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@ bee goodd,

i feel your pain, 101% of guys will hardly understand, i was having such issues with my ex at a time but i learnt to trust her in whatever she told me cos if she never told me chances are that i may never know, you did what was right but i guess you cant change things now, he definitely sees you differently just carry on with your life.In the future,before ever you say anything sensitive to anyone be sure the individual has the heart to accomodate it.

all the best.

@ sultaan,

let us accept what you have said pending when our gear boxes start having problems, after all how many nigerians have set their eyes on owner's manual when 70% of cars on our roads are over 10years old!!!

Reverend:
If you do, that would make you the worlds biggest fool

do what Mr. reverend? terminate or carry on?

thanks MR neo_welsh deAngelo

kobe:
This is subjective. I agree that refusal to date someone over religious differences in this day and age seems ignorant.

its not ignorance but a wise course to take

kobe:
I guess the more important question here is: how will the difference in religion affect the relationship.
If they try it out and [b]it has a noticeable negative impact on their relationship, then it would be best to digress from contuing the relationship.[/b]

i want to believe this sums it all. if you must give it a try which is not advisable, will there be any noticeable negative impact?

the contribtions have been great, i choose not to answer certain questions so we dont end up in the "religion" section.

i would have had to subscribe to Aisha2's opinion but the truth is this issue shouldnt be treated lightly, we all have our opinions based on background and what we choose to believe.

I RESPECT EVERYBODY'S OPINION, LIKEWISE MINE.

Kashif:
If you are looking for a for-better-for-worse relationship then, religious/spriritual differences must must be given top consideration. If you are the spiritually minded then, you should have known that it is a major barrier and will eventually suffocate the relationship.

On the other hand, if it is just any other relationship, then there should be an understanding and tolerance knowing you both are going nowhere together.

Things like spiritual, genetical, and goals incompatibilities should not be treated with levity. Be a man and know that what can't be shouldn't be.

Cheers.

thanks for your contribution, you are very correct but guess what? the relationship actually started as casual but at a stage we felt like it can be taken to another level because everything was just too perfect. thanks all the same.

We've been dating for over a year now and everything was perfect but one: religious incompatibility. we knew this was a problem from the start but we probably thought one of us would be willing to change to the other's religion, I did the much I could, attended her church for close to a year but i wasn't comfortable because what i believe does not go with the teachings in her church. It was difficult but we had to agree to end the relationship if no one was willing to bend.

What would you have done in this situation?

yemivictor:
I agree with almondjoy completely!

We should learn to forgive because it is a virtue in itself!!

And i dare say that i'm a living witness & beneficiary of almondjoy's large heart!!!

Her graciousness @ forgiving easily also!!

What a wonderful lady she is!

And i hear she's not bad looking & that she's got cute nails too!!!

I happen to have a fetish for cute nails! . . . . . . . .

A big kiss to you AJ!

Mmmwwaaaaaaaaaaahh!!! :-*

I hope you took permission from Mr. Almond.

Bblak:
Lol _{she must be very daft then}

not necessarily!!! i have seen intelligent girls do stupid things and later they are left wondering: how could i have done that? anything that involves emotions can be highly unpredictable.

all this unnecessary bickering is the reason NAIRALAND is losing its age long spices.


Which Part Of your Body Is The Most Sensitive? MY KNEE!!!! Did anyone get hurt? i guess NO.

jkpretty:
Yeah and the truth is that the good guy might still want to go to the altar with u. But he hurt remains unpardonable. And u'll rather break up. Or are u saying good guys don't hurt?

may be am not getting you clearly, hurt as in heartbreak or just getting you angry over trivial issues?

11. she smiles even when you know what you just said was stupid

whoever hurts you is a bad guy!!! good guys go all the wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to the ALTAR, Unless it becomes unavoidably necessary.

your girlfriend or wify just cheated on you? i feel ya pains brother.

@ michelin89,

you did absolutely nothing WRONG.

reason: I Flirted With My Friend's Favorite Guy

it simply means she has a good number of them, so ride on, both of you are in the game.

MyPeace:
Anyone has first hand experience with Intercontinental Premium Savings Account? (IPSA)

you dont have to pay any fee on your IPSA A/C rather you receive interest, just that at every point in time you must have a minimum of N5000 (5k) balance in your account

@ poster,

please may i know your definition of "illiterate" before i can make any meaningful contribution because even with a doctorate some people are still not learned.

my sister let's say things as they actually are: you are begining to see someone that you admire, thats my opinion, for you to have dated someone for 6years!! some marriages dont last that long!!! his BASKET MOUTH didnt start yesterday, did it? shhhhh, NO!!!
how were you coping? what were your intentions of getting into the relationship? exploration? i do not think its a major problem anyway, if you 've been talking to him and he doesnt listen i believe in one thing, tell him you told someone a secret of his and see his reaction, if he feels bad then let him know thats how you feel when you hear nasty things from third parties, if he's okay with it then thats part of his personality and there is little you can do about it.

good luck.

funkybaby:
@ZHEROES

You are right again. She might not necessarily cook but sometimes, she can drop cards or little gifts at his place reassuring him of her love and faithfulness.
let me tell you this - Not all men think or act like you do(messing up girls' hearts and emotions). They are still a few good men out there. Zheroes, funke's Boo and maybe this poster's Boo happens to be among the few.

For your info, he gives me unlimited access to his bank card(with the PIN) to shop as i like anytime we are in UK together.

