wrongnumber:


I was watching a talk show on tvc this morning and a marriage councilor talked about an igbo lady that cried to him saying her dad wants a millon naira for her bride price.

She further said her dad should even give her free to the guy because she has aborted 3 times gor the guy and she will be the one to lose should the guy leaves.

I pity igbo ladies.I honestly do.

mannyiyke:
It's not everywhere in Igboland dat requests for an exorbitant and outrageous bride price. In my part of Igboland (Oraukwu in Idemili North LGA of Anambra), bride price is not more than 20,000 naira excluding food and drinks to be served on that day, except d groom-to-be wants to showcase his wealth. So, d notion dat most igbos demand outrageous bride prices is unfounded and false. U can get that in Owerri and Mbaise parts of Imo State.

jnrbayano:
You were making sense until no 2.

"Igbos" are not expensive. The bride price paid to the bride's family is returned to the man in a 9 out of 10 situation (the bride price paid in the head of each of my 3 sisters were all returned)

mrdino:
**yinmu**

Toks2008:


Then stop sending her money.

My ex would text me she still loves me yet she is still undecisive.

Please forget her fast.For me if i see the right chic to move on with right now i will do so in a flash.

Some ladies are pathetic money mongers. Look very well and you will see other chics. Please forget her.

sonofananimal1:
I think I will go with you on this one.
The Era of one man doing everything on his own has past away. Just by looking at the economic situation, nowadays the job market favour women a lot and it has went to the extent that is even hard for men to get a job ( I know how many years I stayed without a job) and that affect the issue of marriage.

And as for the igbo women not marrying, the problem is just the bounty their fathers and the village elders put on there head. Forget to crap who said bride price is cheap. I have witnessed it with my own eyes, them demand too much as a bride price.


That's why you will see many beautiful igbo ladies in their late 20s still single.

tonychristopher:
remember ur friend said he is a fine bobo...mr universe

twentycent:
This thread looks fishy to me...am strolling to food section to catch sm shawarma..I dey Kwom

ifeanyi83:


These issues can't be generalized, there are always exceptions here and there. Though I'd rather so southwest or the that part of south-south..before the niger bridge that is....

Sorry I don't get you.

excellentmomma:


If you love a girl, you will find a way to marry her, nobody pays the so-called bounty 100% so that's not the issue, I'm Igbo but the mentality that the man carries all the burden is still very predominant in Igboland, so a struggling man has little or no chance, even the mothers will pursue the suitors if the bride in question doesn't stand her ground. Unlike in Yorubaland or Hausa where a jobless man can marry, patapata they live in the family house and grow from there (the wise ones). I give them Kudos for that.
Then one man to one woman is also "tightly" practiced in the East, how will u see Hausa girl for eg not married, when the Alhajis will easily help themselves with 56 wives in their lifetime, lolzzz, some divorced though. So it's a myriad of reasons and bride price is non of it.

naijaboiy:

Loving a girl is not enough excuse for a man to financially wreck himself just to marry her.

Don't forget he will still need money to run the family.

It's because of this same mentality that has made many men look elsewhere.

It's not like it's only women from the east who can be wife materials. Thank God we have so many variety of tribes to choose from.

So if you people continue with that mentality,,i'm sorry many of your women will still be old and single.

Toks2008:


This bride price thing sef.You all should watch out for a mind boggling revelation about it in my next article.

Gurgle:


I would never ever upload a pic onto NL

Apart from people with registered usernames there are thousands of guests viewing every thread and profile at any one time

I don't know how people do it, that's too much exposure for me

Neverquit:
Guys, please be fair: would you also stay with a wife or girlfriend that is unfaithful to you as long as she truly loves you? I don't think so.

Back to the OP,

I blame us ladies...the thing some of us do in the name of love :

1. Why would you sleep with your boyfriend without condoms? If una get belly, e go say make una do abortion(s). How many guys will marry you afterwards.

2. Ladies, you can see how guys are dissing us about sexual immorality. Please ask them oo, who are the ladies doing it with? Aliens? So lesson 2, ladies, learn how to say no. If your bf doesn't agree, he can take a walk.

3. Ladies, please be educated in all or most aspects of life. Be knowledgeable about news, finance, investment etc, so that guys won't use you to play.

