Ma sincere opinion, if she has abandoned u once she can do it over & over again, knw wat u want & just go 4 it

obadiah777: hey, some naija women still hold onto their virtue tightly. may be not a lot but i am sure there are some out there lol. however i am asking him this question because if he has yanshed both of them, he has to marry both of them or he would be owing the lord a serious butt whooping.

exodus 22 vs 16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. <<< you must marry every woman you sleep with.

see, when building collapses on people or they get cancer or they get into auto accidents or something terrible happens to them, they start saying someone is doing voodoo for them. they have forgotten the women they yanshed and did not marry. yanshing a woman is not a sin. not marrying a woman you have yanshed is a huge sin. you have defiled her for the man who will marry her. thats a heavy sin with the lord.

Bro

Every sin is great sin in the eyes of the Lord. Be it murder, fornication et al. I'm sure she is not asking about religious point of view here let's not complicate issue. Can you give him a friendly advice on a course of action to take based on the facts he had analysed here concerning his current dilemma ?
I believe that's what he needed most at this crucial time, I mean that's his major motive to have posted on here. Besides I strongly believe if the relationship between OP and the run-away girl had been just a casual one devoid of s3x , he won't have published it here to seek for counsels, and wouldn't have had a reason to go for another girl while his run-away girl had been busy enjoying herself with another bobo in Turkey.

While ur present gf is on d field,put her on d sideline....she could be ur super-sub

iykemoney90: Pls nairalanders I need your advice.

I was dating this girl 2 yrs ago before she moved to turkey with the family because her dad is a diplomat. Although we didn't break up before she left,we were still in communication for about 4 month before I stopped hearing from her, instead voice mail will pick her call, she won't come online on fb and she neva replied all my messages so I felt I should move on with my life and am currently dating a someone nw.

On 7th of this month,she called me on phone and told me she's back to the country ,I was excited a little and also surprise because they normally stay 4yrs anytime they move to a new country. So when I met her she apologized for ignoring me all those while. But the fact now is that she came back to Nigeria because of me and am already dating someone. I've been at war with myself.

What do I do?

Back to nigeria because of you? I doubt that. Except she has a very honest tangible reason for ignoring you, move on with your life.

Gabriel_sylar: She has brought disease for u

ghettodreamz:

Bro

Every sin is great sin in the eyes of the Lord. Be it murder, fornication et al. I'm sure she is not asking about religious point of view here let's not complicate issue. Can you give him a friendly advice on a course of action to take based on the facts he had analysed here concerning his current dilemma ?
I believe that's what he needed most at this crucial time, I mean that's his major motive to have posted on here.

i am wholesome with my approach. i gotta throw in the spiritual aspect too afterall we are spiritual beings having a physical experience

jay bee:
Frozen or spherical?

That's why I like it here. Some ppl always find something interesting to say.

If I were you don't go back continue your life wit your newly found partner..-Candid Advice

Her father may not be the Ambassador but works @ d embassy

uromi.com:
i live in instanbul turkey............ so na your babe papa be that ambassador .................when dey attend to ghana citizen leave naija citizen bc of small thing he go hail

Hmmm. I don't tink u shld listen to her. Bt it still depend on u.

OP don't be a fool, make her your sex mate, fûck her at any opportuniity you get, but don't think of having any serious relationship with her again.

Idowuogbo:
Which flaming feeling? My guy, u no get extinguisher ni? My frien,focus on ur relationship joor! I swear if u dump ur current gf for away match, may d Gods of karma castrate u.

Idowuogbo you have said it all lol ...

You have moved on, you have moved on. How can someone be incommunicado for 4 solid months without any word from the person. Though i feel you love this girl but be rest assured that if you take her back, you'll still get burnt. Habits never die. At this stage, i'll say "Love Gbakwa oku".

iykemoney90: Pls nairalanders I need your advice.

I was dating this girl 2 yrs ago before she moved to turkey with the family because her dad is a diplomat. Although we didn't break up before she left,we were still in communication for about 4 month before I stopped hearing from her, instead voice mail will pick her call, she won't come online on fb and she neva replied all my messages so I felt I should move on with my life and am currently dating a someone nw.

On 7th of this month,she called me on phone and told me she's back to the country ,I was excited a little and also surprise because they normally stay 4yrs anytime they move to a new country. So when I met her she apologized for ignoring me all those while. But the fact now is that she came back to Nigeria because of me and am already dating someone. I've been at war with myself.

What do I do?

