Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,194,990 members, 7,956,697 topics. Date: Monday, 23 September 2024 at 05:01 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? (58471 Views)
Poll: Is it advisable for a woman to share her past with her man?Yes - honesty is beneficial: 63% (101 votes)No - most men can't handle it: 36% (57 votes) This poll has ended |
Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? / How Can A Man Know That He Is Good At Bed? / God Exposed My Girlfriend's Past And Present When She Went For Youth Service (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by mlawal: 1:30pm On Jan 25, 2008 |
if it's health wise YES! why not?.men are vey jealous!!! when it's comes to dat,especially when they are truely in love.when a man knows ur past ,that man will use its against u(as in yab you) make u regret why u told him about ur past. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by squirrel20(f): 7:08pm On Feb 06, 2008 |
IF THE MAN WANTS TO KNOW, THEN HE CAN ASK HIS WIFE BUT I DON'T THINK IT IS NECESSARY THE WIFE STARTS TELLING HIM ABOUT ALL THE THINGS SHE HAS DONE IN THE PAST COS AT THE END OF THE DAY THE MAN/HUSBAND WOULD HAVE DONE OTHER THINGS IN THE PAST AS WELL, EVEN IF HE HEARS IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE, I DON'T THINK HE HAS ANY RIGHT TO GET UPSET COS EVERYTHING HAPPENED IN THE PAST BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by yemivictor: 10:18am On Feb 07, 2008 |
squirrel20: Crap!!! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by squirrel20(f): 11:52am On Feb 07, 2008 |
yemivictor: ALL YOU'VE SAID IS CRAP, SAY SOMETHING BETTER THAT IS IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by kingsikaz(m): 4:23pm On Feb 07, 2008 |
true relationship should be base on the foundation of trust and sincerity. both parties must be open-minded. a relationship in which either of of the parties has closed mind is heading to the grave. genuiness is the word. both parties must know each other secrets though nothing is secret on earth. they shouldn't be ignorant of past issues about their lives. you might say it doesn't matter . mind you what doesn't matter today will later be the matters-arising! dont be a stranger ! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by yemivictor: 11:49am On Feb 08, 2008 |
squirrel20: NEED I SAY MORE!!! You see! This is what happens when people just stumble on a thread and post, just for the sake of posting without carefully reading through the pages! Go through the pages and you'd see my numerous contributions! And if you're mentally lazy to do that, just read the post right after the last one you posted! If it'll make any sense to you . . . that is! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by squirrel20(f): 6:12pm On Feb 08, 2008 |
yemivictor: ALL I CAN SAY IS YOU NEED HELP. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by ruudgal: 12:05am On Feb 09, 2008 |
i still find it amazing that men beleive their pasts can be forgiven and well ladies, subject to contemplation, a player who has dated and used other girls suddenly claims redemption and says i want to settle down, she accepts and she;s OK, she says, i have dated laods of men, i've done this, done that, and the guy immediately thinks, she's going to do the same thing to me, or damn, how do i compete witha ll these shadows in her past///////////////// if a guy killed or robbed, hed expect his chic to stick by him,, why cant females be given that same loop hole, we cant all be perfect wives or husbands, Show me a poerosn who doesnt have a past and i'll show u someone who has not yet been born, Dont be judgemental about your girl, its good to know about the past, that way, nothign anyone says can shock u, wher eu should have cause for concern is if she speaks about ti with so much pride and arrogance as opposed to someone who is repentant, Then you can question how far your willing to go in the relationship, Anyother reason for being judgemental is just not acceptable, |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by michelin: 2:49am On Feb 09, 2008 |
If a woman is faithful to his man so i dont see any reason why she should not shear her past with her man. And on the other side, a man should always tke it as a thing of past and should not take it as a thing of consideration becouse it has becomes a thing of past. That is my own idea. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by treadstone(m): 5:05am On Feb 09, 2008 |
it is just like beating around the bush.the only thing you have to know about your future wife is her origination.every other thing is irrelevant.because you might faint when you hear from inquiry that she was formerly a red street light agent.be specific,go for gold. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by almondjoy(f): 5:29am On Feb 09, 2008 |
treadstone: Boy. I am so glad I left out a lot of details----Sorry Mr. Almondo--don't want to know yours either. Just keep paying the bills. That is the only thing that concerns us. People just use things against you when they are mad at you. God forbid!--The magic of the Nigerian loose tongue. The most glorious of gossips! michelin: Sure! Looks good on paper! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by shuppie(f): 3:09pm On Jun 12, 2008 |
@ sienna , i agree with u, whatever happened in the past should stay in the past. we are human beings, and we re meant to make mistakes, unless a woman was into prostitution, carrying aristo, participated in a sex orgy, or had been involved in a swing, anything apart from these. and people should not be judged by the mistakes they made, but by the goodness in them which they can show to others, it's as simple as that. if the man insists, and if he feels he can handle the truth, then goodluck to them. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by kingsikaz(m): 3:45pm On Jun 12, 2008 |
i fink there's need for d couple to sit down n discuss their past with positive n lovin mindset( not for condemnation). they need to iron-out those things DONE IN D DARK for there's no such thing as SECRET for SECRET (itself) IS EVEN LOOKING FOR a hidding place from generation2generation. everythin matters when it comes to marriage for "True marriage is based on the foundation of Trust, sincerity,honesty and openess of heart" what seems doesn't matter will later becomes the matters-arising! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by folly69(m): 1:38pm On Jun 13, 2008 |
