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Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by pressplay55: 4:36pm On Oct 29, 2015
400billionman:


Mr Psychologist.

There is a guy who lasts one hour and above when having sex with ladies but lasts only 4 to 5 minutes with one particular girl.

Inspite of the fact that they do have spontaneous sex with pre-intimacy, after like 10 tries, he cannot still last more than 5 minutes on her. Why ?
its in the brain, your feelings for a lady will determine how long you will last,
-it also depend on packaging...
the way a lady dress and behave can also determine how long you will last...
don't forget it all boils down to feelings(brain)

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Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by ajbiggie(m): 4:41pm On Oct 29, 2015
my bro leave her oo, sone like happen to me with my former girl I had to try girls outside
. my just leave her she is nt meant for u. just face it.
good luck.

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Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Chuukwudi(m): 4:41pm On Oct 29, 2015
PunkyVeer:
Never mind everything else, I still can't get over the image of you getting an erection from watching a music video. LMFAO. So when the rest of us are mindlessly watching & not paying much attention, you on the other hand are getting freaky with it. Go on with your bad self.

It's a boy thing. You won't understand.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by predatorX: 4:46pm On Oct 29, 2015
Issue is psychological. May be she doesn't dress sexually enough to cause arousal in your lower appendage or may be the idea of sex with her isn't enticing enough. I bet you, you'd feel pained if you saw a sex video of her and your bestie doing the act. I think the problem lies with both of you.

For us men, our eyes leads and we follow. What we see is what will kill us.. shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked I for one wouldn't get aroused if i'm with a DEEPER-LIFER or a CHOSEN_MOPOLIAN. Whereas, i've seen catholic NUNs with Ikebes and Succulent swinging melons under their garbs and got aroused, and began having carnal thoughts and wishes, right there on holy ground!!............Relativity though grin grin grin

Another is if she's the kinda woman who becomes a log-of-wood on the bed, that sh!t disgusts me. Imagine making love with a woman whose legs are straight-stretched, and all you keep hearing from her is DO QUICK ABEGI (in any language).
When a woman moans, that's a signal to us that we are hitting her critical mass.

if she's a screamer or lacks rhythm of movement, or the kind that has a time-table for sex(only when she's in the mood) or if she's a poor kisser.

Some ladies know how to kiss you and in such places that you might even pop your champaigne before the party begins.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by pressplay55: 4:47pm On Oct 29, 2015
guy to tell you the truth, she is the one that can help you and also determine if you two will get married, talk to her, tell her your problems and also make it known to her that she is the only one that can kill such anxiety in you.
if she is a smart lady, believe me she will know what to do.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Khez: 4:47pm On Oct 29, 2015
shay101:
how can this problem be solved? Because we are getting close to getting married.


it doesn't

Don't marry her yet, try and find the solutions to this problem, it has happened to me before, it has an effect of making you worry, thinking your crazy or you've turned impotent over night........

The issue really is in my case, she wasn't my wife to be or whatsoever, i think we just started dating then and that drastically killed our relationship, cos i don't get, how I'd be OK last week with someone else, in which (Hippocrates here call Cheating and not Ok again with this very girl, it was devastating, as i kept it to myself and later understood that some other guys who she seduced had same experience i had, immediately i jumped into the conclusion that she has a spiritual problem, mostly spiritual husband or vice versa or i have a psychological problem.....

so think well my brother....... you don't want to cheat for the rest of the marriage as it's obvious it's so going to continue

my advice, seek doctors help, or go for a prayer

Good luck bruh!

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Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by predatorX: 4:58pm On Oct 29, 2015
Johnsown1:
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may be u too are ntt sexually compatible or maybe u love someone else instead of her.
It is either u guys meet a specialist or doctor
or u be chewing bitter kola when having sex with her.


if you like chew all the bitter kola in this world, the sweetness of PV55Y is a neutralizer of bitterness and pain. You will still pop your champaigne anyhow shaaaa ni. E be like say you never jam Salad_Cream_Snatches, as Coca-cola Said it in the early 90's......"YOU CAN'T BEAT THE FEELING"
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Macgreat(m): 5:04pm On Oct 29, 2015
demarc001:


Wrong understanding!

Marriage is a long journey that requires intimacy & trust to keep it rolling! Sex is the most potent spice of intimacy in marriage.


