Tales by Moonlight.

I totally agree with u. Those that are currently into fornication will hardly agree with you. Fornicators usually confess that they find it very difficult or impossible to quit. At a point, some will even start justifying their actions. Some will turn atheist because of fornication. The truth is very bitter. May God deliver all fornicators on Nairaland in Jesus name, AMEN.

anything can be learnt. so no justification for say practicing aforetime. on the sexual state of your partner so as to avoid surprises, a doctor can give you accurate reports. konji levels, apostle paul said 'if you no fit hold bodi, go marry'.

@OP. Make your case without appealing to religious sentiments or scare tactics as you did here. Its a big turn off. You lose credibility when you do that. Let your points stand on their own merit. None of what you wrote down here addresses the real life issues the original poster you were responding to addressed. Sex.ual compatibility and gratification are deal breaking issues men and women deal with. Its not enough to quote the bible or received wisdom from 2000 years ago to tell me how I should live my life today.

Nice thread true talk thanks hope they will listen this youth of this days

Number 1 reason:

IT SHOULDN'T. why?... cuzz!

Very beautiful Master Piece.


Now help research why paying bills should wait after marriage. For all these boys bleeding to please a lady.

God Bless you.

smh

alizenbohr: Although this kind of message is not popular & widely accepted by many young people nowadays, it holds the truth that will set many free & help secure a fulfilling destiny without haunting regrets.
Pre-marital sex (in all forms) still remains one of the greatest hindrances to a glorious future & by God's grace, I won't be side-tracked from my purpose in life.
...So help me God.

Amen in Jesus name! Good for you.

slap1: The current trend is pregnancy before marriage, because some girls have no womb anymore.

as a result of? it's rare for a married woman to abort her husband's baby. common in singles baby did not fly there, it swam.

Horayce: @OP. Make your case without appealing to religious sentiments or scare tactics as you did here. Its a big turn off. You lose credibility when you do that. Let your points stand on their own merit. None of what you wrote down here addresses the real life issues the original poster you were responding to addressed. Sex.ual compatibility and gratification are deal breaking issues men and women deal with. Its not enough to quote the bible or received wisdom from 2000 years ago to tell me how I should live my life today.

You are on your own!

Eni ti ko ni gbo ko kuku ni gbo, ori okere koko lawo. Igbeyin lo ma ye oloku ada. "Had I known" will always be the end result of hard-heartens

i disagree though with @op on number 3. with a good sex partner anyone can enjoy sex even at the first time. that is where the issue is. no one wants to have remained celibate only to be disappointed on the bed after expecting explosive moments.

Sex is a wonderful gift from God meant only for marriage. Why? Apart from having kids and pleasure, sex is meant to draw the two partners together as one body and soul. This is why those who practice sex outside marriage still have soul-ties with boy and girlfriends. Sex is also meant to diffuse stress and tension in marriage-its not easy to cleave to one person for the rest of your life. Those who sleep with each other before marriage are already exhausting their "shock-absorber"

Birthcontrol pills increases the risk of fibroid growth.

moscobabs: How many times this topic want make front-page this year?

As many times as possible, It's worth it. Especially as some people are so daft & unreasonable when it comes to ''_ _x''.

''Satan'' (in some Nairalanders clothing, especially one particular nairalander) is roaming to & fro seekin 4 whom to mislead, but I pity those that will b mislead on this forum.

S_x after wedding STANDS.

Be Wise!

Havilah93: In response to this thread created some days ago

https://www.nairaland.com/1561369/guyz-dont-ever-marry-girl


1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly

Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.

3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.

4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.

5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.

6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.

7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.

8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.

9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.

10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

http://www.unification.net/tfv/tenreasons.html


True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you

Listen OP ,
If you no wan "chook", carry ya thing, put inside pant. Some of us have no problem with freelance chook-chook. No de put sand inside our garri. Wetin you wan achieve? If girls read this thing now dem go increase shakara levels. Making life more difficult for umuafrika. Abeg OP hol ya side o, leave us alone. No de preach for here. Carry this sermon go religion section, where our hot girls no de go

By the way, why Tina nova come yet Make e no be say she don read this yeye post from OP o

let's be frank with ourselves, who bargains for a christmas cracker when you can get a dynamite with the same deal. but there is hope in that anything can be learnt. letting our bodies fall with the flow is selfishly satisfying cravings hastily

Truth be say, most of those screaming s3x after marriage don screw tire without wedding ring. Hipocrisy no be new thing

Instead of s3x after marriage lets be realistic and preach safe s3x or single s3x partner and eschew promiscuity and lasciviousness

Havilah93: In response to this thread created some days ago

https://www.nairaland.com/1561369/guyz-dont-ever-marry-girl


1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly

Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.

