Okija_juju: So its okay for a guy to date a broke chick, but not vice versa...

lynk106: hahaha nice thread.
Most men dream of a beautiful woman; Most women dream of a rich man. ... it's very simple.
even poor men dream of beautiful wife. Just as ugly women dream of rich husband. I don't know why we make it a bad thing for a woman to want a rich man whereas it is seen as a good thing for a man to want a beautiful wife. rubbish.
As a woman, I am crying FOUL.




Do you think it is easy work to be sewing weaves, bleaching skin, and doing all sorts of things women do to look hot? Skin bleaching for example is very dangerous to health. Women risk their health to look hot for men!
and when they start to get older, they have to do more to keep up and compete with the younger girls. It is hard work.

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

lynk106:

Are you going to leave a good, intelligent woman that can make you happy but she's very ugly cos that's how God made her. all just cos of looks n all?
ur happiness in life is far more important..

dBard: I ve never really been a fan of d 'cut ur coat according to ur size' rule in dating..cos in d first place how do u determine wat ur size is in matters of the heart?
Will her looks, dressing, class etc determine how good a person she'll be. Besides, none of these tins we use as temps are of our doing but we were just priviledged to b born wit such looks, that class of family etc.
I do not believe these should be used as a criteria to determine who u date because stories do change; d poor gets weathy, an ugly guy before becomes attractive, class changes..these are too variable quantities to b used as criterias.
It is imperative everyone develops themselves so as to be able t bring something t d table..n they should be judged based on that.
Are u going to leave a good, intelligent man that can make u happy but is a carpenter cos that is his chosen vocation just cos of class n all ??
Ur happiness in life is far more important for such..


Ur happiness in life is far more important..


A word t d guys..if u aain't bringing nothing t d table then stay outside wit d oda riffraffs.donot try t pull a goodvwoman down.
Am out

lynk106: hahaha nice thread.
Most men dream of a beautiful woman; Most women dream of a rich man. ... it's very simple.
even poor men dream of beautiful wife. Just as ugly women dream of rich husband. I don't know why we make it a bad thing for a woman to want a rich man whereas it is seen as a good thing for a man to want a beautiful wife. rubbish.
As a woman, I am crying FOUL.




Do you think it is easy work to be sewing weaves, bleaching skin, and doing all sorts of things women do to look hot? Skin bleaching for example is very dangerous to health. Women risk their health to look hot for men!
and when they start to get older, they have to do more to keep up and compete with the younger girls. It is hard work.

Black Human: I understand point the Op is trying to make (wat he's basically saying is Hot girls date Hot guyz). and he's right to an extent....but if the Op has studied this life well, the Op would hav e found out that LIFE ISN'T a Mathematical formula, LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS THAT STRAIGHT FORWARD.

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

Okija_juju: So its okay for a guy to date a broke chick, but not vice versa...






Here is my take;

Life is full of hypocrisy, that’s why my motto in life is live life as best as you know how to.

Many people have come out with the saying 'Love has nothing to do with age or class', I guess they have never heard seen this post.
Like someone here asked, how does one judge their size in matters of the heart? I will take it further; can one comfortably predict their future sizes?! So let’s say that a guy later becomes filthy rich and the fortunes of his wife or partner goes down, can he dump her and go find a partner that fits into his current size?!

I grew up with the mentality that Money and material things were never part of the fundamentals of a relationship. I always thought that the pillar of every relationship was mutual love, respect and understanding. Sizes change. The street kid of today can become the president of tomorrow, ask Jonathan the shoeless son of a Bayelsa fisherman. My father is another classic example. Grew with nothing, struggled through school, met a woman whose class was out of his league. Infact, I learnt that my maternal grandfather refered to him as a ‘Pauper’ and was against the marriage. Infact, at their traditional wedding, My grandfather repaid my father all the money he spent saying ‘He would need it to feed his stupid daughter’. I learnt a few wealthy Igbo Business men were lining up for my mum then. After their traditional wedding, they both retired to the village. My mum told me of the first time my Grandfather came to see her at my Paternal grandfathers house, that he stopped his car at the entrance to the compound and wouldn’t enter because they were too poor for his taste. Infact he brought a bus load of foodstuff for my parents after he saw the state they were living in (with me just being born then). Today!! My mums younger brother who use to call my father my his first name now calls him ‘Uncle’. This same Grandfather called my father and apologised to him blaming it on his foolish pride.
In issues of the heart, I do not believe in ‘cutting coats to size’.

I know of a case where an Onitsha trader married this very beautiful Girl that he met as an under graduate. Her parents also resisted calling her husband a common trader. Her friends still tease her about her husbands ‘localness’, but the one undeniable fact that none of them can dispute is that the man adores and cherishes his wife more than anything in the world. The chick is living la vida loca.


