Who Should Do More Of The Calling In A Relationship the guy/girl.
I'm having an issue with my friend, she does not allow me to call her, we talk always but whenever i dial her number she would reject the call and call back immediately, i talked to her about it and she was like i didn't want to waste your airtime (as if I'm complaining) just this evening she did something that got me pissed. I left my phone @ home when i got back i saw 7 missed calls from her. Immediately i recharged my phone and called back, she didn't take the call rather it was on answering machine and my airtime was deducted cos i wasn't looking @ the phone, she just called back and i managed to cheer up, cos ℓ was really sad about the whole issue. I just feel like I'm being used.I want to do more of the calling like every rational guy does.Should i tell her I'm not comfortable with her calling me. Or forget about it.

well, its a rational thing, you both should do the calling but, guys should do more of the calling...that increase the love bond between you two, but if i should rate it in percentage, guys should do 60% of the calling while girls 40% .....#my oppinion though.

you want to be doing the calling is that your wish.smfh

The one who should do more is the one who asked the other out and also the one who said 'yes'. Both!

Hazardd:
you want to be doing the calling is that your wish.smfh

Yes .I'm the guy.

Its not really mandatory for either sex that one person should be doing the calling.

You can keep calling each other as chanced as you as possible!

Looking at your scenario, you can have a heart to heart discussion with her.
Let her its hurting your ego as a man that you don't call her more.

Remember, you asked for it, be ready for the consequences.
If u don't call in a day, you're in hot stew.

I'll advice you let things play out. Just tell her whenever u call she shouldn't cut the call.

MizMyColi:
Awwwwwmn
This is love and it's beautiful.
Most Nigerian Ladies I know flash or call as a means of placating the guy for his "numerous efforts"
This speaks about her nature, she's kind and mature.

If you're not cool with it --- which is perfectly understandable, you should call her attention to it.
Please be assertive, yet loving, very loving. This is important.

Balance is key, healthy balance.
All the best Alex.

Love hmm yea that's correct. She has sacrificed so much, and i feel its high time i reciprocated it. But she just won't give me the chance to, i remember the time she said she had 10 bucks in her phone and she was like " if i were to be around i could use that money for a whole week , now i used all in calling you. Lol

LogoDWhiz:


Remember, you asked for it, be ready for the consequences.
If u don't call in a day, you're in hot stew.

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This part got me laughing.

Its really painful thinking its connected only for me to put the phone on my ears and hear the most annoying language ever (answering machine)

the guy should call more often

alexdellafonte:
Who Should Do More Of The Calling In A Relationship the guy/girl.
I'm having an issue with my friend, she does not allow me to call her, we talk always but whenever i dial her number she would reject the call and call back immediately, i talked to her about it and she was like i didn't want to waste your airtime (as if I'm complaining) just this evening she did something that got me pissed. I left my phone @ home when i got back i saw 7 missed calls from her. Immediately i recharged my phone and called back, she didn't take the call rather it was on answering machine and my airtime was deducted cos i wasn't looking @ the phone, she just called back and i managed to cheer up, cos ℓ was really sad about the whole issue. I just feel like I'm being used.I want to do more of the calling like every rational guy does.Should i tell her I'm not comfortable with her calling me. Or forget about it.

Both paties

wunmi590:


Both paties

I don't think so.
The guy should do more. That's gives you the chance to be in charge of the relationship.

Call more at your own peril, I will personally freak out if my guys calls more, it's choking.
Allow her miss you, don't call too much.

alexdellafonte:


This part got me laughing.

Its really painful thinking its connected only for me to put the phone on my ears and hear the most annoying language ever (answering machine)

Lol! Na so!

Sorry! It can be annoying. Try and make her understand.

This is what relationship is all about.

At the end of this, you'll come out laughing and stronger

no one
abi bbm and Whatsapp don extinct

^^^

Both..

firstEVA:
Call more at your own peril, I will personally freak out if my guys calls more, it's choking.
Allow her miss you, don't call too much.

