops and politicians over here that protect dirty cops and politicians, when they know damn well their cohorts are dirty.

Instead of standing up and denouncing the dirty deeds men inflict on women, you'd rather 'kill the messenger'.

Why is it that you'd rather portray me or any other woman who speaks her mind, regarding the actions of brutish men as men-hating, feminist, bitter, lesbian bitches, rather than women who care what happens to their fellow Sisters....no matter where they reside?

SHAME ON YOU!

Thank God ALL men, Nigerian or otherwise, aren't of your ilk!

YOU ARE A DISGRACE!

You're so caught up in your stereotypical mindset that you can't EVER imagine a Naija man finding love and happiness with a non-Naija woman.

TOO BAD!

In your narrow-minded world, such couplings don't exist or fail. WRONG!!! They do! And you and your co-signers can't stand it. Ya'll rather listen to and believe, as the gospel truth, "How A Naija Man Done Me Wrong Blues" sung by some embittered women who post here.

There is no such thing as "Family Utopia".

What there IS...is men...Nigerian and otherwise, who are DAMN GOOD MEN!

Are they perfect? NO! No human being is...no marriage is...so why even voice such a fantasy?

Question your OWN motives!

Why are you so reluctant to acknowledge the reality of Naija men beating their girlfriends and wives senseless?

Why are you so reluctant to acknowledge the numbers of Nigerian women murdered by their husbands?

Why aren't you up on your soapbox denouncing the brutish behavior of some of your fellow brothers?

Why are you portraying me as a man-hating, bitter feminist because I dare speak out on domestic abuse in the Nigerian community?

Why do you assume I am a product of a Naija Man-African-American Woman relationship gone wrong...where the Naija man is missing in action...no where to be found...leaving the AA mother, alone and bitter? (Note: My Father is AA.)

Why do you assume that ALL Naija men who father children with non-Naija women, in general, would abandon their offspring...never to see them again?

Why is it that you seem to know next to nothing about the Naija men who have children with non-Naija women, love their children to death and will fight tooth and nail to be in their lives...no matter the cost?

Why is it that you seem to know next to nothing of marriages between Naija men and non-Naija women?

This is a monkey on your back that YOU have to deal with, mate.

Ignorance may be bliss...but it's still ignorance!

CHECK YOURSELF...OR...WRECK YOURSELF!!!

Your choice!

LogoDWhiz: Didn't understand what u wrote.

Seems gibberish.

No problem.

Read it again...slowly.

Think about what YOU want in a partner...and...what you WISH you had in a partner...and combine the two.

Be HONEST!

pickabeau1: Never believe everything you read online

Why not?

You want NL to believe the following about me:

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"actually zboyd is a anti-naija, misandrist...I wont be surprised if she is the product of an intellectual mum who took her for feminist rallies..upon maturity she finds out she is the product of naija fada who abandoned her mum due to that one's uncontrollable ways..Coupled with the fact that the man was untraceable... common themes across her threads...Man Hating, Daddy issues, abandonment syndrome.. a lethal cocktail...Lawd help her"

Source: Re: How To "Emasculate" A Man by pickabeau1: 1:34am On Jul 05 - Page 0
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Add the above to your sly references to me being a bitter, man-hating lesbian, coupled with the usual worn-out stereotypes about cross-cultural relationships between Nigerian men and non-Nigerian women, specifically African-Americans.

And...you continue to look for co-signers.

Like I stated before...not everyone over here in the States grows up in a dysfunctional home headed by a single mother...and this just pains you to no end.

Also, there ARE successful cross-cultural relationships/marriages between Naija men and non-Naija women.

It just shoots all kinds of holes in your stereotypical mindset, huh?

Tough tittie, mate!

Anyways...say or believe whatever floats your boat.

No worries.

You'll eventually pick up more co-signers.

Carry on!

bellong: OK......I need not join you in exchanging insults. Maybe you need to read over what I wrote. "Your posts show off like a man hater" is quite different from direct accusation. And how has the rants here reduced abusive men in the society? If you care so much about abuse in the society, your crusade should first start against the female gender who are abusive- except there are no female abusers. If I were a BRUTE, it is nothing for you to worry about. At least the females surrounding me enjoy my abusive nature . Peace to you.

Why are throwing stone and hiding hand?

Please do not insult my intelligence by indirectly calling me names and thinking I won't catch it.

If you have been following my topics and posts, I have spoken about abusive women more than once...case in point...this thread..."How To "Emasculate" A Man - Family - Nairaland.

Why did I earlier state: "I HATE ABUSE OF ANY KIND- AGAINST ANYONE?" Selective amnesia again?

Domestic abuse is not gender specific.

As for as stating: "At least the females surrounding me enjoy my abusive nature,"...I don't see the humor in making light of domestic abuse.

But...if what you stated is true...then...the females you mentioned are fools.

bellong: I am sorry but your previous posts and topics say otherwise.

