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Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Dayjhihannon01(m): 9:02pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
johnstar: if my tym don reach 2 marry, I swear, na 40ppl I go invite.. tnk God say I nor dey kip frnds.. wetn concern meAye e maa daaa pa.... Dis was exactly what we single guys av been discussing in d ofix as a matter of yestday and today.... Why will I use roughly 700k or Amillion for wedding and won't even be able to afford a simple sport car to mobilize myself and d new bride after the wedding... My own wedding population na 30sha... Why would I started entertaining ppl bcus I want to get maself entangled... |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by MarieSucre(f): 9:03pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
nonsense time wasting. I read in a Jehovah Witness youth magazine that dating without the intention of getting married is like playing with a toy only to throw it away immediately. purposeless and directionless. all this "dating" ish masef. ---- AFRICAN MAN COPYING THE AMERICANS SINCE 1900. 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Ifewilshere(m): 9:06pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Buh I wonder why some peeps are criticizing that guy. He said he's not earning enough to cateer for a family. If dem manage marry finish. Wetin make dem dy chop? LAST BULLET: the main reason most married women engage in extra_marital affair is because the HUSBAND is not financialy bouyant. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by PastorOluT(m): 9:08pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
This is the more reason u enter a relationship when u both are ready for marraige, though the world encourages experimenting bt truth be told it never works. How can one continue to have se.x n do all kinds with someone for years only for it not to work out looking for someone else to dump her expired body on? I know of a lady that has had 3 kids for different guys bt when she package herself, people still patronize her wares. Definitely one innocent guy will end up with her. NB only enter a relationship when ready for marriage n even when u do, abstinence is still the best especially for u ladies 'cos it really tell on ur bodies. 2 Likes |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 9:13pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Okay the first thing I noticed wrong in the situation is that this conversation took place 4 years into the relationship!!!! Why not after say 1 year, or a 6 months. Eventually, you must make your intentions known. As in, look I want to get married eventually, and that means within the next 4 years. Is that something that suits you? Yes or No? If yes, then we can continue to get to know each other, see if we are equally matched. If not, well the relationship hasn't developed to the point of co-dependence and they can go their separate ways. See, simple |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Karleb(m): 9:14pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Tha awkward moment when girls and women wrappers starts blaming the guy. But you know what? That guy is the bomb and I love his honesty. 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by jauntty: 9:16pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I am No saint but I think "Relationships" should be defined from the start. It helps to avoid awkward moments like this. What am gonna say now may sound absurd to some folks but I love being practical and logical. Before I ask any girl that I like out , I define the relationship first. I ask myself " what do I want from this ?? Do I want go on a bleeping spree and jump off the train at the next moment?? Do I want companionship to avoid boredom ?? Relationship of convenience?? Or something serious that I can commit myself with the hope of Entering the dreaded land of 'TOGETHER 4EVER ?? Don't just assume. know ACTUALLY what you want and find a way to know what she expects from the relationship too. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by maximunimpact(m): 9:16pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Keneking: 1. Mistakes human make in life , the guy is not ready and you are forcing him. I sense some political undertone in dis comment, especially d last part. Maybe another 4yrs will do d magic! |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by hippyzuki(f): 9:18pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I wish I had this convo 3yrs ago. After sticking around 4 7yrs waiting 4 him to be STABLE na belle anoda girl tk carry am go. D stupid boy wasn't even man enuff to tell me I no curse am o I only cried for time wasted. I say if ur nt getting what u want in d relashp pls speak out n if it dosnt chng pls do the needful and portt. And let me add. Never b in a hurry to marry cos it's a no going back deal 2 Likes |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by harffie(m): 9:21pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
nicechic: Some guys don't have conscienceaπϑ this is coming from a lady who kept a guy that loves her friend zoned for 8 good years! Hahaha! |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by NaLaugh: 9:22pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
We all see things differently, and here is my observation of this thread. THE SAME people on Nairaland who scream "who get time to read this long thing" when a post of value is posted, appear to have suddenly found time to read through a long conversation which adds little or no value to them. THE SAME people who scream for "summary" of educative posts because they are too lazy to read a long post, have somehow found the strength to not only read a very long post, but offer analysis. Even though the post is of little to no value to their lives. MANY of these same people have missed opportunities to learn priceless information with the potential to change their lives, but they passed it up because they felt it was "too long." Moral of the story: Prioritize your time and engagements (no pun intended). 2 Likes |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Samyj247: 9:23pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
mencade5: especially when the thing don slack finish. Na one innocent man them go carry the thing give. No b lie o my brother. As for me, I no go chop anything weh another man don chop remain o. 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by coolsegun2002: 9:23pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I think I've heard this statment somewhere b4 "If a dude aint ready he just ain't ready"....the truth is we guys can never be ready..its either salary aint enuf, or our pre- marital goals aint attained yet...only five out of a thousand guys actually knelt down with a bloody ring nd propose.. most marriages either start with "yo! Dude am pregnant,so what are we gonna do cos I can't abort it"....or the family of the guy likes the chic so much the dude finds it hard to end the relationship..they finally plan the wedding for the guy nd kapish my guy is trapped for ever.. I think ladies shouldn't go about assuming once u dating a guy for some time u must automatically get married..yeah u guys a having sexx u buy each other stuff share feeling etc even teenagers do that...its very simple...a guy(not a small boy student..a mature good income earning dude capable of marriage) that can't visit ur family whether u r there or not, call ur mum or siblings once in a while just to say hi, always avoiding any move to visit ur parents especially ur "DAD"...is probably gonna need some serious dragging dats if u'll ever make it to the alter with such dude. The signs are always there..ladies just refuse to see it..its like making a meal that smells like shiit in the inseption nd u hoping it wil just turn out sweet at the end..... 1 Like |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by xstaadesuwa(f): 9:26pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
