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Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by sleekman(m): 6:01am On May 13, 2015 |
DollyParton1:People like u don't learn. Ur style results in more divorces in our society. 2 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by InvertedHammer: 6:01am On May 13, 2015 |
/ Tell your husband to register a handle on NL. Then he will tell his own side of the story.... Then I will compare notes.... Then I can advise. \ 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by repogirl(f): 6:02am On May 13, 2015 |
Stop stalking your mother in law! Is not by force that she should love you, you seem so needy self. Abeg leave the woman jare, is it by force to get her approval? She doesn't pick your calls because she doesn't want to hear you reporting her son to her as if she didn't train him well enough. So, mind your marriage and settle your issues within your immediate family and stop trying to force your self on her. Your husband will always be her son and you will never have that sort of bond with her. Since you have tried your best, leave it as it is. Be respectful from the distance she has put you, accept it and live your life. PS, u sef are a stubborn woman, how will you collect your husbands wallet of all things? You were looking for trouble. What is there if he locks you out? Will you die? Isn't it for a few hours? All this began because u insisted on taking the kids to your parents am sure, cos if u didn't he wouldn't have insisted you gave him your key. You better calm your Strong head down, am even sure your mother in law is tired of you attitude and wants to distance herself from you as a result. Finally my point is, instead of pointing fingers begin by analysing yourself. 6 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by zed7: 6:07am On May 13, 2015 |
Your narration online is unnecessary. People will end up misleading u and putting silly ideas into ur head. U and ur husband have made up. Not every one can be close to their in-laws. Just make sure the relationship between hubby and ur parents is cordial. Try not to take most of the advice here seriously. U will end up causing more harm than good in ur marriage. To be honest you seem a very bright lady but a little immature. Maybe u should start working on that first. Cheers. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by sleekman(m): 6:18am On May 13, 2015 |
babyosisi:I think ure sick. With ur mentality divorce is crouching at ur door. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 6:24am On May 13, 2015 |
Joavil3682010: She let it slide without addressing it. And all she sees is her MIL fault. Not her husband. I dont need anyone to tell me how so men can't say sorry when they hurt their lady. I know how sweet kisses and make up thing is. But really not when she broke her head. He should be furious with himself. Its obvious he is not. sorry isnt enough and I said that already but well that's a start for him in this situation. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by hassymo5(m): 6:27am On May 13, 2015 |
I dont see how this woman did wrong... everyone here is blaming her... for me u did the right thing.... there is no way ur husband could her cared for a 3months baby.. and I see a conspiracy blw ur husband and mother inlaw. for ur mother and husband there is more to what happen than just vendor...she could have gone too far and men don't like that.... u guys must stop bringing parents into Ur marriage... third party...because they are just pray and make ur marriage work by sorting this with ur husband alone..pls I said ur husband alone....third party is a disease...be it MIL,FIL,BIL,UR broda,sister Mum,dad... ur husband is a mum listener.. and I bet u more problems will come because of this.... just respect her ur MIL...don't tell her anything again ..... 3 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Austin4lif: 6:27am On May 13, 2015 |
nickibarb:stop discussing ur family issue with the whole of Nigeria. Don't you have a pastor or ur Rev. Father? Don't u have respected people in ur family. Madam Nairaland or social network is not a place to go for marriage counseling. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 6:40am On May 13, 2015 |
Joavid: She let it slide without addressing it. And all she sees is her MIL fault. Not her husband. I dont need anyone to tell me how so men can't say sorry when they hurt their lady. I know how sweet kisses and make up thing is. But really not when she broke her head. He should be furious with himself. Its obvious he is not. sorry isnt enough and I said that already but well that's a start for him in this situation. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by bettermike: 6:48am On May 13, 2015 |