Am surprised u re asking for what to do. Are u a learner ? Guys were created to tame the childishness in women, that's why they fear and respect any man who is strong enough to tame them. Here is the recipe I used in situation like this while still in school. Pretend you have forgiven her. Take her out to a lavishing dinner. Get extremely romantic in the way she has never since you before. Compose love songs and poem and sing for her. If possible sheed some tears while singing for her. Take her home and fuucck madness out of her. Sing her to sleep. Then wake her around 2 AM and break up with her. Drive her home that night. After this experience, she will become born again and learn never to toil with a man's emotions.

Hectic life style in abroad made her stop further correspondence after just 4 months and someone said she tried? Well, it really depends on the kind of girl she is sha, and the kinda relationship between them before her departure for Turkey.

What happens to communicating via FB? Whatsapp and other mobile IM/chat apps? I don't think that's a genuine reason for her to have shut him out of her life un-informed. She's got the money and shouldn't complain about the int'l phone calling rate, not a must they talk on phone everyday, Internet and advancement in technology has made distance relationship somewhat easy and adaptable too.

My guy, search ya heart, and make a wise decision. If you still love her much more than your current gf (from your heart not for the financial gains) and you think she was being truthful to you, give her another chance, else if her reason for the silence wasn't a genuine one and you find it hard trusting her reasons, kick her out and stick to your current gf, else package the two, else if you don't have a players's heart, leave one and chase the other.

Dude(no offence)but i don't fink u need us telling u wat 2 do.cos u already have ur mind made up on wat 2 do.so just go ahead wif it,but B careful not 2 hurt ur self Gudluck!!!

Just follow ur heart bro.

eldoradoxx: Am surprised u re asking for what to do. Are u a learner ? Guys were created to tame the childishness in women, that's why they fear and respect any man who is strong enough to tame them. Here is the recipe I used in situation like this while still in school. Pretend you have forgiven her. Take her out to a lavishing dinner. Get extremely romantic in the way she has never since you before. Compose love songs and poem and sing for her. If possible sheed some tears while singing for her. Take her home and fuucck madness out of her. Sing her to sleep. Then wake her around 2 AM and break up with her. Drive her home that night. After this experience, she will become born again and learn never to toil with a man's emotions.

is it me or are the two bolded contradictions ? lmao. dude you sound unstable. you tame women by singing love songs to them ? lwtmb

One door closes another one open's bt we tend not to c d opened door. She left u n u've moved on and nw she is back, wat was her reasons for neglecting u? D new gal u've found hw much do u feel for her? U knw wat u want, go for it bt most iimportantly follow ur heart! All d best

djeezy: Then don't hurt your current girlfriend. U can strangle those flaming feelings.

wished I can give this a thousand likes

@OP

Don't be her I.dio.t,if you were my younger brother,I will smack you . Even if she didn't want to date you,she culdnt return your call once to keep your friendship line open abi?

A girl dumped you and followed another dude who has prolly banged her well b4 dumping her yet ur still talking about flaming love,you must be watching too much nollywood. Wen she said she came for you,she is only speaking in womanese the language of female players. You can't take what women say too serious,their actions are more important than words.

That girl doesn't respect you and a precedent has been set already. She will always treat u like thrash weneva the chance arises. I wuld have expected a smart guy to welcome her with some good bang and play along but u wanna drop your loyal girl for this player? Where is my cane?

Idowuogbo:
Which flaming feeling? My guy, u no get extinguisher ni? My frien,focus on ur relationship joor! I swear if u dump ur current gf for away match, may d Gods of karma castrate u.

badosky ni yen joor..ko soro

idnoble135: Having read this, my thoughts goes along this lines; There is no way you can ascertain if she truly ignored you. Some things might have come up (or events might have taken place) and the communication had to be broken(not from her but maybe from other things). Maybe she has preserved herself for you all this while.
Alright, lets look at another angle. Maybe she truly dumped you and wanted to go on with her life. Maybe she went on with (another) guy(s). Maybe things did not go down well with her and you are her last option.
Okay, lets look at another angle. Could it be possible you now love two girls? You considering her, could it be because she seems well to do and her dad is a diplomat? (no offence).
Another angle, why stay with the present girl when the one whom you dated is back and is clamouring for your attention. She might truly still love you, you know?
Okkkk.... Final view, what of the present girl with you now? The girl that gave you her love and attention when no one was there. That has been with you all this while. Will you be this heartless to dump her for another gal when she did you no wrong?
OP, all i have done is to show you the scene from the different views that came up while reading this. I'm not going to make a choice for you. Follow your heart but take your brain along. Goodluck.