That's y its called a relationship, if she's been sailing on the same ship dat leads u no where I don't see y she can't quit.d dude has ish nd men due to deir pride won't buy d idea of a woman sponsoring a wedding. So calling it quit is the best for both party.but a long relationship isn't ideal tho |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 9:32pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Sixix: 3cycle: Rubbish Beautiful. Our cultural systems (at least for Yoruba that I know) for building marriages is the best, no rushing but no wasting time. Why waste ur life with a person for years when you know from the start you can never marry her/him?? Total rubbish! All this colo-mental behaviour in our society is just disgusting |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Pronmix(m): 9:32pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
A SHIP is meant to take you places, if your RELATIONSHIP is not taking anywhere ABANDON SHIP! 2 Likes |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Dayjhihannon01(m): 9:32pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
hippyzuki: I wish I had this convo 3yrs ago. After sticking around 4 7yrs waiting 4 him to be STABLE na belle anoda girl tk carry am go. D stupid boy wasn't even man enuff to tell me I no curse am o I only cried for time wasted. I say if ur nt getting what u want in d relashp pls speak out n if it dosnt chng pls do the needful and portt.Whupppz, 7donkey years... O Gurl u tried oo.. Bt how managed nah... He still dey do external straffing join dat kinda committed relatnshp.. Oga oo!!! |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 9:37pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
pansophist: Of course the girl was foolish.shey when her mama told her to close her legs when she was still a kid she refused to take that advice into adulthood. If she never made the guy comfortable, he would have taken her seriously. if we were in the good old days guys like that should be taken to the stake and stoned to death, while the mumu girl gets banished...best thing for her as no sane man who knew her all along would take her |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by hippyzuki(f): 9:37pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Dayjhihannon01: Whupppz, 7donkey years... O Gurl u tried oo.. Bt how managed nah... He still dey do external straffing join dat kinda committed relatnshp.. Oga oo!!!. My broda na so d life just be. Now if I no gree patient wiv anybody u go blame me? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by tainot2002(m): 9:38pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Donfamous: children popping out like pop corn from every hole in ur body hahahahahahahahha |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 9:40pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
macof: That's rubbish. Why be in a relationship u don't plan on moving to the next level?Nonsense , the dude spoke the truth from the deepest core of his mind , he said he couldn't bear marriage nor engagement based on his meagre salary ... Some dude like me could say this outa sense of responsibility ..... So instead of me letting you down , kindly know what it is now ! By the way Macof, my meagre salary may not be enough to marry your sister nor engaged with her, but it will be more than enough to buy weeds and dryGin for bomboys to kpanshing your life for me ! |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by piagetskinner(m): 9:43pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Too long an epistle |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Dayjhihannon01(m): 9:44pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
hippyzuki: . My broda na so d life just be. Now if I no gree patient wiv anybody u go blame me?No1 abeg... Nothing do you I follow u for back, but u don advice say rushing no good also.. So u go balance d tin.... Xperince is d best teacher |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Waspy(m): 9:44pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Those two are actually in love ( trust me) or should I say, seem good together. The guy is only scared of failing himself and her too. He's not really scared of commitment. He's just like any other average Naija guy who wants to hammer before his mind will be at rest. The girl did not complain of the guy being a cheat or irresponsible,so he seems a good and lovely guy. The girl is also only scared of her biological clock ticking off. She seemed to have stayed put with her guy with one heart and only needs to either have blind faith in the guy or follow her guts....such a hard choice to make tho. This is a typical average Naija boyfriend/girlfriend scenario. They both need to agree to disagree...or the other way round. Would be nice if they make it |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Djicemob: 9:46pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
I've been thinking...Is marriage the ultimate goal for some women? Why not think about getting paid by working and maybe try to be successful so BF won't make up silly excuses about earning low when you can support him to build a successful home.You are in a relationship for four years talking care of a guy when you are supposed to be moulding a life for yourself.If you really want to know where you stand,why do it after four years? Plus pressuring a man to marry you would get him even more scared and reluctant to pop up.My advice is to give your best(not sex) to the relationship as well as yourself and if your man don't see you as a marriage material,let him go, its HIS loss not yours,don't continue to takecare of a man for four years,You are not his mother. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 9:47pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
mencade5: bllod of Jesus!that one no be news...... many girls are doing it. Have two or more serious guys so that is one messes up, she switches. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by mencade5(m): 9:48pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Samyj247:my brother, it is a scary situation. That is why man must sample kpekus before marriage ooo. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Skryptchex(m): 9:49pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
No sane woman will wait for 4years before asking the right questns she ought to ask before starting d relationship.... 4 years con knack....u con dey ask. after d guy don chop finish belleful, u dey tell am say the burnt part remain for pot...wetin he wan use am do? |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by hippyzuki(f): 9:51pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Dayjhihannon01: No1 abeg... Nothing do you I follow u for back, but u don advice say rushing no good also.. So u go balance d tin.... Xperince is d best teacher. If I see boy now sef me de run. Too scared plus de all want d a** n nothn more. No more real men dis dayz.. |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by macof(m): 9:52pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
realborn: Shamefully, societal pressure has led us to believe that the event called wedding is a mandatory dependency for survival. Unfortunately it should not be so. What rubbish is this you call 4yrs relationship rushing My ancestors didn't spend a month in relationships If a man knows he don't want marriage, he should not get a woman in a relationship with him Stay and hustle till you ready, not bring the girl to your door when you not planning on opening it to let her it |
Re: Run When A Woman Says: I Need Us To Have This Conversation by Nobody: 9:54pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Reading this made my night. I think the guy should try to understand her. She's just scared of the future. Four years of uncertainty is not good for her. |
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