jaybee3:
What are you going to do about it if majority of those affected don't even have access to your educative literature?

Nihilist:


1.I posted an article highlighting women involved in slut shaming and sexual violence
2.You responded to the article claiming that women have been conditioned to engage in slut shaming
3.You stated that music with misogynist lyrics conditions women into believing that they are bitches, the implication being that a woman who listens to such music is likely to engage in misogynist behaviour.

To me, all of that is an exercise in fallacy and conjecture but, for the sake of discussion, I'll let it pass

That said, there is no evidence that the women in the article listen misogynist music, or were conditioned in anyway. ( Which is why I asked the question in the first place)

Is it so inconceivable, that women are equally as capable of sadistic acts of wickedness to other women?
Is it such a mind blowing idea, to consider that women can also sexually prey on other vulnerable women?
And it's not news that women are also capable of ritualistic killings of adults and children of both sexes...

So why are we focusing on Nigerian men?

standd:


I will drive home the point again:::


NIGERIAN MEN ARE HYPOCRITES

Thank you

standd:


Some of the men reading this are guilty of the things I have mentioned and they know it. As for those who don't have access to this, it will take time, but they will all be reached.

jaybee3:

How about the wives, sisters and mothers that harbour them?

jaybee3:


You can't base your judgement/conclusions solely on the views they submit on NL. NL can't be a good scientific sample when it's obvious some people deliberately post to hold opposing views

How exactly do you plan to educate people that are largely divided along faith as well as controlled by books written eons ago?

unlimitedbosco:

You are what is wrong with society when flaws are pointed out it is not to insult or intimidate it is to correct but what ure doing is try to intimidate those who disagree and insult nigerian men. Pls tell me are ur father, ur brothers, husband or boy friend (if any are nigerians) male cousins are hypocrites? I mean even allnaijablogger and some brothers agreeing hook line sinker with you are they hypocrites? I hope you evaluate yourself and know that generalization in whatever form or outlet is wrong, offending and mean.
On a lighter note y on earth will someone wake up at 11:31pm to retell stories most of us know and condem inorder to arrive at one conclusion ALL NIGERIAN MEN ARE HYPOCRITE
WRONG CONCLUSION IF YOU ASK ME. THANK YOU TOO

standd:


Women are capable of this or that, we know. We have heard, we have read the numerous threads opened by whiners...The question is do you know that ::

NIGERIAN MEN ARE HYPOCRITES.

Do you?

Nihilist:


Why do you think Nigerian Men are hypocrites.

standd:


I will drive home the point again:::


NIGERIAN MEN ARE HYPOCRITES

Thank you

AllNaijaBlogger:


Dont be a misandrist

#not all men.

#malefeminist

standd:




You see, a conductor smelling of e-gbo and very dirty called me 'Ashewo' because I asked for my change when he refused to give me To him, any woman who dares to challenge him is an 'Ashewo' and he is not the only one doing this.

Again, a guy on this forum whose gut or face I don't like, who I have never met, who I will never meet, who I have never chatted with or mailed online or offline, who I will never sleep with even to safe my own life or even if konji wants to kill me called Standd a 'slut' because it is the 'normal' thing for him to do, because he is an HYPOCRITE.

Why then do you think I don't have the 'right' to label men with hypocrisy.

standd:


I will drive home the point again:::


NIGERIAN MEN ARE HYPOCRITES

Thank you

joseph1832:
I believe this include your great grand father, grand father, father, uncles and brothers!.

Never did I believe you of all people will allow narrow mindedness cloud your sense of reasoning!.

Nihilist:


Standd is trolling.
She is not narrow minded. She's just angry at the murder of that young student.

Airbornelacer will soon come and .....

Nihilist:


Standd is trolling.
She is not narrow minded. She's just angry at the murder of that young student.

Airbornelacer will soon come and engage her in one hot round of make up e-sex and all will be forgiven

unlimitedbosco:
It funny how u chose to generalize in in a piece that chose to discourage generalization of women. Ur piece hold some truth but look around u. honestly the use of women for sexual appeal in advertisements. watch musical video in nigeria and u see the problem why women are easily considered those hateful names people call them. Women should learn to ignore names that people get to call them because they are succesful. men are called names but they chose to ignore it and women should learn to forget hateful names just dezani and stella

standd:
Noted Joecutie

joseph1832:
Being angry makes one do stewpid things! Standd just did something excessively stewpid!.

I wonder why she's not angry about the kidnapped Chibok girls, the number of lives lost to Boko Haram insurgents, people dying of poverty, disease, government neglect etc!

In my opinion, she should shove her anger up her narrow behind!!!.

JoeCutie:
Good. So, what have you to say about what I said?

JoeCutie:
I really do not know how or where to start from, but whichever way, I wouldn't fail to chip in one or two things.

