Dotwillis1:
baba, chicks surrounds me lik say i own a poultry ..nd ma main g.f trust me lik craze ..

Chai!

See as you look innocent na! Why she no go trust you.

But abeg tidy your packages well o

Sparksfly:
Why should he?... Nah.
I wouldn't allow him.
Wouldn't give him a reason to distrust me.

naijaboiy:

Yea you're right about that adage.
But if you're married would that rule also apply?

naijaboiy:

Lol,,but how can you be comfortable in a relationship when you know your girl may be hiding something from you?

I mean a serious relationship.

AyokunleRuth:
i can allow my partner to check my phone cos i have nothing to hide.
But i don't really like checking his phone maybe it's because i think it's invasion of privacy.

Mathematical:


Stop twisting it up.. ..it all start when you both are having trust issue..me and him..we dont..he's human same as i,and were bound to have baggages ..The bottom line is, if you don't trust your partner, that's a problem. It's natural to be curious-who isn't?-but taking that curiosity beyond the bounds of what your partner would be comfortable with crosses a line that could be dangerous for your relationship, not to mention your mental health.

AyokunleRuth:

can't really say for now cos ave not decided if am going to marry?

Don't ask me why? that's another topic or thread

Hehehe! See yourself

I'll create a thread for that reason and ask you there

damseyl:
same as me

emusmith:
Yes. If there is nothing to hide...

No. If there is something to keep her from worrying. You no ladies na

Something like what sir?

naijaboiy:

Hehehe! See yourself

I'll create a thread for that reason and ask you there

Deejavuu:
Team no snooping...

Checking on ur partners phone most times calls for unnecessary suspicions,thereby giving urself unneccesary heartache...

A man or woman that really wanna hide something from u will hide it wella...

#myopinion..

So you're comfortable if you don't check his phone right?

How about if he asks for yours?

Should it be vice-versa?

AyokunleRuth:


what if he is someone like alberto2k

alberto2k:

I won't be comfortable bro

But when I suspect any thing

We'll sit and talk. I might not tell her what am thinking but I'll try to persuade her to open up

If she doesn't after a long talk then I'll tell her what's on my mind, then maybe she'll spit the truth from being confused, upset or whatever sef

I just believe say she go even if na person she Kill

alberto2k:


Innocent guy like me

AyokunleRuth:

abi? why would i check his fone. i don't do it to other people let alone the person i claim to love.

it irritates me

AyokunleRuth:

hmmm let's wait till then.

what if i refuse to comment.

Ok...

But that's why I included marriage in the question. If you don't like checking your boyfriend's phone then it means you'll apply that in marriage too.

And in the context I also meant a serious relationship which could possibly lead to that union.

Sparksfly:
Why should he?... Nah.
I wouldn't allow him.
Wouldn't give him a reason to distrust me.

damseyl:
lol, i dont even v the time, wat am i looking for? Except he want to show me something himself

damseyl:
lol, i dont even v the time, wat am i looking for? Except he want to show me something himself

naijaboiy:
Many people have different views about this. While majority are of the opinion that it's better you don't check your partner's phone so you will not get "Heart attack" (Lol) . They believe it's better you don't bother yourself about anything as long as your partner is not acting in a suspicious way.

However,,a lesser fraction of people see nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact they believe it's a good way to earn your partner's trust.

But the question ponders. What is really bad in allowing our partners go through our messages? I feel a healthy relationship should be as transparent as anything. There shouldn't be anything to hide. So once you can't allow your partner check your phone it may mean you have something to hide. It mustn't necessarily be cheating but that is how it always is 97% of the time.

So i'd like to ask. Can you allow your partner go through your phone? Or Can you ask your partner to give you his/her phone to check? If yes,,please give your reasons. If no,,your reasons should also be stated.

Nairalanders,,please let's be sincere in our contributions. I know many of us may want to form/pretend other wise.

N:B This applies to both marriage and a normal relationship.

iyisco2001:
The last time someone checked it, na so do drama I dey see, from cry to sulking. And demanding explanation, ever since then. It's a big N and a small o for me(No). Not that u have something to hide, but some gehs have this funny way of interpreting stuffs

naijaboiy:
Many people have different views about this. While majority are of the opinion that it's better you don't check your partner's phone so you will not get "Heart attack" (Lol) . They believe it's better you don't bother yourself about anything as long as your partner is not acting in a suspicious way.

However,,a lesser fraction of people see nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact they believe it's a good way to earn your partner's trust.

But the question ponders. What is really bad in allowing our partners go through our messages? I feel a healthy relationship should be as transparent as anything. There shouldn't be anything to hide. So once you can't allow your partner check your phone it may mean you have something to hide. It mustn't necessarily be cheating but that is how it always is 97% of the time.

So i'd like to ask. Can you allow your partner go through your phone? Or Can you ask your partner to give you his/her phone to check? If yes,,please give your reasons. If no,,your reasons should also be stated.

Nairalanders,,please let's be sincere in our contributions. I know many of us may want to form/pretend other wise.

N:B This applies to both marriage and a normal relationship.

naijaboiy:

Sorry for twisting it up.

Yea it's mostly when there are trust issues.
But sometimes it just happens out of curiosity.

So would you say it's right or wrong if your man should still ask for your phone. Will you be offended by it?

naijaboiy:

So you're comfortable if you don't check his phone right?

How about if he asks for yours?

Should it be vice-versa?

jomile:
I can't allow him to check my fone,except I want him to die of heart attack

Chai!!!

This one no even send

Can you check his own?

naijaboiy:

Ok...

But that's why I included marriage in the question. If you don't like checking your boyfriend's phone then it means you'll apply that in marriage too.

And in the context I also meant a serious relationship which could possibly lead to that union.

iamord:
Take my phone, when u are tired u will pass It back.. Wetin you won see wey man never see b4as For the major skeletons.. I. Have moved them to a safer zone!! so I aint worried bout nufin

Oga which Zone you Move am to?