Did you rule out the possibility of me missing her?

the guy should do more of the callings

Op! I swear you are a comedian; while I'm in a running battle with a friend who will never call, you are busy killing yourself over someone who takes delight in calling u. Bros u are hungry, go and eat that should clear your head

Basically I think calling should not be measured. When it's been measured it tends to create problem. There should be balance. Anyone who has the means and disposition at the moment should call the other party. Let the two people be actively involved. @op you're not being used. The girl obviously likes you.

voodoo85:
the guy should call more often

why?

loswhite:
why?

I dont know - ronantic.gesture that he cares

Dygeasy:
Did you rule out the possibility of me missing her?

suppress it you are a man, if not she will take you for granted.

MizMyColi:
Awwwwwmn
This is love and it's beautiful.
Most Nigerian Ladies I know flash or call as a means of placating the guy for his "numerous efforts"
This speaks about her nature, she's kind and mature.

If you're not cool with it --- which is perfectly understandable, you should call her attention to it.
Please be assertive, yet loving, very loving. This is important.

Balance is key, healthy balance.
All the best Alex.

awww...awesome. u'v said it all...

voodoo85:


I dont know - ronantic.gesture that he cares

caring is not gender specific. Isn't it selfish for you to think that your man should care more?

I think Guys should naturally do the calling during the embryonic Phase of toasting the girl but after scoring Goal, The Lady will ipso facto be the one doinq all the callings...Why that happen is that, we are just protecting our natural born right as Men.
However, calling your partner too I often is a bad idea.Give him or her some room to miss you

firstEVA:
suppress it you are a man, if not she will take you for granted.

he should suppress it because he's a man
so guys dong take ladies for granted girls are immune to being toyed with
to say this is coming from a girl speaks volume.

I think a guy/girl should know the kinda person he/she is dating, and then work out his own way both best for them..all this suppress your feelings will not work for me.. if you don't show it, you will push me out. granted Kor tsw!

@op any one that is chanced at the particular time should call.. calling is not just one party duty.

DonaldGenes:
I think Guys should naturally do the calling during the embryonic Phase of toasting the girl but after scoring Goal, The Lady will ipso facto be the one doinq all the callings...Why that happen is that, we are just protecting our natural born right as Men.
However, calling your partner too I often is a bad idea.Give him or her some room to miss you

what exactly is this natural born right as men?
to stop calling after receiving the cookie


joke!!

quivah:

he should suppress it because he's a man
so guys dong take ladies for granted girls are immune to being toyed with
to say this is coming from a girl speaks volume.

I think a guy/girl should know the kinda person he/she is dating, and then work out his own way both best for them..all this suppress your feelings will not work for me.. if you don't show it, you will push me out. granted Kor tsw!.

you can give the op your own advice without questioning the rationale for my opinion, it's my opinion remember? If you like being called all round the clock, that's you, I personally hate it, it simply means we are different, I have met many girls like my self hence I said if he has the urge to call constantly he should suppress it cos some ladies will take him for granted. So what volume does it speak? Sabi sabi.

firstEVA:
you can give the op your own advice without questioning the rationale for my opinion, it's my opinion remember? If you like being called all round the clock, that's you, I personally hate it, it simply means we are different, I have met many girls like my self hence I said if he has the urge to call constantly he should suppress it cos some ladies will take him for granted. So what volume does it speak? Sabi sabi.

if you personally hate it, you should have spoke for yourself.. just like I did!


you didn't say 'some ladies!!' you jumped into the conclusion that his gf will take him for granted if he didn't suppress it without knowing the kinda girl he has.. maybe someone like you or me.. you know how much harm your reply might have cost their relationship if the dude took your words in without accessing his babe
and hey, we cool ..you don't need to go all heat up okk?

MizMyColi:
Awwwwwmn
This is love and it's beautiful.
Most Nigerian Ladies I know flash or call as a means of placating the guy for his "numerous efforts"
This speaks about her nature, she's kind and mature.

If you're not cool with it --- which is perfectly understandable, you should call her attention to it.
Please be assertive, yet loving, very loving. This is important.

Balance is key, healthy balance.
All the best Alex.

This is one of the best comment I have ever read on nairaland.. Coming from a beautiful girl, it's amazing...