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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by shady26(m): 11:39pm On Jan 08, 2015
all this boys and girls threads
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 11:40pm On Jan 08, 2015
dorlapoh20:

i can't really say.it depends on my mood and the person involved.

okay. fair enough.
yeah you correct, "Mood" is a key and essential factor also and maybe the extent of likeness you have for the person you chatting with. .. hmmmm
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Blackeard(m): 11:40pm On Jan 08, 2015
manny4life:


Well I barely see her, and when I do, she immediately joins her family. Compliment ke? The good part is that her and I have chatted before: we volunteered in a group before, and then we chatted briefly. After then, I just see her stand with her fellow members but an opportunity to meet and discuss haven't come up..
sorry mate. I guess u'll just have to kidnap her
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 11:44pm On Jan 08, 2015
Darkrebel:


okay. fair enough.
yeah you correct, "Mood" is a key and essential factor also and maybe the extent of likeness you have for the person you chatting with. .. hmmmm
grin Not all girls are boring same for guys too. Laughter could help ease tension in conversation.Everyone should atleast have a little sense of humor
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 11:45pm On Jan 08, 2015
Boy:send me your account no

If she ignore, call me bastard...
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 11:54pm On Jan 08, 2015
dorlapoh20:

grin Not all girls are boring same for guys too. Laughter could help ease tension in conversation.Everyone should atleast have a little sense of humor

Lol . yeah .
so what do you suggest for guys that are not natural comedians? or with 0.000001 sense of humour?

i had to watch a lot of James Franco, Seth Rogen, Kevin hart, Chris Rock, Eddie Murphy, e.t.c to learn how to be funny and comic grin especially James Franco..I act almost like him grin

since you say being funny is a necessity then am advising all guys to understudy the Joker in Dark Knight played by Heath Lodger.. that's also one of the ways I learnt to be funny too grin cos the Joker was Overfuckingly Hilarious, in a devilish manner though.
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 12:03am On Jan 09, 2015
itz useless to me...money speaks better
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 12:05am On Jan 09, 2015
Money doesn't matter to rich and wealthy girls .
so your communication skill has to be top notch
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 12:05am On Jan 09, 2015
manny4life:


Well I barely see her, and when I do, she immediately joins her family. Compliment ke? The good part is that her and I have chatted before: we volunteered in a group before, and then we chatted briefly. After then, I just see her stand with her fellow members but an opportunity to meet and discuss haven't come up..
Hmm.. You don find love
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by manny4life(m): 12:08am On Jan 09, 2015
Blackeard:
sorry mate. I guess u'll just have to kidnap her

Haha.... No o grin
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by manny4life(m): 12:09am On Jan 09, 2015
CFCfan:

Hmm.. You don find love

You think? grin
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Oyawuni(m): 12:09am On Jan 09, 2015
I automatically know,if u use k,kk or Ok in replying my chat,you are using a phone that has touch pad.....

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 12:09am On Jan 09, 2015
Most of these niggas think they be mackin' but they be actin'
Who they attractin' with that line, "What's your name, what's your sign?"
Soon as he buy that wine I just creep up from behind

And ask what your interests are, "Who you be with?"
Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial
You gon' be here for a while, I'm gon' go call my crew
You go call your crew, we can rendezvous at the bar around two
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by chidexxy007(m): 12:09am On Jan 09, 2015
Blackeard:
sing for her. Just give her a few Do re mi's. She'll join u. She won't want u to so fa alone. Hehe
lol.... guy u funny

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by chidexxy007(m): 12:14am On Jan 09, 2015
JoshuaKay:


I can't help it but to laugh to ur comment grin grin grin . Very funny.
as in.... tge dude is sick, haha
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by chidexxy007(m): 12:14am On Jan 09, 2015
JoshuaKay:


