ekolina: There is a saying that two wrongs can not make a right. am sure we have heard of this quote. the best any woman or man in such situation shld do is to wear both rings with out any fight.

1stCitizen:

You are so right, The kind of ladies we find here are classical examples of extreme negative influence on any good woman.
Marriage is in the heart and not on a ring.

One can excuse a spouse for not wearing wedding bands for several reasons(man or woman) but doing so out of revenge is simply petty. I doubt if majority of the women here making childish comments are married and if they are or eventually get married, I pity their marriages and not even their husbands.

synergycom19: The wife doesn't have the same rights like the husband.It's not biblical, rather it's the westernised import into christianity that makes it seem so

Lathunjimi: If I had a wife, I would totally restrict her from Nairaland Forum b'cos all the 21st century girls here can easily corrupt her. Talking of the man who doesn't wear his wedding ring, it's not an excuse for the wife not to wear hers too as long as his reasons for not wearing it is genuine and not for the intent to indulge in infidelity. But Aproko ladies and guys here said things like "tit for tat", "that served him right" etc how is the case yours to judge, abi kilo kan yin mbe? The wife's better drop her ego for the marriage to work while the husband respects and love her cos that is his primary assignment not wearing or not wearing rings. To me it is a pure misplaced priority due to pride, ego, insensitivity etc. No wonder marriages don't last in our age cos it's mostly two stupid individuals in a goal-less union not marriage is what we have these days.

Mondisweets: if he doesnt need to prove he is married, he shouldnt be bothered if she makes the same choice. After all is she not following the leader's example

Why should she act like she is married to a ghost?

berem: you call it silly metal? A symbol of union blessed by an ordained man of God is what you call a silly metal?

Smh

thandii1:




@ topic, I want to believe the husband did not give a genuine reason for not using his ring. If he falls into the category of men who do not like any piece of jewellery on them and the wife is also very aware, I'm sure she wouldn't have minded. But with this reaction of hers, I think she just wasn't satisfied with his excuse.

Btw, its funny reading 'a good wife should do this, a virtuous woman shouldn't do that, a woman should keep the home, the Bible says this ,etc etc. What should a man do biko? He should just keep misbehaving while the woman submits to misbehaviour as if a home is made by only one person. A good Marriage is the hardwork of 2 people, not just one person. Lead badly, get followed badly.

harveyspecter:

It's not about being bothered or proving one is married or not, that's not my point

I can be friends with a lady & know where to draw the line, a lady might not be able to do that reason being, the man does the chasing

So I can decide to draw the line & not hit on her but the lady on the other hand can decide to draw the line but the guy knowing what he wants might continually bombard her either implicitly or explicitly

Most affairs didn't start one day, it was gradual

My point is the man does certain things & gets away with it, but the lady does the same & It boomerangs on her

victorazy:

2 wrong heads can't make it right!

jennykadry: Both of them are silly.

Please we all know some "Nigerian" men are not into wearing ring and sometimes it has nothing to do with toasting Girls outside. Most girls prefer them married sef...no commitment no headache no stress. If the man's excuse for not wearing a ring is genuine one then she needs to get her head checked.

If she does not want to wear her ring because; she hates wearing any kind of jewelry or forgets her ring at her bedside table most of the time...then good for her. But don't tell me that you don't wear your ring because your husband does not wear his.

That's just plain silly.

Mschewww all these yeye people getting married sef.

Mondisweets: and this is the very reason u dont have one

Meldrick:
I HAVE READ YOUR POSTS AND I DOUBT YOU ARE MARRIED BUT IF YOUR GET MARRIED WITH THIS ORIENTATION. AM SO SORRY

Truckpusher: Sometimes, as a leader ,you dictate.
It's all for the good of everyone that's involved.

Excess freedom for everybody is bad, someone need to be in charge ,but wisely with love and a listening ear.

harveyspecter:

It's not about being bothered or proving one is married or not, that's not my point

I can be friends with a lady & know where to draw the line, a lady might not be able to do that reason being, the man does the chasing

So I can decide to draw the line & not hit on her but the lady on the other hand can decide to draw the line but the guy knowing what he wants might continually bombard her either implicitly or explicitly

Most affairs didn't start one day, it was gradual

My point is the man does certain things & gets away with it, but the lady does the same & It boomerangs on her

Mondisweets: thats an absolute lie, even if a man does the chasing its still remains her choice whether to accept him, friendzone him or completely reject him.

My dear what u sow is what you will reap, if u act like someone who had no intentions of saving your marriage as the head best believe me it will crumble. Use your economy as an example, greed and corruption isn't making your nation any better. Same applies to marriage if you are disloyal and irresponsible head, don't expect to walk into a happy and put together home everyday. As a head your actions will determine if u will have a happy home or not. No wonder some men raise children that aren't biologically theirs and they will go to the grave without knowing, some of yall simply deserve it

cococandy: While hubby removed his own to attract more women.
Balanced equation

Mondisweets: if marriage is in the heart, why will the man be bothered if she takes off hers too abi her ring now determines the marriage?

Ilovenigeria:
The men do the chasing remember?
What if the husband decides not to toast any girl, Can the wife decide or have any power over the guys that will come up to toast her. because as long as there is no ring on a finger I don't blame any guy that walks up to a lady he likes.

modestdude: when some Ladies don't care whether you are married or not. Without denying that not wearing any is worse, Men spotting the ring nowadays is not a clear sign of fidelity. So ladies don't be deceived o. My advise to her is to play her own part of the marital bargain and let his conscience arrest him or karma judge him if ever he is cheating

Ilovenigeria:
The men do the chasing remember?
What if the husband decides not to toast any girl, Can the wife decide or have any power over the guys that will come up to toast her. because as long as there is no ring on a finger I don't blame any guy that walks up to a lady he likes.

Mondisweets: and this is the very reason u dont have one

greall1: I only pity the lady. Sincerely speaking is not advisable for d lady to remove her ring.

Lathunjimi:

Hey lady watch your chat and apply some manners, as much as I respect ladies I don't tolerate stupidity from anyone. Try and seee the corrective aspect of my comments and stop being unnecessarily defensive and abusive. God has given us knowledge but it's a pity that just few people utilises it which differentiates between the wise and the foolish that only follow trends. Don't let me talk please.

modestdude: when some Ladies don't care whether you are married or not. Without denying that not wearing any is worse, Men spotting the ring nowadays is not a clear sign of fidelity. So ladies don't be deceived o. My advise to her is to play her own part of the marital bargain and let his conscience arrest him or karma judge him if ever he is cheating

cococandy: Leaders don't dictate.
Only bad rulers do.
So choose the one you want to be.
A bad ruler or a good leader.

'Wisely' can't be used to describe a man who removes his wedding ring while expecting wifey to wear hers.
If he's not a proud husband,then he better call it quits.
What's he hiding? His marital status?

If they agreed to wear rings,then he better put the damn thing on and stop being silly.