I am sorry that you seem to possess selective amnesia and selective blindness toward the brutality rained down on women- brutality which the following poster has personally experienced between his mother and father:

2. polymathic(m)

"My dad always beat my mum, but she never quit despite the pain... I learnt endurance, love, care, etc on her part.. While one thing I would never do is beating my wife, cos I hate it as a kid growing up n the whole beatin s as a result of his drinking too much alcohol....
In conclusion, my marriage can't be like theirs cos it sucks, despite the fact that my mum still loves my dad.. But tis a failure"
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GOOD MEN don't brutalize their wives.

BRUTES DO!

So...when you accuse me of being a "man hater', because I dare air the dirty deeds of SOME of your fellow brothers...you are indirectly supporting their brutish behavior.

If you consider yourself a GOOD MAN...then you should be standing on your own soap box protesting the brutal treatment some women suffer at the hands of their brutish husbands...especially those who profess themselves to be God-fearing Christians, washed in the blood of Jesus.

Of course, YOU could be a BRUTE yourself- a man who abuses women- and this issue is cutting too close to the bone.

Maybe this is why you deem my posts discussing abusive men as man hating, otherwise, why are standing on your hind legs baying at the moon?

Nonsense!

Vikky014: Op,those dt watch porn & self service wtout having intercourse wt anylady as a result of being a Brother in christ are they virgins aswell?(confused),den i will answer later.

Tricky question.

ONE view...

"The Bible does not discuss self-pleasuring at all. This seems a little odd since it is such a strong and prevalent human event. And, given that Leviticus has so much to say about sexuality, one would think it natural that the subject would be covered. But it isn't. Self-pleasuring is not specifically declared to be sinful. Nevertheless, we must be cautious to pronounce something to be sinful or not sinful when God has not discussed it. Therefore, we have to derive principles from scripture on related sexual issues and see if we can wisely apply them to the subject of self-pleasuring ."

More here... http://carm.org/masturbation

Godmystrength: @zboyd - only you learnt ALL these? wow!!! that's superb o

Not ALL women (or men) over here grow up in dysfunctional, single parent homes...no matter what the stereotypes claim...OR...what people choose to believe.

bellong: Wow......

You learnt all these and you still show off like a male hater.....

Correction:

I HATE MALE BRUTES.

Don't you?

I HATE ABUSE OF ANY KIND- AGAINST ANYONE.

Don't you?

Question:

How will a wife and mother of four kiddos- married for over 20 years to a man hate men?

Nonsense!

Labor Day in the States is just around the corner, replete with parades, barbeques and a day off work for some lucky Americans.

Giving honor to the day, a roving reporter on the streets of Dallas, Texas asked passersby "Why Are You Proud To Be American?"

Believe it or not, most people were stumped by the question- some struggled to answer- others just smiled, shook their heads and quickly walked away.

But what of YOU?

If you're a typical Nigerian then you've spent an inordinate amount of time complaining about Nigeria and other Nigerians.

At the same time, most Nigerians are fiercely proud of their country and are proud to be Nigerian.

But...what do you think makes Nigeria and Nigerians so special?

Why are YOU proud to be Nigerian?

Good Girls say, "No;" Bad Girls ask, "When?" - Good Boys say, "Wait;" Bad Boys ask, "Why?"

Some MEN are confused.

They want...

Madonna In The Streets vs. Freak In The Sheets
Girl Next Door vs. Girl Gone Wild
Church Girl vs. Party Girl
Housewife vs. Ho-
Nice Girl vs. Nasty Girl...the stuff of female fantasies?

Some WOMEN are confused.

They want...

Church Boy In The Streets vs. S-x Machine In The Bedroom
Boy Scout vs. Street Thug
Village Boy vs. City Slicker
Faithful Man vs. Playboy
One Woman Man vs. Male Wh-re...the stuff of female fantasies?

Does either party REALLY know what they want?

Men may pant over the Halle Berrys of the world, but deep down inside they know what's up- she's a fantasy woman- not one they would choose to be a wife and mother of their children. They'd prefer a woman who's more down-to-earth- real.

Women may drool over the Idris Elbas of the world, but deep down inside they know what's up- he's a fantasy man- not one they would accept as a husband and father of their children. They'd prefer a man who's more down-to-earth- real.

What a quandary!

Some people are very greedy.

They want the best of two worlds.

Men want Miz Lady who's nice and respectful, on their arms in the street AND Miz Freaky who turns him every which way but loose, in the bedroom.

Women want to walk hand-in hand down the street with Mr. Perfect Gentleman AND get down all night long with Mr. McNasty in the boudoir.

What are some of the qualities embodied by the Bad Girl which combined with some of the qualities of a Good Girl that could result in you landing Miss-Perfect-Woman-For-You?

What are some of the qualities embodied by the Bad Boy which combined with some of the qualities of a Good Boy that could result in you landing Mr-Perfect-Man-For-You?

zboyd: Children are constantly watching and learning from their parents' marriages yet some parents underestimate the power of modeling.

Kids are consciously and subconsciously recording what a marriage looks like and those recordings definitely influence and shape their view of marriage. When these children grow up, they model the best and worst relationship dynamics of their parents' marriages.

