ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

josite:

I am even surprised she attributed the comments to her mum and in that instance she so much exposed her mum negatively.and this is the reason why most girls will still get the gov chime's treatment. I pray for the mum.

LesbianBoy:
You sound pained! You must really be a BROKE guy

Queenyprinxex: Wonder shall neva ends

DailyNews:

addictiv: While I agree with dailynews in guys getting themselves tushed up, It is not out of place to say that human beings are unique and relationships are meant to cut across social class, tribes and looks. People have a mental picture of what they want and have every right to ask out who so ever they want as long as its done in a civil manner. Its unfair to say that because a guy doesn't have up to 100k in his acc he shouldn't ask a hot chick out. This would also imply that a non hot or broke chick shouldn't have hopes of having a hot or rich guy till she elvates her status.

obyrich: No wonder Sullivan Chime threw Clara to the thrash can where she belongs! Guys should chase girls that match their social status abi? So if a guy gets richer he should upgrade? Peter Okoye would have dumped many girls who were there for him when he had nothing to marry Lola who matches his present status. People like the Op would marry a second wife if they become super rich.

lynk106: hahaha nice thread.
Most men dream of a beautiful woman; Most women dream of a rich man. ... it's very simple.
even poor men dream of beautiful wife. Just as ugly women dream of rich husband. I don't know why we make it a bad thing for a woman to want a rich man whereas it is seen as a good thing for a man to want a beautiful wife. rubbish.
As a woman, I am crying FOUL.




Do you think it is easy work to be sewing weaves, bleaching skin, and doing all sorts of things women do to look hot? Skin bleaching for example is very dangerous to health. Women risk their health to look hot for men!
and when they start to get older, they have to do more to keep up and compete with the younger girls. It is hard work.

ITbomb: This is what happens when relationship is being monetized .
It seems the OP do have fantasies about the billboard, makeuped, brazilian haired, mini skirted girls and feels he needs to make more money to be able to sustain the lifestyle of the girl of his dreams .
Whatever happens to the definition of a complete woman ? If you think Lola fits ur picture of your dream girl by mere looking at her wedding pics then you really have a long way to go .
True , a woman needs security (financially n otherwise) and it is the duty of a man to provide that but to base relationship on how much money you make shows a very vain , proud and pompous mind .
There is more to a complete woman than money can buy

lastmessenger: Life dont work the way you just analysed it.anybody can become rich or power as situation present itself.i dont think president obama was very rich when he married a beautiful woman like mitchell but today he is both rich and influential.money should never be a determinant on who to mary and we shouldnt let poverty cloud our thinking.i have seen rich and handsome men marry ugly woman and even the thing you call a hot woman becomes trash in a matter of years.love is a matter of the heart and it has nothing to do with material things.money can come to those who work hard be it a lady or a man.
To be sincere your analysis was clouded with poverty mentality.try and do better next time

pc guru: Am always curious how people spend time thinking about chasing women and all, not my thing, reading and working besides chasing women around is known to be a big liability. Also I think its a BS chasing a woman of your caliber then again i don,t a lady to understand anyway. Why should I limit myself, life is a risk and you go for what you want, and if you don,t get it you know you played the game. But I agree bout becoming successful but not because of a girl or to be with someone of a higher caliber, that's just mundane and self-deprecating. Terrible advice oguga and daily news.

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their[b] caliber[/b]." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

DailyNews: @Ogugua, I am not surprised with your response becos u have always proven to be nice, honest, open, intelligent and consistent, keep it up and do say hi to Jamie (sexkillz).

@all, I have no apologies to render to anyone becos I didn't create this thread by mistake, I created it after a long and careful observation of guys' unfair attitude towards ladies nowadays.

And if anyone here ever believed that life is fair to either men or women, then that person is standing on the wrong foot becos life isn't fair to either men or women but if u can be honest to yourself, u will agree with me that life is most unfair to women.

A woman is expected to remain hot, sexy and shapely even after giving birth to two or more kids, but we men aren't required to watch our own shape and stomach size, and in fact we expect our wives to rejoice as our stomach increases in size out of alcohol abuse.

A woman is expected to breastfeed her babies adequately, and she's also expected to ensure her breast is firm and up to impress and attract her husband, gosh...life of a woman isn't easy to be honest!!!

A woman is expected to have flat tummy even after popping out 3 to 4 kids from that same used-to-be flat tummy.

And who said men don't upgrade their taste in women as their pocket increases Yes most good guys may stick with their long time girlfriends but still many of them go about admiring and keeping prettier, younger girls outside their long time girlfriend's knowledge, so what's different?

Most men abandon their wives and start cheating once she's pregnant even though it is the same men that put her into that same pregnancy condition, is that fair? Nope I don't think so.

For a girl to stand a greater chance of getting a solid marriage proposal in Nigeria of today, she is expected to:

1. Be very beautiful with killer shape
2. Be very humble and respectful
3. Be intelligent and prudent
4. Be educated and exposed yet, reserved
5. Be financially independent and demanding
6. Trendy, classy, sexy and also born again or God-fearing
7. Be from a good family background and maybe financially buoyant and still not wild or flambuoyant.

These are just a few of the so many qualities most Nigerian guys are secretly searching for in a girl they would gladly and honestly propose to and maybe marry.

But then, the only quality we as guys work hard daily to possess is:

1. To become financially free or buoyant and then we expect ladies not to bother about the rest of our pitfalls becos we are the men

Anyway, I just pity ladies shaa...I believe they have been naturally equipped to bear the pains...and I pray for God to give them (ladies) the heart to bear and not look at it from my own mindset.

