Elantracey:



lol , I reserve my comment sha

MizMyColi:



You can make a fresh start.
Look!
Its a new year!

UjSizzle:

Tell me, have you ever been in love?

I don't mean showing love to the human race. I mean finding that one person you want to share your life with, and it felt like your very soul was sucked out of you.

I've been in that kind of love, that sucks.
I'm learning of a whole new paradigm.
I'm looking forward to love that is reciprocated.

can't wait to experment my new findings on what Love really is!
Lolz

That said --- I told myself the bitter truth, I've never really loved
Now I want to.
But I need to be sure the person is worth it

chronique:
Your article has put a smile on my face this saturday morning,and has sent my brain and mind,on a journey that I hope would yeild returns. Thanks for putting smiles on the faces of most of us who have read this. I'd be looking out for more of your write-ups henceforth. If need be,I might send you a PM. Good morning Coli.

paul990:
Mizmycoli, that's a Brilliant piece... I love your kind of person

Cwaya:


*Clears Throat*

This babe shaa

You don't need to disturb heaven for Love matter naa

They've (heaven) got other ish to attend to jaare

Love is the fuel that fires heaven

MissSlimbody:
I don't know how you do it,but you always hit a nerve

Tears rolled down my cheeks while reading

You're awesome dear
May you never lack inspirations.

MizMyColi:


You have just sparked some truths.
Lolz

kilokeys:
to the girls,

if u like a guy and u think he likes u too please dont make him prove himself to death.

everyday he has to prove something, every single moment.

i cant keep on chasing you, yes you. u have to slow down and accept the love i give.


i think the most difficult thing to accept is love.

CoCoLav:
Lol @Scrypt

Okay first of all, this is a very nice article that reflects what many people are going through. However I must point out that though everyone seems to be talking of how they have been hurt they have not stopped to think of those they have also hurt.

I believe life is a cycle and although love is very beautiful we find ways to complicate it. Boy A dates Girl A and gets hurt. In his next relationship with Girl B he tries to be very careful and to ration his affections as you stated in an earlier article. Girl B shows him love fully but feels that Boy A doesn't love her enough because he isn't showing it unknown to her he is trying to ration his love as a result of his past experience. Girl B is hurt and has resolved not to love fully again and also decided to ration her love in her next relationship with Boy B. Boy B gets hurt again and the cycle continues....

I'm not afraid to love. I love fully knowing that I may/may not get hurt at the end but that doesn't stop me from giving my all. Heartbreak has never killed anyone, with time you heal and you move on.

Life is too short and love too beautiful to be afraid to love.

My motto: Live and let live

CC: Anaskie
Scrypt

MizMyColi:


@Cwaya @Ela
If it takes that route, it's become an obsession of sorts.

MizMyColi:


Love is the fuel that fires heaven

MizMyColi:


I've been in that kind of love, that sucks.

I'm learning of a whole new paradigm.
I'm looking forward to love that is reciprocated.

can't wait to experment my new findings on what Love really is!

That said --- I told myself the bitter truth, I've never really loved
Now I want to.
But I need to be sure the person is worth it

CoCoLav:
Lol @Scrypt

Okay first of all, this is a very nice article that reflects what many people are going through. However I must point out that though everyone seems to be talking of how they have been hurt they have not stopped to think of those they have also hurt.

I believe life is a cycle and although love is very beautiful we find ways to complicate it. Boy A dates Girl A and gets hurt. In his next relationship with Girl B he tries to be very careful and to ration his affections as you stated in an earlier article. Girl B shows him love fully but feels that Boy A doesn't love her enough because he isn't showing it unknown to her he is trying to ration his love as a result of his past experience. Girl B is hurt and has resolved not to love fully again and also decided to ration her love in her next relationship with Boy B. Boy B gets hurt again and the cycle continues....

I'm not afraid to love. I love fully knowing that I may/may not get hurt at the end but that doesn't stop me from giving my all. Heartbreak has never killed anyone, with time you heal and you move on.

Life is too short and love too beautiful to be afraid to love.

My motto: Live and let live

CC: Anaskie
Scrypt

Speakdatruth:
my moniker wasn't a fluke

Cwaya:


Lol.

Nice answer

[size=14pt]Ah go miss una ! [/size]

rittyben:
Biko what is the fear of falling inlove with the wrong person called?

MizMyColi:


Seriously Dear, Love is not bleeped up bullshit.
We made it that way.
I'm afraid of what we'll pass down to our generation.
We modified and have now made it so impossible.
we mix love, lust and infatuation.

Love Applies Self Control
Love Is not Obsessive
Love gives breathing Space.
The scenario you described above shows a person who has little or no self love.

Take it from me dear, Love that you have not given to yourself, you cannot give to others.
Even if you try to, it will not be received in its truest form.

Self love is not selfish.

MizMyColi:


@FirstEmboldened
Yes and No to that.

@Purpled --- now you know the reason for my "no" at first emboldened

@SecondEmboldened
So, what if the universe has plans that don't align with your dictates at face value, even when you both re working towards a common goal?

@3rdEmboldened
If it happens now, honestly, do you think you'd recognize it?
Don't you think you've shut out that part completely?
For someone with this kind of thought process and big heart, I believe Love can happen to you.
Question is; Is your mind, your seat of awareness prepared?

IamDejman:

So true!!!


The love would expire one day when you refuse to accept

MizMyColi:

MizMyColi:

kilokeys:


i no get d emotional tank to keep offloading love. one dey e go finish.

even christ said, it is finished.

i go soon talk, it has finished o

UjSizzle:

The one where it feels like you're receiving crumbs in exchange for a fvcking bakery you gave someone, right?


You see the problem with this is, you're probably already in love before you realise it's not being reciprocated.


I don't know that anybody truly understands what love is. But I'll like to borrow some of Krishna Murti's wisdom: To know love, you must eliminate all that isn't love.


Now you've just explained why people are afraid to give love.
It's a crazy emotion that's really hard to deal with. I daresay it may be a lot different for women. Someone said Love is to women what war is to me. And only a fool goes to war without being prepared.
These very words echoes the same thing I read in the bible a long time ago: Don't wake love until it is ready.

The problem though is that you tend to find it when you aren't searching for it. And there's the possibility that you aren't even prepared for it. So how do you know the object is worth it?
What if said object is unable to reciprocate?

I can't imagine anyone wants to hurt all the time. It's strange though how we hold on to the pain, never really learning how to let go.

Love is yet the most simple yet complex thing in this world. To a large extent I feel the complexity is born out of our expectations.

Guard your heart for out of it comes the issues of life.

kilokeys:


but seriously, what's the abstract intangible thing u want from us?.. we can't seem to understand.

Nonso23:

1) Give your all, risk it all; the hurt or bliss.
2) Hold it in until you feel ready and miss out on the finest things; trading them for 'control' over your life and its attendant benefits.
To attempt to blend both options will lead to the usual mind games, unrealistic expectations and every other thing that is unhealthy for the union.

It's very simple but still very complex.

Elantracey:



Lol , you guys don't want to understand