michelin89:

Girl, they don't live together and it's just once a month. What are 2-3 days in 30 days?

Haaa you don dey understand. The problem is not his mum coming around sometimes when I am with him, but she being around all the time.

I am desperate. These things are so simple for me. They are primary notions I take for granted.

I have a question for you. . . is his mum mean to you?
If she is, you better buckle up.
If not, suck it up and get with your man regardless of his mama's presence.

JustGood:

na the time wey the thing dey sweet the guy. me sef don tell woman say make we go marry before when I dey young. na the "something" dey sweet me too that time but pikin no fit sabi

I like the guy, who no like free cow?  

DavidDylan:

My brother i tire!

You guys were putting the cart before the horse . . . infact you didnt even have a horse and you were polishing your cart.

Why discussing going to live together with a man when he hasnt officially declared you a couple to his friends and family? Na wa o.

maybe the first borns' you know.

no no! I meant as in engaged. His mum knows I am his girlfriend. Even his friends does. The first time I visited him he introduced me as his girl so that's not the issue. What I am talking about, when I say official, I mean being engaged.

Even my father knows we are dating and asks of him all the time although he still hasn't learnt his name!

spikedcylinder:


What sane adult man hangs aroung his mum 24/7? What kinds of men are these?

They call it tied to one's mother's apron strings not insanity

~Sauron~:

Self-pity, huh??

You wish

michelin89:

She get husband, get work and get another son for house.

I guess she's very good at multitasking

michelin89:

no no! I meant as in engaged. His mum knows I am his girlfriend. Even his friends does. The first time I visited him he introduced me as his girl so that's not the issue. What I am talking about, when I say official, I mean being engaged.

It doesnt matter . . . you know how many "girlfriends" a man will introduce to his mother before he finally decides on "The One"?

Mothers are not stupid, they can tell when a man is serious about a woman or not. The "girlfriend" tag is no longer anything to take seriously.

j-girl:

I have a question for you. . . is his mum mean to you?
If she is, you better buckle up.
If not, suck it up and get with your man regardless of his mama's presence.

family members come first wen one is single,she will be wasting her time ,getting d guy wtout the mum liking her,marrying a man whos mum or dad does not like is like sending urself to ur early grave

~Sauron~:

Self-pity, huh??

Why would any woman want to come between me and ma mother??
I have no intention to come between any woman and her Dad so i don't understand why this should even be an issue.
My mother will not break ma heart, a woman can.

English/European Champions. . . .It doesn't get better than that.

asking for one day out of 30 is trying to break u and ur ma up? o ma se o!

all i asked you boys was to give arsenal a resounding beating for me. but you so-called Eng/EU champions couldn't. what magic did stokecity and hull city use then, that isn't available to ManU? abi make i help u collect stokecity juju man phone number?

i'm not a fan of arsenal. rather, an enemy of arsenal is a friend . but you guys disappointed me badly, chei

j-girl:

I have a question for you. . . is his mum mean to you?
If she is, you better buckle up.
If not, suck it up and get with your man regardless of his mama's presence.

No she isn't. I greet her and she answers me with a smile. I absolutely have no problems with her, but it kind of stresses me to see her all the time I visit!

whatever90:

live wt a man whos not even brought drink to ur family,a man wey never even marry u?what if d mum visits u guys and sees that u living there,wetin u think say she go do,clap for a 19 yr old girl for staying wt a boyfriend who isnt her finace at that?and u think d woman will allow u marry her son?for real haba

Did you read where I wrote "we weren't matured enough"? I don't feel ready to take on such a huge responsibility and I also feel he needs to clarify things too. I am not so foolishly in love.

DavidDylan:

I like the guy, who no like free cow?  

abi o my brother.

na so she go dey for internet dey discuss and the next guy go come and another thing go happen, that one self go vamoose after milking to his satisfaction.

wetin concern mechanic with agbero for garage?