I see your point bro!

however, I say communication is the most potent spice of intimacy. sex is just an "ADD-ON" . . .
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 5:21pm On Oct 29, 2015
flyingdutchman:
***with full five fingers*** Waka!!!
Reversed! angry Oloshi
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 5:27pm On Oct 29, 2015
2tek:


Read well. He had sex with another lady as stated by him. From ur contributions so far, I can deduce u are a homo and also on a mission to get converts. U are obsessed WT gay ND lesbians stuff from ur contributions on other threads. Ur life, ur choice.
Lol, am not homo and neither am a an advocate to promote or increase homos. Am just helping da niqqa to stop shying away frm his sexuality bcuz dats wat many of dem in naija here do and dats not fair. Even God wud not be happy, he made u homo and u are claiming straight. Lol
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 5:29pm On Oct 29, 2015
jesussaves22:
For thinking gay as option may thunder fire you bloody soon to be lynch gay..
See ur life. Later u'll be adidng "JESUS" to ur moniker. Religious bigots. Hypocrites
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 5:30pm On Oct 29, 2015
henroe2k2:

this one Don craze....
somebody is seeking your help in the form of advise and U are here spewing trash....
how is dis my advice trash? angry or dont u know even homos have sex with ladies.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 5:32pm On Oct 29, 2015
Akalia:
you are very loud on here as I have come to take cognizance of it. your blatant credence to immorality, natural anomaly and disregards for divine statutes are ones I find rather disgusting.
you just need to apply some moderation to your permissive will towards bodily lust and gratification.Stop showing ur shameful perversion in public I take GOD beg u.
Abeg simply ur english or gerra my mentions. Do u know God, all dis black foooolish nigerians. *no ofiense* grin pls dont quote me again
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by flyingdutchman(m): 5:56pm On Oct 29, 2015
;DI MEANT THE WAKA AS A COMPLIMENT- KINDA LIKE YOUR MOUTH TOO BAD grin grin grin. I FOUND YOUR COMMENT SO HILARIOUS...I'M STILL LAUGHING
Durentt:
Reversed! angry Oloshi
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 5:57pm On Oct 29, 2015
flyingdutchman:
;DI MEANT THE WAKA AS A COMPLIMENT- KINDA LIKE YOUR MOUTH TOO BAD grin grin grin. I FOUND YOUR COMMENT SO HILARIOUS...I'M STILL LAUGHING
ok, grin next time make ur reasons 4 tellin me 'waka' clear. angry
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by astute07(f): 5:59pm On Oct 29, 2015
PunkyVeer:
Never mind everything else, I still can't get over the image of you getting an erection from watching a music video. LMFAO. So when the rest of us are mindlessly watching & not paying much attention, you on the other hand are getting freaky with it. Go on with your bad self.

Lolz u an indept reader
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by chinexxx(m): 5:59pm On Oct 29, 2015
Maybe na from her village. Ask her why?! Before you enter one chance. Or you bring her come make I taste and confirm sey she no get juju
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by 6fit(f): 6:38pm On Oct 29, 2015
shay101:
Hi everyone,

This is my predicament, have been dating this lady for almost two years now and anytime we want to have sex I usually don't have an erection. This is unlike me because usually I am very active when it comes to sex. Even when I watch a simple music videos I feel an erection in me. But anytime am about to make love to my fiancee, even if I had an erection it just goes down. Sometimes even when I succeed in having an erection it dies in the middle of the sex. We have never had a complete round of sex before. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried having sex with another lady and this didn't happen.

Please people I'm here because I need your help on what to do because am about to start marriage plans, but I don't want a marriage I will not enjoy or where I will be cheating outside. Please help me everyone including pastors in the house.

Thanks


better find a solution bfor any marriage plan commence. Dont come back here to complain ''my marriage is collapsing because i cant Bleep my wife''
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by chubbyswit(m): 6:39pm On Oct 29, 2015
flee from sexual immorality una no dey hear. God is so merciful sha. Guys today is my birthday. Celebrate with me by clicking on the like button

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Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by gnchetts: 7:06pm On Oct 29, 2015
This is simple. U can date her or do anything with her. She may be beautiful but she is not sexually attracted to u.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by ukandi1(m): 7:14pm On Oct 29, 2015
Durentt:
You have a long-way to go in discovering ur true sexuality. Maybe Gay or transgender. Who knows.