It's quite pitiable that human trafficking and rituals are now the order of the day in our dear country, but why blame it solely on the male folks? We've seen many cases of young men used for rituals. We've seen many cases of promising young men die of witchcraft in the hands of witches (women). It's very unfortunate and appalling what happened to the 20 year old girl, but what I don't like doing is sounding so pathetic just to please a certain set of people, say the women folks. What happened to the young woman could have happened to anybody - male or female. I think she was very unfortunate. Do you think that any man would watch a girl go through something that barbaric and just stand, watch and do nothing? Well, I don't think so. Have you seen where a guy slaps or beats up a girl in public and goes free? You need to see the kind of fate that's meted out to such people. No guy/man touches a woman - be it their own or not - and goes free. The society always fights back, unless it happens in private. Believe it or not, the men folks cares for the women folks. Maybe our culture and tradition doesn't necessarily portray that. I know that women most times turn to the men for protection, but believe me, we ain't even safe ourselves. We are also afraid, fighting for our own safety too. Nobody sees a Lion's den and jumps into it. Nobody likes to die. The perpetrators and perpetuators of these evil do not spare anybody. Nobody is safe, we are all fighting for the same course - survival. What am I trying to say? What happened to that girl is not "inhumanity to women", but "man's inhumanity to man". It could be anybody - You or me.

As for a 30 year old man sleeping with a 13 year old girl, well you actually said she's his girlfriend, right? Why would a 13year old agree to date a 30 year old man in the first place? Well... There are many notable cases of elderly men dating/marrying younger ladies. There are equally cases of very young men dating/marrying older women. These things happen everywhere. It might be the case in their own relationship too, unless she's been forced, then it's totally bad, and should be condemned by all. If the young girl isn't comfortable with the man's escapades with her, then she has every right to report the matter to the appropriate quarter, but if she keeps quiet, we'd believe she's enjoying the whole thing. There's no way people are going to know about her problems and consequently help her if she doesn't talk. If she keeps mute, she's enjoying it then.

Before someone accuses me of double standard, unfairness and all that, let me state it that I'm an advocate of fair judgement. I just don't like what women do sometimes; whenever a man does something to a woman, ladies will descend on the male folks. And instead of attacking the situation or the person that committed the crime, they'd instead, generalize, turning on the male folks totally. It's not fair. Women are not any better. We are all in this "mess" together. And together we can fight and rescue our land from all these atrocities.

May the soul of the young girl and the souls of all who have fallen victims to these very primitive and barbaric acts, rest with the Lord. It's a pity.

Worthy of Note:
• Dear men, women are not sluts
• Dear women, all men are not the same
GET THAT INTO YOUR HEADS!

Cc: Standd

Nihilist:

no need to be insultive

standd:


You are smack on point, I have no addition or subtraction. And I respect your point of view.

FrancisTony:

Men naturally have overbloated ego.

for example, different men have been ruling Nigeria and we are not getting it right.
Many male politicians, loot and commit all atrocities.

Just mention Okonjo-Iweala and Allison-Madueke, they'll give you 1,000 reasons why women shouldn't be in power forgetting good deeds of Magareth Ekpo, Oby Ezekwesili, Dora Akunyili.

When they err, human beings are imperfect.
When women err, women are devil.

Oloun maje for hypocrisy!

FrancisTony:
A female boss commands her male subordinate and he declines; awon Nairaland frustrated family-section male would say he's right and tell you how she has an inferiority complex and want to exercise it.

A male boss commands his female subordinate and she declines; awon Nairaland frustrated family-section men will give you many reasons why Nigerian girls are b1tchy, rude and uncouth.

JoeCutie:
I really do not know how or where to start from, but whichever way, I wouldn't fail to chip in one or two things.

It's quite pitiable that human trafficking and rituals are now the order of the day in our dear country, but why blame it solely on the male folks? We've seen many cases of young men used for rituals. We've seen many cases of promising young men die of witchcraft in the hands of witches (women). It's very unfortunate and appalling what happened to the 20 year old girl, but what I don't like doing is sounding so pathetic just to please a certain set of people, say the women folks. What happened to the young woman could have happened to anybody - male or female. I think she was very unfortunate. Do you think that any man would watch a girl go through something that barbaric and just stand, watch and do nothing? Well, I don't think so. Have you seen where a guy slaps or beats up a girl in public and goes free? You need to see the kind of fate that's meted out to such people. No guy/man touches a woman - be it their own or not - and goes free. The society always fights back, unless it happens in private. Believe it or not, the men folks cares for the women folks. Maybe our culture and tradition doesn't necessarily portray that. I know that women most times turn to the men for protection, but believe me, we ain't even safe ourselves. We are also afraid, fighting for our own safety too. Nobody sees a Lion's den and jumps into it. Nobody likes to die. The perpetrators and perpetuators of these evil do not spare anybody. Nobody is safe, we are all fighting for the same course - survival. What am I trying to say? What happened to that girl is not "inhumanity to women", but "man's inhumanity to man". It could be anybody - You or me.