WORD! can it be better than this, i doubt

@ poster,
to reiterate my points,based on my experience, it simply means he is ready to take you serious and he loves you, just heed the good advices given on this thread and am convinced you wont regret it. although on rare occasions which am yet to experience, a guy may want to do otherwise basically due to
1. IMMATURITY- Still a teenager or probably still an undergraduate and is a dependant.
2. A LACK OF A GOOD SENSE OF RESPONSIBILITY- he is still scared of commitments

besides such attitudes, you basically do not have a problem because am convinced you never asked him for it. continue to be your self and it will be well with you.like was said inform him before coming, it helps , if you come without telling him he would likely begin thinking you are suspecting him and that isn't healthy for the relationship. if you're in his apartment with him and a call comes in NEVER bother to know who it is, some would say isn't that risky? if it was he wont give his spare keys to you in the first place

let me give you a tip, it worked for me i do not know about him, although it depends on the nature of your job or if you are an undergraduate, my girlfriend would surprise me by coming home to prepare what i liked the most,may be fruit salad, baking of cake or whatever, then she would leave before am back, all she does was send me an sms that she prepared something for me, even if i get home very late i still take the stress of driving down to pick her up because sometimes her scent lingers in the room or on the pillows, the truth is :you have a baked cake with you now, what is left is the icing,  how you about it matters a lot, I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.

funkybaby:
No RIGHT thinking man would give his keys to several ladies. Players don't act that way. He will spend more time settling fights than screwing which his is original intention.
An average guy can bed as many cheap ladies as possible without even showing the way to his crib to them how much more giving them spare keys.

i remember when i gave my girlfriend my spare key , my best friend (guy) was like how could you do that, he said i can ask her to come around whenever i needed her but lo and behold , i have found my bride!!!!truth was i was ready for her, really like funkybaby has said players NEVER give their keys to numerous girls, thats not clinical.

bennygee:
its an old trick of the love book.
its meant to make u beleive u can come and go as u please
all na lie.
do u know how many other ladies have that key?
key cutting is very cheap ooo.
na today
we don do that one far tey

i guess its only a stupid and irresponsible guy that will give 20 keys to 20 girls, afterall she never asked for it, he did it willingly.

i will like to add that its a great plus for you if the guy is in his late twenties or early thirties, what i mean here is he shouldnt be a student , from my experience if he isnt responsible to himself it means nothing but good time for sex, if he works amd isnt depending on anyone for sustenance, my sister just put your heads down , your prayers are almost answered.

@ poster,

are you referring to domineering:she wants her opinion to always to be taken,she is always too forward, before you take a step, she has taken five, you have a problem with your friend before you say jack, she has said whatever, police officers would stop you on the way knowing you are wrong you try to settle problems amicably, but there she is shouting and ranting that you allowed them take you for a ride, this type me i go waka fast leave am, as for a smart or smarter lady, its great because evrything will go in your favour, you are confident she wont fumble in your absence, she would chat your friends up in your absence and make them comfortable, that a BIG plus, you most likely will have intelligent kids, the gains are endless.

@ poster,
i can only deduce something from your question:
1.HE INTENDS TO TAKE YOU SERIOUS. i gave the keys to my apartment to my girlfriend when it was clear i intend to settle down with her, do you know what it means, yes , you could prepare meals for him in absentia, do you know what it means to eat what a lady has prepared, you NEVER can tell, every is possible,
2.he would hardly consider the option of bringing another lady home because you can be there at any time, well for me, simply means you ve won his heart.
3.i can say to a resaonable extent he's got some level of trust for you.

i recall a similar incidence when i went to a restaurant some two years ago, a guy and his girlfriend walked in arguing, before those of us standing in the queue could comprehend why any decent fellow should be yelling in public, the girlfriend gave the boyfriend a good slap, guess what happened? the boyfriend started crying, i guess it wasn't because of the pain but because his girl could do this in public, not long after that she too started crying and they both held themselves and left the restaurant, it was the greatest LIVE DRAMA i I've ever witnessed, it became the talk in the restaurant for a week.

A lot of people said they will walk away, i guess that is easier said considering the reactions we get here over minor issues, its the most appropriate thing to do anyway, and that is exactly what i will do , but in the first instance i cannot be with any animal that can slap.

Doctor ! Doctor ! Give Me The News!

A young doctor had moved out to a small community to replace a doctor Who was retiring. The older gent suggested the young one accompany him on his rounds so the community could come used to a new doctor .

At the first house a woman complained, "I've been a little sick to my stomach." The older doctor said, "Well, you've probably been overdoing the fresh fruit. Why not cut back on the amount you've been eating and see if that does the trick?"

As they left the younger man said, "You didn't even examine that woman. How'd you come to your diagnosis so quickly?"

I didn't have to. You noticed I dropped my stethoscope on the floor in there? When I bent over to pick it up, I noticed a half dozen banana peels in the trash. That was what was probably making her sick."

"Huh," the younger doctor said, "pretty sneaky. I think I'll try that at the next house." Arriving at the next house, they spent several minutes talking with another woman. She complained that she just didn't have the energy she once did. I'm feeling terribly run down lately."

You've probably been doing too much work for the church," the younger doctor told her. "Perhaps you should cut back a bit and see if that helps."

As they left, the elder doctor said, "Your diagnosis is almost certainly correct, but how did you arrive at it?"

"Well, just like you at the last house, I dropped my stethoscope. When I bent down to retrieve it, I noticed the preacher under the bed."


hey people, i hope this makes your day.

BTreasures:
NONE OF THE ABOVE! WHY? We have not visited all their branches to be conclusive in our response. Try visiting every branch that will inform the basis for our respnse.

your response is sooooooooooooo funny. people nationwide are making comments based on the different branches they have visited or bank with , what more do you want ?just like when weather forecast says temperature in lagos is 35 degrees, you disagree that they should visit every street in lagos to authenticate their claims, that a building is on fire at oshodi so that region is like 100 degrees!!!! may be you should start a TOUR of all the branches of banks in the country, i guess the responses here speaks volume.