@ David

Why are you paying attention to that piece of waste?

whatever90:

family members come first when one is single,she will be wasting her time ,getting d guy wtout the mum liking her,marrying a man whos mum or dad does not like is like sending yourself to ur early grave

That's what I'm telling her. She has no right to demand to have him all to herself unless she's married to him and that's why I'm asking her if her ex's mum is mean to her. If she is, she should carry her load and go the other way.

michelin89:

No she isn't. I greet her and she answers me with a smile. I absolutely have no problems with her, but it kind of stresses me to see her all the time I visit!.

So she's nice. I guess you just have a problem being comfortable.
Why can't your guy come and visit you? Why do you have to be the one going there all the time if his mum is always around him?

DavidDylan:

n
- Women expect that men should simply dispense with their mothers as soon as they show up . . . not ever going to happen.

I dont think that's what she meant.

More like give her a time when it's just them

michelin even as an enagaged couple,it will be so irresponsible of u to go live wt him

stillwater:

You wish

Hehehehe

I guess she's very good at multitasking

Letz be honest. . . . . .U cannot seperate a man and his mother at courtship/dating stage of any relationship.
Of course, a man should never be asked to choose between the woman who raised him and the woman who shags him.
Besides, we are just hearing one side of the story. . . . .If Michelin witnesses him giving in to his mother's unreasonable requests, i am sure that she musta also witnessed him saying NO to his mother.
If that is the case. . . . . . .The dude is not a Mummy's Boy.

Michelin,

He's an ex boyfriend now, why is this even an issue now?

j-girl:

Why can't your guy come and visit you? Why do you have to be the one going there all the time if his mum is always around him?

Good point for you to think about Mich.

KarmaMod:

I don't think that's what she meant.

More like give her a time when it's just them

I understand, but she mentioned the guy is in his early 20s.

- first off, it seems he's too young, is not mature enough for the kind of relationship she wants and still depends on his mother to do a lot of thinking for him.

- The mother is obviously not convinced her son is ready for a committed relationship yet.

whatever90:

michelin even as an enagaged couple,it will be so irresponsible of u to go live wt him

I don't want to start discussing if living together is better than being married because I have got my views on that.

All I want to clarify is that:
we are dating.
His mums knows it.
My dad knows it
We have plans, even though they are not official.

But I am having problems being comfortable whenever I am with him.

j-girl:

So she's nice. I guess you just have a problem being comfortable.
Why can't your guy come and visit you? Why do you have to be the one going there all the time if his mum is always around him?

Exactly! I don't know how to behave or what to do around her. Should i ask her if she wants something to drink? She might think I am living there while I am just on a visit. Goshhhhhhh! Somebody help meeee!

We alternate. He comes to me and I go to him.

iceblue:

asking for one day out of 30 is trying to break u and ur ma up? o ma se o!  

She's exaggerating. . . . . .She cannot always be around 30 days of the month.

all i asked you boys was to give arsenal a resounding beating for me. but you so-called Eng/EU champions couldn't. what magic did stokecity and hull city use then, that isn't available to ManU? abi make i help u collect stokecity juju man phone number?

Shit happens and footie ain't math.
The same Hull that trounced Arsenal got beaten by Man Utd.

i'm not a fan of arsenal. rather, an enemy of arsenal is a friend  . but you guys disappointed me badly, chei  

That has always been ma policy too. . . . . .I can't stand Gaynners.

michelin89:

I don't want to start discussing if living together is better than being married because I have got my views on that.

All I want to clarify is that:
we[b] are [/b]dating.
His mums knows it.
My dad knows it
We have plans, even though they are not official.

But I am having problems being comfortable whenever I am with him.

u mean "were" and "was" right?cos u just told us hes ur ex?

r u really sure hes ur ex,or u lot r still doing the whole thing

~Sauron~:

The dude is not a Mummy's Boy.

Of course he's a mummy's boy. He's allowed to be. He's still a kid for freaks sake!

michelin89:

Exactly! I don't know how to behave or what to do around her. Should i ask her if she wants something to drink? She might think I am living there while I am just on a visit. Goshhhhhhh! Somebody help meeee!

Its not your house so sit down quietly, be respectful to her and leave her son to handle any issues if he's really serious about you. My mom would always ask me if i felt she should leave . . . of course i said yes!  

