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i thot of sending one to you, but never saw your number, were you expecting me to send it along with this msg? THERE ARE BEES HERE!!!!!!!!!!! besides, i have changed my mind.

@ poster,

your story sounds interesting, i will be through reading it by tomorrow.

tboy1:
@ zheroes

Do you know its not by FORCE to post a Topic

sylvao2000:
@Poster

Which of this will you prefere either.

1) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your uncle or brother ?
2) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your best friend or your enemy ?
3) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your houseboy or gateman ?
4) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your pastor or choir master ?

Please avoid the use of foul language or insulting words thanks you and happy valentine

i had to rephrase, thanks.

@ zheroes

Do you know its not by FORCE to post a Topic

[/quote]yes i am aware, i said if you must, i have my reasons for asking if i ever did, i also expected you to ignore if it wasnt what you were looking for, am i making any sense?

[quote author=sylvao2000 link=topic=112667.msg1954401#msg1954401 date=1202986823][color=#990000]@Poster

Which if this will you prefere either.

1) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your uncle or brother ?
2) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your best friend or your enemy ?
3) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your houseboy or gateman ?
4) Your girlfriend or wife sleep with your pastor or choir master ?

which isame as will you prefer your girlfriend/wife with another guy ? this doesnt make sense to you does it?

will you prefer your girlfriend/wife with another guy OR a lady(lesbian)

hi people,

My sis is having this problem in school with her room mate, she said she is having a feeling for her room mate and she senses same from the room mate, but the problem is the both of them are waiting for who would make the first move (traits of lesbeez), she discussed this with her boyfriend and the guy said: if i get the both of you i will make love to the both of you.

if you were the boyfriend, will that be your reaction or were you to be a girl and your boyfriend is in that situation?

First thing before she resumes for work on the first monday of any month, meet her just outside her office premises and propose to her,i bet you,she will be promoted that week, at worst that month.

chychy:
I guess this is strictly 4 d married.

What of d singles?

NO!!!!!!!!!! am single.

actually some years back i found myself in this situation, being very intimate with  a married lady were i once worked, she would tell me everything about her husband especially when he doesnt treat her right, while i did the best i could, i knew i wasnt going to play the role of the husband in any way because life was still interesting to me.

At a stage though, i felt the husband was becoming a little bit uneasy,because we are age mates(wife) so i had to go for the rule no.5: Introduce your real spouse to your office spouse.

we became real close friends such that when they travel he would send some gifts for me through the wife, its fun, but it can get realllyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy riskyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!


[size=18pt]OVER TO YOU PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!![/size]

He knows your birthday, your favorite food, worst fear, and deepest, darkest secret. No, it’s not your husband, the man you promised to love and cherish until the day you die. It’s your office spouse.

An office spouse meets emotional needs, going beyond the requirements of the job.If you are in a bind, here is a co-worker,someone of the opposite sex -- who will care for you, who you can depend on, and who you can confide in.

Maintaining a healthy and nonsexual relationship with an office spouse can be tricky and sometimes detrimental to your real marriage. From walking a thin line between friendship and adultery, to avoiding a workplace husband or wife altogether, to keeping it strictly platonic.There’s an intimacy between you ,  yet you’re not intimate.

rules of engagement

If you have an office spouse, staying on the right side of the line is a must, for both your marriage and your career. Here are the rules of engagement:

1.Don’t share personal information at work, especially information about your marriage.If someone else starts to share their information with you, let them know you are not interested. It’s very hard to do, but don’t let it get personal. If someone does share personal information with you, tell your spouse about it so you’re not creating your own world at work that your spouse isn’t aware of.

2.If you do get personal, be careful how you categorize your marriage. If you are not getting along with your husband, and there is someone at the office who does care for you, and you tell them that, then you’re off and running. If you say, ‘I am crazy about my husband and we love each other so much,’ the other person is less likely to invest time or emotion into the relationship.

3.Don’t be alone with a person of the opposite sex separate from your job. For example, don’t carpool one-on-one, don’t engage in recreational activities after work, or if you have to travel for work with one person, bring your spouse. Romantic relationships develop out of recreational activities and intimate conversations -- those are the two major hooks.

4.Don’t drink with your office spouse. There’s a strict no alcohol rule with the office spouse, because when you drink the lines get blurred.

5.Introduce your real spouse to your office spouse. Go out to dinner with your office spouse and his or her significant other, and yours. Make your real spouse included in the relationship so it doesn’t feel exclusive.

6.Avoid constantly talking about your office spouse at home. Your real spouse should know about your office spouse, but don’t overdo it.

It’s a risk-benefit scenario, so if your marriage is important to you, you might want to give serious consideration to keeping your office relationships professional.