4. Above all, be prayerful to your God to bring you the right man.

naijaboiy:

Loving a girl is not enough excuse for a man to financially wreck himself just to marry her.

Don't forget he will still need money to run the family.

It's because of this same mentality that has made many men look elsewhere.

It's not like it's only women from the east who can be wife materials. Thank God we have so many variety of tribes to choose from.

So if you people continue with that mentality,,i'm sorry many of your women will still be old and single.

excellentmomma:

Do you find it hard to comprehend? Didn't you read that I said, nobody pays all in that list unless of course you have the means or want to show off. I'll rather marry late and honorably and have a "till death do us part" union than be married off to an Alhaji as a child only to be used as his toy and be dumped afterwards. So face ur front.
We are discussing issues as adults here and you are bringing up abuses, if your wretched ass was rejected in Igboland, go find your cheap article somewhere else. They are not begging u.

Madam why so sensitive and confrontational?

I believe I quoted you in a very mature way void of insults.

So why am I getting something different in return?

Did you just say you were discussing like an "adult" again?

Neplusultra:
Hahaha!!!!

Taiwo20:



i said picture o, not gallery....hian!
never say never.....
or are you with the DSS

naijaboiy:

Madam why so sensitive and confrontational?

I believe I quoted you in a very mature way void of insults.

So why am I getting something different in return?

Did you just say you were discussing like an "adult" again?

aviona:
Excellentmomma, you don't need to get upset. Everyone has got a varying viewpoint, probably based on their different experiences, background, and environment. It's often said that, variety is the spice of life.
Enjoyed reading your earlier post.

excellentmomma:


Check the first person that quoted me in a mature way, both of us were talking to each other in a mature way too, I wasn't playing the saint, I acknowledged what's wrong and explained somethings, now you jumped out playing the saint and condemning a whole tribe. I won't take that. Every tribe has their issues, so what's ur point? U are speaking out of hate which wasn't what we were discussing. Have you heard that two people in love didn't marry each other because of bride price? There's always a way round it. It's the players and gold diggers that run. It's just a hurdle that must be crossed to reach ur destination. You may even end up paying nothing if you don't have, and life goes on from there.

Hate?

Lol...the last thing I will do in my entire existence on earth is to become a tribalist.

I have very strong ties with people from the east based on marriage with some people in my family.

Anyway I won't go into that.

I'll stop here before it turns into something else.

People just over react to unnecessary things these days.

excellentmomma:


Check the first person that quoted me in a mature way, both of us were talking to each other in a mature way too, I wasn't playing the saint, I acknowledged what's wrong and explained somethings, now you jumped out playing the saint and condemning a whole tribe. I won't take that. Every tribe has their issues, so what's ur point? U are speaking out of hate which wasn't what we were discussing. Have you heard that two people in love didn't marry each other because of bride price? There's always a way round it. It's the players and gold diggers that run. It's just a hurdle that must be crossed to reach ur destination. You may even end up paying nothing if you don't have, and life goes on from there.

jamex93:





lolx

here comes one of the aunties in our society

Toks2008:


For real? End up paying nothing?

From the little i know about the igbo tribe maybe not all...even if a lady bears all the children in this world for you,she is never considered your wife until you finish all the rights like paying the complete bride price and other rights.

Is this true?

Gurgle:


Lol I was thinking of uploading one of my shadow or something but I cant be bothered

Kingscee:
Yea that's what you should do for your senior

tmann626:

i agree with u naija boy cos i'm dating an igbo gal n she told me dat ha bride list is out of ds world cos wen dey gave d guy dat married ha elder sista d list. d guy removed hs shirt n sat on the floor. i v already told ha dat i wl gv ha belle if dem no reduce d list.

Taiwo20:




OK..oya upload the shadow, lemme see

tmann626:

u are right wt numba 3. i dated a gal was i was stl strugglin in university. d gal rily helpd a lot wen i was broke bt she broke up wt me during my service yr. i'm stl regrettin dat we r nt dating anymore cos she wld av enjoyd me now dat i'm a lit bit ok. i do send money to ha once in a while bt i wish i cld stl do more 4 ha