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| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by almondjoy(f): 11:37am On Feb 01, 2008 |
oyb: I thought as much!  Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! Just thinking to maself! Abeg post am! |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 11:39am On Feb 01, 2008 |
okay . . .okay. . . - the UN has spoken  ceasefire. . . but this is so much fun! and on company time too! |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by hafees: 12:04pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
Thank you sister for knocking some sense into that grumpy ,obese, bald headed, Hot old short man's head. I don't know who lied to him and told him that he's God's gift to women. Oyb is some work and I think that only Jesus can deliver him from the veil the devil has over his eyes. hotmadam funmi, u dont have to be so gross with abuse, u just confirmed ur grudge with men. pls do not forget that not all men are like the one(s) who broke ur heart and turned u to this fiendish, men hating, and woman liberation general. there are lots of men who can make u happy, i can introduce you to some polygamous men that is if u are as hot as u claimed, i swear u will be happy than marrying a monogamous guy. I HOPE U WILLL BE POLITE IF U ARE RESPONDING @osisi i have heard many sisters boasting they will leave their hubby if he , but na lie they all stay. why should i bother with whether my sisters husband would marry second wives,its certainly non of my business, he has rights to it. Let me clear this assumption: it is not true that women in polygamous homes are maltreated infact most women abuse come from monogamous setting, which includes wife battering, etc. i dont care if a guy wants to stick to one that is business, its about RIGHTS. PPL shld not delude themselves too that passing of deseases is more in polygamy, infact it is rear it mostly in monogamy that is widespread, enough STDs. yes women dont like it, but i have rights too, dont be selfish sisters, share what u have. seriously u can stop the men if they want, hot funmi can only blow hut and hurt. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by almondjoy(f): 1:26pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
-------And the saga continues!!!! [size=30pt]GO NEW YORK GIANTS!!!!!!!!! HAPPY SUPERBOWL 42!!!!!![/size] Off to bed jare. I have to wake up and enjoy ma payday today. It has been a pleasure as always!  |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Blatant: 1:54pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
yes jare. why una want take away the man's right to have as much as he likes? if women no surplus, men no suppose fit get 2 wives. Besides, its the women's fault. Why do women like marrying and dating married men? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by yemivictor: 2:20pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
almondjoy: almondblissssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! almondjoy is to nairaland what sefinatu mohammed is to nigerian radio stations! |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nellyf: 4:16pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
ADVANTAGES OF POLYGAMY: NOTHING. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by hotfunmi(f): 5:11pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
by oybThis stalker is now on my trail, checking out when I sleep or wake. Somebody please cover me like eleha. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by hotfunmi(f): 5:15pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
if i make the mistake of posting my picture, the lady's more satisfied clients ( area fathers) will send area boys after me. . .chiseled frame?  do you know what is 6 pack? or are you not a zero pack groany old man? Sometimes i get mad at those researchers that came up with viagra because minus that, half men like you would've said bye bye to sex at 25 and that would mean an automatic bye bye to polygamy. You need serious help in a mental hospital. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by hotfunmi(f): 5:24pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
yes jare.Why do married man like chasing other women? The truth is that most of these women they chase are underaged girls that are helpless. I don't blame you, that was the famous Adama's excuse when God asked him why he sinned, "Eve made me do it". Most men till this day always want to point fingers at women for their evils. How can you say that women make men to practice polygamy? what about those men that do not do it? don't they also have eyes? The evil that men do lives unto them. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Feesha: 8:10pm On Feb 01, 2008 |
