Mathematical:
Everybody has a skeleton in his/her cupboard, even mine wore a robe.. why wont I allow him..

papawemba:


Just to protect her loving fragile heart. Stuff in my phone can cause a fourth world war.

damseyl:
little wonder he own a poultry

Yea

Misogynist2014:
So your husband is not mature and reasonable.

naijaboiy:

I catch you

naijaboiy:

You're right.

But don't you think one can love and still cheat?

Btw...Fp things

naijaboiy:

Are you categorically saying that you won't need a man to cater for some of your needs. However subtle?

naijaboiy:

How about checking hers

Is that a problem?

Kenneth205:


Except me

naijaboiy:

Your own is somehow sef!

You people just met and she already wants to start going through your phone. Definitely you'll have something you do not want her to see.

But how about if the relationship has been on for a while and it's getting serious?

Truckpusher:
Of course I've got things to hide after all we just started and you don't expect me to be holy Moses. Just the way I expected her not be so single with this our harsh weather.

But when I finally made up mind to be transparent she chickened out.

She is the one fooling herself because I was ready to brave the odds,come clean and face the consequences instead of sounding defensive and cranky over phone.

Tashaamania:


Who was this chic I didnt know about?

naijaboiy:
Many people have different views about this. While majority are of the opinion that it's better you don't check your partner's phone so you will not get "Heart attack" (Lol) . They believe it's better you don't bother yourself about anything as long as your partner is not acting in a suspicious way.

However,,a lesser fraction of people see nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact they believe it's a good way to earn your partner's trust.

But the question ponders. What is really bad in allowing our partners go through our messages? I feel a healthy relationship should be as transparent as anything. There shouldn't be anything to hide. So once you can't allow your partner check your phone it may mean you have something to hide. It mustn't necessarily be cheating but that is how it always is 97% of the time.

So i'd like to ask. Can you allow your partner go through your phone? Or Can you ask your partner to give you his/her phone to check? If yes,,please give your reasons. If no,,your reasons should also be stated.

Nairalanders,,please let's be sincere in our contributions. I know many of us may want to form/pretend other wise.

N:B This applies to both marriage and a normal relationship.

naijaboiy:
Many people have different views about this. While majority are of the opinion that it's better you don't check your partner's phone so you will not get "Heart attack" (Lol) . They believe it's better you don't bother yourself about anything as long as your partner is not acting in a suspicious way.

However,,a lesser fraction of people see nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact they believe it's a good way to earn your partner's trust.

But the question ponders. What is really bad in allowing our partners go through our messages? I feel a healthy relationship should be as transparent as anything. There shouldn't be anything to hide. So once you can't allow your partner check your phone it may mean you have something to hide. It mustn't necessarily be cheating but that is how it always is 97% of the time.

So i'd like to ask. Can you allow your partner go through your phone? Or Can you ask your partner to give you his/her phone to check? If yes,,please give your reasons. If no,,your reasons should also be stated.

Nairalanders,,please let's be sincere in our contributions. I know many of us may want to form/pretend other wise.

N:B This applies to both marriage and a normal relationship.

Truckpusher:
That was a long time ago

AyokunleRuth:

hmmmmm funny enough the bolded is not funny. you need not use that symbol

secondly i don't have a husband but my boyfriend is responsible and mature. U should have asked if he is still doing it before drawing that conclusion

thirdly u really have to work on your comprehension to notice when someone switch from personalizing to generalizing.

Note i understand your cause of confusion but am a lady of little words and typing. at times i tend to skip some explainations.if you had read the thread further before quoting you would have understood better. Don't be too forward to find errors.

my piece!!!

Tashaamania:

For where kwanu?

I just dont have energy for lengthy postss..


Okay, One last shot - I've always wanted to go through his phone.
But then, after sometime, I thought whats the need?
Its his phone, he decides who he wanna chat with.
It didnt stop him from showing his love to me, so, what the heck?

I also have peeps I entertain and that never stopped me from loving him or giving him the attention he needs.
Its alright to keep friends, friends that might even show love to you, but then it all depends on how far you wanna go with these people..

I know two people dating, girl and guy, the guy reads through the girl's chat and sometimes act like the girl and keeps chatting with the girl's contacts and flowing with them. Most times they laugh about it together. They understand themselves. Not every relationships will understand themselves like this especially when one partner has trust issues from the onset. So, its safer you delete

I've said enough that will last me for one year, phew!! Thank you


On a side note tho, Truckpusher baby take

Enough that can last you a year

Now you want to sound like mzmycoli..

So by entertaining other people you mean?

shevon:
I honestly don't know why I can't give my wife (or partner as you put it) my phone to go through, except if I am hiding... My oga even told me in the presence of everyone that I was bold to allow my wife near my phone and I am like "What's the big deal?"
As long as I have nothing to hide, she can browse my phone all she wants.

Tashaamania:


What was your old moniker pls?