so people who get brain like me still dey sha.. Realist like me! Take 1 sac of kulikuli with sobo...! Thumbs up bro... From me, #sherlock paranorman holmes

idnoble135: Having read this, my thoughts goes along this lines; There is no way you can ascertain if she truly ignored you. Some things might have come up (or events might have taken place) and the communication had to be broken(not from her but maybe from other things). Maybe she has preserved herself for you all this while.
Alright, lets look at another angle. Maybe she truly dumped you and wanted to go on with her life. Maybe she went on with (another) guy(s). Maybe things did not go down well with her and you are her last option.
Okay, lets look at another angle. Could it be possible you now love two girls? You considering her, could it be because she seems well to do and her dad is a diplomat? (no offence).
Another angle, why stay with the present girl when the one whom you dated is back and is clamouring for your attention. She might truly still love you, you know?
Okkkk.... Final view, what of the present girl with you now? The girl that gave you her love and attention when no one was there. That has been with you all this while. Will you be this heartless to dump her for another gal when she did you no wrong?
OP, all i have done is to show you the scene from the different views that came up while reading this. I'm not going to make a choice for you. Follow your heart but take your brain along. Goodluck.

so people who get brain like me still dey sha.. Realist like me! Take 1 sac of kulikuli with sobo...! Thumbs up bro... From me, #sherlock paranorman holmes

idnoble135: Having read this, my thoughts goes along this lines; There is no way you can ascertain if she truly ignored you. Some things might have come up (or events might have taken place) and the communication had to be broken(not from her but maybe from other things). Maybe she has preserved herself for you all this while.
Alright, lets look at another angle. Maybe she truly dumped you and wanted to go on with her life. Maybe she went on with (another) guy(s). Maybe things did not go down well with her and you are her last option.
Okay, lets look at another angle. Could it be possible you now love two girls? You considering her, could it be because she seems well to do and her dad is a diplomat? (no offence).
Another angle, why stay with the present girl when the one whom you dated is back and is clamouring for your attention. She might truly still love you, you know?
Okkkk.... Final view, what of the present girl with you now? The girl that gave you her love and attention when no one was there. That has been with you all this while. Will you be this heartless to dump her for another gal when she did you no wrong?
OP, all i have done is to show you the scene from the different views that came up while reading this. I'm not going to make a choice for you. Follow your heart but take your brain along. Goodluck.

so people who get brain like me still dey sha.. Realist like me! Take 1 sac of kulikuli with sobo...! Thumbs up bro... From me, #sherlock paranorman holmes

idnoble135: Having read this, my thoughts goes along this lines; There is no way you can ascertain if she truly ignored you. Some things might have come up (or events might have taken place) and the communication had to be broken(not from her but maybe from other things). Maybe she has preserved herself for you all this while.
Alright, lets look at another angle. Maybe she truly dumped you and wanted to go on with her life. Maybe she went on with (another) guy(s). Maybe things did not go down well with her and you are her last option.
Okay, lets look at another angle. Could it be possible you now love two girls? You considering her, could it be because she seems well to do and her dad is a diplomat? (no offence).
Another angle, why stay with the present girl when the one whom you dated is back and is clamouring for your attention. She might truly still love you, you know?
Okkkk.... Final view, what of the present girl with you now? The girl that gave you her love and attention when no one was there. That has been with you all this while. Will you be this heartless to dump her for another gal when she did you no wrong?
OP, all i have done is to show you the scene from the different views that came up while reading this. I'm not going to make a choice for you. Follow your heart but take your brain along. Goodluck.

so people who get brain like me still dey sha.. Realist like me! Take 1 sac of kulikuli with sobo...! Thumbs up bro... From me, #sherlock paranorman holmes

hmmmmm dis a critical point u ar now...
if you marry right u ar complete!
if you marry wrong u ar finished
if you marry right and later marry wrong u ar completely finished!
relationship deals with heart.. for a lady nt to show any brake light for that long period of time.. den she's nt interested in u. u av to pray very well on dis issue. cos if u fail u can run back to God to ask why u fail cos u never inform him b4 getin started

Move tha Bleep on, going back to your ex will make you look weak or whenever u honny just give a call(bad advice tho) but stick to what you have, def its not because of u she came back

Every serious relationship always i believe should have a moderator(pastor,parents,mentor). If not, it was probably a secret relationship. These moderators are there to shape the rights and wrongs. I can almost tell that her parents don't even know you and vise versa. I think you are just flirting. Nothing serious,nothing to worry about.

iykemoney90: Guys I don't really knw If she came back because of me like she said but she came back with her elder brother 2 settle fully in Nigeria. I still have this flaming feelings for her but don't want 2 hurt my current gf

She went into a new relationship there hence her avoiding your call.Maybe, that relationship crashed and she came back calling.
Now, you have started a new relationship and if you are happy, stay with your current lady and let her be and do explain to her your stand because by tomorrow, if she gets another guy, she will also run away from you by tricks. She is a slippery character and can do the worse when you list expected.