Truckpusher: Op is dreaming about the puccies he has missed due to his recklessness


My Dad once said to me '' Do not use your wife as a girl friend''....in pidgin English No carry your wife do girl friend

MizMyColi:
I think the reason is due to a psycho-morphological attachment that's been built over time.
It is stronger if frequent sex was involved.



That said OP, I read your post twice but failed to get the ultimate goal for creating this thread, please enlighten me?

faithboi: opps.....please guys,my ex still calls me,she's married now for about a year,and when ever she wants to drop the call,she'll say she just wanted to laugh and be happy......should I stop dis,& how if I shuld

Orikinla:
[size=3pt]I think the reason is due to a psycho-morphological attachment that's been built over time.
It is stronger if frequent sex was involved. [/size]

MizMyColi:

Burntcoal: Dis is very true. when I was in schl I dated Dis guy for almost 3yrs n before den we we started dating we av been good friends. we went tru so many good tyms 2geda dat I can barely remember d bad ones. after d break up which was on something trivial we still remained friends.

right nw am engaged n I can say I still enjoyed it with him dan d present guy cos it was fun with him, weneva we see we reminiscence abt d old Gud days which brings more laughter n colour to my face.

I can't even bring myself to call him my ex bt I tank God for d friend I have in him.

Truckpusher: My dear there is no made in heaven marriage in this life.

The best you can do is to give yourself selflessly and expect complimented in either by love and good understanding in return and nothing more, but my best advice still remains that peeps shouldn't just marry because everyone is getting married or for some flimsy excuses.

The best marriages I've seen so far was built on tolerance.

Orikinla: There are more ex lovers who are still very much in love with themselves than those who are not.
Two of my ex girlfriends are in this situation, because they said they married their husbands, because I was not ready when they were ready. And until I got hitched, one of them was still very much in love with me and visited me every week, holding hands as we walked on the street in a public display of love that she never did with her husband. In fact, people saw us more together in public than her husband. And I have seen similar cases, even girlfriends who are still sleeping with their ex-boyfriends.

I have seen a married woman snapping at her husband, but melts whenever she sees her ex-boyfriend.
And many guys still want to date their ex-girlfriends, even the married ones.

When your wife talks about her ex with glints in her eyes and her cheeks glow in cheerfulness, then that is a clear sign that she is still in love with him.

My policy is never to call any married ex-girlfriends.
One of them suddenly visited after a year and we really missed each other.
But when another married ex girlfriend came to see me with her husband, he was feeling uncomfortable and intimidated.
Most husbands don't like seeing the ex-boyfriends of their wives, especially the ones they dated for years.
Having a wife who adores you does not stop you from missing an ex-girlfriend you love.
Even marrying a virgin, does not make her more beloved to you than an ex-girlfriend you love.

Emmycheeze: I dnt have to comment

adorable29:

You speak with wisdom. People desire what they can't have....

In any case, a wise married man/woman will know better than to complicate his life by communicating with an ex he still has feelings for. Be smart and proactive enough to ask yourself "WHAT IS THE POINT?"

The key is "moving on". Forward and not backwards.

QuiverBox:

Keep feeling like a Superstar, don't forget your Wife will also be someone's Ex.

Karma is a Bit**ch!

Oh, Please do.

ideology:

Should I talk, Mzmycoli

MAYOWAAK: :

avuekwe:

another example is when you date ur university boyfriend and u guys go through thick and thin for years after graduation . When he becomes comfortable, he sees a small chick and leaves u for her abandoning you when you guys are at the finishing line. For me, it's better to remain single cos u can't forget all the years of happy memories in a twinkle of an eye. U may never find happiness with another so to spare an innocent bobo misery when he comes into ur life later, just kuku stay on your own jeje. This love matter aint easy at all. I never prayed for this, but it happened.

Orikinla: There are more ex lovers who are still very much in love with themselves than those who are not.
Two of my ex girlfriends are in this situation, because they said they married their husbands, because I was not ready when they were ready. And until I got hitched, one of them was still very much in love with me and visited me every week, holding hands as we walked on the street in a public display of love that she never did with her husband. In fact, people saw us more together in public than her husband. And I have seen similar cases, even girlfriends who are still sleeping with their ex-boyfriends.

I have seen a married woman snapping at her husband, but melts whenever she sees her ex-boyfriend.
And many guys still want to date their ex-girlfriends, even the married ones.

When your wife talks about her ex with glints in her eyes and her cheeks glow in cheerfulness, then that is a clear sign that she is still in love with him.