PROBLEMS WITH POLYGAMY Whichever way you look at the issue of polygamy, one is bound to se the evil side of it, especially those from polygamous families who have watched their mothers fight on nearly every issue just because of jeaalousy or genuinely not wanting to be cheated. The response of the husband in such cases is not do do anything that will not go round. If Child A is brilliant enough to go to Harvard, he cannot go because the remaining children will want to go too. Over-population resulting from jealousy is another thing. If wife A has 4 chidren, wife E that came yesterday will aspire to have five, so that she will not be cheated. The result is a family that cannot provide adequately for the needs of the children. As somebody pointed out, even if the husband is rich enough, what about the parental emotional tie from father to child. How many children can a father attend to in a day with all the trouble children cause. He ends up shouting and cursing them. The children begin to get scared of the man and gradually the emotional connection starts breaking. There areso many other problems. PROBLEMS OF MONOGAMY With all the attendant problems of polygamy, monogamy is still un-realistic in all societies. the attempt to practice either under the teaching of religion or moral belief in not cheating the partner has not (and cannot) solve the fundamental problem of NATURE. 1. THERE ARE MORE WOMEN THAN MEN. The ratio is about (4 to 1). No apology to Obasanjo's census. Go to hospitals and find out the birth ratio. So if one man, one wife, what happens to the remaining women. The answer is well known to women themselves. Some of them know what they have faced b4 hooking a man. The unfortunate ones are along Allen avenue or pretending 2 be students in tertiary institutions, while practicing prostitution in the name of ARISTO. 2. MEN LIKE VARIETY. As if nature knew that one man should attend to more than one woman because of the inequality in number, men naturally soon get tired of "eating the same food everyday". Kudos to men that can stick to their wives, but I know most men prefer that they can have a change sometimes. Not that they dont love their wives mind you. Its just the adrenaline or sorry the "gene" since we are in the genetic age. So i have given you the problems now. what are the solutions? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by osisi5: 1:55am On Feb 02, 2008 |
oyb it's enough. If you have hots for hotfunmi say so Stop using idea |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by osisi5: 1:57am On Feb 02, 2008 |
hafees: I guess as long as you find women willing to share ,enjoy !!!!! That is one cheese cake laced with strawberry I'll not be eating |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Dreloaded(f): 2:02am On Feb 02, 2008 |
strawberry abi poison? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by osisi5: 4:03am On Feb 02, 2008 |
D-reloaded: my dear oh wetin I go say? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by osisi5: 4:11am On Feb 02, 2008 |
I wonder how some women will allow a man's Instruments that has swept other "womanhoods" to come and enter inside my own "womanhood"? Collecting debris--candida and trichomonas along the roadside to finally deposit it in my own "womanhood"? I refuse such a "broom" in my house! My "womanhood" can never be slapped in such a filthy fashion---only in a neat fashion of course! My sister na wa o. I won't even dip my nachos in a sauce if I observe someone double dipping in the dip bowl. How the fried chicken will I allow a man to dip me and dip several others? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by almondjoy(f): 5:39am On Feb 02, 2008 |
+osisi: Oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh baby! Bueno Vista! I love your choice of Mexican food! I can smell the stench from over here! If I thiink of that possiblity alone---I choose to remain celibate for the rest of ma life. Thank God I have had enough joysticks in ma lifetime. If I do without from now on--I have done real goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooood! I no need am! I have learned to "69" maself.  God bless Logan!  Stinky! Stinky! Stinky! |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by uspry1(f): 7:35am On Feb 02, 2008 |
I loved reading this hilarious thread among osisi, AJ, D-reloaded, hotfunni, and other females WHIP against polygamist's butts. It is like "the battle of the sexes" TV game show!!! Keep this thread going like the Energizer the bunny!!!! @topic There is NO ADVANTAGES of polygamy, PERIOD!!! |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by segun4God(m): 11:17am On Feb 02, 2008 |
There is no any advantage on it my dear people is not only in Nigeria they partice it through out the world. polygamy is not good at all and Bibel does not support it. if a man and woman want to have happy home he / she must not go into it. our God that create us does not support that. i don't see any advantage on it, it is not good. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by salam12(m): 2:11pm On Feb 03, 2008 |
Hello House, The issue of polygamy have been over flog and everybody tried to deal with it based on individual perception. If polygamy is all that bad; maybe we have to question the rational behind extra figure in the female population almost in all part of world. For example the ratio of female to male in Equitorial Guniea is almost 7:1, so what happen to the remaining 6 female that would be left out when the available men turned out to be unavailable. Moreover, can we ask Aunty Funmi if she would rather be unattached, single and keep cutting corner as a concubine or be a legal 2nd wife and enjoy all the benefits of marriage. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Seun(m): 2:15pm On Feb 03, 2008 |
ratio of female to male in Equitorial Guniea is almost 7:1,Says who? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by salam12(m): 2:27pm On Feb 03, 2008 |
