ronald4lif:


You've a point. None of the guys here including myself has faulted the guy for his heartless behaviour. Surely it would have been an entirely different case had it involve a lady. Our bad.

jemimaa01:
If it were me,I'd expose him(yes I'm that wicked what a wicked man,two timing he-goat..my dear,pls tell his fiancee,you wld be doing her some good.

InvertedHammer:
What exactly are you exposing?

That you are his side chic?

I don't think the fiancee would mind. She may think na bad belle dey worry you.

It will take a lot more than that to break a marriage in this era of scarcity of eligible bachelors. If you are his baby mama, that will be a different case. You were just a fling Next time apply due diligence in your relationship(s).

AreaFada2:


Wait o. In November last year, you said you have been dating for 6 months. When you were in doubt if to ask for financial help from him. 16 months is not quite up to 2 years ma.

Keziehenry:

did he promise you of marriage?

jemimaa01:
If it were me,I'd expose him(yes I'm that wicked what a wicked man,two timing he-goat..my dear,pls tell his fiancee,you wld be doing her some good.

jemimaa01:
If it were me,I'd expose him(yes I'm that wicked what a wicked man,two timing he-goat..my dear,pls tell his fiancee,you wld be doing her some good.

freecocoa:
That is why the concept of God is arrant nonsense, like their sins are of the same magnitude.

She's guilty of fornication.

He is guilty of fornication, lying and deceit multiplied by the number of women he's done the same to, so why then should the punishment be the same?

poseidon12:
Nigerians are unnecessarily very secretive. Why are most people advising her not to tell the other lady? What will she lose?
Please tell his fiancee what happened so that she'll know the kind of person she's getting married to. I believe she will still marry him anyway. But let her know and then move on.

Samfigo1:
I wonder why some people keep on asking for advice on something they can use their initiative s for. . . Nawaao!

onomeglo:
No need for that just move on....

eagleeye2:

What will she gain Another woman's tears (misery loves company). And you think she didn't see any sign in the two years relationship?
It's called Courtship for a reason. The guy or girl in a non-marrital relationship owes themselves no FIDELITY. Ask any marriage counsellor.
The guy/girl didn't take any vows to remain Faithful, forsaken all others. That is the bitter truth.

delishpot:
If say na man post this topic about what his woman did to him now....... NL boys for don arrive to abuse women like vultures wey see dead body...........God dey measure una punishment with heavenly scale.

goodgate:
There's absolutely nothing wrong in what the guy did, the girl should have known that Men are Polygamous in nature, and not all relationships lead to marriage. Exposing him will amount to wickedness, since he has asked for forgiveness.

witnezHD:
what's her innocence.... dead curious

eme40rald:
Hello nairalanders

It is with sadness and hurt that I decided to ask guidance on what action I should take with regards to the event that happened in my life.

I met a guy two years ago and fell in love with him wholeheartedly in fact he is my first love. the relationship was fun and romantic. I lost my innocence to him. Although there were times I had suspicions and I would confront him about it but he always found a way to clear my suspicions. One issue I always felt bad about was that he never took me to his family. As at the beginning of the relationship about a month into it his sister got married and I was not invited I felt maybe it was too early and shrugged it off. he never used my pictures as dp claiming he doesn't feel its proper until we are married. apart from all these he was a sweet and loving man. we were like best friends.

Fast forward to two years later I did something I had never done before. I searched his phone while he was asleep and what I discovered was a blow for me. He was in another relationship!!! I stole the girl's contact and disguised as his colleague just to get information from her with time she was free with me. I discovered they had been dating for seven years and she lived in another state. just last week he said he was travelling for a business event only for me to find out he went for his introduction to her family.

confronted him and he has been begging me to forgive him.

Kind hearted nairalanders please what do I do? should I expose him to the girl or not.

merbenko:
Did the Vow means marital Vow? If Yes I so much agree with you. Been in courtship with you for morethan 5year those not mean you are life partner afar that Vow of marital faithfulness didn't bind us. Take it or leave it

Orkpekyandega:


That is how you girls give your most expensive VIRTUE or BIRTHRIGHT carelessly and effortlessly to these goal diggers under the guise that he promised this, he was a sweet lover, he was romantic, he was so caring, bla bla bla. Why are you complaining now, when almost every Young man and some heartless runs girls who have already known that theirs have been taken away so cheaply including those on NL, nowadays wants you to believe that VIRGINITY longer matters and you concured. I am so sure he did not rape you. You both enjoyed it and he must have also given you some mòñèý which I know is not worth your PRECIOUS VIRGINITY.
By the time you marry, you may likely lie to your husband that you were raped, pressured or harrassed. And for the young man he shall surely reap what he has sowed more than a hundred fold. For stealing what rightfully belongs to another man, he shall never see peace in that marriage because he never sowed once. How I wish all cheaters marry CHRONIC CHEATS. Even if the lady he is about to marry is the faithful type, she may surely taKe another man's rod and end up becoming a cheat because he sowed same.
Am waiting to reply those who will come asking if I had never sinned before or if am perfect?

kandiikane:




As women we should stick together even if we do not know each other.

witnezHD:
what's her innocence.... dead curious