I can't help it but to laugh to ur comment grin grin grin . Very funny.
as in.... the dude is sick, haha
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 12:24am On Jan 09, 2015
desharon:
@op.. very much on point. some guys can be really annoying on chatts that one tends to wonder the specie he is made of. one annoying chatt dat I received yesternight on FB that almost ruin my sleep....
guy: hi... desharon, tnx for accepting me.
me: U ar heartly welcome
guy: Ur profile says dat U graduated frm my sch, wot yr?
me: *no reply..
guy: it also says U ar in lagos, where in lagos?
me: *no reply..
guy: are U working, if U are working what do U do for a living, I mean what kind of work or job do U do?
me: who are are U?
guy: my name is Ola... a very hardworking guy, Godfearing, honest, goodlooking, single and searching. are U single?
me: U ask too much questions, what exactly did U study in school?
I have to turn off the chatt but he wouldn't stop calling n asking me to come online. eventually, I decided to help his lonely self by going online n the next question was.. what is Ur genotype and Ur blood group?
Imagine!
That guy was a tad too intrusive! Hope you didn't have nightmares of him
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 12:25am On Jan 09, 2015
manny4life:


You think? grin
You could join her in the choir
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Baddestguyp(m): 12:34am On Jan 09, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
Over the years I have heard this a lot and I have tried to understand the situation. The truth is, no lady likes a stereotype guy.


It is so common to find guys getting the monosyllabic response over instant messages because they always say the wrong things.
Before you attack to bite let me finish.


It is no longer news that we meet more people online today than we meet in person. A Lot of guys call it "forming" for others it's just "annoying attitude by ladies" but I say, know what to say and you can get the best out of a conversation.





How would you expect a lady you are chatting with to take you serious when the 1st time u chat her up all you can say is:



1. Who is dis That's a no no......
I know you'll say a lot of ladies do that but it's a no no for a guy for Christ sake she isn't going to wanna listen to you. If she's not giving out her name, don't take it the hard way. Some ladies prefer to be anonymous till they feel comfortable so just give it time.

2. Don't start up a conversation by asking " what do you do".
For heaven's sake, you wanna make friends not a business partner.

3. You only just met her online and you are already asking what are parents do for a living undecided haba now......

4. If you want her to totally loose interest please ask what her best food is or her hubby.... menh that's so 19th century.


5. If you are interested in her beyond friendship please never ask " what kindda guys she likes"
That's a signal for "complex"




There are lots of reasons ladies pay little or no attention to a guy the first time they chat but for the sake of a healthy conversation it's better to go with the flow. The first conversation should not always be an interview trust me lots of ladies hate that.





Best form of conversation:
Boy: hey what's up?
Girl: who are you?

Boy: got your number/ pin from......
Girl: k.... what do you want?


Boy: just wanna be friends if you don't mind..
Girl: K

Boy: my name is...... how are you doing and how is your day turning out? hope you are not busy and can chat...



No girl will ever turn down such polite approach as against the typical.....

Boy: hi
Girl: hi
Boy: can I meet you?
What do you do for a living?
Where are you based?......








is that all why not continue the convo undecided
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by ugojamali(m): 12:48am On Jan 09, 2015
Rules or no rules some women are naturally boring. .. Many women are. So even if you're the most interesting chat you'll get monosyllabic responses from them. Example. .

Once my Twitter account was tampered with and messages were sent to all my contacts from badoo inviting them to connect with me on badoo even though I have no profile there. Now I've only chatted privately with about three people on my Twitter so no familiarity. Of the responses I got
from the shameful surprising spam here goes:

I don't really use badoo.

Please who are you?

Why did you send that? I'm not on badoo.

Ok.

Yeah.

No.

Lol. I got badoo but don't often use it. It's not fun. We can chat here though.

Now when I got those responses from those people. .I politely informed most of them that it was a spam message and I was sorry they ever got it from my account and that I was not a badoo user. But the last one became my instant friend. Cos even though I was a stranger, she was warm and fun and that's the kind of person I could chat all day with and never get bored.

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Mickey7(m): 12:54am On Jan 09, 2015
...Because unlike guys,girls are some kind of indispensable,special creatures,we need to read tones of manuals,guides on how to please!