Some dynamics build strong, healthy, long-lasting marriages- others are detrimental- leading to abuse, unhappiness, resentment, separation and even divorce.

Keeping this in mind...when YOU marry...do you want a marriage like your parents? Why or Why not?

Which positive dynamics of your own parents' marriage do you wish to emulate within your own marriage?

Which ones will you NEVER, EVER implement?

If you are presently married, what are you teaching your child/ren about marriage?

What lessons are your child/ren learning from YOUR marriage?

What I learned about marriage from MY parents:

- marriage will NEVER work, unless there is mutual respect, trust and compromise
- have each other's back at ALL times
- what goes on IN the house STAYS in the house - keep relatives out of your business
- keep the kids out of grown folks' business
- fight clean - not dirty - then kiss and make up
- husbands have bad memories when it comes to special days - use a BIG calendar and circle those special days in red and label them
- Valentine's Day is only ONE day out of the year - the other 364 are what really matter
- a family that prays together should also play together - all day churching is not necessary - Sunday is Family Day
- don't hold grudges
- husbands need their own space - just keep the door closed if he's a junkaholic and don't move ANYTHING
- wives need time away from the house to keep sane - so do husbands
- Date Night is a MUST at least once a week
- working too much can cause problems - try not to bring work home - Family Time is important
- "I love you"..."Yes, Dear"..."Yes, Baby, you're right!"..."I'm sorry"..."I apologize"..."...Do you need some help?"..."I was wrong" keeps down arguments
- don't keep secrets - they have a nasty way of coming out
- don't 'advertise' your husband - you might find a 'buyer'
- it's good to take short vacations with the kids AND away from each other
- you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar
- keep yourself looking good for each other
- compliment and flirt with each other - don't mind the kids' "Ewww...ya'll so nasty!" comments
- surprise each other with little gifts for no reason
- if your husband hates to go around certain relatives (his or yours), don't pressure him - just make sure he has some beer and snacks on hand and you and the kids go
- don't plan ANYTHING, when his favorite sport team is playing - just make sure he and his buddies have plenty to eat and drink and you and the kids go do your own thing
- don't ask your husband to go and buy your feminine necessities - he hates it - so stock up or go and buy them yourself
- if your husband says "We can't afford it" but you really, really want it, bribe him with his favorite dinner, a big bottle of his favorite drink and be dressed in his favorite outfit when he comes home - works almost every time
- give your husband at least one hour of uninterrupted 'HIM TIME' when he comes home from work - keep the kids away too - then attack him
- husbands aren't mind-readers - if something is bothering you - come out with it
- there is no sleeping on the couch - talk it out - no matter who has to get up in the morning
- friends shouldn't stay at the house ALL DAY LONG - learn to tell them when it's time to go home and mean it
- your house is not a restaurant - you can't feed everyone who comes through your door a full course dinner - especially if you have kids
- having 3 bank accounts - His, Hers and the House avoids fights over money
- your wife is not a maid- roll up your sleeves and help out around the house and that includes helping out with the kids and the cooking
- don't allow friends or relatives to bad mouth each other or your kids - if they continue - cut them off until they can control their mouths
- husbands and wives don't go to strip clubs or any other club - period - no matter what mutual friends may say
- no snooping - no eavesdropping on phone calls - no opening up each other's mail, etc. - that's an invasion of privacy
- be wary of women - single or married - who show a little too much interest in your husband - don't hesitate to confront them - immediately
- put up a united front when it comes to the kids...e.g. chores, school, discipline, etc. - kids can smell division a mile a way and will use it to their advantage
- husbands own the remote - deal with it - you may want to buy your own TV to keep down fights
- husbands usually hate to go shopping with their wives - they don't understand going to six stores and then going back to the first one to buy something
- husbands aren't kids - so you shouldn't pick up or clean up after them - you do enough of that with the kids
- if someone snores - invest in a good pair of earplugs and/or ease out of the bed and go sleep on the couch or in the guest room

WHEW!!!

lol

Is that ENOUGH?!

What would you like non-Nigerians to know about Nigeria and Nigerians?

What are some myths, misconceptions or misunderstandings would you like to clear up and/or explain?

Children are constantly watching and learning from their parents' marriages yet some parents underestimate the power of modeling.

Kids are consciously and subconsciously recording what a marriage looks like and those recordings definitely influence and shape their view of marriage. When these children grow up, they model the best and worst relationship dynamics of their parents' marriages.

Some dynamics build strong, healthy, long-lasting marriages- others are detrimental- leading to abuse, unhappiness, resentment, separation and even divorce.

Keeping this in mind...when YOU marry...do you want a marriage like your parents? Why or Why not?

Which positive dynamics of your own parents' marriage do you wish to emulate within your own marriage?

Which ones will you NEVER, EVER implement?

If you are presently married, what are you teaching your child/ren about marriage?

What lessons are your child/ren learning from YOUR marriage?

Bachelor #1 says: "I will only marry a virgin."

Bachelor #2 says: "I don't care if I marry a virgin or not."

But what of women?

What is the female point of view regarding marrying men who are virgins?

Will they agree with Bachelor #1's view...or...Bachelor #2's view?

