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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by iRepNaija1: 12:23am On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. [b]I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. [/b]I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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Like I said in another post, Nigerian parents hit first and ask questions later. Smh.

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by kingjaja23(m): 12:29am On Aug 12, 2015
if you use force, it'll make him adapt, and if he does, you can't catch him..
advice him, also encourage him to socialise and don't restrain his movements too much! don't tell his dad, he won't trust you again!!

I can help with the counselling part...
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by basille(m): 12:39am On Aug 12, 2015
A simple heart to heart talk would solve the issue.
Your son is coming of age and probably going through puberty and you think beating him would solve anything?

So many unwise parents in naija.

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Hunry: 12:40am On Aug 12, 2015
Na him papa him take afta

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by acehood907(m): 12:43am On Aug 12, 2015
These work is the work of God Leave him and go n be praying nothing is powerful than God
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by kobonaire(m): 12:46am On Aug 12, 2015
a 14 year old needs a computer.
there are adult content web blockers that you can install (even free versions), install it and let the kid study.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by bee444: 12:49am On Aug 12, 2015
It's all over. Pray, fast, weep or even beat the hell outta him, porn has come to stay in his head at least for few more years before he gets married. Not even guarantee when he gets married.

But for now, nothing much to do than to block all adult sites on his computer, remove anything that would make him remember sex from your home. Put a camera in his room, pick him up at school, involve him in Church activities and leave the rest to God.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by sleek82(m): 12:53am On Aug 12, 2015
Well i av a little to say and it starts with using myself as an example....i started knowing what it is to have girlfriends far back as primary 4, it wasnt because i was rotten but because i ws alwys curious and would alwys want to feel among as a teenager. This affected me in somany ways as both my father and mother were very strict and i would instead of confiding in them,do my things secretly. I bliv at the age of btw 13 and abt 20 or more, the curiousity and urge in a male child grows extremely high as this is d time he would be having pubic hair, wet dreams and so many stuffs like that. I think the best thing to do to ur child is make yourself his first girlfriend....which is, be very close to him and let him confide in you at all times. Its obvious that the boy fears his dad, dont let him fear you both and end up doing stuffs himself, probably confiding in an older male outside your home...it could be very dangerous. Teach him how to be a responsible young man and how to exercise self discipline. Spend d best time you have with him now cos one day, he would be alone and what you have sowed in him would either work for you or against you at that time. For somany saying beating is d best thing to do.......for you to av beaten him d first time is okay but dont make it an habit because he would fear you and end up having someone outside tell him beating is a normal thing growing up and by that time, beating him would be useless as he would be ready to get beaten and would still end up doing the unthinkable
Lastly, pls while you are trying to be his first girlfriend, dont turn him into a mummy's boy. Thats even worst

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by mmsen: 12:56am On Aug 12, 2015
OP has to be one of the most naive persons on the planet.

Which 14 year old is not sexually curious?


P.S.
When has beating a child ever stopped them from doing anything?
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by holusormi(m): 12:57am On Aug 12, 2015
I am more concerned about his daftness!!! How can you get caught watching porn ? Common sense suggests that you lower the volume of your laptop , or even use earpiece , also position the laptop In such a way that someone entering the room will only see the back and not the screen!!!
@op, please report him to his father and make sure he is well trashed angry , not for watching porn (we all do that grin) but for being incorrigibly daft!!! angry .... Chei, I remember when I small , if I hear say u catch me dey do bad thing grin

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Fourwinds: 12:58am On Aug 12, 2015
Bibidear:
Try talking to him abt sex and the harmful aspect
dat boy go soon bang one small girl. Na real difficult stage e dey so. Dem for don tell am before e watch am
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by ababale(m): 12:59am On Aug 12, 2015
viruz007:
Sighs... This 1 is hard...

Start by praying that was his first time of watching it, else your problem just got bigger cuz he might already be addicted and if he his, no hiding of laptop or phone or changing of school will help... So pray...

Now as to beating him, well u have beat me, now draw him close and explain why you beat him... Be honest with him and tell him all needs to know about sex and how porn is the wrong impression of what sex is meant to be... At this point you have to draw close to him more than ever because he's at the age of experimentation so u need to be deeply involved with him...

As for telling his father, tell it to him only when he's calm den explain to him to be also involved in your son's sex education... Right now he needs you both more than you know...


My 2 cents





Well said
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by UjSizzle(f): 1:04am On Aug 12, 2015
My thoughts in the order of occurrence:

1. 14yrs old boys watch porn. It's just what they do lol. Curiosity at its peak.

2. Who da heck gets caught watching porn?! I couldn't even catch my sibs and their friends and that boy allowed his parent catch him undecided

3. I'm sorry you're distressed. You should take him to his father for a serious talk (don't think any boy wants to discuss sex with mommy grin) It's always best to nip this craving in the bud while they are still young because I've seen the terrible things an unchecked sexual desire does to grown men-- it all starts with an addiction to pornography.

