montezz:

What if u r d one thinking dy r playing nice because u dnt expct a lady 2b dat nice(in naija)?

I don't just think. I know. i dont chase women but I've had girls in my life who act nice because of what I have. I get rid of them by saying "I'm broke". maybe u are right. maybe I'm just unlucky

lyntiffany:
Nope his 'adulting' you

babe. u funny die, I will keep a ticket for u in this years' nite of a thousands laugh...

This is a dumb, degrading, misogynistic post!!!!!

Abeg poster you be Brad Pitt? Or are you Denzel Washington, Trey Songs or Will Smith? Fine you no fine, money you no get and yet you expect some woman somewhere to shed her individuality and be your slave? WHY?

Any woman that agrees with this post has ZERO self esteem! If you want to be a better person, do it for yourself and not because you want to answer Mrs Nobody.

chymystique:
All these because of Men? Some who might just want to take advantage of the female. I think this thread should be about being one-self instead of attributing these qualities to being marketable to the opposite sex.. Like seriously there is more to life than trying to impress the male gender.

Naija women can form over sabi. Hmn foreign women are hijacking most naija men nowadays,what is wrong with showing love to your husband to be. He will look elsewhere if you don't show him love and want to ride him.The response of most naija girls self sometimes will put a reasonable guy off,i was chatting with a lady yesterday and the response just put me off.Simple question,what is your height and weight,after duly giving mine turned to fight after hash response of can't you see it on my profile? don't you have eyes?it is not too good to be too strict or not polite to simple reasoning.

Because of pressure of marrying a naija i have seen the clear differences in foreign and homegrown ladies.Our naija girls can jump too quick to conclusion,God help us.

[quote author=emusmith post=38716503]Sub-Topic: Things An "Average Looking" Girl Can Do That Will Make Her PREFERABLE In The Dating World


They are not so pretty so they employ all methods possible to keep themselves irresistible and wanted in the "dating world".

Note: These is not applicable to all of them but a few well-mannered ones who really wanna settle down.

Character, they say is what is left when beauty fades away; She holds on tenaciously to that seeing the BIG picture.

The painful truth is, by DEFAULT 60% of Beautiful girls are on the contrary of all she believes in. As I said, most of it are old-fashioned but it's working for her.

I'm not generalizing

What are some things that an average-looking girl can do to make her WANTED in the Dating World?
Calhanoglu in Bayer Leverkusen may not be a very good midfielder but he is splendid at free kicks, so Man.Utd are after him

THE TRUTH IS, MOST OF THESE POINTS ARE INHERENT IN SOME.

1. Being nice with guys, in general. She is a helper.

Have you ever seen a lady who guys truly like? She is not that pretty but to guys, THAT LADY HAS CHARACTER and that sets her apart. She is nice even when she doesn't wanna date you, her wisdom in putting you off is astonishingly amazing. You feel good after she implies a No. That's being Nice. She even sends you a message after that but withdraws on time. I've met a few of them. After saying NO to you, you friend zone yourself in tacit, lol! She's just a gem.



2. "Irrelevant" and "Old fashioned" things like cutting his toe nails, bursting his pimples, knotting his tye, massaging his tired laps etc, are frequently done by her.

Yea, she does it and does it with humility and love. Not only when he gives you cash or buy you a gift. No. She does it because she loves to keep her man that way. It has become a part of her. She is "handy".


3. "Letting her guard down" most times, by becoming a friend to his difficult sisters and brothers.

When a girl like her starts getting closer to him, she may find out how some of his family members are a bit hysterical and difficult towards her. She doesn't turn away so quickly. If she likes him, she stays back and keep a good attitude. Soon, they'll see the stuff she's made of and will mark her "Good". Is it necessary? The question should be, Is he worth it? If he is, she will keep an optimal attitude.


4. Calling his mum, mummy- in such a way...


Yea, this may be common but hers is quite different. Most women know who their daughter-in-law will eventually be, most times, they know by the way she even addresses her subconsciously. It's a bit a mystery. She just can tell when she calls her, "mummy" in such that way...


5. Being simple in dressing thus passing a message to him: "I'm not extravagant; I'll take good care of our money."

I'm listing here what most average-looking ladies do to spell their worth in Bolded Fonts. One way is her dressing. To me, you mustn't reveal cleavage or bum to show you're pretty even when you know you're not. When pretty ones do stuff like that, guys see them like peddlers how much more you? Well, when she dresses modern and decent, she stands out. Did I say, those long and awkward-looking "ear machetes" Or earrings are not necessary to look decent?


6. When cooking, not over buying and over spending, sometimes she uses her own cash- Still passing a very vital message over to him.

Old fashioned? Yes! I know many ladies who do this not because they are trying to win him but because they are just that way. When you, an average... do it, you're passing a timely message. Even in Uni then, there were ladies who were like Mamas. Guys and friends can trust them for food then. They are homely. Guys love that in ladies tho. An economical lady. The sweetness of a correct egusi soup IS NOT directly proportional to the amount of money used i making it but the skillfulness in the lady involved.


7. She spends time building herself intellectually. How most men love this!

Aya! Who doesn't love a girl who knows that she knows but still knows when to come in? She mustn't be a lawyer or a doctor to be a reader or learned. After all, many of those talk flippantly and still don't make sense. She acquires skills for the purpose of her Husby and children. That's preparation. Don't forget that many husbands have lost the route to their wives' pots and channeled it to one Mama Put or One Ekaete somewhere.