Honestly, it isn't easy to be a woman! And neither is it easy to find a deserving husband, now I see...single ladies reading this, pls forget all the epistles you read online from different websites and blogs, pls and pls try and draw closer to God for your own good so that God can direct u and help u make the best decisions in life cos we guys of nowadays are just too unpredictable and selfish...even though you ladies also are the same...so try and run to God for assistance and guidance in life.

Wishing you all a happy, prosperous days ahead

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

DailyNews: I know this may come as a surprise to so many regular users of nairaland who think and believe that DailyNews is always against women and supporting guys, anyway, that's my own cross to bear, but I just couldn't withhold the truth after observing this ugly trend amongst guys of nowadays.

for some time now, I have observed something ugly in today's world, especially in Nigeria, and I think Nigerian guys aren't saint by the day, how? Read on...

You are a guy with less than 100thousand naira savings in your bank account, and maybe u are also a student, an unemployed or under-employed graduate or even a school drop out, you are not handsome, not intelligent and not in any viable business or life train...but you want a girl like Kim Kardashian or let me say, Juliet Ibrahim to date u and also love u with all her heart, how and why?

In life, u must have something relative to offer to the other party if u want to be valued and treated like a king.

Most guys of nowadays don't cut their coats according to their length...they want a very pretty girl that's also fashionable and they don't even have anything to offer to her besides unnecessary sms and phone calls, and highest, sex.

Come on guys, be realistic, nothing good in life comes free, and if u get one free pls be watchful and tread cautiously.

If u want a hot girl, then try and be a hotter guy, simple!

You saw Peter of Psquare's wife, Omolola right? You want a girl pretty like her? Then work hard like Psquare and stop daydreaming.

Why should a very pretty girl agree to date and love u if I may ask?

Even if she accepts u out of pity or whatever u guys call it, believe me u are in for it if u don't up your game ASAP!
For instance, an ugly poor guy is permitted to dream of having a very pretty hot girlfriend but a beautiful girl is not permitted to wish or publicly declare her love or desire for rich guys, uh uh...that's really unfair guys!

We want girls to look very pretty, sexy and trendy, and we also want to date them for free and still expect them to keep looking cute and being faithful to us becos we are King Solomon without a palace

We guys don't want girls to cheat but we are cheats ourselves and not planning to change...jeez! Life is really unfair to women, I can feel your pains, sighs.

I just felt like telling u guys this for once pls...if u want a very beautiful and hot girl like the ones u see on billboards or on TVs or wherever, then work hard to make yourself a desired man and stop complaining of heartbreak and turn downs pls...cos it won't change anything, so get busy and stop wasting your limited time online chasing girls and daydreaming in the hope of getting a hot girl for free online.

And to the girls...this isn't a backup pls...if u want a rich guy yourself, then try and make yourself worthy for one...cos so many hotter girls are out there to snatch him away from u, that's the reality of our today world!

Goodnight all

DailyNews: I know this may come as a surprise to so many regular users of nairaland who think and believe that DailyNews is always against women and supporting guys, anyway, that's my own cross to bear, but I just couldn't withhold the truth after observing this ugly trend amongst guys of nowadays.

for some time now, I have observed something ugly in today's world, especially in Nigeria, and I think Nigerian guys aren't saint by the day, how? Read on...

You are a guy with less than 100thousand naira savings in your bank account, and maybe u are also a student, an unemployed or under-employed graduate or even a school drop out, you are not handsome, not intelligent and not in any viable business or life train...but you want a girl like Kim Kardashian or let me say, Juliet Ibrahim to date u and also love u with all her heart, how and why?

In life, u must have something relative to offer to the other party if u want to be valued and treated like a king.

Most guys of nowadays don't cut their coats according to their length...they want a very pretty girl that's also fashionable and they don't even have anything to offer to her besides unnecessary sms and phone calls, and highest, sex.

Come on guys, be realistic, nothing good in life comes free, and if u get one free pls be watchful and tread cautiously.

If u want a hot girl, then try and be a hotter guy, simple!

You saw Peter of Psquare's wife, Omolola right? You want a girl pretty like her? Then work hard like Psquare and stop daydreaming.

Why should a very pretty girl agree to date and love u if I may ask?

Even if she accepts u out of pity or whatever u guys call it, believe me u are in for it if u don't up your game ASAP!
For instance, an ugly poor guy is permitted to dream of having a very pretty hot girlfriend but a beautiful girl is not permitted to wish or publicly declare her love or desire for rich guys, uh uh...that's really unfair guys!

We want girls to look very pretty, sexy and trendy, and we also want to date them for free and still expect them to keep looking cute and being faithful to us becos we are King Solomon without a palace

We guys don't want girls to cheat but we are cheats ourselves and not planning to change...jeez! Life is really unfair to women, I can feel your pains, sighs.

I just felt like telling u guys this for once pls...if u want a very beautiful and hot girl like the ones u see on billboards or on TVs or wherever, then work hard to make yourself a desired man and stop complaining of heartbreak and turn downs pls...cos it won't change anything, so get busy and stop wasting your limited time online chasing girls and daydreaming in the hope of getting a hot girl for free online.

And to the girls...this isn't a backup pls...if u want a rich guy yourself, then try and make yourself worthy for one...cos so many hotter girls are out there to snatch him away from u, that's the reality of our today world!

Goodnight all