afam4eva: If you're going to be wife then it's normal to start showing how wifely you can be before marriage.

Ishilove:
Bullshitology 101

Ishilove:
Bullshitology 101

janejive: My neighbour, a Lady, a Lawyer in her mid 30's, she uses a Toyota Camry, a comfirmed big chick who works for her money, was dating dis guy, one saturday I did my laundry in my bathroom, coming out to dry my clothes, and all d clothe line in our compound was covered with boxers and singlets, enough to fill a boutique, and male cloths too, we hand no Man of that size in our compound, the only guy in dt compound is actually very slim. I used hangar on my clothes that saturday. Later she came out, entered her car when to d market bought food stuffs, d next thing d compound ws filled with a nice senting aroma, few hours she'll package the food in deep bowls for deep freezer, package some in cooler, send our gateman to go get full crate of bottled water, remove clothes frm line enter her car, dis will now be in d evening, she'll go over to d guy's house, d next time u'll see her will be monday morning, dis went on and on for months, they finally got engaged, started planning their wedding, did introduction. I went with her to get her wedding gown which she told me she's paying for herself. A month to the wedding this guy called the wedding off! I noticed she ws indoors for almosy a week, d next I saw her she ws like a walking corpse! I have told God, tha Man I'll get married to wldnt turn me into a house help. He will only know if I can do chores or not when we finally get married. Most guys abuse it and expect u 2 start doing their chores even on ur first visit! Its wrong and shldnt be practised, it has got nothing to do with girls been lazy. Its just not worth it. Instead of spending weekend's at my fiance's house doing chores, I'll stay home and do chores for my Parents, if e pain u, abeg hug transformer, I no fit.

Bibol: I don't think there's much of a big deal in it, so long as you have an understanding fiance. You seriously don't expect a man who will marry you in say, 6 months to always take you to eateries every time you visit. Cooking for him should even be a thing of joy. If you feel he's taking advantage of that, you can politely tell him to help out or just hang around and gist with you. It creates time for bonding. Trust me, no reasonable man will want to settle with a fake girl that only cares about her nails and Brazillian hair. Matured ladies know what to do to make their men happy. True love is not selective. Its high time ladies learnt that when a man loves you, there's no point trying to prove any useless point. If you love him truly, you will go out of your way to make him happy. You stand to gain more when you love and respect a man without nagging or arguing. However, everyone is entitled to their opinions.

janejive: Dats it, when a lady does house chores for her fiance she's desperate, when she doesn't she's lazy.

Bibol: I don't think there's much of a big deal in it, so long as you have an understanding fiance. You seriously don't expect a man who will marry you in say, 6 months to always take you to eateries every time you visit. Cooking for him should even be a thing of joy. If you feel he's taking advantage of that, you can politely tell him to help out or just hang around and gist with you. It creates time for bonding. Trust me, no reasonable man will want to settle with a fake girl that only cares about her nails and Brazillian hair. Matured ladies know what to do to make their men happy. True love is not selective. Its high time ladies learnt that when a man loves you, there's no point trying to prove any useless point. If you love him truly, you will go out of your way to make him happy. You stand to gain more when you love and respect a man without nagging or arguing. However, everyone is entitled to their opinions.

Temi 23: Even if u wash his clothes,clean his crib,scrub his dead bathtub 2life,pound yam,b at his beck and call24/7.u might not get a ring!say no 2 slavery

janejive: My neighbour, a Lady, a Lawyer in her mid 30's, she uses a Toyota Camry, a comfirmed big chick who works for her money, was dating dis guy, one saturday I did my laundry in my bathroom, coming out to dry my clothes, and all d clothe line in our compound was covered with boxers and singlets, enough to fill a boutique, and male cloths too, we hand no Man of that size in our compound, the only guy in dt compound is actually very slim. I used hangar on my clothes that saturday. Later she came out, entered her car when to d market bought food stuffs, d next thing d compound ws filled with a nice senting aroma, few hours she'll package the food in deep bowls for deep freezer, package some in cooler, send our gateman to go get full crate of bottled water, remove clothes frm line enter her car, dis will now be in d evening, she'll go over to d guy's house, d next time u'll see her will be monday morning, dis went on and on for months, they finally got engaged, started planning their wedding, did introduction. I went with her to get her wedding gown which she told me she's paying for herself. A month to the wedding this guy called the wedding off! I noticed she ws indoors for almosy a week, d next I saw her she ws like a walking corpse! I have told God, tha Man I'll get married to wldnt turn me into a house help. He will only know if I can do chores or not when we finally get married. Most guys abuse it and expect u 2 start doing their chores even on ur first visit! Its wrong and shldnt be practised, it has got nothing to do with girls been lazy. Its just not worth it. Instead of spending weekend's at my fiance's house doing chores, I'll stay home and do chores for my Parents, if e pain u, abeg hug transformer, I no fit.