Holy Moses..
Are u like serious with this as an advice ?
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Philadelphia: 7:23pm On Oct 29, 2015
shay101:
Hi everyone,

This is my predicament, have been dating this lady for almost two years now and anytime we want to have sex I usually don't have an erection. This is unlike me because usually I am very active when it comes to sex. Even when I watch a simple music videos I feel an erection in me. But anytime am about to make love to my fiancee, even if I had an erection it just goes down. Sometimes even when I succeed in having an erection it dies in the middle of the sex. We have never had a complete round of sex before. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried having sex with another lady and this didn't happen.

Please people I'm here because I need your help on what to do because am about to start marriage plans, but I don't want a marriage I will not enjoy or where I will be cheating outside. Please help me everyone including pastors in the house.

Thanks

Oh! You don't want s marriage you'll be cheating outside but you bleeped another woman to "test" manhood. A sorray for yhu. Your sins would fetcgbyou n out if you don't repent.
FYI
God does not need a 3D television to watch you.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Philadelphia: 7:25pm On Oct 29, 2015
ukandi1:


Holy Moses..
Are u like serious with this as an advice ?

And who told thisvo n e that Moses is holy? undecided
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Mann11: 7:36pm On Oct 29, 2015
predatorX:

if you like chew all the bitter kola in this world, the sweetness of PV55Y is a neutralizer of bitterness and pain. You will still pop your champaigne anyhow shaaaa ni. E be like say you never jam Salad_Cream_Snatches, as Coca-cola Said it in the early 90's......"YOU CAN'T BEAT THE FEELING"
[quote author=predatorX post=39490027]
what is this one saying?
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by reachycul(m): 7:43pm On Oct 29, 2015
G0d 0ver evritin
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by flyingdutchman(m): 7:51pm On Oct 29, 2015
WAKA! WAKA!!
Durentt:
ok, grin next time make ur reasons 4 tellin me 'waka' clear. angry
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by kpolli(m): 7:54pm On Oct 29, 2015
shay101:
Hi everyone,

This is my predicament, have been dating this lady for almost two years now and anytime we want to have sex I usually don't have an erection. This is unlike me because usually I am very active when it comes to sex. Even when I watch a simple music videos I feel an erection in me. But anytime am about to make love to my fiancee, even if I had an erection it just goes down. Sometimes even when I succeed in having an erection it dies in the middle of the sex. We have never had a complete round of sex before. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried having sex with another lady and this didn't happen.

Please people I'm here because I need your help on what to do because am about to start marriage plans, but I don't want a marriage I will not enjoy or where I will be cheating outside. Please help me everyone including pastors in the house.

Thanks

Ask her about her spirit husband
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by ayoniakins(f): 8:01pm On Oct 29, 2015
[b][/b]U have a Big problem and u don't know it! (U r spiritually blind and deaf)
And what do u take pastors to be?

Won't say much, but repent for the kingdom of heaven is at hand! And hell is real, if u continue with a life without Jesus!
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Charles4075(m): 8:07pm On Oct 29, 2015
Op, there's no need for you to be scared. You see, we men tend to have four(4) sexual problems in life which are:
1. Inhibited sexual (desire/drive).
2. Premature ejaculation.
3. Retarded ejaculation.
4. Erectile failure.

And from your post, I think you have an ERECTILE FAILURE. You see, a man who has an erectile failure usually is sexually aroused (although he may suppress this because of his fear of failure) but is unable to achieve an erection of his penis, so that he cannot engage in sexual intercourse and it might damage your image and make you see yourself as a virile man.

So op, this erectile failure is as a result of psycho-sexual problems and you need the help of your partner and a counsellor too. Stop the thinking of you sexing her urgently. Be more relaxed and learn to see her as a jewel and a mystery to unravel. Goodluck man.
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 8:35pm On Oct 29, 2015
flyingdutchman:
WAKA! WAKA!!
Shege mamanka
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by Nobody: 8:37pm On Oct 29, 2015
ukandi1:

Holy Moses.. Are u like serious with this as an advice ?
Yap
Re: Help I'm About To Get Married To A Lady I Can't Have Sex With by DipoDee: 8:37pm On Oct 29, 2015
playtheblues:
Both of you are not sexually compatible.
You shouldn't marry her unless you don't care about sex at all.
Bye.

Yeah Dr. Playtheblues grin
Bye.

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