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Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Winneygirl(f): 8:48pm On May 12, 2015 |
Honestly, I don't really see where the MIL comes into the picture. You were going to be away for just a day. Then all of this came up. If you were to be away for a week, what would the story have been?. You are yet to admit the real reason why you were calling your MIL. It was to report her son to her!! An issue between you and your husband, and you ran and started calling your MIL. For her to do what exactly? She doesn't report to you. After you sent your text to her, she called your husband. Were you expecting her to give you feedback? You need to influence your husband, and you are calling his mother..... Learn to take control of your home. Mother-in-law refuses to meddle- Problem! Mother-in-law meddles -Problem! 3 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by AnneMomoh: 9:25pm On May 12, 2015 |
Nickibarb Your marraige has trust issues, your husband does not trust you anymore, you have given him a reason to, as you have placed your career over family. The issue of you going for your exams did not start that day, obviously ur hubby seems to be in disagreement over it. You hubby is codedly giving you option to choose your family or your career, dats why he is refusing you to take the kids anywhere. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by adebisiolumide5(m): 9:32pm On May 12, 2015 |
obiak4:apologize wetin?? To hell with apologies. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Ewuro4: 9:37pm On May 12, 2015 |
Jeez ... Front page already. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 9:38pm On May 12, 2015 |
You ladies should marry only educated, genteel and gentle men!! I can bet your husband isn't really educated and the only reason he acted up was cos he felt insecure with you progressing with your career. You did absolutely nothing wrong (judging from your side of the story). You married a boy and not a man!! sorry.... no remedy for that!! |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Itsnewton(m): 9:39pm On May 12, 2015 |
Seriously speaking judging with ur mother inlaws reaction cum character that posses a threat to ur matrimonial home.......u seriously need God to help u....it might be an arrow of hatred fired against u! 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Kegite(m): 9:39pm On May 12, 2015 |
nickibarb: He should have beaten the foolishness out of you. You are not worthy to be a mother. Why won't you let him take care of his children while you party away with your younger boyfriend ?? Why would you take his wallet ?? Why would you engage him in a fist fight ?? I would encourage him to hit you on a daily basis so you can regain your sanity. Foolish woman |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by FitnessNigeria: 9:42pm On May 12, 2015 |
I'm yet to see anything you did wrong unless you are not telling us the full story |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 9:42pm On May 12, 2015 |
Hmm, dats y they always say tis not just about d person ur marrying, its also bout the family ur marrying into 3 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by texazzpete(m): 9:43pm On May 12, 2015 |
Let me get this clear. Your husband pushed you hard enough to cause you to have a head injury that required hospitalization, yet still ignored you, allowed you to travel unaccompanied even with an injured head and you're here worrying about your 'relationship with your Mother in Law'? What about the more serious issue about your relationship with your Husband, that looks really dysfunctional? 15 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Gud1(m): 9:46pm On May 12, 2015 |
donbenedict: God helps those who help themselves,. Tell her where she did wrong because of tomorrow. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Gud1(m): 9:49pm On May 12, 2015 |
texazzpete: Exactly what I want to point out. Wives with their hates of mother in laws! |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Gud1(m): 9:51pm On May 12, 2015 |
qbd2: The person you are marrying to will be the only person to cement your relationship with your in laws. This happens only when the wife don't respect the husband. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 9:55pm On May 12, 2015 |
Gud1:Hmm, let me just pray for u dat u never get to have a troublesome mother in law. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Olabestonic001(m): 9:57pm On May 12, 2015 |
Please take heart my sister. Your MIL is really immature with that behaviour. Please pity and pardon her. We normally have grown-ups who are really childish in their actions and reactions and she seems to fall into that league. Also, don't let that woman affect your marital life. Never go against your MIL; every man sees his wife as his second mother, so they always protect the first mother (sometimes unreasonably- remember she also protects them unreasonably when they were kids, hence the repay). Just be calm about it. Honor your man. Show to him that you honour and respect him. With time; he'll see his mother's overbearing nature and he would protect the two mothers' in his life. I love your family life; So, keep it ma. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Brugo(m): 9:58pm On May 12, 2015 |
The mother in-law didn't interfere at all but she turned out to be the villain. Na wa for this wife. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 10:00pm On May 12, 2015 |
Personally, you're chasing the wrong line of action. This is a case you need to put to bed with your husband, not your mother-inlaw. He's the one providing room for all these debacle. He pushed you over and had you locked out, that is simply unwittingly tearing his home to shreds. I don't know how much he understands and trust you, but I really think you two need to sit and talk over your career, the kids and the family. You two just need to find a balance, your career pursuit shouldn't outweigh your parenting whilst your parenting shouldn't hinder your career pursuit. I believe you two are mature enough to find a common ground. You owe your mother-inlaw no explanation or apologies, she's only a third party, who has no business with what goes on in your home. This is your family drowning, only you can save it. 2 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by milvet(f): 10:04pm On May 12, 2015 |