OCTAVO:
A million likes for you!

ichidodo: THIS IS ALL F**KED UP. SO IT IS TRUE! SO MANY WOMEN AROUND BUT NO ONE SUITABLE FOR MARRIAGE. SH*T!

ypzilanti:

Do you know what a fiance is?

Ishilove:
No. Please enlighten me, o wise one...

afam4eva:
What problem do you have with my post? Kindly point it out.

ypzilanti:

A fiance is your husband to be...that you agreed to marry...that we assume you are marrying because you love...the intended future father of your children...that you are likely already shagging with reckless abandon.

But you are too much of a prima donna to do some light house work on the weekend.

Americans have a phrase to describe such foolish behavior- its called being 'too cool for school'.

Like I said before, if you don't want to do house chores in your fiances house, stay in your father's house until wedding day. No one will fault you for that. But coming over and acting like you have no stake in the relationship...[b]in a house that you are probably moving to in a couple of months [/b]is not accepted Nigerian behavior.

Ishilove:
I will be married to you for the rest of my life, God willing, so what is the big rush? There will be time enough to do house chores for you and the family when you marry me, so what is the big rush? If my fiance wants his chores done, then let him hire a housemaid. Of course I will help out occasionally, but that dosent automatically mean i should turn myself to a bloody washwoman and maid.

My best friend was forming capable wifey for her erstwhile fiance. She cooked for him and his mum, transformed his pigsty of an apartment to a pristine luxury resort, did his laundry and ironing and warmed his friggin bed. Today another lady, one small girl he met in the club is bearing the man's surname.

So tell me afam, nwoke, what is the big rush??

During courtship, you should be able to study your partner and be able to sense if they are lazy or not. I don't have to prove anything because like somebody rightly pointed out, it could all be a big act.

Sleek05:

Mr man, if u want a housegrl and not a fiance, dem plenty well well... its not by force 2 marry grls lyk me. U can get a babe dat wil do ur laundry, cook ur food, sweep ur compound, wash ur siblins clothes join or even bathe for u as d case may be since u suddenly became handicapped when u got a grlfrnd.

That being said, lemme paint dis scenerio...I cook, clean and wash for my bf/fiance everyday I go dere, it has become my job. He comes home and is pleased wit me. He gets used 2it and stylishly or jokingly chides me wen I choose not 2do it or don't do it well OR I do one or two thnz wen I'm dere, dats if I have 2, he assists me and we have fun n one day I surprise him. I do all d house chores n everythn...he gets home, sees it, hez impressed and really happy wit me. I do dat just once in a blue moon.

D only time u have 2 do shakara and get a guy 2do all wat u want is wen ure dating. Ure a queen because he still hasn't married u so he wants 2be d best he can be. Guys r no fools..once u get married, everythn changes. U don't get dose special treatments anymore. U become his wife, he becomes d head of ur home. So wen u slave wen u shld be enjoyin, wen in ur life do u want 2 enjoy? Wen do u want 2be treated lyk a queen? (And I mean regularly) Wen do u want 2 do shakara for a guy over and over again while he keeps chasin u? It won't last forever so why slave wen u shld be enjoyin?

Note- U do d house chores once a while 2 surprise him/ please him so its not dat ure lazy or not capable.
FOOD4THOUGHT

Ishilove:
There is such a thing as sarcasm, you know.

That aside,so the 'acceptable Nigerian behaviour' is turning oneself to a maid??

Ishilove:
I will be married to you for the rest of my life, God willing, so what is the big rush? There will be time enough to do house chores for you and the family when you marry me, so what is the big rush? If my fiance wants his chores done, then let him hire a housemaid. Of course I will help out occasionally, but that dosent automatically mean i should turn myself to a bloody washwoman and maid.

My best friend was forming capable wifey for her erstwhile fiance. She cooked for him and his mum, transformed his pigsty of an apartment to a pristine luxury resort, did his laundry and ironing and warmed his friggin bed. Today another lady, one small girl he met in the club is bearing the man's surname.

So tell me afam, nwoke, what is the big rush??

During courtship, you should be able to study your partner and be able to sense if they are lazy or not. I don't have to prove anything because like somebody rightly pointed out, it could all be a big act.

afam4eva:
Talk is free cheap...Why don't ladies display their bad characters in front of their husbands to be and wait till they're married before they start behaving like good wives? In life, you have to make an impression in order to be affected and to achieve your aim. In Africa especially where men marry women and not other way around, the girls have to create an impression that they're hardwrking and will contribute a lot to the marriage just like the man also has to show that he's financially capable to take care of his family by giving his wife to be some giveaways.

cupid4ig: i guess she is just as lazy as the poster