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Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 5:07pm On May 12, 2015 |
bukatyne: my fear was, what if my husband has to be somewhere urgently (this incident was 2 days to an election), and then he ends up leaving the kids with the help or something. I felt like I would be comfortable having the baby in the care of an older person like my mum or MIL. as for not registering for the exam, that's not even an option. my career is right up there in level of importance to me, right after God, my husband and kids. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 5:08pm On May 12, 2015 |
nickibarb: What exactly is your business between a mother and son? If they choose to exclude you, then you IGNORE them. Why make it a conspiracy-theory? You lack emotional MATURITY! Never love those WHO do not love you till they change their minds! THEN FEEL FREE TO CHANGE YOURS! What exactly is your problem? You sure DO NOT act like A MARRIED WOMAN with 2 babies and an EXAM to prepare for. Where ON EARTH do you find THE TIME for all this bytching? 11 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Amhappy(f): 5:15pm On May 12, 2015 |
@ nickibarb I think you have done a lot trying to explain even to strangers. You seem like someone with a good heart but please do not let people take advantage of it. You cannot please everybody all the time(that's key to failure). 15 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 5:18pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Thank you for your analysis. but you didn't get a few things quite clearly. I don't have an exam to write, I already wrote it and passed it. I had no plans of travelling with the kids, I packed a bag with the intention of dropping them off at my parent's house before going for the exam. I believe I was prioritizing by trying to make proper arrangements for the kids before going to write the exam cos like i said, my kids come before my career in order of preference. I am needy? do you care to shed some light? how exactly? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by funkyjms: 5:28pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Even without making an attempt to know why and possibly resolve the ish? I just hope you won't flaw her mind with this your maturity talk. I'm beginning to see why 5minutesmadness made that post. 7 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 5:35pm On May 12, 2015 |
funkyjms: Sometimes, trying too hard to be loved and accepted proves to backfire. Please, at this time her EXAMS AND LITTLE CHILDREN should be her priority. . . Instead of trying to CONTROL EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE AROUND HER! She may not have much of a marriage for now. But the ball is in her racket ALWAYS! Note to all women: HEART-ATTACK is the #1 killer of BLACK WOMEN, not AIDS!!!! Choose wisely! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by funkyjms: 5:39pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: It's very obvious you didn't read each of her post before dishing out your advice. 13 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 5:41pm On May 12, 2015 |
funkyjms: What else did I miss? Please, tell me? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by SAMBARRY: 5:42pm On May 12, 2015 |
I stopped at where he smashed your head on the table because I was too irritated to read the rest. 1.is your head coconut wey them dey smash for table. 2.if he didn't want you in his house again you no fit leave am make the fire for im head quench and find better place to sleep 3 mother and pikin dey talk wetin consain you. The only thing I have a problem with her is that after your head was smashed no calling back to confirm what happened. Not even going to check you in the hospital? Na so them no get conscience reach for their family? If it was her daughter na so she go behave so non chalantly.i can bet na so she don use to beating reach from your father in law that she doesn't see anything wrong. Anyway back to the issue. You don marry may weather husband you don marry am be that. You will choose what you want. Whether you want to continue enjoying the beating or not. Meanwhile some people that are giving you advise here are wife beaters so they don't see anything wrong in what your husband did .Shebi it's still your head he smashed. That one na preamble na when he connive with the mom and send the kids abroad strip you of them and change the house keys so you won't be able to enter na im your head go correct shioorr.dont start saving money and preparing for the day you won't stay there anymore 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 5:46pm On May 12, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Amen!!!!!!! Women and their issues I swia! The babe need to comb her hair not her conscience o! Her BRAIN nor dey breathe properly! Too many "head-knocks" received I BEH-lieve! |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by francizy(m): 5:51pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Kanwulia dear, you over made sense this time around oh.. Am impressed! |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by SAMBARRY: 5:52pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:some posts are Sooo annoying to say the least that you begin to wonder whether some of this posters grew up in a ranch or normal home if some posters can be so myopic only God knows what they teach in the so called pre wedding counselling organised in churches im house na paradise? |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 5:53pm On May 12, 2015 |