On the flip side...

If you aren't a virgin...and consider yourself a Christian...how do you reconcile your dis-virginized state with your Christian beliefs and teaching about fornication?

If you weren't a virgin when you married...how did you reconcile your dis-virginized state with your Christian beliefs and teaching about fornication?

IF you consider fornication a sin...and believe you should 'save yourself' for your future spouse...what if you never marry?

Will you remain a virgin for the rest of your life, like some Catholic nuns and priests are supposed to do, when they take the vow of celibacy?

Can you live with that possibility?

The Veil Of Superstition – Africa’s Burden Of Darkness
by Isaac Ofori Asebu

The African continent has remained a place of shadow shrouded in the mystery of progressive setbacks.

Many individuals have tried to demystify the never-ending setbacks that have confounded the continent over centuries but to no avail. The pattern of Africa’s distress is seen in almost all of her countries. This constant shadow has refused to give way to a dawn of new age, glory and honour. The thick nature of these dark shadows continues to haunt and taunt the continent and has left it with little or no room to find answers to many recurring questions.

What could be Africa’s ailment?

What is still holding Africa back from realizing its full potential?

Africa has remained a fertile ground where all forms of human discomforts are grown. Self-denial and lack of faith in its people continues to be major illusions eluding the continent. Africa continues to sit in mud and has not thought of rising up to wash off the dirt. It remains a continent clothed in sacks, wailing and weeping for her many pains and hopelessness.

What has been one of the major burdens of darkness in Africa?

SUPERSTITION!

A veil of superstition still covers the face of the continent, allowing for constant darkness, mystery and illusion, all of which nurtures her dissipations. Africa has a long-standing history of deep superstitions composed in the beliefs of many uncertainties. Strong beliefs in witchcraft, juju, gods, ancestors, black magic, sorcery, necromancy, ghosts and etc. have converged as thick clouds over the minds of her citizens.

Many Africans live in constant fear of these beliefs and strongly embrace them as a way of life. Witchcraft, wizardy and, the torture and burning of those accused of being witches and wizards prevails across the continent, and are employed largely to hurl people down and even end their lives. People use juju to procure fast riches and trigger their businesses and fight others in the contests of life. People put faith in juju in solving life problems on this continent. Strong beliefs in gods and ancestors are found in almost all the countries in Africa. The gods according, to strong African traditions dictate the pace of men and order their steps, and above all control the affairs of men.

Huge sacrifices are made to these deities as well as the ancestors to avert misfortunes which are purely natural such as earthquakes, floods, outbreak of diseases and hunger. People invoke curses on their enemies in the name of the gods and ancestors. Sorcery, necromancy and glaring occultism prevail across the continent unabated. These are the roots of African superstitions and are deep-seated in the minds of people and in the heart of the continent.

The continent of Africa has become the breeding ground for demons and dark spirits, because most of the practices invite the presence of these forces of darkness. Everything associated with misfortune is hugely represented on the African continent. Hard-core poverty, hunger, diseases, wars, atrocities and the shedding and sharing of innocent blood have found their seats on the continent. Religion, especially Christianity, teaches us that evil spirits have the tendency to torment, harass, destroy and even kill. These evil spirits draw their strength from Africans placing strong faith in them. Evil spirits are called upon openly and libations made to them to employ their blessings.

Though Christianity and Islam seek to bring solutions to this menace, their efforts are somewhat thwarted, as some African religious practices have crept their way into Christianity and Islamic worship. Traditional priests and priestess known as ‘Akomfo’ are turning into preachers- some of them backing their teachings with the Bible. Their worship is nothing more than traditional practices polished to suit the modern age. Juju men call themselves ‘Mallam’ and assist people in getting juju to aid them in life. There is open witchcraft in some parts of the continent. Religion has in some way come to deepen the superstitions, as critical and scientific or natural thinking have given way to spirit-way-solutions to all problems of life.

There is a huge veil of superstition covering the face of Africa.

A story was told of a man who went to church and had to mention the name of his god to save him, instead of God. The question is what happened? The bench upon which he and other church members sat, broke and was falling down and, immediately, he mentioned the name of the god of the town to save him instead of God. This man is a classic superstitious man who could not control things, even at the place where superstition is eschewed. The numerous instances of innocent blood being shed on the continent haunt it every day. Ranging from tribal wars fought on the continent centuries ago to the slave trade and wicked leaders, all of which destroy the life of many for no apparent reason.

Uganda suffered through the bloodshed of many of its people. Rwanda suffered the same fate. South Africa suffered during apartheid. The Congolese wars killed many people. The Angolan wars, Liberian war crimes and the Central African civil disturbances were nightmares of instability. Violence following the Cote d’Ivoire elections, the Boko Haram atrocities of Nigeria, tribal wars and human sacrifices in Ghana are among many more blights on the African continent. The blood of many dead, innocent people continues to cry from the bowels of Africa.

