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Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 3:24pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
Ok, Thank you to all those who commented and advised me (good or bad) . I really wished people read the post properly before accusing me of many things but on the brighter side some comments were really funny and helpful . There are some things I will take away from this thread in preparation for being a good wife as many good points were highlighted but do not get me wrong I am not 'desperate' for a husband as so many of you suggested (without reading what my post asked of you) therefore please stop sending me Pms. I Think the main lesson here is to work on being the best me and the rest will follow in time and within God's vision...but I really do like the idea of attending networking events and being more out there at places where I can meet people that are likely to meet my requirements. Im not really sure how to close a thread but this is me officially 'closing' it but everyone is welcome to continue flirting and making jokes or giving advice or bashing me ect...Its called freedom of speech 1 Like |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by pickabeau1: 3:25pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Ok, Thank you to all those who commented and advised me (good or bad) . I really wished people read the post properly before accusing me of many things but on the brighter side some comments were really funny and helpful . There are some things I will take away from this thread in preparation for being a good wife as many good points were highlighted but do not get me wrong I am not 'desperate' for a husband as so many of you suggested (without reading what my post asked of you) therefore please stop sending me Pms. Just send a mail to the mods that you want to close the thread |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 3:27pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Oh... thanks |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by oshyno(m): 3:53pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Choi just had to write this b4 d damn mod closes this great thread. Ahhh babe u hashh oooo . When the young man was just about go drop money offering in thanksgiving to Alimighty Allah that we r moving to d permanent site. Nawa oo if naso finding my Mrs right hard naim be say na to dey drop am like Wizkid naa. I born, u raise am 4 ya house. U free me to dey whine dey enjoy my life. No time. Gudluck on d lucky chaps |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Islie: 5:31pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
Hernyolar: this is getting intresting..... So, when is the update self to back up ur claim and the thread |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Islie: 5:33pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
mizmycoli..... I dey see u how paroles nah......... Happy sunday |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by xtervaganza(m): 5:46pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
rozzay: . Ok! So pips wit d nicknames of rozzay cannot prophesy abi? ok ill change it to my names nd surnames - ifechukwudeonweneonyegenwikeshishe. So do I qualify by ur naming standards to prophesy now? General underseer?na your name be this or your keyboard get fault? BTW I de undersee your skirt |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by agabaI23(m): 9:02pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Ehen, Kinky, truth is, we all face subtle pressures at least from our parents/guardians especially when we're ripe. I do not fault your original post and I sense your maturity.There she goes again. Hmmm! Deep response! |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 9:40pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
Islie: mizmycoli.....Happy Sunday |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 9:51pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
agabaI23: There she goes again. Hmmm! Deep response!Happy Sunday Thanks. |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 10:12pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
Hernyolar: Interesting read. |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by agabaI23(m): 10:29pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Happy Sunday Thanks.Happy Sunday to you. Hope you had a good one? |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 10:40pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
agabaI23: Happy Sunday to you.Sure, Thanks |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Islie: 11:25pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Happy Sunday maybe because i took the bold step of saying 'HI to u' thats why my team won..... So, i ganna say goodnite now........ maybe the angel will smile back at me in mah dreams goodnite |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by agabaI23(m): 11:34pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Sure, ThanksCan I ask a question? |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by DOWHILE: 11:35pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
hmmmmmm |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 11:38pm On Jul 13, 2014 |
agabaI23: Can I ask a question?Okay Please Shoot |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by naavu: 12:06am On Jul 14, 2014 |
I u beautiful. do u respect guys? r u really ready for marriage |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by agabaI23(m): 12:14am On Jul 14, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Okay Please ShootWhat's your discipline? |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 12:28am On Jul 14, 2014 |
Naetochukwu:....no, you are wrong! Naetochukwu. Perhaps the category of men you've worked with. While i expect my wife (in future) to be a contributor to family finances, i expect an average man to be the main financier. Do you think its a joke we guys wait till 31, 32, 36 before we marry...........................it's to be a proud man in the front of that girl. I guess the guys you're referring to are those on campus and yes, guys on campus seek girls who can give them their daily meals. I did too! |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 12:38am On Jul 14, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Ehen, Kinky, truth is, we all face subtle pressures at least from our parents/guardians especially when we're ripe. I do not fault your original post and I sense your maturity.....i never knew you are a Christian. Whao, you gat nice posts there. It inspired me |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 12:43am On Jul 14, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Ok, Thank you to all those who commented and advised me (good or bad) . I really wished people read the post properly before accusing me of many things but on the brighter side some comments were really funny and helpful . There are some things I will take away from this thread in preparation for being a good wife as many good points were highlighted but do not get me wrong I am not 'desperate' for a husband as so many of you suggested (without reading what my post asked of you) therefore please stop sending me Pms.....whao, a voice told me you're so responsible. Walahi, with this your sense of reasoning, expects the best. I can't marry you, bt I'll expect my girl to be as sensible (or more sensible) as you are. Wishing you the best in life. Just take the mist of pressure off your sights, and you will see him standing nxt to you. *Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by tpia1: 1:22am On Jul 14, 2014 |