Go and ask your friends in Equitoria Guinea |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Dreloaded(f): 5:04pm On Feb 03, 2008 |
salam12: That would be better. and in civilized countries second wives arent LEGAL nor do they get "benefits". Guess you'll have to find another lame excuse. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by oziomatv(m): 5:33pm On Feb 03, 2008 |
na to bang different women everynight. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by hotfunmi(f): 11:09pm On Feb 03, 2008 |
First, am not single and even if i am single, I'll rather remain so than be a second wife or cutting corners like you suggested. It's only women that are capable of staying in polygamous marriages that likes to cut corners. I am too hot to be the second best. Next? |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by segun4God(m): 12:21am On Feb 04, 2008 |
SISTER FUNMI I PRAY YOU WILL NOT MISCHOOSE LIFE. THANK YOU FOR UR REPLY. MR. SALAMI PLS LET ME ASK YOU ONE QUESTION AND I WILL BE HAPPY IF U CAN ANSWER IT. IF U ARE SINGLE HOW MANY WIFE DO U PLAN TO HAVE AND IF YOU AV MARRY HOW MANY WIFE DO U HAVE NOW? AM SORRY TO ASK YOU THIS QUESTION. YOU DONT KNOW THAT IF YOU AV ONE WIFE YOU AV ONE PROBLEM AND IF YOU AV TWO WIVES AUTOMATICALLY YOU WILL AV TWO PROBLEMS AND YOU AS A HUSBAND IT IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU TO AV TWO WIVES. IN THE OLDING DAYS THEY USE TO AV TWO THREE WIVES BUT GO AND ASK FROM THEM THEY AV BIG PROBLEM AT HOME. AND ONE OF THE GREAT PROBLEM IS TO HAVE PROBLEM AT HOME IS NOT GOOD. SO I DISAGREE POLYGAMY FAMILY. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Iman3(m): 12:46am On Feb 04, 2008 |
Another advantage of polygamy. . . . .in the UK you can get multiple benefits for your wives: Husbands with multiple wives have been given the go-ahead to claim extra welfare benefits following a year-long Government review, The Sunday Telegraph can reveal. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2008/02/03/nbenefit103.xml&CMP=ILC-mostviewedbox |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Dreloaded(f): 2:03am On Feb 04, 2008 |
My friend, I said CIVILIZED countries, not an island filled with demented people |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 7:50am On Feb 04, 2008 |
why polygamy is good for women - the full article : http://www.slate.com/id/2136453/ excerpts - After more than a decade of war between separatist rebels and the Russian army, there are not many marriageable men to go around in Chechnya. So, acting Prime Minister Ramzan Kadyrov, probably not a feminist, proposed a radical step: "Each man who can provide for four wives should do it. A lot of the[b] knee-jerk reactions against polygyny are from people who can't add up[/b] . In a society with equal numbers of men and women, each man with four wives gives women the additional pick of three men—the poor saps whose potential wives decided they'd prefer one-quarter of a billionaire instead. In the Sahel region of Africa, half of all women live in polygynous households. The other half have a good choice of men and a lot more bargaining power.A little over one in 100 American men are in prison—but there are several states where one in five young black men are behind bars. Since most women marry men of a similar age, and of the same race and in the same state, there are some groups of women who face a dramatic shortfall of marriage partners.  Economist Kerwin Charles has recently studied the plight of these women. Their problem is not merely that some who would want to marry won't be able to. It's that the available men—those not in prison—suddenly have more bargaining power . Goodbye to doing the dishes and paying the rent; hello to mistresses and wham, bam, thank you ma'am. The women whose potential partners have had their ranks thinned by prison are less likely to marry, and when they do marry, are likely to marry a man less educated than they are. Meanwhile, the remaining men, finding a surfeit of marriage partners, suddenly seem in no hurry to marry. And why would they? When men are taken out of the marriage market by war or by prison, women suffer. The reverse is probably true, too: When women are taken from the marriage market, men suffer. In China, the policy of one-child families coupled with selective abortion of girls has produced "surplus" males. Such men are called "bare branches," ;  and China could have 30 million of them by 2020. Perhaps polyandry—women with multiple husbands—would be the logical response to the situation in China. What will happen instead is that these lonely, wifeless men will end up sleeping with a relatively small number of women—prostitutes—with severe risks of sexually transmitted disease all around.All this suggests that Kadyrov has a point about Chechnya. And perhaps the new HBO series Big Love will help to rehabilitate polygamy's reputation in the United States. Nevertheless, I am resolutely against the practice of allowing several women to marry one man. We men are downtrodden enough already. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by tkb417(m): 7:54am On Feb 04, 2008 |
almondjoy is to nairaland what sefinatu mohammed is to nigerian radio stations! never heard of that. i only know Dan Foster |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 8:18am On Feb 04, 2008 |
