by Purestboy
Polygamy is not good. Too common among uneducated moslems. Imagine an Okada man named Sule having 2 wives. They are my neighbour and I know what the wives go through before they feed their children.

PurestBoy:

Polygamy is not good. Too common among uneducated moslems. Imagine an Okada man named Sule having 2 wives. They are my neighbour and I know what the wives go through before they feed their children.

jintujinta:

How can anything good come out of a maladjusted system? All that polygamy gives are strives, distrust, hypertension, poverty and verything that is backward. I hate it!

mababe:

Polygamy has no advantage, the disadvantages is all evident around us.

I felt very safe my dear, my Dad, God bless his soul was rich enough to give each wife a house, rides and all to make her comfortable. He had three wives and they all lived in different towns. He was working alot around the country so we the kids usually went for holidays wherever he was at the time. If you visited my home, you would never know about the other women. That was my father's style.

I have family friends from Polygamous home too and in their case they all lived under the same roof, from my observations things were ok. I personally believe that for those who have the money to take care of their wives and numerous kids, things were ok, but for the poor ones it must have been nasty. Money and understanding play alot in polygamy, without both the house will be on fire.

The women should be reasonable women, not vindictive witches. My step mums are educated, reasonable women, who by chance found themselves in their situation. I must say, we were lucky to have my Dad, who did provide adequately for all.Why he got into it, i do not know.WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE. MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE.

steve1bam:


Ruin a Nation


Due to increases of illiteracy Caused By Polygamy to Children  brings lack of knowledge to know ones right in a nation , Those in power rule illegal, create law for their sake and children in backing up their home and reputation, if most people are literate the will be objection against such law.

see what illiteracy turn our nation to, will been deny of our right , because few people are fighting for the right and all is in vain. i learnt that majority carries a vote. if most people are literate and much in number there will be decrease in the rate of wrong leader.

I heard that the USA, practice  monogamy most, and they have a good leader

for a Christian involving a polygamy,such person is not a real born again Christian 
Christian means those who do all things in Christ Manner, and that wasn't part of the do of Christ

Polygamy Has no Advantages .
Let stop it and have a good Life,Family and Nation

oyb:



every ill you have ascribed to polygamy also exists in monogamous homes. stop using specious arguments.

oyb:

i do not advocate polygamy, but the gut reaction, unthinking comments by so many of the posters is typical of nigerians who do not think. my grandfather, like so many of the grandparents of our generation had four wives. some times, there was money, sometimes there wasn't . my dad did not follow his path. i know that there is no enmity betweeen my dad and his siblings.


enmity/beef/ scheming does not occur because of polygamy as a system, but because of human nature. there are a lot of irresponsible monogamists out there as well, who cannot take care of ONE child.

under contemporary 'civilisation' polygamy is not acceptable.  that does not mean that 200 years from now, it will not be in fashion again. if you read just a little anthropology ,  you will be amazed at the way customs and traditions are recycled over the ages.

i wonder what  feminists would do if there was a sudden shortage of marriageable men. you'd be suprised at how fast polygamy would become acceptable, and how  all those quoting their interpretation of the bible's stance on monogamy  would suddenly remember solomon and abraham

Well said.

oyb:

It ruin self's life, children's life and even run down a Nation in which such is practice .

are you telling me that there are no monogamous families which are 'ruined' ?

oyb:

It ruin self's life, children's life and even run down a Nation in which such is practice .

are you telling me that nations like burma, where polygamy is not practised are not run down?

mopol 65:

the this-advantages of poly gamy:you are prone to unneccessary jealousy /envy 2} you assume u have an enemy within the house from day one you realized you have a step mother > 3] your success can not be celebrated openly with your immediate family >4 } your access to your father is a function of your mother position with dad 5} every sentence you make is interpreted to various meaning 6}if you want to travel ,even within the country you mustn't be sincere with you motive of raving } 7 > you must pretend you are not happy otherwise u will face the music> 8 you mother position determine you stake in the will if at all he has a plan for u i.e your dad 9} you must face direct copetition at every stage of your life 10 } you hadly pray together > please i can go as much as 100 disadvantages but it has only one advantage if that is reconed with > you will surely reduce your age by 10yrs as a father