is the op nigerian? |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Lenzz(m): 2:30am On Jul 14, 2014 |
I find this OP's obsession with hardwork nd ultimately its direct reward of elite status both charming nd sexy. But I'm also disturbed that such a presumed scholar would be this insecure about the future. You smartly tried to explain these insecurities away by disguising them as pressures nd putting them on d society and family. But even those too are also bollocks. We're all under pressure - make no mistake about that.. Also you're R50k demand from prospective suitors is not unattainable but its also not entirely smart placing it ahead of your goal. Makes the whole thing look like some bilateral contract negotiation. The truth is you crave an elite lifestyle with your future spouse because you feel you've worked hard to get to where you are and consequently can't accept anything less. That is fair enough. But you should atleast be honest enough to admit that. Also you've made it clear you're no Mary mother of God. That's bold nd commendable. It also places you in proper perspective as a liberal. If I had my way I personally would not wish to marry one sef. Now as a liberal you should be flexible too in your expectations from from life generally cos with age, I have come to learn that life is not really divided in black and white but in shades of grays and white. Anyway if one where to put a lock on those coordinates in d profile you reeled out up there, a couple of smart friends (all under 29) returns as search results. But these are boys who will not trade Lagos for ANY place in d world. So Miss kinkybraids, the question here is why SA? What's in SA? Where you born there? Are you even Nigerian? Ohh damn. OP's don sign out already |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by tpia1: 4:38am On Jul 14, 2014 |
if her plans are for three years in the future, then something's weird, given her thread title. |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 4:44am On Jul 14, 2014 |
agabaI23: What's your discipline? Advertising and PR - I major in relationship/account management |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 4:47am On Jul 14, 2014 |
Samakinr: I'm glad you're inspired, I am too, each time I re-read the post. |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by agabaI23(m): 6:59am On Jul 14, 2014 |
MizMyColi:I will hire you to manage my account. Good morning! |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by MizMyColi(f): 8:33am On Jul 14, 2014 |
agabaI23: I will hire you to manage my account. Good morning!Thank You! |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by agabaI23(m): 10:03am On Jul 14, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Thank You! |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 10:20am On Jul 14, 2014 |
xtervaganza: na your name be this or your keyboard get fault?. Lol |
Re: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Nobody: 10:42am On Jul 14, 2014 |
Lenzz: I find this OP's obsession with hardwork nd ultimately its direct reward of elite status both charming nd sexy. But I'm also disturbed that such a presumed scholar would be this insecure about the future. You smartly tried to explain these insecurities away by disguising them as pressures nd putting them on d society and family. But even those too are also bollocks. We're all under pressure - make no mistake about that.. Ok you have caught me out...maybe I am insecure about the future but these insecurities are highlighted even more by societal pressures and as man I dont feel that you can truly experience the full extent of the pressure placed on woman. I know I shouldn't use it as an excuse but I do feel time is running out. I honestly dont feel R50k is unattainable...Its a bit harder to get but if you are ambitious enough its possible. I want a man who doesnt feel its too unrealistic because he has a vision like I do. Ill be honest maybe I shouldnt have made it the focal point of my requirements but If you want to marry a prospective CA then you should at least earn that because that is just the starting salary. Money aside If my prospective husband is secure enough with himself and I trully love him then I'd be fine with him earning less but he must still be able to take care of me and the family we will make together. Ok I will admit that I crave that lifestyle because I am not from a rich home and I will not be ashamed to say I want it if I am willing to work for it. I can accept a modest lifestyle but I want to know that I am financially secure. Yes life isnt black and white but you have to know what you want and what your goals are so where you are in the grey area you have them as a guide. lol wow you have caught me here...ok I didnt want to give too much info about myself and where I come from because I know what comments were going to follow thereafter. There is this negative perception about South African women on NL and I didnt want that to cloud and advice given to me. I just wanted pure advice that was unbiased or tainted. I didnt specifically say I wanted to marry a Nigerian man (this was assumed and rightly so) but I just wanted general advice that could be applicable to me (Nigerian or not)... which brings me to say I am not Nigerian ... however my parents are very traditional and a part of man would like to marry a man who is modern but still upholds some traditional African values. Ps: My intention is not to steal Nigerian men but I strongly believe that Nigeria has kept most of these African values which SA has traded for a western way of living. If I had mentioned that I was South African the bashing would have been worse and I would have taking nothing from the thread... 3 Likes |
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