Have a nice day. [/quote

I was such a good gal to my fiancee, at d end, after all d cooking, and all d good gal stuff, we ended the relationship after 5yrs. To me no need.
If a man truly loves you he marry you d way u Are. No man is worth all dis sacrifices till after marriage.

pinkiberry:
only desperate girls that really need to marry do this but sorry i arnt desperate.




after doing all these for a guy he starts feeling like some kind of demigod.

my fwend sharap and learn

lyntiffany:
Nope his 'adulting' you

damton:
I must confess all this qualities will be hard to find In our naija ladies of now . these are some of the values prevalent In the olden days.

this is very very tenable! if the Guy and the family luv u, they do everything to myk u marry them even as far as concealing dangerous secret.

chymystique:
All these because of Men? Some who might just want to take advantage of the female. I think this thread should be about being one-self instead of attributing these qualities to being marketable to the opposite sex.. Like seriously there is more to life than trying to impress the male gender.

u see dre. Prob #EGO

MsBliss:
Please how can I increase my bank account value?

igbo kwenu

Mteww Don't get me wrong my People their are nice, homely and God fearing Women, but they can hide their true color even when they have all these characteristics. After marriage na different story.

mistytohcute:
this thread is so funny

no be only market value

mtchewww

only desperate ladies will go to such measures

am Sowie. If u continue like this anyways I won't say further

SuPeRq:
Noted

wa Gba yi

activelyA:
U have come again oo

All about the ladies and what they should and not do...

Why should it be the ladies needing an increament in "market value", why not both male and female?

Remember what I called you??


Yet another thread displaying it.
Later you will say you are not a chauvinist

he's not a chauvinist neither is he a misogyny jez learn it will help*cheers*

69MissedCalls:
if a girl does all this for me I'll suspect she's up to something. in a country as tense as Nigeria someone will come and be bursting another person's pimples? tweaaah! gerrarahia

u'v not had d opportunity to hav such a treat dts y u won't understand Wn she helps burst dat pimple.

amii131:









May jah bless u

ow wld naija babes learn?

[quote author=MissEfe post=38724509][/quote]

You sound like a nice person, naturally.

These are the few am referring to. All those ones ranting and even verbally abusing themselves are just revealing who they really are.

Dearie, you deserve better.

What happened to being urself?
Some part of the list above are actually gud acts some women do but how many men appreciates this and not see it as being a desperado?
All a woman needs is to be well-mannered, present herself well, get an education, pursue and excel in her career, make herself happy and men who want to marry her will line up no matter the lvl of beauty.
A woman doesn't av to live her life solely trying to please a supposed bf or fiance who probably even has like 2-3 other girls somewhere and who said after all the sacrifices the relationship won't still collapse?
A woman shld only do all these and more for her husband not just to pls one yeye guy who cld later even term her desperate and take advantage.
And market value? Seriously?
The content isn't so bad, cos some of the points are characters a lady shld av, bt the topic is smh

rahymat:
ive stopped caring for guys a long long tym ago most of dem are assholess

u haven't met with the right ones trust mee

pbs4real:
he's not a chauvinist neither is he a misogyny jez learn it will help*cheers*

Lols, whenever threads like this come up, they, like Mourinho will complaining, Misogynist, Chauvinist... Bla bla bla...

emusmith:


Lols, whenever threads like this come up, they, like Mourinho will complaining, Misogynist, Chauvinist... Bla bla bla...

hahahaha dnt mind em wailing wailers naija babes would never learn.....yet they complain we go after foreign ladies.....ow ur side?

pbs4real:
hahahaha dnt mind em wailing wailers naija babes would never learn.....yet they complain we go after foreign ladies.....ow ur side?

My bro, I full ground. How your side? Long time o

What happened to being urself?
Some part of the list above are actually gud acts some women do but how many men appreciates this and not see it as being a desperado?
All a woman needs is to be well-mannered, present herself well, get an education, pursue and excel in her career, make herself happy and men who want to marry her will line up no matter the lvl of beauty.
A woman doesn't av to live her life solely trying to please a supposed bf or fiance who probably even has like 2-3 other girls somewhere and who said after all the sacrifices the relationship won't still collapse?
A woman shld only do all these and more for her husband not just to pls one yeye guy who cld later even term her desperate and take advantage.
Just be urself and don't slave around trying to get a guy to notice u, cos this is what the post is all about
And market value? Seriously?
And will the 'average looking girl' also be expected to do all this to all men she meets and like so as to get them to ask her out?

Tamee:


Hey you

@Op The silly things you guys put up on this Naija forum will make gals puke on your head in foreign countries...just saying.

wat r u saying

emusmith:


My bro, I full ground. How your side? Long time o

my brother I dey oooh, nah work ooooh

pbs4real:
my brother I dey oooh, nah work ooooh

The hustle is real, bro.
We go make am real big tho

pbs4real:
igbo kwenu

kwenu

Do this for your fiancee or husband but for a boyfriend don't try it o....it hardly pays off the guy may even think u a desperado...I have a friend Who did all this and more sef look at her now she's single AF and the Dude has a baby with another chick all this unknown to her.

emmanuellaj:
Do this for your fiancee or husband but for a boyfriend don't try it o....it hardly pays off the guy may even think u a desperado...I have a friend Who did all this and more sef look at her now she's single AF and the Dude has a baby with another chick all this unknown to her.

All guys are not same...

All these just make a man marry u?
Hmmm, women have suffered.