MISS OR MRS HOTFUNMI,, YOU POSTED A VERY IMPORTANT TOPIC WHICH I HAVE NO FURTHER DOUBT AFTER READING THIS RESPONSE FROM YOU AS A VEILED ATTACK ON AN OTHERWISE CONTEMPORARY ISLAMIC JURISPUNDENCE.FOR YOUR INFORMATION,THERE ARE CERTAIN CONDITIONS THAT NECESSITATES A MUSLIM MAN TAKING MORE THAN ONE WIFE,IF THESE CONDITIONS EXIST AND ARE MET,THEN ITS GOOD FOR THE MAN AND HIS FAMILY VICE VERSA.BUT I MUST INFORM YOUR OTHERWISE MYOPIC VIEW THAT NO ONE WOULD PROBABLY GO TO ''HELL FIRE'' FOR TAKING MORE THAN ONE WIFE.WHAT IF SOMEONE TAKES ANOTHER WIFE IN OTHER TO STOP HIMSELF FROM ENGAGING IN ADULTERY??THINK!AND WISE UP MISS!!YOU HAVE PROBABLY ''SUCESSFULLY'' DIVIDED THE WORLD INTO TWO IN YOUR VIRTUAL MIND INTO GOOD AND EVIL, GOOD PROBABLY REPRESENTING 'CHRISTIANITY' AND EVIL CERTAINLY 'ISLAM' IN YOUR MIND.AND JUST FOR THE RECORD I USED TO LIVE IN THE SAME BUILDING WITH A DEACON WHO HAS THREE WIVES ALL UNDER THE SAME ROOF.AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION I AM NOT A PACIFIST,I AM LIBERAL MINDED BUT WHEN PEOPLE LIKE YOUR SELF SPEAK VOLUMES OF UNTRUE STATEMENTS, (LINKING ISLAM,POVERTY,ILLITERACY AND POLYGAMY TOGETHER) I HAVE NO CHOICE THAN TO ASSUME THAT YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WITH NOTHING ELSE TO FLAUNT.
TO THE OTHER NAIRALANDERS AM SORRY FOR THIS OTHERWISE HARSH WORDS,ITS A MIRACLE HOW SOME PEOPLE EVER GET TO REGISTER ON THIS FAMOUS WEBSITE.SIGNING OUT.IGNORANCE IS A SIN.ILLITERACY IS NOT DEFINED ONLY BY ONES INABILITY TO SEEK WESTERN STYLED EDUCATION!!DAMN[/quote

Could we look at this issue from another angle please, what happens to those women who are looking for men/marriages especially with the shortages of men? Dont you think polygamy will solve it, this is an angle. Pls ladies in the forum this is a thought i would like your responses to. Remember its about 1man:10women, now i mean no disrespect. Again why should a woman marry the so called wretched man as a second man?

by truecomments
MISS OR MRS HOTFUNMI,, YOU POSTED A VERY IMPORTANT TOPIC WHICH I HAVE NO FURTHER DOUBT AFTER READING THIS RESPONSE FROM YOU AS A VEILED ATTACK ON AN OTHERWISE CONTEMPORARY ISLAMIC JURISPUNDENCE.FOR YOUR INFORMATION,THERE ARE CERTAIN CONDITIONS THAT NECESSITATES A MUSLIM MAN TAKING MORE THAN ONE WIFE,IF THESE CONDITIONS EXIST AND ARE MET,THEN ITS GOOD FOR THE MAN AND HIS FAMILY VICE VERSA.

BUT I MUST INFORM YOUR OTHERWISE MYOPIC VIEW THAT NO ONE WOULD PROBABLY GO TO ''HELL FIRE'' FOR TAKING MORE THAN ONE WIFE.WHAT IF SOMEONE TAKES ANOTHER WIFE IN OTHER TO STOP HIMSELF FROM ENGAGING IN ADULTERY??

THINK!AND WISE UP MISS!!YOU HAVE PROBABLY ''SUCESSFULLY'' DIVIDED THE WORLD INTO TWO IN YOUR VIRTUAL MIND INTO GOOD AND EVIL, GOOD PROBABLY REPRESENTING  'CHRISTIANITY' AND EVIL CERTAINLY 'ISLAM' IN YOUR MIND. AND JUST FOR THE RECORD I USED TO LIVE IN THE SAME BUILDING WITH A DEACON WHO HAS THREE WIVES ALL UNDER THE SAME ROOF

AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION I AM NOT A PACIFIST,I AM LIBERAL MINDED BUT WHEN PEOPLE LIKE YOUR SELF SPEAK VOLUMES OF UNTRUE STATEMENTS, (LINKING ISLAM,POVERTY,ILLITERACY AND POLYGAMY  TOGETHER) I HAVE NO CHOICE THAN TO ASSUME THAT YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WITH NOTHING ELSE TO FLAUNT.

.ILLITERACY IS NOT DEFINED ONLY BY ONES INABILITY TO SEEK WESTERN STYLED EDUCATION!!DAMN

oyb:


       

every ill you have ascribed to polygamy also exists in monogamous homes. stop using specious arguments.

instead of listening, you should read. did you know that thomas jefferson, one of the founding fathers of the us carried on a relationship with a slave named sally jennings and she had several children by him?
maybe if we want to be a great nation ( like the united states) we should follow jefferson's example and  be in monogamous marriages and have several children by the hired help

+osisi:

Thanks to polygamy and it's added population explosion,our almajiri's,area boys and bakassi boys have grown beyond control.
typical mindset of an Islamic upbringing
Did Thomas Jefferson  impregnate his hired help because he could not have 3 other wives to impregnate or because he was adulterous?
Or are you telling me that men with countless wives are immune from running after other women and impregnating them after they've locked up their wives in "akwule"?
Polygamy is unhealthy for anyone and in this age of HIV,a man dipping his joystick in 4 or 5 women unprotected ought to be denounced.
I don't care what they are to him
And a woman allowing herself to be "dipped" knowing that the joystick freely dips into 3 or 4 other known  women ought to get her head examined.
I said known women,remember ther's still a chance the man sees others and the other wives could also be seeing others.

The chances of contracting something almost equals that of a prostitute

The risks are too numerous to ignore

The world is now a totally different place than our grandfather's

_{It's the little girls,some as young as 9 that are basically forced into these arrangements that I have the most sympathy for not the grown wives of a rich Alhaji.}

Gamine:

The bible said

Gen 2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.
, one!