u definately are.look lets face it, life is about relationships.we spend a great part of our life looking for soulmates of either gender, and wheen we do our lives become more fulfilled.being single might be an individual choice, but for those that make that choice they would rather have someone than not.single sucks!moi? definately not!

Getting better every day, all what I need right now are steaks, beer and Malboro's.

Malboro's. isn't that expensive. get a cheaper brand.

@ WesleyanA, who wants to die the cheap way ?

hahahahahaha

abi

hahah trooper is back with his funny lines.

@ hot-angel, well this time I'm speaking the truth. I'm not always joking.....just want to get this chick out of my head. Hope you had a good night sleep yesterday

lol.. awww. I slept by 6:00am woke up by 2:00pm. Dreamt abt nothing!

Well tonight i didn't read all of the previous post.

It's funny that I ran across this thread because as of late i have been comming into the realization of me being lonely. I struggled with this because when you think of lonely you think of being UN-happy, depressed or things like that.
Clearly I'm comfortable, stable and happy with my self. 

Not to be arrogant or anyting associated with it but i acknowledge that I'm 28yrs old, no children, I have a very good job, F.T. student, I live on my own in a nice place, I take good care of myself in most regards, I'm beautiful inside and out and i have great stride and a beautiful personality, I'm single with no special male friends,I have a great community, family & social life, I'm established and accomplished in some ways, I have so many good and great qualities, of coarse i have my not so good things about me.

I'm focusing on these things just to point out that I have allot working for me that i am grateful for. Yeah I know, the typical person Will say just focus on your life and keep moving along, you're on the right track and so on. I do believe these things, however I am a human being and when nature calls, she calls. As women and men we can only reach so many levels on our own until we reach a dead end. The only way to turn the dead end into a new road is with our significant other. We can only do so much on our own. This single life i live is driving me crazy and the longer i stay single, the harder it becomes for me to connect with someone. It becomes harder because i have so much time to think about everything else as a priority, wen i should be seeing family and community as more of a priority. I'm grateful for the time alone because it has truly helped me enhance my character and now it's time to move to a new level of my life with someone else to share and grow with.

It's not about sex, money or materials completely. I said completely because yes, being with a stable man, who's able to maintain, protect and provide is very important, but there are other factors.
It's about the balance, harmony, the future, enhancement and just plain ole life.
So yes I'm lonely, but not UN-happy with my self, just my current circumstances. The bottom line is that I'm ready to love and when we reach this stage in our lives we are lonely until it's fulfilled.  I don't like this lonely life. I have all of these beautiful things inside of me with no-one to share them with. I want a family and all. Yes,  the maintenances going to be work but I'm willing.

I'm sleepy and just venting but i do believe these things.

Sorry most times i don't realize that i type so many words. I'll try to keep it shorter. lol

there's nothing wrong with the length.. trust me..

@ Kenya - Thank you for your very strong statement. I like it very much.

I used to be classified as being "Single and Lonely".  This has recently changed for me.  For the as long as I could remember I often suffered from being alone but it took the agape love of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to change that.  I am in perfect peace with being single until the time comes when the Lord blesses me with the husband he has for me.  I want to encourage every single man and woman that during the time of being single to focus on things that will not only equip but prepare you for your future and possibly your marriage.  Once you change your focus off of seeking to get married and focus on doing things for yourself and taking care of other things you will see you will not be worrying like you have before.

Well, from my own point of view i think if you are single, you are damn lonley. Lonliness does not only implies not having someone to hang out with or chat with. I call all those physical lonliness, if you are single, you are experiencing lonliness of the heart..... you'll have too much empty space that is supposed to be filled with thoughts or memories of a very special person.
The thoughts that you dont have a companion to hold you down during rainy days alone is enough to make you feel veeeery lonley. Even though you have lots of people that care about you, you'll still know deep down that it's so unlike having that "special" person that really knows when to make you smile. The bottom line is that all other people around you are gold, silver, brass and what have you. But that special person is a DIAMOND.... very rare and special.

ofcourse you are lonely. Do you want to tell me you dont miss all the good things you used to do with your EX.