You want to hear the fact? 1. Your husband doesn't trust you. 2. Your MIL is tired of your frequent reporting. 3. You should learn to stop reporting your issues to everyone. First it was your MIL, next, your family and now nairaland. Who knows who you'll report to next. Police perhaps. The issue here is deeper than you are presenting here. You sound smarter and more calculative than you are making us believe. You and your husband have begun a tussle which should not have started in the first place if you stopped insisting on your way of doing things. Obey your husband. Stop claiming right. There are subtle ways to make a man do your bidding. You want things done your way but when they aren't, you start reporting to the world. Like I said, the facts. Take it or leave it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by dinachi(m): 6:53am On May 13, 2015 |
@Op, pls find a way to close this thread. Evil people are already here with worse marriages trying to make you feel bad about your marriage. You have unittentionally made yourself vulnerable. People are here trying to incite you against your lovely husband while they have worse husbands at home who beats them to a pulp every single day! You don't know what you have until you loose it. My dear go hug your darling husband, show him love and then discuss your issues with him. Most of the evil advisers here were not there when you fell in love with this man and married him but they are here now to destroy that love. Your type of marriage is what most women wish for but can have so they do the next best thing, destroy it! If you follow their advice and your marriage breaks, watch as your advicers would flee and leave you to your loneliness. It is a known fact, many women are very jealous of other women's successes. You married into a rich home, they are angry. You passed your proffesional exams they are angry. Pls be wise. A word is enough for the wise. 6 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by precisionindepth: 6:57am On May 13, 2015 |
nickibarb:I believe marriage is met for two Pple to run together and not alone. when he said u shd leave d kids DT he will take care of them, y push d matter? u shd v trusted him and go for ur exams in peace and all these wouldn't v happened. always remember , both of u r in D's boat together do feel DT the workload of d marriage rests on u alone as the Nigeria culture has painted it DT a woman alone holds d marriage. sit ur husband down and trash D's menial issue and next time, trust him unless u v reasons not to. 2 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by thorpido(m): 7:11am On May 13, 2015 |
babyosisi:Yes he did.He drew the first blood but the hubby is not here so she's the one I can address. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by precisionindepth: 7:12am On May 13, 2015 |
qbd2:walahi wahala dey, DTS y d marriage institution is so in a very sorry state. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by precisionindepth: 7:16am On May 13, 2015 |
xdunamis:then if DT is true, instead of bringing out in actions why can't he trash d issue out throught communication. remember DT for a marriage to work, wisdom is required. a mature man needsbto b wise and holds his home. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by dammytosh: 7:18am On May 13, 2015 |
nickibarb: 1. He does not like your Mum and your first suggestion is to drop his kids there. 2. Why the enemity between your husband and your Mum , I guess you are not mature enough to come in between with wisdom and let them get along. Or your mouth is a typewriter that tells hubby everything Mum says including advices you take from her over hubby's advice 3. Locking you out that you might come back for the kids is worrisome. I guess to him, you are quite sturbborn. Win your Man back. Beg your Mother In Law And you can not have peace if your hubby and mother are at war. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by precisionindepth: 7:21am On May 13, 2015 |
fem29:I like ur advice. Dont even behave as if smtin happened, just call or text to say hi and how much u loved to hear her voice cos its been a while. treat dem in a civil way. Dont push wanting to play lovey dovey with ur mil. just treat her with respect and stop been overly concern abt wat she thinks abt u. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by precisionindepth: 7:26am On May 13, 2015 |
jayedu108:y is it always cos of money? even if he had all d money in D's world, is it not a woman he's gonna marry? either d woman is from a rich home or not. didn't u read where she's said her parents are above averagely OK? wat actually is d problem with some men? 3 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by precisionindepth: 7:30am On May 13, 2015 |
RiffRaff:most Dont wanna get married but if u c d drama DT comes with not getting married...u will cry. wat money? y has money become d overall? in really weep for the way Nigerians has taken d issue of money. marriage is suppose to b for companionship happiness respect and anything aside does, its not worth entering at all. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by bukatyne(f): 7:44am On May 13, 2015 |
fem29: Just had to laugh at the bolded. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by asiwaju: 7:50am On May 13, 2015 |