Tell your boy to grow up quickly if you still like him.

michelin89:

Exactly! I don't know how to behave or what to do around her. Should i ask her if she wants something to drink? She might think I am living there while I am just on a visit. Goshhhhhhh! Somebody help meeee!

We alternate. He comes to me and I go to him.

Lol . . . . . kinda know what you mean there, That can be uncomfortable.

whatever90:

u mean "were" and "was" right?because u just told us hes ur ex?

r u really sure hes ur ex,or u lot r still doing the whole thing

He is a current-ex.

spikedcylinder:

Of course he's a mummy's boy. He's allowed to be. He's still a kid for freaks sake!

20+ is a kid. . . . .
Cheese n Rice, i wasn't even a mummy's boy at 16.

spikedcylinder:

Michelin,

He's an ex boyfriend now, why is this even an issue now?

We had a quarrel and we left it like that. No one said it's over; just that he couldn't meet my terms. I supposed it's left to me to decide whether to live up with it or not.

I can't just go and visit her because since he has not made it official that he wants to get serious with me, i don't want to act desperate by licking his mum's ass to get her approval

This is true. My parents have been singing this into our heads for the longest. since 10 sef.  

guys, let's imagine that you don't have a girlfriend. na girl dey cause all these reprisals, ba? ok make we delete her for picture.

would you enjoy your mum coming around every spare second you're at home and eating up all of your personal space? i doubt it. you love her very much, no doubt, but it's called personal space. you can't share that with any other living person in this world (except your wife). i couldn't take it, my mum being all up in my space ALL of the time. my mum isn't like that (well, not really ). if she were i'd give her subtle reminders -
your husband misses you
you're not treating my father well - you're neglecting him
go and look after your husband
you're supposed to be honey mooning aren't you?

but i cannot stand her being in ALL of my space, ALL of the time. period. and i aint even a guy. guys are usually the ones who want more independence, or am i wrong?

@ Topic

You either use juju <sub>(which I will gladly hook you up with)      

Or</sub>


You love and tolorate his mum with all you r might and strenght

_{Or you take the easy way out}

Dump him.



Boys and their mummies, thats like breaking up conjoined twins, you need surgery.  

michelin89:

Exactly! I don't know how to behave or what to do around her. Should i ask her if she wants something to drink? She might think I am living there while I am just on a visit. Goshhhhhhh! Somebody help meeee!

We alternate. He comes to me and I go to him.

You have answered me. Prepare to be uncomfortable when you go to him and thank God you're comfortable when he comes to you.
I know what you mean. LOL! I hate it whenever I go to a guy's house and meet his mother. I don't know how to handle myself but it's a good thing they all know how to get me to be comfortable with them.
What you should do is you should try to talk to his mum and ask her more about her day. Have little discussions with her to the point where you can laugh and have a good time with her. That will make your ex love you more.

without anaesthetics or the guarantee of success!

iceblue:

guys, let's imagine that you don't have a girlfriend. na girl dey cause all these reprisals, ba? ok make we delete her for picture.

We can't delete her. . . . .A man must get some.

would you enjoy your mum coming around every spare second you're at home and eating up all of your personal space? i doubt it. you love her very much, no doubt, but it's called personal space. you can't share that with any other living person in this world (except your wife). i couldn't take it, my mum being all up in my space ALL of the time. my mum isn't like that (well, not really   ). if she were i'd give her subtle reminders -
your husband misses you

Men wanna eat momma's soup sometimes.

you're not treating my father well - you're neglecting him
go and look after your husband
you're supposed to be honey mooning aren't you?

What if she's a widow??

but i cannot stand her being in ALL of my space, ALL of the time. period. and i aint even a guy. guys are usually the ones who want more independence, or am i wrong?

Men want their independence but it's a different thing with mothers.

Beware of okija. His mama dey his house 24/7

Okija_juju:

@ Topic

You either use juju <sub>(which I will gladly hook you up with)

Or</sub>


You love and tolorate his mum with all you r might and strenght

_{Or you take the easy way out}

Dump him.



Boys and their mummies, thats like breaking up conjoined twins, you need surgery.

_{uhm like how much na?}