There is a strong belief that Africa is under a huge curse because of these atrocities committed on its soil. This is seen in how the continent continues to suffer and grope in darkness. If a mighty hand had not moved against the continent, then how come the continent lacks the ability to utilize its numerous resources, blessed with it by nature? How come wickedness continues to prevail across the continent? The veil of superstition is Africa’s huge burden which continues to constantly draw the continent into dissipation and hopelessness.

Our leaders are heartless and self-centered instead of human-centered. Some of them have dead consciences and have contributed largely to the sufferings of their citizens. Some of them employ juju (black magic) to ascend to power and use atrocities to curb their fellow countrymen. Hugely resourced but constantly begging for aid or assistance paints a clear picture of Africa as a damned continent.

SUPERSTITION...has robbed the politician from presenting himself as an individual capable of leading his or her country.

SUPERSTITION...has robbed the businessman from generating new ideas as well as working hard to boost his business.

SUPERSTITION...has robbed the young man from pursuing healthy living and opportunities, and, instead leads him to seek after juju for quick money.

SUPERSTITION...has encouraged the religious leader to use black magic to rob the ignorant; it has robbed some religious folks from enlightenment and continues to rob the continent of all good things that a man, through purpose, commitment, critical thinking or natural thinking could have acquired for himself.

SUPERSTITION...is the King of Africa who sits right in the middle of the minds of many people and dictates their pace in life.

SUPERSTITION...will tell you that many sicknesses on the continent of Africa are spirit borne; they were not there until some witches brought them. Think of this: pornography did not start in Africa but it is one of the highest prevailing causes of sexually transmitted diseases. African witches enjoy such atrocities inflicted on their very own people and, sometimes their own relatives, because it fattens their pockets.

SUPERSTITION...will tell you many deaths on the continent are triggered by juju, sorcery or witchcraft.

SUPERSTITION...will tell you people are poor in Africa, because they are possessed or being pursued by evil spirits who will allow an individual to gain $1 million but make him squander it and go back to enjoy his poverty.

SUPERSTITION...has prevented many people from coming out from poverty on the African continent, because they believe they have been possessed by the demon of poverty, so why even try to improve their situation.

SUPERSTITION...has made our leaders heartless and have them constantly employing black magic in politics to win power, rather than presenting themselves as worthy serving citizens.

SUPERSTITION...SUPERSTITION...SUPERSTITION...SUPERSTITION...SUPERSTITION!!!!!

The veil of superstition is SO HUGE that an African's dream of deliverance is far-fetched.

Africa is a continent of bloodshed, juju, witchcraft, wizardy, occultism, ancestral worship, gods and enchantments- a continent full of darkness.

When will the time come when Africa will be purged completely from these superstitious stains which have crippled its development and uplift?

Almost everywhere in Africa, there is some level of superstition which continues to darken the minds of its people and prevents any critical or natural thinking, as well as scientific thinking, which is the main force behind the development of many countries of the world.

When will Africa shake off the shackles of superstition and ignorance and embrace The Age of Enlightenment?

A Nigerian posing as a prince in British high society while coordinating massive immigration fraud for almost 3 decades has now been jailed for his crimes.

The conman who called himself ‘His Royal Highness Prince Yilkyes Bala Finok Tonglele, PhD, State Crown Prince’ was found guilty of using false and stolen IDs to help over 100 people to get into the UK.

The UK Daily Mail reports:

Posing as a member of the Nigerian Royal family, he mingled with diplomats, captains of industry and senior police officers. Dr. Yilkyes Bala was chauffeur-driven in a black Bentley and hosted sumptuous dinners at the Dorchester to mix with society’s elite. But the supposedly flourishing businessman was in fact a criminal mastermind responsible for an ambitious immigration racket.

Investigators believe he helped more than 100 of his countrymen, including most of his extended family, to enter the UK illegally under false and stolen identities.

At the centre of the scam was a corrupt Home Office worker who sold him genuine, but improperly issued, refugee passports for £1,500 each.

Bala then used his network of security companies to give the illegal immigrants references and jobs.

They could then ‘hit the jackpot’ and obtain a National Insurance number, giving them full citizen’s rights and access to State benefits.

But the racket, which continued for up to 16 years, unravelled when the Home Office employee was caught out.

This week Bala, 55, was starting a seven year jail sentence from August 1st, after a jury convicted him of conspiring to breach immigration laws.

A judge at Canterbury Crown Court said the charming fraudster was ‘at the hub’ of a ‘significant conspiracy’ to beat UK border security.

The conviction is an embarrassment for those who mixed with Bala, including the Nigerian Ambassador and senior officers at City of London Police.

The charming conman referred to himself as ‘His Royal Highness Prince Yilkyes Bala Finok Tonglele, PhD, State Crown Prince’.

He even carried an identity card claiming to be ‘prince of princes’ in the Nigerian Plateau State Council of Chiefs.

Investigators found he did not inherit the honour, but he claimed it was bestowed on him later in life, and they have been unable to disprove this.

Accomplices: Bala’s second wife Giwo Tonglele, 46, left, was jailed for five years and Casmir Ekwuhga, 42, right, was jailed for four years for taking part in the conspiracy

Bala travelled to Britain in the early 1980s before studying administration at Greenwich School of Management as part of a philosophy doctorate.