My policy is never to call any married ex-girlfriends.
One of them suddenly visited after a year and we really missed each other.
But when another married ex girlfriend came to see me with her husband, he was feeling uncomfortable and intimidated.
Most husbands don't like seeing the ex-boyfriends of their wives, especially the ones they dated for years.
Having a wife who adores you does not stop you from missing an ex-girlfriend you love.
Even marrying a virgin, does not make her more beloved to you than an ex-girlfriend you love.

Tallesty1: Every person you date goes with a part of you and it can never be retrieved or recovered. The more you date the less you have to give to your wife/husband when you settle. God wasn't stupid when he said that we must wait for that only one person he has for each and every of us.

Orikinla:
Good advice for all married lovers who are only truly faithful.
But when you end up with a fraudulent marriage based on lies, what do you do?
Or have you not seen many people who had to lie to lure others into marriage?

I have seen a man who lied to his buddy's girlfriend that the obedient Christian buddy was impotent, but using abstinence as an excuse. She believed the lie and ended up sleeping with the wicked liar. But she later found out the truth and by then her boyfriend had moved on with another woman. She was heart broken. The man who lied that his buddy was impotent was the one that was not able to impregnate his wife for 14 years and abandoned her in Nigeria and relocated overseas.

Another young woman at the St. Dominic's Church in Yaba, Lagos, is still single at almost 40, because a Nigerian guy in America lied to her and she left her boyfriend for him, only to find out later that the Nigerian Americana only lied to snatch her from her boyfriend, but he was in fact already married. She could not marry him, but had lost the man who would been the love of her life. Even if she marries today, she will only marry to console herself.

A 19 year old girl confessed to me that she married to get her impoverished family out of abject poverty and the marriage did, because her husband took her poor parents out of the slums. But she is still in love with her boyfriend in the ghetto. I am not sure that she will be faithful to her husband who is not tall and handsome like her boyfriend she still adores.
[size=18pt]
Now you know why surveys have reported that Nigerian wives are among the most unfaithful in the world.
Because. most of them did not marry the guys they love.[/size]

So, in most cases, wrong choices have caused terrible consequences in different circumstances of life.

Burntcoal: Dis is very true. when I was in schl I dated Dis guy for almost 3yrs n before den we we started dating we av been good friends. we went tru so many good tyms 2geda dat I can barely remember d bad ones. after d break up which was on something trivial we still remained friends.

right nw am engaged n I can say I still enjoyed it with him dan d present guy cos it was fun with him, weneva we see we reminiscence abt d old Gud days which brings more laughter n colour to my face.

I can't even bring myself to call him my ex bt I tank God for d friend I have in him.

Orikinla: There are more ex lovers who are still very much in love with themselves than those who are not.
Two of my ex girlfriends are in this situation, because they said they married their husbands, because I was not ready when they were ready. And until I got hitched, one of them was still very much in love with me and visited me every week, holding hands as we walked on the street in a public display of love that she never did with her husband. In fact, people saw us more together in public than her husband. And I have seen similar cases, even girlfriends who are still sleeping with their ex-boyfriends.

I have seen a married woman snapping at her husband, but melts whenever she sees her ex-boyfriend.
And many guys still want to date their ex-girlfriends, even the married ones.

When your wife talks about her ex with glints in her eyes and her cheeks glow in cheerfulness, then that is a clear sign that she is still in love with him.

My policy is never to call any married ex-girlfriends.
One of them suddenly visited after a year and we really missed each other.
But when another married ex girlfriend came to see me with her husband, he was feeling uncomfortable and intimidated.
Most husbands don't like seeing the ex-boyfriends of their wives, especially the ones they dated for years.
Having a wife who adores you does not stop you from missing an ex-girlfriend you love.
Even marrying a virgin, does not make her more beloved to you than an ex-girlfriend you love.

urhoboman: So u were holding hand with a married woman and displaying love in public? SMH.

Burntcoal: Dis is very true. when I was in schl I dated Dis guy for almost 3yrs n before den we we started dating we av been good friends. we went tru so many good tyms 2geda dat I can barely remember d bad ones. after d break up which was on something trivial we still remained friends.

right nw am engaged n I can say I still enjoyed it with him dan d present guy cos it was fun with him, weneva we see we reminiscence abt d old Gud days which brings more laughter n colour to my face.

I can't even bring myself to call him my ex bt I tank God for d friend I have in him.

MizTyna: Not me,once we break up it is goodbye except the once in a year birthday msgs. What I tell people is once u break up, stop all communication for a while,until u both feel u have moved on. Sneaking around with an ex is just tacky