I hate that word dump in a relationship. Where you just using yourselves in the first place?

i can dump a guy by giving unecessary excuses, if he says he is coming i will say i will not be in the house,even if he meets me in i will say i was going somewhere before he comes, i will do like this serverally until he will get tired and leaves

I quiet agree with you uche, you don't just wake up one morning and walk up to a lady as a man to tell her you are quiting the relationship, what I'LL SUGGEST YOU do, It's really very easy for the guys to dump than the ladies, now what you should do is:

1. Stop Calling her like you use to
2. Don't return her calls
3. Refuse to see her often as usual
4. Go out more with other Ladies, in other words, Flirt more
5. Don't reply her text messages
6. And then she will ask, "Why have you not been calling me" then your anwer will be " I've been busy lately"


Now many guys will like to include "too busy", NO DON"T, putting too busy will keep her on the track, too busy is the work.

umm, im trying to dump someone and i really dont know hwo to do it nicely, and weve been friends for like 3 years and going for for 5 months, please help!

There are three good ways

1) It's not you, it's me
Already overused, you could get cold revenge.

2)It's not me, it's you
Never tried this, but if it works just buzz me on Y!M, err. . .that's if your pc is still in one piece.

3)It's not us, its the society
This one is foolproof, blame everyone; the government, the white man, even your dead grandmother. . .

lol. , eldee, i like number 3

Put her/him in a basket

Eah time I hear the word dump I feel sad and worried but at least it proves the saying that the heart of man is desperately wicked. Human beings are too selfish and we don't think about how other people feel. Everyone is saying how to dump but nobody wants to be dumped. No matter how good you dump someone, it does not make it good unless the two people involved are both fed up with the relationship. Please lets have a heart and treat people the way we want to be treated. Its not a problem though if u r dumping a cheat or someone that have done something very bad and not just waking up to say u don't want the person anymore for no reason other than you have found somebody else.

babygirlfl:

Eah time I hear the word dump I feel sad and worried but at least it proves the saying that the heart of man is desperately wicked. Human beings are too selfish and we don't think about how other people feel. Everyone is saying how to dump but nobody wants to be dumped. No matter how good you dump someone, it does not make it good unless the two people involved are both fed up with the relationship. Please lets have a heart and treat people the way we want to be treated. Its not a problem though if you're dumping a cheat or someone that have done something very bad and not just waking up to say u don't want the person anymore for no reason other than you have found somebody else.

true talk . . .esp the bolded one

True, I think I have been dumped. There was daily calls/texts/IMs in tne beginning and then things changed. I asked so many times if we should just cool things but I was constantly reassured. Now it has been over 4 weeks since contact. He avoided my calls so I eventually stopped making the effort. Our last conversation was upbeat and we even talked about marriage! So, needless to say it is a hurtful way to go about things and I am devastated. Believe me, it is better to be up front and honest. Any other way (especially because I think this is a guy thing although I do recognise some girls do it) is in my view cowardly.

the heart of woman is desperately wicked

So true. . . . .


Topic
brb. . .

stillwater:

_{Someone has really dealt with this Sly, always blaming the woman.}

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Someone has really dealt with this Sly, always blaming the woman.

Not really. . . . . . .No woman under the sun will be remotely close to deal with the likes of me. . .
I repeat!! no woman. . . .
If i was Adam. . .the world would not have been like this. . . trust me

It's not me, it's you. You just don't fit with me. . . we had some laughs, at least I did. Remember that time you tried to be all romantic with the candles and shit? I've never seen anything so forced in my life. I just don't see myself with you. No Hard feelings, hun? Please don't call me, you need time to heal.

OK guys, I've got a tricky one. I really care about this girl so I'm not gunna dump her so close to her b-day so we have some time!

Officially we have been going out since Christmas but there was some connection before then. This girl is is completely selfless but this sometimes she hurts herself by putting others first. she has other emotional problems that I won't go into but I spend allot of my time counseling her and trying to get her to talk about them because she blankly refuses help. anyway, she has connections with all my friends, and i know her parents and she knows mine reasonably well and as I said I really care about her but I just don't really love her any more but she needs someone to open up to as she finds it hard, and I don't mind being that person but I don't want to remain in a self destructive relationship in which I feel no love. this is a very delicate situation and if anyone has seen this kinda thing before or experienced it much help appreciated. I have no problem telling her face-to-face but I need some words!