He already claimed to have a degree from the now-defunct Clayton University, in Missouri, U.S., long suspected as a ‘buy-a-degree’ college.

He went on to set up a network of companies and claimed that at one stage they employed 900 people across Europe, Asia and Africa.

The core business was supplying security guards to the construction industry, including one firm based in Knightsbridge, Central London.

His companies, which included Golden Shield and Mayfair and Knightsbridge Guarding, also provided alarm monitoring, VIP bodyguards and uniformed guards for offices. Within two decades Bala, a father of six, was living in a £1.3million home in leafy Beckenham, South East London.

He joined the Croydon branch of the Masons and sent his daughters to fee-paying Blackheath High School.

But a huge investigation, which Bala claimed cost up to £10 million, unravelled his empire and exposed him as a ruthless conman.

Officials discovered a corrupt Home Office employee based in Croydon had improperly obtained more than 200 refugee passports.

In genuine cases they are used as travel documents for those claiming asylum in Britain, often fleeing religious or political persecution.

But the official was illicitly applying for them in the name of non-existent relatives of genuine refugees. At least 91 documents were posted to addresses linked to Bala, who ran the Armour Group chain of companies with offices across the capital.

They were then used as the foundation for applications to remain in the UK as he and his accomplices ran rings around immigration officials.

Those linked to Bala used every trick in the book to beat border controls, from urgent medical visas to travelling as domestic servants. Some were so shameless that they changed their names by deed poll back to their original identities within weeks of adopting the persona of a non-existent refugee.

Among those given false identities so they could remain in Britain were Bala’s second wife and his brother.

After his arrest, Bala boasted to officials that he was allowed up to seven wives, ‘and a few more on the side’.

Investigators found his home stuffed with paperwork linked to his businesses, with documents in his garage filling two vans alone. Because of the complex web of his businesses it took the Home Office two years to prepare the case against him.

The illegal immigrants caused chaos in Government systems once they had obtained their new identities. One man was uncovered by his fingerprints when he was caught drink driving on two occasions, first under his real name and then in a false one.

In some cases, illegal immigrants had already failed to gain citizenship under one name so simply adopted a new identity to try again.

Official company minutes for Bala’s security companies recorded the same people attending meetings under different names.

Bala’s second wife Giwo Tonglele, 46, was also convicted of conspiracy to facilitate illegal entry of persons into the UK and was jailed for five years.

Their former employee Casmir Ekwuhga, 42, was jailed for four years for taking part in the conspiracy, holding a refugee passport illegally and using it to obtain a driving licence fraudulently.

Jailing them, Judge Heather Norton said the scam was well organised.

She said: ‘These documents were created to order. Each one of you was involved in deceiving the immigration authorities. You were at the hub of the whole enterprise. ‘The motive was simple. It was to provide identities for employees, relatives and friends. It was a significant conspiracy.’

More than 100 illegal immigrants linked to the scam have been arrested, but only a small number are believed to have been convicted and deported.

David Fairclough, of the Home Office, said Bala was brought to justice after a ‘long, complex and painstaking investigation’ and said the case should serve as a warning to others.

Source: www.informationng.com - Posted by: Olumide on August 12, 2014

As a woman, would you find it strange/unacceptable/uncomfortable...

...to date a man who's 45 years old...drop-dead gorgeous...secure in an excellent job...owns his own home, etc....has a thriving side-business...BUT has never been married and doesn't have any kids?

As a man, would you find it strange/unacceptable/uncomfortable...

...to date a woman who's 45 years old...drop-dead beautiful...secure in an excellent job...owns her own home, etc....has a thriving side-business...BUT has never been married and doesn't have any kids?

In your opinion, when does a woman or man become TOO OLD to be single and still dating?

Why are 45-year old men more acceptable for dating and marriage purposes than 45-year women, when both are attractive, emotionally stable, successful and personable?

SLAVES OF THE GODS

A unique form of slavery is happening in Ghana today. The enslaved girls are called Trokosi. They live in a fearsome and protected voodoo world.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=379QbQV3JH0


TROKOSI

Traditional slavery practiced in Ghana where girls pay for the sins of their ancestors. Produced for 60 Minutes by Andrew Tkach and Christiane Amanpour.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05nzPiXUkdw


MODERN DAY SLAVES - NIGER

The chains and markets may be gone, but in 21st century Africa, people are still being born as slaves.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZfsB5g-R9eQ


Documentary. The Dark Side Of Chocolate

The Chocolate Industry. Child Trafficking & Slavery


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Vfbv6hNeng


Modern Slavery in Africa

This should be required viewing for all American children so that they would realize how lucky they are. Education is a privilege, not a chore


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KzuXdr6ZUzU



Congo Story: Children of Rape Pt. 2: Sex Slaves

he United Nations says thousands of children still serve militias in the Democratic Republic of Congo, despite efforts to rescue them. The hardest to find are the girls.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbQQ63fO7go


Human Trafficking: Modern-day Slavery in America

Newark, New Jersey (CNN) -- They arrived in the United States from West Africa, young girls held against their will and forced to work for hours on end. But this time, it didn't happen hundreds of years ago.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tQDYvPrE6k