To each his own... Note that the coat wey size you today, fit no be your size tomorrow..

_{Please guys, keep hustling hard.. If you are to take anything away from this thread, it would be to keep improving on yourself. Keep trying to 'upgrade your coat size & fabric quality"... Not for women, but for yourself.}

So ladies, you want a guy...
with class
dresses with style
tall
handsome
nicely built
great diction
rich
a great cook
helps with the kids
helps with the house chores
awesome in bed
home-man who spends the weekend with his wife
faithful - not promiscuous
sings for his wife
plays with the kids

What type of weed do you smoke?
Looks like its of a great quality!

Omila007:

Brainless Post and typical of a Nigerian Girl.
Apparently beauty should be sold to the highest bidder, And beauty that fades is all she brings to the table.
Why complain when the highest bidder gets fed up and needs change of flavour.
Reasoning like this is why some girls end up grossly unhappy and marred in marriage and relationships.
Go and add value to your life so you have something to bring to the table, No man would value you more than you value yourself beautiful or not.

Okija_juju: So its okay for a guy to date a broke chick, but not vice versa...






Here is my take;

Life is full of hypocrisy, that’s why my motto in life is live life as best as you know how to.

Many people have come out with the saying 'Love has nothing to do with age or class', I guess they have never heard seen this post.
Like someone here asked, how does one judge their size in matters of the heart? I will take it further; can one comfortably predict their future sizes?! So let’s say that a guy later becomes filthy rich and the fortunes of his wife or partner goes down, can he dump her and go find a partner that fits into his current size?!

I grew up with the mentality that Money and material things were never part of the fundamentals of a relationship. I always thought that the pillar of every relationship was mutual love, respect and understanding. Sizes change. The street kid of today can become the president of tomorrow, ask Jonathan the shoeless son of a Bayelsa fisherman. My father is another classic example. Grew with nothing, struggled through school, met a woman whose class was out of his league. Infact, I learnt that my maternal grandfather refered to him as a ‘Pauper’ and was against the marriage. Infact, at their traditional wedding, My grandfather repaid my father all the money he spent saying ‘He would need it to feed his stupid daughter’. I learnt a few wealthy Igbo Business men were lining up for my mum then. After their traditional wedding, they both retired to the village. My mum told me of the first time my Grandfather came to see her at my Paternal grandfathers house, that he stopped his car at the entrance to the compound and wouldn’t enter because they were too poor for his taste. Infact he brought a bus load of foodstuff for my parents after he saw the state they were living in (with me just being born then). Today!! My mums younger brother who use to call my father my his first name now calls him ‘Uncle’. This same Grandfather called my father and apologised to him blaming it on his foolish pride.
In issues of the heart, I do not believe in ‘cutting coats to size’.

I know of a case where an Onitsha trader married this very beautiful Girl that he met as an under graduate. Her parents also resisted calling her husband a common trader. Her friends still tease her about her husbands ‘localness’, but the one undeniable fact that none of them can dispute is that the man adores and cherishes his wife more than anything in the world. The chick is living la vida loca.


To each his own... Note that the coat wey size you today, fit no be your size tomorrow..

_{Please guys, keep hustling hard.. If you are to take anything away from this thread, it would be to keep improving on yourself. Keep trying to 'upgrade your coat size & fabric quality"... Not for women, but for yourself.}

Okija_juju: So its okay for a guy to date a broke chick, but not vice versa...






Here is my take;

Life is full of hypocrisy, that’s why my motto in life is live life as best as you know how to.

Many people have come out with the saying 'Love has nothing to do with age or class', I guess they have never heard seen this post.
Like someone here asked, how does one judge their size in matters of the heart? I will take it further; can one comfortably predict their future sizes?! So let’s say that a guy later becomes filthy rich and the fortunes of his wife or partner goes down, can he dump her and go find a partner that fits into his current size?!

I grew up with the mentality that Money and material things were never part of the fundamentals of a relationship. I always thought that the pillar of every relationship was mutual love, respect and understanding. Sizes change. The street kid of today can become the president of tomorrow, ask Jonathan the shoeless son of a Bayelsa fisherman. My father is another classic example. Grew with nothing, struggled through school, met a woman whose class was out of his league. Infact, I learnt that my maternal grandfather refered to him as a ‘Pauper’ and was against the marriage. Infact, at their traditional wedding, My grandfather repaid my father all the money he spent saying ‘He would need it to feed his stupid daughter’. I learnt a few wealthy Igbo Business men were lining up for my mum then. After their traditional wedding, they both retired to the village. My mum told me of the first time my Grandfather came to see her at my Paternal grandfathers house, that he stopped his car at the entrance to the compound and wouldn’t enter because they were too poor for his taste. Infact he brought a bus load of foodstuff for my parents after he saw the state they were living in (with me just being born then). Today!! My mums younger brother who use to call my father my his first name now calls him ‘Uncle’. This same Grandfather called my father and apologised to him blaming it on his foolish pride.
In issues of the heart, I do not believe in ‘cutting coats to size’.

