snowpe: where is the victim?for my 4years I have never cheated on her.

snowpe: tanx alot,I still love her very much,she is the mother of my child.I can't do anything to hurt her,that's why am asking for advice.

webdezzi:

i dont even know how to categorize this ignorant post.
Look is everything, even pastors take the time to buy some of the finest blazers, so why should his wife dress like "iya kubura"

even at 70, you should try to improve your looks.
and why is everyone telling the guy to adapt to her new looks?
how about she adapt to his (Hopefully not) new cheating lifestyle?

Wislet: oga, park one corner biko. You have been seriously brainwashed.

MadCow1:


1 Samuel 16:77 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”



Your very first problem is thinking that what was wrong with Jezebel was her beauty..
'Whorism' is an act, not a look.

xynerise:
My question still stands

Dygeasy: I want to believe the bolded doesn't refer to me.

I refuse to be tempted this sweet friday afternoon.

xynerise:
Her comment was full of hate. She just had a flashback

pickabeau1:

yay,... been meaning to ask which tradition forbids polygamy
religion yes.. but which culture

xynerise:
Her comment was full of hate. She just had a flashback

Dygeasy: You dey mind am?

She just had to do the mentioning

xynerise:
Rubbish!!

My tradition and religion don't permit more than one wife. Religious fanatism does harm if taking as a priority in the family but that shouldn't be an avenue to marry a second wife. You think that will settle the matter? Geez!

xynerise:
In my place, polygamy is frown at. My religion also forbids it

pickabeau1:

We are all africans..I will like to know this tradition
or is it a modern thing..

Imnot talking from the religious angle

Even okonkwo had 3 wives

lrguru: jezebel was the only lady that used make-up in the bible, and I trust u know that she was not a virtuous woman. Thanks for the "whorism" correction

xynerise:
I am telling you. She wants to take her pound of flesh

Dygeasy: lol! And she keeps stooping lower and lower every time she tries to

Dygeasy: Bluntly speaking, No advice anyone gives the OP will be sufficient to change his orientation cos for a man to have TRIED to consider cheating on his WIFE for a reason as absurd as what he's stating here, trust me he is just wasting our time.

It's either she changes or he cheats.

MadCow1:


Mark 6:22-25New International Version (NIV)

22 When the daughter of[a] Herodias came in and danced, she pleased Herod and his dinner guests.

The king said to the girl, “Ask me for anything you want, and I’ll give it to you.” 23 And he promised her with an oath, “Whatever you ask I will give you, up to half my kingdom.”
24 She went out and said to her mother, “What shall I ask for?”

“The head of John the Baptist,” she answered.

25 At once the girl hurried in to the king with the request: “I want you to give me right now the head of John the Baptist on a platter.”


Herodias danced and pleased the King and for that she was able to make him kill and behead John the Baptist.. Does that make any Woman who dances a Bad woman?!





Jezeebel used her make-up to enhance her beauty to attract Samson for neferious plan to work. Its like a Man using his Range Rover to attract a Woman for sex. Does that now make range Rovers Bad?!

The Make-up was not what made Jezeebel bad.

Dont get that twisted. The make-up was a means to an end.

xynerise:
And if she doesn't make-up you will have no choice than to cheat on her?

iamord: u did not give any advice to him but just jump into conclusions.. If the two don't settle on her to make themselves comfortable in the house. How can they leave together.m then tomorow he cheats they will give her brainwash part 2 that he is in darkness and needs to come into the light.m the lady won't see anything wrong in what she is doing but increase pressure.. Be careful of brainwash. My fello Nlairalanders.. Am not saying she should put thick make up but look fine.. I have some that pass my area.. I won't mention the chuurch.m u will see a woman with phd..with smelly hair.. That kill.. Wear sandals like they in 1980 don't even use mosturizer to cleanse the skin.m their skin will be dry and un attractive.. Tomorow you will be fasting for husband.. The only person that can marry such is someone that thinks likewise. ..guard your family from brainwash.m this thing is like an epidemic

xynerise:
She will discover oyel soon

Dygeasy: That is where y'all are getting it wrong. I'm not supporting his wife. But did y'all pause to wonder how much she has been supposedly 'BRAINWASHED'?

The OP here says he has tried many means possible to get her to change and she's not budging. He's here cos he's frustrated.

Now if after the millions of 'angelic' advices that have been offered here in the past 48 hours his wife still remains the same, the OP goes out and cheat. It's that simple.

Africans always want to hear what they wish to. Not the truth.

obidiegwujane10: . I don't think that cheating on her will make any different pls give her more time

iamord: I said the same thing.. But rather than cheat.. If they can't agree and the heat is getting too much they have to divorce

Dygeasy: lol! Yeah. And the essence of all the advice is?

Nigerians! Always beating around the bush.

xynerise:
My question still stands

iamord: lol infact there is no two ways about it

Dygeasy: You see and yet we have lots of people here forming wise(wo)men and sages.