Jahblessme:i dont usu comment here |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Gud1(m): 10:06pm On May 12, 2015 |
You cause this frasca madam. Let me put it to u clearly. 1. When you ask to go with the kids and your husband refused you should have since it is a day thing. 2. You acted too fast by calling your mother in law and texting her when she didn't pick your calls (Maybe you only call her when there is trouble) over any small issues. 3. When he sieze the copy of your keys you still didn't feel d trouble coming? You should have leave since he will be around with the kids, he won't go far. Getting angry will your mother inlaw or clashing your parents heads with your mother inlaw will not end upon with with your marriage. NB: Work things out with your husband, tell him how you feel over everything and apologise to each other. Before I forget, couples ought to respect each other. Its sacrifice that keeps home going, not every time one must have his way. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by xdunamis(m): 10:09pm On May 12, 2015 |
You are not loyal to your husband, you dont have good manners, you show him no respect and he's already fed up with you, he suspects you are already having an affair and this might also be true. Thats the truth woman, stop trying to potray yourself as a good woman cos you are not. I read all these through the lines of your story. Your MIL is not a bad person, she is angry because of what her son told her about you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by milvet(f): 10:09pm On May 12, 2015 |
Jahblessme:i dont usu comment here but i lik wat dis guy/gal wrote &i love dat u re a career woman¤ ur are d woman of d house.y wud u call ur mil is she God? N i can bet my company dat dats not d ist time u've called her weneva u ve issues wit ur hubby. I get d pix, u are tryin 2 be d perfect dil¤it doesnt work lik dat. Ur hubby has issues my dear...apologisin wit a clothes ordered from italy>>mmacha!! Wat if u died on d spot?¤ my dear pray hard n let love not cover ur eyes.. Dia's much bigger prob ahead trust me 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by emmatok(m): 10:10pm On May 12, 2015 |
Women and their mind games, you are having issues with you husband and you're blaming you MIL . Your husband might have informed his mother to stay out of the issues with your marriage. Please don't start fight with the wrong person. Your MIL has done no wrong, unlike other MIL that will start interfering with your marriage.. Settle with you husband. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 10:11pm On May 12, 2015 |
AnneMomoh: Wow wtf 4 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by andyanders: 10:14pm On May 12, 2015 |
obiak4:Good advise for the lady. Op. understand that you messed up by taking your husband's wallet in the first place. Also your mother inlaw maybe wouldn't want to start getting involved in settling issues you have with your husband. Since both of accepted to come together as husband and wife, you should try to sort out things yourselves. Apologize to your husband and see that she reconcile you with your mother inlaw. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by goodgood2(m): 10:14pm On May 12, 2015 |
I'm angry. The reason is that I spent my precious time reading this your epistle, yet could not spot out the real problem. Please, listen to your hubby, submit to him, and all will be well. Leave nairaland out of this. We don't counsel people who cases like this. It is a case of insubordination and half truths. nickibarb: |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Gud1(m): 10:20pm On May 12, 2015 |
qbd2:My mother inlaw is like a friend to me, we relate peacefully. She do call me if I didn't call her for two days since we are one family. |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 10:21pm On May 12, 2015 |
Gud1:Well, dats urs. Not everyone is as lucky as u. 1 Like |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Gud1(m): 10:26pm On May 12, 2015 |
qbd2: But in this case the mother inlaw is innocent. Why did u ladies hate MIL's with passion? |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by ayrahmon: 10:27pm On May 12, 2015 |
What a pathetic story. its one of d reasons some gals pray for d death of dia mother in-law b4 moving in. However, ds person na IBO. Haha! Is 13months child spacing not too much. NO TIME |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Nobody: 10:30pm On May 12, 2015 |
nickibarb: My dear, you are married to a Nigerian man in Nigeria. Shine ya eyes. I'm sure he was very different when you were abroad but he has reintegrated back into the typical Nigerian man. This same thing happened to my parents too. They were living in the states, good jobs, very very happy. My dad would pick the baby up from nursery and make dinner cos he got home first. Mum was working in a bank and studying nights. He even took my bro to nigeria for a visit all by himself whilst he was still under 1, that's how hands on he was was. His mum guilt tripped and forced them to come back to nigeria and dad reverted to a naija man, girlfriends, late nights etc. Hunny chile, stack your chips, I now have this mindset that anyone can do anything. There is nothing my hubby can do that will surprise me now. Try your best to n your marriage, try it to reintegrate your parents to be part of your lives. As for your mother inlaw, make contact with her, call her and just tell her you want to greet her cos you haven't spoken to her in a while, don't mention what happened, don't apologise, don't be over chummy. If she doesn't pick up, send a text to that effect. Not point rehashing things, you already know where she stands. Just keep things civil. Shine ya eyes and keep your ears open, nuff said 9 Likes |
Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by Lumpyy(f): 10:30pm On May 12, 2015 |
nickibarb:She might have be for real,maybe something triggerd this act?il say u wait a while to see how much longer she kips mum/call you+her coming and not asking after u is scary too considering ur relationship in d past! |
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