Of Human Bondage: Slavery Today

Producer Andrew Tkach and correspondent Don Kladstrup investigate modern day slavery in India, Brazil, and USA for ABC News Turning Point. This ground breaking report won a Dupont Silver Baton, Investigative News Emmy, and Overseas Press Club Award.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w9zqdhYXlxg


Modern Slavery in Emirate, USA Allay

Child slavery in Emirate biggest America's allay on 21st century. This is inhuman and brutality against children and must stop somehow.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8dkR7VgYfo


Invisible Slavery: Overseas Domestic Workers in the UK

This short video explains the changes made to the Overseas Domestic Workers visa in the UK in April 2012, and the likely consequences it will have on migrant workers.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5x7wtlwC0Y


Slavery of Domestic Workers in the U.S.

A protest against the abuses that domestic workers face in the United States, was held in Washington, DC, on December 10th, 2010 the Human Rights World Day. This protests included a visit to the Embassies of Argentina, Mozambique and Peru, where employees are abusing domestic workers. This action was organized by Casa de Maryland.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgBuvhB_FoY


Jamaica Sting Video - Child Sex Slave Industry


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYocb8h3LVY


ENSLAVED AND EXPLOITED: The Story of Sex Trafficking in Canada - Hope For The Sold


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kothPyoyvDE


For The Record: Human Trafficking in the United States

With all the Human Rights discussions going on in our country, this is the most important, the most critical, and it gets the least amount of attention. This is slavery on our own soil. Please share this video, and watch it with your teenagers. Our youth needs to know the evil that exists in our society.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vX5ReSxBaFw


This World Child Slavery

There are still children working and living as slaves today.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H54-oYMkisY


Human Trafficking of Ethiopians to Yemen

Untold horror stories of Ethiopians crossing the desert to reach Saudi Arabia though Yemen.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4rsDCQiHpM

SUDAN

Slavery has always been part of Sudan's history, but in recent years it has become a new means in Sudanese warfare. Since 1995 the John Eibner of the Swiss organisation Christian Solidarity International (CSI) has been buying the freedom of about 25,000 slaves for only U$ 50,- per person. These slaves are mainly women and children, captured as war-booty by armed forces of the Government of Sudan.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfV5PIAqkSQ


NAURITANIA

Mauritania's endless sea of sand dunes hides an open secret: An estimated 10% to 20% of the population lives in slavery.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5yQlOPD8mNo

SLAVERY IN MAURITANIA: AN UPDATE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbytHpq_RCQ


NIGERIA

Funding, weak legislation and poor law enforcement are some of the issues hindering the fight against human trafficking in Nigeria. A new report by the United States Department of State revealed that while the Nigerian government has made efforts in eliminating trafficking in persons, there were a number of standards yet to be complied with. The report says "In 2012, a total number of 60 girls aged 16-25 were rescued from slave masters in Ghana and Ivory Coast. While in 2011, 104 Nigerian girls used as sex slaves were evacuated from Mali where they were paid as little as 500 CFAs, that's N150 for sex". In the just released 2013 US Department of State Trafficking in Persons Report, Nigeria remained in tier 2 status because the "government of Nigeria does not fully comply with the minimum standards for the elimination of trafficking".

Channels Television correspondent, Doris Okenwa examines the trend of trafficking of young ladies as sex slaves.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDB208xWxBk


GHANA

Watch the negotiations for the release of a child from slavery. Adults and children describe how child trafficking has impacted their lives and the communities they live in. One grandmother describes her reasons for sending her orphaned grand-children to work as slaves at Lake Volta. Johnbull and Stacy Omorefe have founded City of Refuge Ministries, a Christian nonprofit organization located in Ghana, West Africa. They work tirelessly to spread the word of the severe injustices occurring on Lake Volta. Their passion and desire for change is infectious. City of Refuge provides rescued children with a home and education at their Children's Village in Doryumu, Ghana. Autumn Buzzell is the director of their thriving school Faith Roots International Academy. Ten to fifteen students, or about ten percent of all students, are rescued child slaves. Most other students are from the surrounding villages.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGGDKwTCARM


JUJU RITUALS, S-XUAL SLAVERY IN UK

Young women and girls are being lured from their home countries with offers of work and trafficked into Britain, only to be forced into prostitution. Authorities have uncovered a trend where West African 'juju' witchcraft is used to manipulate them into submission. VoR takes an in-depth look at the issue.

In October last year Osezua Osloase, a Nigerian people smuggler, was convicted at Canterbury Crown Court of five counts of trafficking for sexual exploitation, one count of rape and one count of sexual activity with a child, and jailed for 20 years. He had used 'juju' rituals to coerce his victims into beliveing that they had a debt of bondage to him and a demi-god, which they had to pay off through working as prostitutes for him. Police found that at least 28 victims were smuggled in and out of Britain to the rest of Europe over a 14-month period, earning him up to £1.5mn. He targeted vulnerable individuals such as orphans, enticing them with false promises and enforcing their servitude with violent threats, warning that the curses they were under would harm them if they ever spoke out. The case is one of several that is raising the profile of human trafficking and modern day slavery, which still occurs across the world.