I am lonely today , the whole city is dry, nobody to go out with, everybody is busy doing their stuffs, I am free. Almost rang my ex, but stood still and well its ok now . I think :-?

LONELY - AKON

nike abeg to be single is to be lonely ooooooooooo!!!
i hate my dad for keeping indoor for so longgg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

if u are single now abeg get out of it plsssssssssssssssssssss, just for my sake.

ok?

being single does not make me lonely because am still as happy as someone occupied.

you get to go to the mall and plan stuff with your girlfriends too.

I don't think that being single makes you lonely. I just think that when you're single with no special friends in your life, you will become lonely at some point.

Being single and having someone that you sleep with, have fun with, with no attachments is a completely different thing.

i am single right now and i honestly wouldn't say i am lonley, not at all. I am doing just fine!

If eva u r lonely, dial my number... tis not nine not eleven dozen dozen dozen....... 4 d famale folks only

yea there are times when we the youths feel lonely is actually normal but it depends on the kind of person someone is if not consider Akon's song "lonely". Just be ur self and dont freeze!!! k

One thing that I noticed in the last 5yrs is how many men are not afraid to say they are lonely, Even the play boys.
The one's I've come in contact with don't see it as a negative thing but a natural thing when the most important aspect of human relations is not being fulfilled.
It doesn't seem to be the same way for women now a days.
It seems that women see being lonely as a self esteem issue where they are not happy with them selves. I wonder about the truth of that.
It seems that the world is or had raised women to be independent of men till the point of her feeling that she can do without him or that her needing him is a sign of weakness.

I thought men and women were made for each other?

God doesn't have a woman or a wife.

I'm puzzled

Any thoughts?

R u guys still lonely wit all the new and exciting thing going on in the world today nah wa sha..

I guess this is one of the results of the 'natural' progression which society has made in the course of gender equality and womens' rights..

By this I mean, when a woman is "freed" from being dependent on any man for her needs or wants, the natural trend is to see men as nothing more than a convenience.. to use a very popular phrase these days, to see men nothing more as "Sperm Donors"... Hence the perception that they can do without men in their lives.. They do not wish (rightly or wrongly) to be subjugated to any man's authority.. Or submissive to his person.. They believe that allowing any man a say over their lives would be tantamount to loosing all they've struggled for all this while..

I guess this would be why they would be willing to stand alone, and make do without the comfort and security provided by being in a relationship with any man..

Kenya:

One thing that I noticed in the last 5yrs is how many men are not afraid to say they are lonely, Even the play boys.
The one's I've come in contact with don't see it as a negative thing but a natural thing when the most important aspect of human relations is not being fulfilled.
It doesn't seem to be the same way for women now a days.
It seems that women see being lonely as a self esteem issue where they are not happy with them selves. I wonder about the truth of that.
It seems that the world is or had raised women to be independent of men till the point of her feeling that she can do without him or that her needing him is a sign of weakness.

I thought men and women were made for each other?

God doesn't have a woman or a wife.

I'm puzzled

Any thoughts?

Uhmm, it depends if u are USED to always having a partner, if that's da case, then u will definately be lonely when single, but if u da type that are mostly without a partner, then u don't get lonely, u just feel like,ummm...NORMAL,i guess

That's true my dear.

I'm glad u share my opinion

Z4M4eva:

Uhmm, it depends if u are USED to always having a partner, if that's da case, then u will definately be lonely when single, but if u da type that are mostly without a partner, then u don't get lonely, u just feel like,ummm...NORMAL,i guess

i beg to disagree to an extent.I don't always have a boyfriend but i get lonely cos u r nt able to call up some1 and tell them how ur day went. Or even ur ups and downs. Some1 who'll understand and nt judge u. Gosh, honestly at times being single makes u lonely especially if all ur friends r nt. But men d freedom u av is immeasurable.