MAURI:

What a whole load of crap!!



So people who make the conscious choice not to marry because they have a different outlook on life concerning marriage, should never have sex?



Even when it involves two consenting adults?



It is either you love a person for who that person is or you don't. The person’ past notwithstanding! We all have a past. The most precious thing in any union / relationship is the individual’s well-being and happiness!! In the event you "think" that the core determinant of you loving a person is majorly based on whether that person has had previous sexual interactions or not, you should ask yourself if you REALLY love that person!

born_to_be_gr8t: See BEEF thread am sure this is wat the ladies wana hear anyways its a free world, " ON TESTING BEFORE MARRIAGE I STAND"




Some men will UnCloth their wife on the wedding night and start weeping...cos thats wen they wud realize that wat they married is counterfeit

poshpimkiey: Virginity is a way of life. It is a choice,a virtue and not lack of opportunity.

xp17: personally I don't believe in marriage, becos its sucks in d coast I live at. All I want is a friend that we gonna live together forever.(without marriage story)


@ op STD's is not contacted as a result numerous sex partners only, it only take one person to transmit the dreaded virus to d next person, d rest na jara. That's all.
You can change partners like a chameleon, yet be free more so, you could stick to a partner and still contact it, even after marriage .as good men becomes bad, likewise to ladies.


Na God dey protect
I no holy pass ppl wey get AIDS.

buoye1: I wish I can stay......God help me......AMEN

poshpimkiey: Virginity is a way of life. It is a choice,a virtue and not lack of opportunity.

Havilah93: In response to this thread created some days ago

https://www.nairaland.com/1561369/guyz-dont-ever-marry-girl


1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly

Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.

3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.

4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.

5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.

6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.

7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.

8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.

9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.

10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

http://www.unification.net/tfv/tenreasons.html


True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you

Loviho: ... my girl friend who never allow me to have sex with her, ''she said i can only f*ck her if i marry her'',but if i marry her and later she is not virgin as claim ,what do you think divorce

born_to_be_gr8t: See BEEF thread am sure this is wat the ladies wana hear anyways its a free world, " ON TESTING BEFORE MARRIAGE I STAND"




Some men will UnCloth their wife on the wedding night and start weeping...cos thats wen they wud realize that wat they married is counterfeit

toshmann: Truth be say, most of those screaming s3x after marriage don screw tire without wedding ring. Hipocrisy no be new thing

Instead of s3x after marriage lets be realistic and preach safe s3x or single s3x partner and eschew promiscuity and lasciviousness

unmask: Wrong analogy, atomic bombs cause destruction, whether they are used well or not...

wrong again. In school the best students in my class, had sexually active lives

It's called the thrill of living on the wild side. It is sweeter when it is dangerous

What is your advice to those that lost theirs through non-sexual means, e.g sports?

A child is a child, or is it no longer a gift from above?

bisiopinion: I've recently joined Nairaland and I really don't understand the obsession with virginity. Some people are virgins, others aren't. If you want a virgin, you better ask your dates up front. Plus, why does it matter to you and how will you know?

Some virgins, do not bleed when they have sex for the first time.

Some people get their hymens sewn up.


Those that want to be virgins, fine, but there is no need to demonise those who make a RESPONSIBLE CHOICE not to wait until marriage. Some people don't even believe in marriage. I don't. It's not my goal in life to get married.

I have a great understanding of my body and it is only NATURAL for me to have sex and to want to have sex. I don't sleep with anyone and anybody.

Having sex is NOT an immoral act, it is a 'sinful' act for Christians, Muslims and religious groups who are against fornication. If you are talking about how sex is procured, such as rape, then yes, in those cases it can be considered an immoral act.

I for one follow no religious creed and I have no qualms with participating with pre-marital sex. I am 24. I haven't had a pregnancy scare, I test myself regularly, if I am in a long term relationship where no condoms may not be used, I take contraceptive precautions, not the morning after pill, long term ones.

You dating a virgin, let alone marrying one, doesn't guarantee you won't catch an STD. There are 'virgins' who haven't been penetrated, but sure know how to use their mouths and other 'rites' of passage.

I hear there is a high risk of cheating Nigerian men who tend to wander. You getting married doesn't guarantee you'll be protected from an STD.

Also to the guys that want virgins, because it tends to be the guys who demand these requirements.

Are you a virgin? Have you considered the virgin who doesn't want to marry a virgin, or a virgin who doesn't want to marry a non-virgin?

This idea that you have some unbreakable bond between your sexual partner or partners is not true. However, I do suggest avoiding having sex as a sport. It is an intimate act and you should do it with whoever you feel is worthy of your body. Whoever you lay down is your choice and you should take your time to get to know a person first. You getting married and having sex with a virgin, doesn't guarantee a happy marriage, it's the character of the person that counts. I would rather have 3 successful longterm relationships than one long drawn out miserable marriage. People are intelligent and advanced enough to know what works for them. Be honest with yourself.

Christianity/Judaism is an evolving religion, before there was no marraige, then it was sleep with your sisters and brothers to procreate, then it was have several wives, now it is have one wife. Islam is a young religion, I respect the Quaran for historical purposes but after that, I'm done. I'd rather listen to what the traditional African religions have to say first about pre-marital sex than a borrowed faith/ in fact a faith that was forced upon us.

However, things do happen, just make sure you protect yourself.

Also there is no such thing as illegitimate children. If a child is meant to be born, that child will be born and every respectful father and mother will claim that child. There are also mothers who loose their partners, does that mean they are incapable of being a good parent to their children. My father died when I was younger. I am fine, I do not have any psychological problems and in fact my mother has done a better job than families who have both their mothers and fathers.

Just because you have pre-marital sex and you get pregnant does not mean it is the end of the world. This life is so imperfect, if it's not a surprise child, it will be something else.

My post is not for religious bigots but possibly a young guy or girl, who's considering having sex and is being told to sit down and read a bible. That's not going to help. At least know what your options are. If you want to wait fine, if you don't want to, that's fine also. There is nothing wrong with you.