Juju comes from the traditional African religion popularly known as voodoo, but can be used to brainwash victims into believing that they are cursed and owe debts to a spirit.

Detective Eddie Fox from Kent Police said this was the first time he'd seen a human trafficking case where the exploitation began with a juju ritual, but that trafficking is on the rise.

"This was my first experience of trafficking with juju corruption involved. The rape of the female wasn't about sex but breaking the will of the girl," he said.

"This case is the tip of the iceberg, human trafficking is going on internationally. How much comes through the UK I don't know, at the moment we're trying to get to the bottom of how many victims are coming through."

Osezua Osloase was able to operate his trafficking business from Kent, using his connections and scams to develop a system for fraudulently obtaining legitimate visas. His victims were physically and mentally abused through having to relinquish any control over their lives because of the power of the juju.

Dr. Hermione Harris is an anthropologist and African juju ritual expert at London University School of Oriental and African Studies. She said that the influence of such long standing traditions is powerful and inspires a great deal of fear.

"The traffickers want to have some of the young women's blood as it contains the essence of the spirit; if you have the blood it means you have control," Dr. Harris said.

"This goes deep into their consciousness especially if accompanied by a terrifying ritual where the priest is dressed in a terrifying way for dramatic effect. The women are so frightened by this they think if they speak about it something dreadful will happen to them."

Selling children into slavery is one of the world's most heinous crimes and modern day slavery is organised, sophisticated and profitable.


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When two people come together to get married, they make a vow to become one. In some cases where dowries are paid, some husbands believe they have full rights to their wives including the right to have s-x whenever it pleases them with or without their wives’ consent. But how far do these rights go?

Saturday PUNCH asked some people if it was possible for a husband to molest his wife.

Below are a few of the comments received:

YES, it IS possible for a husband to molest his wife.

*S-x has to do with consent. Yes, a husband can molest his wife because the two parties have to consent to having s-x. The moment the wife is not interested in having s-x and the husband uses all possible means to have s-x with her, then it automatically becomes molestation. Unless the woman agrees, if a husband forces his way, it can be termed as molestation. -Ohi Oyakhire

*Molestation has to do with force. A husband can molest his wife because molestation has to do with force. There should always be an agreement between a husband and his wife before s-x. If there is no agreement between them, then we can call that molestation. So most times, wives have no other option than to allow their husbands have their way even if they are not in the mood. -Aminat Okunnuga

*Yes, a husband can molest his wife. It is possible for a husband to molest his wife because if the husband feels like it and the lady does not feel like it, then if the husband ends up forcing his wife to have s-x, it will be counted as molestation. This is because s-x has to do with the husband and the wife coming together to agree. -Tunde Alabi

*It is an offence against nature and God. Yes, a husband can molest his wife. Sometimes when a husband is s-xually aroused and he’s too weak to control the urge, it can lead him to molest his wife. But this is an offence against nature and God, because both of them have not agreed to have s-x at that moment. God created s-x for the couple to enjoy and for them to also come together as one body. However, if this is not respected by the husband, it becomes molestation. -Moyosoreoluwa Aregbesola

*Selfish s-x is molestation. Normally, this has to do with both the husband and his wife coming as one to agree and satisfy themselves. But if it is not the aim of the husband to also satisfy his wife, then we can call it molestation. For instance, the husband might be in the mood while the wife .is not, but if the husband wants this for his satisfaction alone and not for his wife’s since she’s not agreeing to it at that moment, then it is molestation. -Dele Osho

*A lot of molestation cases in marriage. Apparently, a husband can be said to have molested his wife. The wife might have declined to have s-x with him probably because they had a disagreement. So if she says ‘no’ and the husband forces himself on her, we can call it molestation. -Adetayo Ojelabi

*S-x should be a mutual agreement. S-x is supposed to be mutually agreed between the two parties, and normally the husband is meant to prepare his wife for this action. Because of the nature of women, men are meant to make their s-xual needs known to their women. With this in mind, the woman will know and will accept. But if the husband insists on going for the action without preparing and waiting for the wife to be ready or accept, then it is molestation. -Kehinde Akinbo

*S-x shouldn’t be done with force. Having intimacy with the wife should not be done with force. The moment the husband forces himself on his wife, definitely, it is molestation. -Bola Oni


NO, it's NOT possible for a man to molest his wife.

*There is nothing like molestation in marriage. In my own opinion, it is not possible for a husband to molest his wife because normally, the woman is your wife. And as the wife, the husband has the right to call on her anytime he wishes. However, the husband should also understand the mood of the wife to know when she is ready or not. In short, the husband should be understanding. -Paul Jaja


QUESTIONS:

What do YOU think?

Is it...OR...Is it not possible for a husband to molest his wife?

If the wife considers forced s-x molestation, should she press charges against her husband?

As a wife, what would YOU do if YOUR husband forced s-x on YOU, when YOU weren't in the mood?