While an office spouse poses a threat, it’s not beyond the realm of possibility that the relationship can remain platonic.

ebumowa:
@babycool:
Ask her if she is a lesbian, and if she is a lesbian (and interested in you), let her know that you are not interested. That's all you have to do.

good one!!!!!!!! the chairlady has spoken.

hey people,

sometimes an office spouse is more in tune with your life than a real husband or wife, i mean having to work together for some 50-80 hours a week, i know things can get dicey, so what are the rules of engagement?
if you have or had any you could share your experiences if you care.


i will join you guys later.

ST3V3:
This sounds harsh though, but its the truth. Jobless men should'nt have girlfriends!

only few reasonable men can see it this way.

true talk!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but waht if they were already going out before the jobless situation sets in? automatic break up? am just guesssing

hotfunmi:
Question:
Why is it that guys find it dfficult to wait on sex until after marriage? They always want to get there first, why can't y'all wait for something you'll eventually get in abundance?

a friend once asked this question, and got this response but i don't know how true .

' MEN ARE BY NATURE INVESTORS, AND FROM TIME TO TIME YOU NEED TO BE PAID YOUR DIVIDENDS".

"i guess nobody irrespective of gender would love to work in a company for say 1year then the company tells you we shall pay you lump sum upon retiring,you are not entitled to salaries yet." please just my opinion.

this is what i call "DEMOCRACY"

henchmark:
hi Aisha,

its being a while i read a recent post from you, seems your kind of busy, how are you doing?
am not going to say i want to meet you, no !!!!!!!!!, am not interested in that but if it happens, cool, i ain't got no stress meeting people, but that should be secondary.

i love reading your posts because you're always real, no pretense, i appreciate that because for heaven sakes nairaland has granted us the anonymity we yearn for and yet i find it unimaginable that people still pretend in the dark, it simply rings something in ma head: NAIJA HAS GOT A LONG WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

please how do i communicate with you? i don't want your number and am not giving mine either, its crazy typing one's private number in a forum.

how do i get your yahoo details? anticipating your response, great day to you.

Go on brother!!!!!!!!!!!! you are a "DEMOCRAT"

efuah:
^{just peeping}

stop peeping!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!get involved

my brofer,

you dont need any such thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

all you need is 2 banners!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!10ft*3ft

one should be at the entrance of the street leading to your house, the other should be at your father in-law's place, at least everybody can see that one.

i hope this helps.

jumygirl:
hi naira landers, my boyfriend claims he can't see me on vals day because of "TRAFFIC" from where he stays (ikoyi) to where i stay (surulere). please what do u guys think?

so because i said i may not make it due to the traffic, you brought your case to the altar,

well, until i see you.

Easybaby:
Then, go and see someone else

yes, go and see someone else, GO AND SEE HIM ( your boyfriend). I guess he lives somewhere, am suggesting this so you remove all doubts that he intends seeing someone.

that should solve your problem, take care.

@ poster,

did she grow fat overnight?

Seems you've got a very smart daughter here. Don't force her. Allow her to excercise "God-given freewill".

there is nothing wrong in exercising her God given freewill but at what age? is she the one catering for herself? if you talk about free will, it means i would have started making love at age four, you will think its stupid but that the truth, you dont grant freedom to a child all of a sudden, if you must it got to be gradual. what kind of freedom are we talkin about?

@ poster,

force her to go with you, i guess she is still an infant and very likely under the influence of her peers, i dont know what laws prevail in your area though,at a later age, may be 18 she can decide to walk with her head. always make her understand that the decision to be whatever is solely dependent on her.

jkpretty:
I believe if u are past 15 years & still bed wet Its a Problem.

not neccassarily. if i have a child that bed-wets, i wont panic until he gets to 20yrs, afterwards i will see a doctor.

may be and may be not, but those are traits perculiar to lesbeez.

just be a little more patient, you may not need to wait for another year.

good luck

if you haven't experienced this you may just be guessing.
@poster,
what you need to find out is how old she is and how regular? i was bed-wetting till 16. My parents almost killed me,every morning enough flogging,infact it got so bad that sometimes i get scared of sleeping because if i sleep as early as 6pm know for sure i will bedwet twice or thrice that night(6-10pm=round 1,11pm-2am=round 2,3-6am=round 3), i don't visit people and sleep over otherwise i get embarrassed, there was actually a period i had to tie my d**k so that when its coming i will know, FOR WHERE? i woke up and the bed was wet, i was almost cursing God because i couldn't help myself and the people around me were not helping issues. the bad part is: you will see yourself dreaming that you are actually peeing in a toilet not knowing its your bed.

i am confident it has a great relationship with age, and the frequency could also be a matter of concern. but if after a while(20years and above) you still experience it go see a doctor.

to your question, i experienced that with my girlfriend a certain time, just once in over 4 years, thats nothing to worry over. i could see she was really embarrassed, i had to really make her feel its no big deal, that i have always been a victim, i asked her to go shower while i undressed the bed and offered to wash the bed sheets and her clothes.