LordReed:


Don't be afraid of not receiving instead focus on the joy of giving. Your giving will be as seeds that when planted germinate, some take long others are quick but patience is the key to seeing your harvest.

McSterling:
Love can be a dangerous/unhealthy thing especially when you invest all your emotions and energies into it. You love somebody so much; you become so dependent on them like an invalid. You literally can't do without them. And even when they hurt and abuse you, you can't feel it, you can't see it. And when you do see and feel it, you keep going back to get hurt. You become a masochist of sorts- you relish the pain. Even when it's crystal clear that they do not love you at all or at least not as much as you do, you fail to see, you fail to accept. You're so emotionally attached. You so desperately want their love and so you end up vitiating yourself in the process.

That's some f*cked up bullsh*t!

Nonso23:


I don't believe in horoscopes and all that stuff but sometimes when i read your posts it's like your are ripping out my own very thoughts.
Na wa o!

Mizmycoli, you are very correct but there are actually only two options.
1) Give your all, risk it all; the hurt or bliss.
2) Hold it in until you feel ready and miss out on the finest things; trading them for 'control' over your life and its attendant benefits.
To attempt to blend both options will lead to the usual mind games, unrealistic expectations and every other thing that is unhealthy for the union.

It's very simple but still very complex.

kilokeys:


oya.. help us.. shhhh. tell us d secret.

what should we do, what shouldnt we do?

Nonso23:

Elantracey:



If I tell you it will no longer be a secret na

MizMyColi:


I think I can relate.
It all begins in the mind.
It is the battlefield, the centre of awareness.

Matthewbriggs:
This is deep, Nice piece... love is something humans will continually try to define and understand. I have given up trying to understand it. I just live, I just enjoy life. I just do to others what I expect to be done to me.

I think love is risky business, I am not afraid to love, I am more afraid of falling out of love. My formula is simple when I love ... I take my brain with me.


#MathewBriggs

Mzgracie:
Nice one, Miz....


I'm currently passing through a similar situation. In this case, I am in love. Totally in love but really scared of loving fully. And Gosh! He is a sweet man.

I find myself getting scared easily when it comes to matters related to love and relationship. I guess my major fear is heartbreak. I don't wanna pass through that shit any longer.


You know, this world itself is somehow complicated and twisted. A world full of lying and deceitful men. A world full of men who simply wanna play with your heart and walk away smiling. Isn't this enough not to make us scared? We find it really hard to trust. Preys becomes predators. We wanna fight back. Hmmmmm....


Love. Tah! It is always complicated.

Lol
Sweetee.

You know I understand innit?
Hehehehe
We gotta live tho'
We gotta love too.....for those who have found theirs

Meanwhile, flexing on ma mind hehehehehehehe.
I figured I might as well start giving myself a treat y'know.....lolz

Missed ya. It's not like I've been around that much tho'

Nonso23:

E be like say you no want make i see new year o!

BJ4REEL:

hmmm...been like that for like 4 to 5 years now, trying as much as possible staying away from ladies entirely; though not easy, but i dont think i hold any regret whatsoever.
Though sometimes i do think am being a little to hard on myself, hence when read your piece, i just felt the emotion that's been forcefully bottled up surge even beyound my most relied grip.

Things can only get better Sir

CoCoLav:
Lol @Scrypt

Okay first of all, this is a very nice article that reflects what many people are going through. However I must point out that though everyone seems to be talking of how they have been hurt they have not stopped to think of those they have also hurt.

I believe life is a cycle and although love is very beautiful we find ways to complicate it. Boy A dates Girl A and gets hurt. In his next relationship with Girl B he tries to be very careful and to ration his affections as you stated in an earlier article. Girl B shows him love fully but feels that Boy A doesn't love her enough because he isn't showing it unknown to her he is trying to ration his love as a result of his past experience. Girl B is hurt and has resolved not to love fully again and also decided to ration her love in her next relationship with Boy B. Boy B gets hurt again and the cycle continues....

I'm not afraid to love. I love fully knowing that I may/may not get hurt at the end but that doesn't stop me from giving my all. Heartbreak has never killed anyone, with time you heal and you move on.

Life is too short and love too beautiful to be afraid to love.

My motto: Live and let live

CC: Anaskie
Scrypt

Anaskie:
My dearest Coco, its really not as easy as you make it appear.
Its extremely difficult to put your all into a relationship when you were hurt in a previous one.

Ever heard the song 'First cut is the Deepest by Sheryl Crow?
My dear, you'll always feel the scar till you meet that one person who'll mend the broken pieces.

But till then, its safe to tread cautiously.

People say once bitten, twice shy.
I say once bitten, forever shy.

MizMyColi:


Meaning you do mind games too?
Or how do you mean by taking your brain along

Cwaya:

Nice one Toolz

"Hey You, Yeah You .

Give love a/another chance.."






[size=4pt]Not Me anyway , i'm done with that ! [/size]

Nonso23:


...there are actually only two options.
1) Give your all, risk it all; the hurt or bliss.
2) Hold it in until you feel ready and miss out on the finest things; trading them for 'control' over your life and its attendant benefits.
To attempt to blend both options will lead to the usual mind games, unrealistic expectations and every other thing that is unhealthy for the union.

It's very simple but still very complex.

Anaskie:
My dearest Coco, its really not as easy as you make it appear.
Its extremely difficult to put your all into a relationship when you were hurt in a previous one.

Ever heard the song 'First cut is the Deepest by Sheryl Crow?
My dear, you'll always feel the scar till you meet that one person who'll mend the broken pieces.

But till then, its safe to tread cautiously.

People say once bitten, twice shy.
I say once bitten, forever shy.

Matthewbriggs:



Falling in love is the least of my problem but staying in love is ... I easily get bored.

dunkem21:


You talked to me.

I have troubles fighting the tears welling up in my eyes.

Goodnight, Mizmycoli.

MizMyColi:


^^^ This is my latest blogpost on www.mizmycolimusings..com

Waow! The blog's a huge leap of faith for me.
I'd appreciate your coming around and support.
Thanks in anticipation

Nonso23:

It's not you jor but numerous NL husbands. They will hire assassins for me o.