As for a 30 year old man sleeping with a 13 year old girl, well you actually said she's his girlfriend, right? Why would a 13year old agree to date a 30 year old man in the first place? Well... There are many notable cases of elderly men dating/marrying younger ladies. There are equally cases of very young men dating/marrying older women. These things happen everywhere. It might be the case in their own relationship too, unless she's been forced, then it's totally bad, and should be condemned by all. If the young girl isn't comfortable with the man's escapades with her, then she has every right to report the matter to the appropriate quarter, but if she keeps quiet, we'd believe she's enjoying the whole thing. There's no way people are going to know about her problems and consequently help her if she doesn't talk. If she keeps mute, she's enjoying it then.

Before someone accuses me of double standard, unfairness and all that, let me state it that I'm an advocate of fair judgement. I just don't like what women do sometimes; whenever a man does something to a woman, ladies will descend on the male folks. And instead of attacking the situation or the person that committed the crime, they'd instead, generalize, turning on the male folks totally. It's not fair. Women are not any better. We are all in this "mess" together. And together we can fight and rescue our land from all these atrocities.

May the soul of the young girl and the souls of all who have fallen victims to these very primitive and barbaric acts, rest with the Lord. It's a pity.

Worthy of Note:
• Dear men, women are not sluts
• Dear women, all men are not the same
GET THAT INTO YOUR HEADS!

Cc: Standd

MissMakas:
This is absolutely spot on. Your sense of reasoning and judgement is second to none. You just said it all.

JoeCutie:
I really do not know how or where to start from, but whichever way, I wouldn't fail to chip in one or two things.

It's quite pitiable that human trafficking and rituals are now the order of the day in our dear country, but why blame it solely on the male folks? We've seen many cases of young men used for rituals. We've seen many cases of promising young men die of witchcraft in the hands of witches (women). It's very unfortunate and appalling what happened to the 20 year old girl, but what I don't like doing is sounding so pathetic just to please a certain set of people, say the women folks. What happened to the young woman could have happened to anybody - male or female. I think she was very unfortunate. Do you think that any man would watch a girl go through something that barbaric and just stand, watch and do nothing? Well, I don't think so. Have you seen where a guy slaps or beats up a girl in public and goes free? You need to see the kind of fate that's meted out to such people. No guy/man touches a woman - be it their own or not - and goes free. The society always fights back, unless it happens in private. Believe it or not, the men folks cares for the women folks. Maybe our culture and tradition doesn't necessarily portray that. I know that women most times turn to the men for protection, but believe me, we ain't even safe ourselves. We are also afraid, fighting for our own safety too. Nobody sees a Lion's den and jumps into it. Nobody likes to die. The perpetrators and perpetuators of these evil do not spare anybody. Nobody is safe, we are all fighting for the same course - survival. What am I trying to say? What happened to that girl is not "inhumanity to women", but "man's inhumanity to man". It could be anybody - You or me.

As for a 30 year old man sleeping with a 13 year old girl, well you actually said she's his girlfriend, right? Why would a 13year old agree to date a 30 year old man in the first place? Well... There are many notable cases of elderly men dating/marrying younger ladies. There are equally cases of very young men dating/marrying older women. These things happen everywhere. It might be the case in their own relationship too, unless she's been forced, then it's totally bad, and should be condemned by all. If the young girl isn't comfortable with the man's escapades with her, then she has every right to report the matter to the appropriate quarter, but if she keeps quiet, we'd believe she's enjoying the whole thing. There's no way people are going to know about her problems and consequently help her if she doesn't talk. If she keeps mute, she's enjoying it then.

Before someone accuses me of double standard, unfairness and all that, let me state it that I'm an advocate of fair judgement. I just don't like what women do sometimes; whenever a man does something to a woman, ladies will descend on the male folks. And instead of attacking the situation or the person that committed the crime, they'd instead, generalize, turning on the male folks totally. It's not fair. Women are not any better. We are all in this "mess" together. And together we can fight and rescue our land from all these atrocities.

May the soul of the young girl and the souls of all who have fallen victims to these very primitive and barbaric acts, rest with the Lord. It's a pity.

Worthy of Note:
• Dear men, women are not sluts
• Dear women, all men are not the same
GET THAT INTO YOUR HEADS!

Cc: Standd

Kizmarty:





two people i adore so much...
joecutie & standd

one a philosopher the other a human rights activist and women advocate.
when i read their write ups,i begin to wonder and ask myself;what path am i treading?

i'm proud of you guys jor

VictoriaBee:

You are wrong. Men are called names based on being a human.
Women are called names based on their gender.