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by swarty: 1:07am On Jan 09, 2015
Lol....some guys sha,so out of d world.make me wonder wot planet dey originated frm...heheh#sipz MacDowell#
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Dinzelflash(m): 1:08am On Jan 09, 2015
Ok how about girls that won't let you rest with 'Hi' everytime, but to continue the conversation na war.. They expect you to take over angry

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Blackeard(m): 1:10am On Jan 09, 2015
Akranez:
Most of these niggas think they be mackin' but they be actin'
Who they attractin' with that line, "What's your name, what's your sign?"
Soon as he buy that wine I just creep up from behind

And ask what your interests are, "Who you be with?"
Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial
You gon' be here for a while, I'm gon' go call my crew
You go call your crew, we can rendezvous at the bar around two

oshey meek mill
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Blackeard(m): 1:12am On Jan 09, 2015
chidexxy007:

lol.... guy u funny
hehehe
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Blackeard(m): 1:16am On Jan 09, 2015
manny4life:


Haha.... No o grin
lol. Why na? Don't you want your own black canary?
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Blackeard(m): 1:17am On Jan 09, 2015
leboo:
itz useless to me...money speaks better
Your money na like audio. We dey hear am but we no dey see am
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Blackeard(m): 1:21am On Jan 09, 2015
chidexxy007:

lol dat one na real dunce.. hahaha
lol I swear
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Salmoneus(m): 1:47am On Jan 09, 2015
dorlapoh20:
you are very correct @op. Some guys can be very boring
lolzzzz @the last illustration

What do you do?
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by oshaosha2014(m): 1:57am On Jan 09, 2015
Mickey7:
...Because unlike guys,girls are some kind of indispensable,special creatures,we need to read tones of manuals,guides on how to please!

Don't worry you are ladies prince charming for this comment. They are liking you crazy now. Keep it up.
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Elparaiso(m): 2:14am On Jan 09, 2015
dguyindcorner:
You are very correct, BUT...

EVEN IF YOU FOLLOW ALL THESE RULES YOU ONLY HAVE 40% OF BEEN SUCCESSFUL.

YOUR DP OR PICTURES SPEAK VOLUME, THAT ALONE TAKES 50%.

DON'T ASK ME FOR THE REMAINING 10%

The remaining 10% comes days after the first chat.....
That is when their Honda will spoil, brother is out with Hyundai, galaxy s5 has died, she is on Lagos Ibadan express way and the only number she could call is yours!





If she's merciful, its N200 or N100
If she's from hell its N400 and above
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by dapsycool(m): 2:22am On Jan 09, 2015


Mzflexydeeva:
Over the years I have heard this a lot and I have tried to understand the situation. The truth is, no lady likes a stereotype guy.


It is so common to find guys getting the monosyllabic response over instant messages because they always say the wrong things.
Before you attack to bite let me finish.


It is no longer news that we meet more people online today than we meet in person. A Lot of guys call it "forming" for others it's just "annoying attitude by ladies" but I say, know what to say and you can get the best out of a conversation.





How would you expect a lady you are chatting with to take you serious when the 1st time u chat her up all you can say is:



1. Who is dis That's a no no......
I know you'll say a lot of ladies do that but it's a no no for a guy for Christ sake she isn't going to wanna listen to you. If she's not giving out her name, don't take it the hard way. Some ladies prefer to be anonymous till they feel comfortable so just give it time.

2. Don't start up a conversation by asking " what do you do".
For heaven's sake, you wanna make friends not a business partner.

3. You only just met her online and you are already asking what are parents do for a living undecided haba now......

4. If you want her to totally loose interest please ask what her best food is or her hubby.... menh that's so 19th century.


5. If you are interested in her beyond friendship please never ask " what kindda guys she likes"
That's a signal for "complex"




There are lots of reasons ladies pay little or no attention to a guy the first time they chat but for the sake of a healthy conversation it's better to go with the flow. The first conversation should not always be an interview trust me lots of ladies hate that.





Best form of conversation:
Boy: hey what's up?
Girl: who are you?

Boy: got your number/ pin from......
Girl: k.... what do you want?


Boy: just wanna be friends if you don't mind..
Girl: K

Boy: my name is...... how are you doing and how is your day turning out? hope you are not busy and can chat...



No girl will ever turn down such polite approach as against the typical.....

Boy: hi
Girl: hi
Boy: can I meet you?
What do you do for a living?
Where are you based?......








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