iamord: its because majority of them are too religious and affected by crows mentality.. “I don't want to go.. Oya stay! I don't want to stay ”syndrome

xynerise:
And if she doesn't make-up you will have no choice than to cheat on her?

snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

iamord: u did not give any advice to him but just jump into conclusions.. If the two don't settle on her to make themselves comfortable in the house. How can they leave together.m then tomorow he cheats they will give her brainwash part 2 that he is in darkness and needs to come into the light.m the lady won't see anything wrong in what she is doing but increase pressure.. Be careful of brainwash. My fello Nlairalanders.. Am not saying she should put thick make up but look fine.. I have some that pass my area.. I won't mention the chuurch.m u will see a woman with phd..with smelly hair.. That kill.. Wear sandals like they in 1980 don't even use mosturizer to cleanse the skin.m their skin will be dry and un attractive.. Tomorow you will be fasting for husband.. The only person that can marry such is someone that thinks likewise. ..guard your family from brainwash.m this thing is like an epidemic

flipflop: Sir, I'm sure you did not marry her just for beauty alone. Your wife has acted on faith, you criticizing and demanding for her to change may destroy her faith. Give her your support as her husband and friend. If you feel she looks unkempt, it just because you are still looking for that woman she used to be. You suggesting cheating on her is absolutely absurd and terribly wicked. Your wife is your wife, stop loving her for the outside "beauty" and start focusing on the inward beauty that does not change or fade. *#shrugs shoulder

lastpage: Op,

I want you to come out and tell us/me that there is more to what is bordering you than "How she dresses".

I know this and l can smell it from a thousand miles but l appear to be the only one thinking along this line (abi l dey crase nii sef? )

Pause and think, look inwards and try to figure out what you think its really is. (Maybe you already know anyway)

The fact that "cheating" crossed your mind indicates that you have thought "long and far".

I referred to "change in loyalty" in my previous post (and that is a gamut of things in itself) but it is a summary of the whole show.

I remember this saying: "If you love me, you will do almost anything to make me happy". True-dat!!

Finally, this issue is not about "religion" at all ...... its just that the Op's wife manifested her "change of loyalty" 'religiously'.

My warning to all married men, guard your wife/husband from the over-reaching influence of these MOG's, for by the nature of their 'business', it is normal for them to seek "unfeterred loyalty", like from a Dog to its owner. That is what makes the business grow (or how do you explain an unemployed young man who goes to church to clean Pastors office at 9am in the morning (when all his mates are out looking for job, writing aptitude tests, doing interviews or even prowling the web for possible job offerings), returns at 5pm in the evening and is back in church again at 7pm (for digging deep) and then goes back home by 9:30pm only to be back again at midnight (for Night Vigil)?

Is that not total submission/loyalty to the control of a fellow man?

As they do to the young man, so they expect from your/our wives (They know married men are a bit stubborn).

They will employ all sorts of gimmicks to divert and re-direct the loyalty of spouses to themselves and against the other spouse.
I've seen it happen countless number of times in different churches.

Some call it 'faith', some call it 'total submission' to the will of 'gwod', some call it 'surrender' and all sort of funny-funny acronyms.

This man must by now have accepted that he has "lost his wife".
His post is just all about easing the pain and agony of that sudden realization.
The "cheating part" is actually just a mask, it has nothing to do with the problem he is facing.

So saad. But That is life for you. Man-up and take it on the chin. Stay focused because its actually not the end of life but the beginning of life in anew chapter and on a different level.

if need be, you will file for Divorce in the future but until then, dont cheat (it has repercussions and its never a justification for what you went through)
abandonment and denial of conjugal bliss is a valid ground, even inthe sight of the creator who implanted such needs into us, a priori.


Lastpage!

donnypool:

My man, just play a trick on her and bring another girl to the house and tell her she will be coming every night for special prayers and make sure she dresses sexy.

Stillfire: On what grounds or biblical scriptures did she use to change her outlook? Compile them and let's discuss it here. Many Christian women are very very gullible and swallow every darn thing their pastors tell them.

xynerise:
My question still stands

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

iamord: na fuji house of commotion u don dey start up so.. I have helped in relationship matters.. But when it comes to religion and relationship its quite difficult

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand.[b] If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

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biz2get:

Niqqaz be like .......

Normality: Women and church fanatism ehn, to the best of my knowledge, Bible doesn't condemn a woman from looking her best in moderate body covering clothes, even Bible made use of "ornaments", telling women to beautify themselves with these things.

It's not a sin to dress good, but in a moderate way not one that reveals any sensitive part of your body or seducing in any way.

Your wife has received serious brainwashing and as the case is always with women, she will be so mad passionate about this new found way of life until she becomes tired, almost nothing will make her go back, just step back, relax and see her tell herself d truth in a short while.
Do nothing that will ruin the sanctity of ur marriage sir.

Peace!!

biz2get:

Niqqaz be like .......

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

Otuabaroku: I don't know why everybody is just advising the op to accept the sudden change of the wife attitude to very important issue simply because this is not the only reason why he married at first place.

@Op, talk to your wife and let her know that worshipping God does not mean she should look unkept all the time.
Equally let her know the implication of what she is doing and your concern and worries. Hopefully she listens and change.

Angeldemivida: Hey, this thread just reminded me of my primary school mate that this kind of issue caused great unhappiness in their home. Mum woke up one day and started covering head all the time and attending a church that is different from the whole family. There was always disharmony as father and mother hardly agrees on issues anymore. Mother always bring in strict strict ideas that made the children unhappy too.

Husbands! close up on your wife real good before they take them away from your home with crazy religious beliefs with this religious madness going on in Nigeria. In this case that the idea has already been imbibed in her, poster try to kinda help her unlearn. Have a liberal woman pastor (who preaches the word of God and still know the importance of looking beautiful and feminine) speak to her. They can help her unlearn her new found belief that she is hugging to heart like that. Forcefully or rashly speaking and nagging her about it can only make her run deeper into it all because in her mind's eyes she believes that now she has seen the light.

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

xynerise:
My question still stands