francizy: I am not sexist you know? |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 5:56pm On May 12, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: POLYGAMY has damaged MANY female children all over Africa. Not to mention absentee sperm-donors! It is unfortunate the cycle keeps going from generation to generation! When these women get married, they start looking for "father-figures" and FORGET they are MOTHERS! 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by francizy(m): 5:57pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: But you're a tribalist sha... |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by mrssho: 5:57pm On May 12, 2015 |
nickibarb: I think there are underlying issues here i.e. you do not trust your husbands judgement. I would think that as a grown man if he had to leave he would either a) Take them with him if he can b) cancel any engagement c) drop them off at his mom's or d) drop them off with a trusted family friend or your parents. Its actually a bit annoying and if i were your husband i would be upset to (does not justify him pushing you though) because by calling his mom you are telling him he is not capable of taking care of the children he brought into this world with you, that is a serious bruise to his ego! When I was a child my dad used to take care of me when my mom would travel for weeks..........everything from bathing to feeding to taking me to day care.....................So the question is, why dont you think your husband is capable? A lot of women would be happy if their husbands told them don't worry go and do your exams I will sort out the kids 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 6:00pm On May 12, 2015 |
francizy: Yeah! I BASH ALL TRIBES! It is just that some are MOST problematic than others! |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by SAMBARRY: 6:00pm On May 12, 2015 |
which hair she wan comb abi which style she wan do ?D na Ghana braids or peruvian hair? na the time to comb her hair or gets her acts together and focus on character and personality development and discovery she needs a 3weeks vacation to be with herself plan her life and meditate on what will bring her inner peace. Some of her mates wey tow her line don get stroke and hypertension and unfortunately life will go on for the man. Na only the children go suffer am KanwuliaJara: |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 6:03pm On May 12, 2015 |
mrssho: Gbam! The OP needs to comb her HAIR, not her CONSCIENCE! |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by mrssho: 6:06pm On May 12, 2015 |
One more thing I also think your mother in law was doing you a favor by not interfering. As a wife you of all people should be able to influence and change your husbands mind you shouldn't need other people to do that. It doesnt happen over night, you need to pray to God for that and also study the best way and time to present issues to him 2 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 6:06pm On May 12, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: You can imagine if she catches the husband with another woman? She go tie rope for her WAIST instead of her NECK to commit "sweecide" abi? The woman is toooo hormonal. She should take a break from "breeding" for now. This smacks of SEVERE sexual frustration in that marriage! 2 babies under 2 years old? Hmmmm. The man sef dey suffer BIG-TIME AGRO! The woman always get BIG-BELLE ke!!!! Muchechecheche |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by SAMBARRY: 6:08pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:no she go run mad. Them go dey treat am for yaba left |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by francizy(m): 6:11pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: And who are the some? |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 6:13pm On May 12, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Na only YABA CENTRAL go fit handle this kain 'case' o! 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by SAMBARRY: 6:15pm On May 12, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by KanwuliaJara: 6:15pm On May 12, 2015 |
francizy: Stop derailing this sweet thread I beg you! You will get your answers on appropriate threads! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Mznaett: 6:22pm On May 12, 2015 |
Hmm,,i dnt knw what 2say oo |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by irunoko(m): 6:34pm On May 12, 2015 |
I didn't even see the last 2 paragraphs o KanwuliaJara: |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Dheartless: 7:16pm On May 12, 2015 |
honestly I don't think your mil should be forced to meddle in your marriage. if she had spoken to you or your parents and it resulted in verbal conflicts, it would have been said bad of her. you and your husband have to settle your differences between each other "mostly by yourselves" that's the only way your home can truly be peaceful. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by babygirlfl: 8:15pm On May 12, 2015 |
moca: You took everything right out of my mouth. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by babygirlfl: 8:23pm On May 12, 2015 |
Madampinkolo: 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 8:30pm On May 12, 2015 |
Jahblessme:This are the exact words I wanted to say. Seems OP doesn't understand the magnitude of the violence are husband meted out on her. Seems she is trying to cover him up and overlook the harm he did to her. Oh he kissed me and bought me clothes but he hurt you real hard against the wall. Op don't overlook it o 4 Likes |
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