Really i think a man should know his womans past only if he can handle it and he truly loves her e.g real life scenario a girl told her boyfriend about her past ,she got drunk once and two guys she took as friends had thier way with her while she was unconcious as they say its a small world afterall one of those guys happened to b the boyfriends younger brothers friend well since the guy already knew what happened the culprit wanted to slander her but her boyfriend shut him up made him to apologize to her for what him and his friend did.So i personally think its rite for a guy to know about his girls past provided he loves her truly and can handle it. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by buzyDiva(f): 1:38pm On Jun 13, 2008 |
What u don't know won't kill u!!! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by yemivictor: 2:02pm On Jun 13, 2008 |
buzyDiva: That is a lie from the pit of hell!!! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by yemivictor: 2:04pm On Jun 13, 2008 |
There's no greater disease than ignorance . . . . . |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by bdaf(m): 2:11pm On Jun 13, 2008 |
knowig each others past helps one to understand certain situations, such when a boy/girl friend from the past wants to mess up one's present relationship. by knowing b4 hand, situation will b put under check becos of knowledge of the past. also, it helps one to make corrections |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by MyAfriplac: 1:20am On Jun 21, 2008 |
leave the past behind but as one writer said it is important to know if there are any significant health issues. other than that leave her ex's or his ex's in the past. Bringing them up will create ghosts www.Myafriplace.com |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by galatico(m): 1:44pm On Jun 21, 2008 |
It doesn't matter al that matters it when you meet you turn a new leaf, Let the past be gone what matters is the future, |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Chat2MeBac(f): 6:53am On Jun 22, 2008 |
@topic As long as he is willing to share his( and the truthful version) Why not?? |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by MrCrackles(m): 12:37pm On Sep 22, 2008 |
what is there to gain by knowing about someone's past?! |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by ceasyc(f): 10:16pm On Sep 22, 2008 |
its a no no!! they (men) just cant handle it talking from experience dont start getting ideas oh i didnt do nutin wrong - well so i tot just told him wat happened during my childhood/wen i waz a child he went bonkers, asked me 2 revenge (horrible type) i didnt so he made my secret/past public & ended marriage he was my hubby 4 pete's sake! just some1 2 talk to (sort of therapeutic) & i tot past was past 1 or 2 guys i told after marriage ended did not react like he did & i was only dating dem well different ppl react to d same tin differently so it depends but u cant read minds and no who will take it well or not so its best not to i've moved on now - thx 2 God |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by ula(f): 11:09am On Sep 23, 2008 |
i dont think so. most guys wont be able 2 handle it. 4 heavens sake, can u as a woman tell a man the number of men uve dated or the things u did in the relationship? it takes a great deal of maturity 2 handle knowing one's past. if its a situation like having a baby, that can b told because it will always be known some day but any other thing shouldnt. when i was in final yr in the university, i told my boyfriend at the time my past. he couldnt handle it. we dated 4 a semester and he broke it off, said he couldnt get it out of his mind. his friends even asked why i told him. they advised i dont tell anything about my past becos a lot of guys cant handle it. so i learnt. whats important is the present and the future. 1 Like |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by yemivictor: 6:03pm On Sep 23, 2008 |
When you girls keep saying a guy can't handle knowing about your past! I keep wondering if you screwed 2 guys @ the same time or what!? |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Maykelly(f): 11:02am On Oct 06, 2008 |
Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? Yes. It is very important that a man should know the past of his wife ( or intending to marry). It is good for the man or the woman to kn each other past so that outsiders will not tell them some part of their past lives. This should based on the truth. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by 4Play(m): 3:18am On Jan 02, 2009 |
@Topic Of course! I want to know who she ever slept with, where and when. What if it is an enemy of mine or a rival? |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by TOYOSI20(f): 3:23am On Jan 02, 2009 |
@ Topic Whatever it is that is revlevant needs to be told but aside from that keep your mouth shut. . . . . it ain't worth it at all, raising unnecessary dust for nothing, |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by martho(m): 10:01am On Jan 02, 2009 |
May kelly:very correct, |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Derison: 2:43pm On Jan 12, 2009 |
I think its important, instead of u living with the fear or shame that your Boyfriend/girlfriend might not like u as much if she knew, if they cant handle it then know that u will find someone who will. That's my own 2 cents. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by Feelitx(m): 3:39pm On Jan 12, 2009 |
Gentlemen: Happiness in this world comes from knowing less. |
Re: Should A Man Know His Wife Or Girlfriend's Past? by djcrucifix(m): 4:07pm On Jan 12, 2009 |
i believe a relationship is meant to be open and full of trust so it's necessary for two partners to know bout each other's pasts or misdeeds. besides if they really love and care bout each other, then they should be able to forgive and move on, and that will in-turn improve their relationship. |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (Reply)
What Is Happening To Me? I'm In Love With A 16 Year Old Girl / Surprise As Bride Gifts Groom 3 Vehicles On Wedding Day / 10 Signs You Are Not In Love With Your Partner
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 61 |