Don't spank him o, it'll only make him hide while doing it next timw. Practical ways to channel all that sexual energy will be good (I don't know them but you hubby should know.)
Ndo, thank God you caught him.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Temysteve(m): 1:08am On Aug 12, 2015
missbehave247:
sign of end time
y is evrytin is all about end time, wen d boy started frm d scratch no 1 knw, nw d boy has grown to a standard level u're nw saying sign of end time, abeg next!
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by fizzy94(m): 1:11am On Aug 12, 2015
MzzTega:
Can't porn be banned in Nigeria?
Haha ask the Indian government how it went for them when they tried it. You can't ban porn sites o
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Abdulleeh: 1:12am On Aug 12, 2015
MzzTega:
Can't porn be banned in Nigeria?
my sister I tire o. ban the stupid thing and let the world do her worst
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Abdulleeh: 1:14am On Aug 12, 2015
fizzy94:

Haha ask the Indian government how it went for them when they tried it. You can't ban porn sites o

bros how did it go for the Indians? sharu khan still dey act films nau
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by wx9Z: 1:34am On Aug 12, 2015
14 is too early na.. Use Advice oh, beating go only make am worse.. If u catch am dey masturbate na dere yawa dey.

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by experimentist: 2:07am On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
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buy him a pack of condoms
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 2:22am On Aug 12, 2015
chibwike:
Try stopping him now,coz if he grows up with it, it Will be hard for him to stop

Stop what exactly? It is an obvious fact that most teenagers engage in/are addicted to porn which rarely lasts into adulthood. The mother should just give him sex education and safe sex methods.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 2:27am On Aug 12, 2015
holusormi:
I am more concerned about his daftness!!! How can you get caught watching porn ? Common sense suggests that you lower the volume of your laptop , or even use earpiece , also position the laptop In such a way that someone entering the room will only see the back and not the screen!!!
@op, please report him to his father and make sure he is well trashed angry , not for watching porn (we all do that grin) but for being incorrigibly daft!!! angry .... Chei, I remember when I small , if I hear say u catch me dey do bad thing grin

Kids these days na, their sense no sharp reach for Coded engagements. Omo me sef na 007 when evil dey ground to do. cool

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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Miscellaneous(m): 2:28am On Aug 12, 2015
guy use the rod on him and tell his dad please…… it's the best don't make him regret in life later pls man………
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Miscellaneous(m): 2:31am On Aug 12, 2015
HULKNINO:


Stop what exactly? It is an obvious fact that most teenagers engage in/are addicted to porn which rarely lasts into adulthood. The mother should just give him sex education and safe sex methods.

u are a daft..... for the records, not most just a few percent of which u constitute
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 2:31am On Aug 12, 2015
bee444:
It's all over. Pray, fast, weep or even beat the hell outta him, porn has come to stay in his head at least for few more years before he gets married. Not even guarantee when he gets married.

But for now, nothing much to do than to block all adult sites on his computer, remove anything that would make him remember sex from your home. Put a camera in his room, pick him up at school, involve him in Church activities and leave the rest to God.

Aunty, it is just porn na. Not a bank robbery or cult Ini. undecided
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 2:35am On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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Like parent like son cheesy
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 2:41am On Aug 12, 2015
Miscellaneous:


u are a daft..... for the records, not most just a few percent of which u constitute

You are an idiot, sir. Just a few? Really? Just a few? How did you even update this post? Cause you posted like you live in the 60s or something. It's your type that would consider wet dreams the devil 's hand work. I used to watch porn when I was a teenager, mostly as my own sort of kamasutra. He will out grow it, but his parents need to sex educate him including outlining safe sex methods. Next time, use your brain (if you have one) when using your eyes.
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by NwaliE01: 2:52am On Aug 12, 2015
This is a critical issue where wisdom is needed beyond measure.
first educate him on the adverse effect of PORN.
Build trust in him; make him your best friend.You should know better what the reaction of the father would be if you disclose it to him.If he can't keep it to himself alone,don't tell him now,if otherwise tell him so as to join you in educating him.
Eliminate all sources to the internet from him.Get him a phone without browser.
Change his school and ensure he has a good guidian
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by ochardbaby(m): 2:55am On Aug 12, 2015
I think you can set some parents control on the
Laptop, so he needs the password to watch
Anything adults bla bla bla .
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by eazydon(m): 3:03am On Aug 12, 2015
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Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by JayJustus(m): 3:07am On Aug 12, 2015
free the nigga alone please...haba...if he is gay now una go dey complain...humans are insatiable...let him warm up his konji
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Mrsbieber(f): 3:40am On Aug 12, 2015
Bibidear:
Try talking to him abt sex and the harmful aspect
Re: I Caught My 14-year-old Son Watching Porn.. by Nobody: 3:44am On Aug 12, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


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as if u didn't watch blue film at that age? we are all guilty.

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