i am absolutely 100% with your motherinlaw and until we hear from your husband,i consider your message here null and void,personally i think you are the devil here,trying to make your husband and his Family look bad. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by DollyParton1(f): 8:15am On May 13, 2015 |
sleekman: What's there to learn? Pray tell me. People like you encourages spousal abuse. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by ewizard1: 8:15am On May 13, 2015 |
kweenkong: Now, this is a LADY, WIFE & MOTHER, all packed in one body. I congratulate your fiancee/husband! He has made the best choice. #Chai.. I pray my Wife2Be is like you. #See how she said effritin *sirinrin werere* |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by creamynuela88: 8:29am On May 13, 2015 |
obiak4: I know very well what u mean, because I myself am married. She did nothing wrong to her MIL. So I don't see why she should go and apologize for nothing. The only thing she should do is always respect her. If she likes she calls her on phone (that's if she would pick up) anywhere she sees her greet her, chat with her just get along with her as much as u like. Its not mandatory u take rubbish from pple because they are ur hubby's family members. Its d way u carry yourself u would be treated. If u carry yourself like a slave or a mumu they treat u as one, if u carry yourself with respect they respect u. 5 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by fireforfire: 8:37am On May 13, 2015 |
hmmm nig marriagez nd its frustration no b here |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by MistadeRegal(m): 8:48am On May 13, 2015 |
I'm sorry I won't be commenting....because you will send slaps to me if you read my comment. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by DollyParton1(f): 9:16am On May 13, 2015 |
repogirl: But she actually dint train her son well. if she did, the son wont be trying to lock people out or disliking his MIL. Your husband will always be her son and you will never have that sort of bond with her. Since you have tried your best, leave it as it is. very apt. PS, u sef are a stubborn woman, how will you collect your husbands wallet of all things? You were looking for trouble.So from her narration, all you could deduce is that she has strong head. Girl your analysis get as e be. So what could she have collected as a leverage instead? His Pėniś? Contrary to your opinion, there is something if he locks her out. I assume you dint read the part where she said she might be coming back very late at night. Being locked out at that time is dangerous. Moreover, no one in their right senses appreciate being locked out even for a minute, even in the middle of the day. And I think locking a spouse out is a form of abuse. And u also missed the part where she said he doesn't like her mum, and that's why she doesn't want his kids there. YOU dont think that needs to be addressed. Her mother inlaw is tired of her story, and tired of her being alive too abi? She heard the lady got hurt, yet she dint see it as enough reason to break her rule of not interfering. Till now she hasn't even check on her wellbeing. Finally my point is, instead of pointing fingers begin by analysing yourself.She said it too, she is here to seek other people's opinions and analysis. 3 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 9:24am On May 13, 2015 |
precisionindepth:Hmm, but in dis age pple rarely care bout family. They do my husband/wife and i |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 9:27am On May 13, 2015 |
obiak4:I don't get what u mean, u mean shud have been 'jealous of one another'? |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 9:29am On May 13, 2015 |
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Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by jadelyn007(f): 9:37am On May 13, 2015 |
Madam your over-sabi is too much, get a grip of yourself. Your husband says he can take care of his kids n u r engaging him in fisticuffs, you should be glad he didn't take out your teeth with one blow. By the way how did your MIL enter into this issue? She is minding her freaking business n you r busy trying to invite her to poke nose. Tomorrow you will be the one to come open a thread on nairaland about how your MIL can stop meddling in your affairs. Stop trying too hard to play the perfect wife, its disgusting and reeks so much of desperation. Your husband doesn't give 2 fucccksss about your parents and look at you striving so hard to lick his parents bum. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Deehvahrzz(f): 10:03am On May 13, 2015 |
SOTNEG:Errmm . One question please. So the children in a marriage belongs to the man and his parents baa? What do you mean by his children? Their children!!!!! Am sure no holy book said children belongs to d man. Wake up sir. Things don't work dis way anymore. It is their children. ND if she wants to take the children to her parents, why not? They r their grand parents too. 3 Likes |
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