So i and so many other people are abnormal. How sweet. This isn't about the western world alone. Most people in third world countries do it, it isn't about doing what the western world does, it's about being with the one u feel safe with (could be your cousin).

I rest my case.... whatever makes people happy, taking into cognizance however the unnecessary spread of family and hereditary diseases.

IMO, having an affair w/ a cousin is wrong doesn't make sense.

Ra:

I rest my case.... whatever makes people happy, taking into cognizance however the unnecessary spread of family and hereditary diseases.

Do u mean people that aren't ur family members don't have heriditary diseases?

Hum Hausas Fulanis and Nupe's marry their cousins. So we dont really need to go western.

Tell me about it. Infact yoruba's are now doing it. It's just not common, but Ilorin people do it.

what RA meant is that if you allow two closely related people to marry (or have sex), their offspring may be prone to some serious genetic defects and diseases.

Well this particular tribes dont have problem with that. Do they?

Oh Please Wesley. You just made everything worse. You mean if i didn't kow i married my cousin, our kids will be "prone to genetics defects"? Well here's a news, if both of u have good bloods and whatnot...your kids will be fine. If one of you have bad whatever, it will affect your kid. Likewise if you don't even marry your cousin. U can marry someone else and your kids will still have kosko (genetic defects).

Thanks WesleYanA.... I'll go one step further and say their offsprings WILL be prone to many genetic defects and diseases. It's worth reading up on for those who see nothing wrong in what is called consanguinity and affinity.

yes theoretically, but based on occurences and records, there isnt much recorded facts statistically. Especially in the Northern part of Nigeria or even the Arabian World and some Asian Countries.

What are u guys saying?? WILL be prone for genetics defects? that is sooo not true. When has joining two family bloods together become a medical defects? tell me that if you need blood and then, one of your family desides to donate for you, you'll have genetics defects. If both of you are fine Genetically without diseases, you can have sex and mix your blood and your kids will be fine. Please do researches right!

it's called INCEST duh!.. and you think that's good and healthy?

Incest when you are married and not from the same direct parents?

in·cest
1. Sexual relations between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal or forbidden by custom.
2. The statutory crime of sexual relations with such a near relative.

Incest means:
1. Sexual relations between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal or forbidden by custom.
2. The statutory crime of sexual relations with such a near relative.


You can only call it incest if you believe it's[b] FORBIDDEN/ call it a crime[/b]. I don't believe it's forbidden so it's not incest to me.

hum by the way so the human race are fruits of incest ?

i really don't care anymore marry your sister if you want. that's none of my business.

hum well , thats not the issue here. I dont even have a sister by the way. What I was trying to say here, was there is nothing wrong with marying your cousin. Except it is a taboo in your tribe, and you believe in such taboos otherwise just open your heart and let it go

Wesley marrying my sister will be a taboo. because I will be marrying myself. I have no sister, i am my sister and my brother.

I believe sum families are so extendeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed that u hardly know all your cousins. Even the parents hardly know themselves (second/distant cousin stuff).
They could get married . Is that still incest?

I wouldnt do it anyway (if i know she's my cousin) but we r layin facts here not just ideals.

@hot-angel.
U mean u r an 'only child'?

hot-angel..... you conduct better research on this if it's of any importance to you. While you're at it, check out why Indian families are more prone to hereditary diseases than most other races.......Geez! Can it possibly be because they are fond of keeping it in-house, so to speak? I wonder

@ layi i am on only child. Yehaww..

@ Ra... I'll try the research. This is complicated.

well i guess it a thing of choice here.
As for me i will never try such.

Thats ridiculous. aww ... mmba,

cousin affair, very bad.

i know right?

Yes then be ware of it ok?

you beware of it okay?

Nuh uh.

Hey People
One thing that's not clear is 'just how close is this cousin' if it's a direct first cousin then I guess the answer would be no however if it's an indrect 2nd or 3rd cousin then what's the problem. Whenever I go home Iam always being introduced to 'this cousin and that cosin' hey I even have anuties Iam older than and I can tell you some of them look mighty fine!!!. So if it's not a first cousin go for it after all that's what happens in the British Royal familly!!

Why is everyone talking about customs and traditions?

The first poster says: IS ANYTHING WRONG IN HAVING AN AFFAIR MY COUSIN..
The answer is YES. Everything is wrong with it. Why in the world should you be kissing and laying on your cousin ? For God's sake, no sane person will do that. Morally, it is wrong. This is pure LUST which the Bible warns us against serioiusly. If you say there's nothing wrong in having an affair with your cousin, then there's nothing equally wrong in having an affair with your uncle or even ur father or brother. I dont know why such a thing should ever occur to your mind, not to talk of doing it. It' totally uncalled for!

The fact that it is done in the North, Ilorin, Arabian regions and Asia does not still make it right! Now I see why so many Hausas and Fulanis get crippled, blind, deaf and dumb. They are more prone to these than any other tribes in Nigeria. This is probably as a result of hereditary diseases passed on from one generation to the other due to their so-called customs and traditions of marrying their relatives.

I personally will not have an affair with my cousin. Period!

goodguy:

I personally will not have an affair with my cousin. Period!

why. because your cousins are ugly?