polygamy and alternatives ( what is practised in 'civilised' countries) http://www.slate.com/id/2013/ excerpts 1. Polygamy. This is the natural state of our species. Then again, the natural state of our species is also a small hunter-gatherer society, with little wealth and thus, only mild inequalities of status and power among men. In this "ancestral environment," large harems were rare; competition for women, though intense, was seldom epically intense. But then came agriculture and other sources of economic surplus. Suddenly some males could be way more powerful than others. The commensurately massive sexual rewards made men ill-inclined to play by Marquess of Queensberry rules. According to the Guinness Book of World Records, the most prolific genetic replicator in the history of our species was the last Sharifian emperor of Morocco, who had 888 offspring. He was known as Moulay Ismail the Bloodthirsty. Get the picture? And, in polygamous societies, low-status males weren't exactly pacifists either. With scads of women monopolized by the well-to-do, less fortunate men could get mighty lonely and become very unhappy campers. This volatile discontent may be the reason that, as anthropologist Laura Betzig has shown, polygamy and authoritarianism have gone hand in hand. Back when the Zulu king was entitled to more than 100 women, coughing or spitting at his dinner table was punishable by death. In this sense, monogamy meshes better than polygamy with the egalitarian values of a democracy. One-man-one-vote, one-man-one-wife. Unfortunately, monogamy is hard to sustain given our species' naturally polygamous bent. And that's especially true in a place like America, with great status inequality. Rich or powerful married men feel an extravagant sense of sexual entitlement, and many women feel like gratifying it. Hence option No. 2: 2Serial monogamy. This is what we have now. You can acquire a second spouse so long as you discard the first one. This is basically a covert, and mild, form of polygamy: High-status males get to monopolize more than one fertile woman. Thus Dole, having risen from crippled war veteran to U.S. senator, traded in his 47-year-old first wife--as her fertility was expiring--for a 39-year-old. (This isn't to say Dole was consciously pondering his wives' relative fertility.)But serial monogamy has a big downside not shared by polygamy: Lots of kids get reared either without fathers or with stepfathers, who often lack the Darwinian devotion of a biological father--and who may even be downright hostile . As evolutionary psychologists Martin Daly and Margo Wilson showed in their book Homicide, children not reared by both biological parents are at greatly elevated risk of physical abuse, even murder. That's one piece of the larger truth at the heart of the "family-values" crusade: Divorce and unwed motherhood are bad for kids.True monogamy, then, would seem a very worthwhile institution. But if monogamy is at odds with human nature, how do you keep it from metamorphosing into serial monogamy? 3 Monogamy Victorian style. When high-status males leave their wives for a younger model, you can stigmatize them, damaging their social, and even professional, standing. In 19th-century Britain, this tough love helped keep the divorce rate near zero even amid the stark status inequality of a modern nation. Note its ingeniousness: To repress the powerful polygamous impulse in men, you employ their equally powerful thirst for social status . The irony facing Dole--that converting your status into multiple wives can threaten the status itself--is thus a remnant, though greatly diluted, of our Victorian heritage.The central theme of Dole's campaign is that he embodies the Victorian values that were still robust in the America of his youth. He says he stands for "God, family, honor, duty, country." Well one duty, back then, was to stay with your family. In explaining his divorce, Dole says his marriage had become unhappy. But if doing your duty was easy, they wouldn't call it "duty," would they? It's not enough to note that Dole's daughter Robin was 17 when he divorced, and now seems well adjusted. Children of her socioeconomic class obviously stand a better-than-average chance of recovery. But the (factually correct) premise of Victorian morality was that one person's transgression, if unpunished, invites emulation. That's true in spades for society's biggest role models--senators, presidents, etc. Dole's divorce, in some incalculable but not trivial way, makes other divorces more likely--including divorces with more vivid casualties than his; including divorces that will push women and children into poverty. To elect a divorced president is to reject a central pillar of the moral order Dole says he'll rebuild. |
| Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 8:26am On Feb 04, 2008 |
it would seem that efforts to make polygamy mainstream are underway . . . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_love - nothing like the insidious talking box to shock, inure and convert http://www.polygamy.com/ http://www.polygamy.com/articles/templates/?a=257&z=1 http://www.polygamy.com/articles/templates/?a=183&z=1 hmmmmmmmmmmm. . . . . . no vex, I'm just playing devil's advocate. . . |
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