Simple!! my grate grand papa wey don die say make i no marry you

amaikama:

Simple!! my grate grand papa wey don die say make i no marry you

, Very, very funny,


@topic
Change your locks, your numbers and all other contacts, That ought to do it,

Go out and get seriously high, then break it down with a smile on your face

just tell the person

whitelexi:

Go out and get seriously high, then break it down with a smile on your face

I like this one,

@ Topic.

I will simply tell her am done with her and I think she deserves someone better than me. . . .I will try so hard to make her feel that the problem is from me and that she's cool.

@ poster --- Cut Communication! period!! -- i dont owe nobody any damn explanation about why i choose to do what i wanna do . i keep it simple and drama free.

hahahaha

just start a fight with something you know its their weakness and pretend to be hurt and opt out

or
tell him/her you got traditional issue that will hound anyone you fall in love with and you pretend you dont wanna let them fall victim and laugh when you are on your own

My babe said,i quote"If i want to dump someone,i will just try and look for a very serious fault.Maybe something i've been telling him to stop from but he continues doing it.I will just use that one to break-up.
@ Rotanna
i do not agree with her,because i see that as been to heartless and not enough reason.What i will do is to walk up to the girl and tell her am leaving her life for good,she will cry,but then i will tell her that am sorry.

James Bassey, instead of saying I need a break, he did all of the following to me :

He raped me
He sent (sexually explicit text messages I sent to him) to my mom and her co-workers
He beat me
He cheated on me
He stole from me
He lied
He hang up on me
He talked about me and attempted to disgrace me
He would call me while fucking his new girlfriend.


What I will do to him ? Only time will tell.

When you break up with a HUMAN BEING, BE NICE, What FATHERS do to women, Sons will do it to your daughters and the cycle of evil continues.

I plan to destroy James Bassey. I now carry a gun.

posakosa:

James Bassey, instead of saying I need a break, he did all of the following to me :

He raped me
He sent (sexually explicit text messages I sent to him) to my mom and her co-workers
He beat me
He cheated on me
He stole from me
He lied
He hang up on me
He talked about me and attempted to disgrace me
He would call me while fucking his new girlfriend.


What I will do to him ? Only time will tell.

When you break up with a HUMAN BEING, BE NICE,  What FATHERS do to women, Sons will do it to your daughters and the cycle of evil continues.

I plan to destroy James Bassey. I now carry a gun.

chineke mehhhhhhhhhhhh    " "

@ posakosa you forgot to add: what fathers do to women, female-spawns of the devil will do it to their sons too 

posakosa:

James Bassey, instead of saying I need a break, he did all of the following to me :

He raped me
He sent (sexually explicit text messages I sent to him) to my mom and her co-workers
He beat me
He cheated on me
He stole from me
He lied
He hang up on me
He talked about me and attempted to disgrace me
He would call me while fucking his new girlfriend.


What I will do to him ? Only time will tell.

When you break up with a HUMAN BEING, BE NICE, What FATHERS do to women, Sons will do it to your daughters and the cycle of evil continues.

I plan to destroy James Bassey. I now carry a gun.

oh dear posakosa, honestly like me i would have wished 2 do sumthin evil 2 him too, to pay back but i got sum advices here and my mind has changed. i think it is wise 2 do the same for ur sanity. not for him, but for u.



@post, best way is to be real and straight forward instead of leading one on and punishing d person. say it, i don't want u anymore or i'm not feeling you again or something.

@post, best way is to be real and straight forward instead of leading one on and punishing d person. say it, i don't want u anymore or i'm not feeling you again or something.

Some people are just wicked. They forget that they will one day have children. Only time will tell.

posakosa:

When you break up with a HUMAN BEING, BE NICE, What FATHERS do to women, Sons will do it to your daughters and the cycle of evil continues.

I plan to destroy James Bassey. I now carry a gun.

@Dannizman, u r rather making her feel honoured and loved.

Hi guys im confusd abt dis topic cos im avin similar problem,dia is a girl i met nd i luv ha so much bt unkmwly she has sum1 else which already knw al membas of d family,im worried bt dis babe keeps assuaring me bt i found out she doin the same 2d guy.wat do i do?