I know of a case where an Onitsha trader married this very beautiful Girl that he met as an under graduate. Her parents also resisted calling her husband a common trader. Her friends still tease her about her husbands ‘localness’, but the one undeniable fact that none of them can dispute is that the man adores and cherishes his wife more than anything in the world. The chick is living la vida loca.


To each his own... Note that the coat wey size you today, fit no be your size tomorrow..

_{Please guys, keep hustling hard.. If you are to take anything away from this thread, it would be to keep improving on yourself. Keep trying to 'upgrade your coat size & fabric quality"... Not for women, but for yourself.}

Okija_juju: [img]http://www..com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/-goodluck-jonathan-young-photo_abiyamo.jpg[/img]



The images of the guy above is a classic example of DONT JUDGE A PERSON BY THE QUALITY or SIZE OF THEIR COAT..

Infact, look at his Akwa Oche COAT ..

[img]http://www..com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/a-young-goodluck-jonathan_abiyamo.jpg[/img]

I'm sure this guy must have seen and toasted alot of 'Quality' babes with 'Big imported designer coats' and they all looked down on his humble, poverty stricken beginning..

He prolly settled for this 20,000 litres, fat, non-Quality babe out of frustration;








Fast forward to the Present





That Man above.. Look at him now





And this his fat Ugly wife is now the Supreme biitch of the Federal Republic of Nigeria..






End of story!

DailyNews: Lol, life is based on supply and demand- since the demand for beautiful women by men and even product/brand owners/marketers is on the high rate, then the cost will be much....same way, since the demand for rich guys by women is also on the high side, it also cost much to get one as a girl....

What am I trying to infer? What majority of men of today demand most from women is physical beauty with other added qualities (respect, education, good character) not necessarily her financial status.....whereas majority of women (even though they won't admit it since this is online) of today desire and seek most in a man they would commit to and love is money....so why not make yourself that desired man by uping your game financially, etc as the ladies are busy packaging themselves to appear hot and beautiful mostly for the highest bidder


I know it that I was going to disappoint my nairaland homies with this controversial topic....yet, I stand by my initial post that life is really unfair to women...and anyone born a man should be thanking God everyday because the life of a nowadays girl is surrounded with pains, risks and uncertainties, and for that, they deserve some pity and consideration from us, though the good ones sha....

You guys should stop panicking cos I am still with you guys naa.....won't stop from condemning any female nonsense as usual

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

DailyNews: Hi Okija....lol....yes, we all have been told that love is all that matters in a relationship....but I am talking about how to spark up or initiate that love. You can't tell me that u as a guy will intentionally see a good mad woman and go after her just because she is a good mad woman

Physical beauty of a woman is one of the foremost qualities that spark up the desire for love in men....even though it doesn't always happen that way, but then....every woman wants to date or marry a man that can fend and provide for her....a man that can fight for her and defend her from future attack and make her happy...and this is one reason women in the ancient times married warriors, strong men who are strong in wrestling and in hunting, today, those qualities have been translated into financial strength, and reason most beautiful ladies of today don't always give full attention to broke guys...its a natural thing- guys want beautiful girls....girls want rich guys...so to make it fair, let guys try and weigh themselves before daydreaming to marry a Kim Kardashian, while girls should also weigh themselves before they go on daydreaming to marry Aliko Dangote....

DailyNews: Now you have nailed it yourself ....Jonathan knowing that he came from a poor family background, didn't go about daydreaming to date Lulu Briggs' daughter....he didn't go for a super pretty lady...he cut his coat according to his length and went for a not-so-pretty lady whom he can contend with ....but today, a guy living in my village will be daydreaming and jumping around the internet in search of Dangote's daughter, in search of girls living in Lekki when they know too well that they don't merit it....

If love naturally finds you, no problem...but its better to be realistic in life than to be daydreaming and dreaming your life away in fantasies that will never come to reality.


Haven't you wondered why majority of rich men in Nigeria today who came from poor family backgrounds are married to not-so-pretty women They cut their coats according to their lengths then....and luckily for them, they made it with their not-so-pretty wife and are happy....but most of us today want to hang our clothes where our hands can't reach....some unemployed guys are even daydreaming to date/marry Genevieve and Rita Domnic