3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.

4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.

5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.

6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.

7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.

8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.

9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.

10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

http://www.unification.net/tfv/tenreasons.html


True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you

5 REASONS WHY SEX BEFORE MARIAGE IS GOOD FOR MEN
Seriously i won't advice any guy to marry a girl without first sampling her for the following reasons

1. Some girls have an offensive väginal odour ,that when get undressed the entire house go dey ooze undecided

2.some girls have vägina that is as loose as Nigerian local dogs , if u wait till ur wedding night before u find out ,na heavy cross u carry o grin

3. Some girls will jus lay on the bed like a bag of rice during sěx ,no excitement ,no style..if you marry this kind of woman , u go still dey go outside go fùck ashawo grin

4. Some girls can neva be satisfied " NEVER" even if u service them on per second fuckn, they will still be asking you that " wat have u done, that u are tired ? "...guys if u wait till ur wedding night before finding out " ur days no go long" grin

5. Some girls have spiritual husband ,that if u are straffin dem ..dey will be shaking and shouting. " spiritual spiritual spiritual ! "! shocked so if you wait till ur wedding night to find out " ur life will never be that same again
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@op,don't expect youths of nowadays to support this truth.I fear for my generation cos we now call black white nd white black.even when the truth is staring us in the face we will deny it cos we enjoy the pleasures of sin.God help us

Rityben: Birthcontrol pills increases the risk of fibroid growth.

On the contrary they are protective after the age of 20 but only increase risk in the teenage years. I am however not in support of premarital sex, just wanted to shed light on your post.

I concur@Op ... Sex goes beyond the physical. The more people one has sex with, the more spirit he shares. Nobody knows what kind of blessing or curse the sexmate carries. You may enjoy the sex now and bear the consequences later on life without knowing where the problem came from. There are things in this world one shouldnt take lightly. Though most people will not listen. Better to stick to one than to play around.

lame facts

Havilah93:

1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly

Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

pls explain how.

2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.

like u said. This is for adolescent sex and has nothing to do premarital sex.

3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.

this is very subjective and directed to adolescent sex as well and not for premarital sex between mature mates.

4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.

says who my dear?

5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.

this advice is for one that engages in many sexual relationships b4 marraige. The post that you are responding to never advised any one to sleep around b4 marriage. It simply encourages sleeping with your lover b4 u finally marry.

6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.

if u are not infected by ur partner b4 u get married, u ll be after.

7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.

no, the best way is to stick to the partner you would get married to.

8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.

there is no where in the 10 commandments that speaks against premarital sex. Do not confuse this with adultery.

9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children...

there is no child that is illegitimate. That word is an evil word created by society to derogate a child. Though u are to a big extent right abt the negatives of raising a child alone.

10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

you are right about this.

True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you

1O0% right.

Basicaly most of what u said here addresses adolescent sex and not premarital sex. They are two different things.

The bible tells you that ones a man have sex with a woman (ceremony or not) they are both automaticaly married. The only way to break this marriage isto have sex with another.

Abeg apart from val place, do anyone know of any other Okpo joint in Asaba?

I don hear. How many girls still be virgin? #wayo

Nuzo':
Most people will take exception to no. 3.

"Forbidden fruit is Sweetest"

and the deadliest too!

K, tnx

[quote author=oluwaseytiano]Abraham, Caleb, Jabob, David, Solomon, Ruth, Esther, Gideon, Samson, Saul. Anybody know what all dis people had in common?[q/uote] all had either premarital or extra marital sex. Am not preaching for premarital sex.

how i wish we brothers too had a form of hymen as proof of virginity and thus a present for our spouses. atimes we get what we bargain/wish for. insincerity attracts insincerity, deception for deception, truth for truth. good good clean girls abound.

Well by luck and His Grace im still a virgin. Its so not because no opportunity or whatever, to me it's bcoz just hate the act maybe its coz I've never tried it. The last time i was close to it i just hated the feeling i had in me and there was this migraine that was having a nice time in my head at the moment. I just pray i get married to someone that would appreciate me as I am and not complain when i don't do it roughly.