GodFrearing:
he put his arm around me and sped up almost to get away from them.

but kept talking about and mentioning sex,

They were comments saying he has a beautiful wife and his daughter and his twins. There were no pictures of him with his wife and kids together just a picture of one or the other seperately....and he deleted the pictures.

They were comments saying he has a beautiful wife and his daughter and his twins. There were no pictures of him with his wife and kids together just a picture of one or the other seperately. so I got mad and confronted him. He was calm about it and explained everything....

olihilistic:
treat him like him like he is the best thing that ever happened to you he cares for you nothing more

RexKex:
You taking someOne you met on a Dating Site serious gives me the Infallible impression that you might be A shallow Person.

Don't you get approached by "Real" Men? Why seek solace on a dating site WHERE people claim to be what they aren't? People you meet on Dating Sites are Hardly ever serious. The guy probably wants to "Pop your Cherry" & Then take the Exist OR He just wants you to be a Means of getting what he wants which is Pretty Obvious BUT you're refusing to See It.

If You don't want to Get Hurt again, Let That Guy Go ASAP!

Michellla:
reading...

andromida:
You've known yourself all your life, you know you have you and your child's best interest at heart so trust yourself take things slow don't allow him rush you into anything be it s.ex or a committed relationship. Those pictures you saw on face book don't dismiss them at same time don't nag him just observe and take it slow.

GAZZUZZ:


how did this brother explain that part? Please share.

GodFrearing:


I think I am the farthest thing from a shallow person.....I treat everyone with kindness and respect no matter who they are!! I think everyone is beautiful and has something amazing about them!! Yes every single person!

GodFrearing:
No I do not get approached by men in 'real life' because I am not a skinny blonde! I am thick and have curves which not too many guys care for unfortunately. I use a dating site because where I am from the population is only about 2000 people and I am related to most of them. So in order for me to meet anyone who is of dating age, I have to use alternative ways to meet people!

GodFrearing:
If I was 'too blind to see it' would I really have confronted him or would I be seeking advice from here? No I would think nothing of it!

GodFrearing:
I have no problem ending it if he is infact using me, but I don't want to end it before it really starts because it could just be some culture differences I don't know!

xpac01:
Do you know his tribal name? If yes, tell me, then I'll know how to advise properly.

xpac01:
Do you know his tribal name? If yes, tell me, then I'll know how to advise properly.

xpac01:
Do you know his tribal name? If yes, tell me, then I'll know how to advise properly.

jmaxjohn:
Estharfabian, i beg u, no comment . Dis 1 dat i can c u on d viewing list ehn
Misspicy, wachyasay

My comments are Always heartbreaking Huh??

Estharfabian:
My comments are Always heartbreaking Huh??

GodFrearing:
I am a Canadian who just recently got into a relationship with an Nigerian man. We met on a dating website. He lives only 3 hours from me right now.

I was wondering if how he is acting is typical and he cares or he is planning on using me because he thinks I am desperate? He says he really really really really likes me....he has told me already that he wants to take me to Nigeria to meet his family and wants to go places with his friends.

I have a very complicated home life right now which he isn't too thrilled about but understands. I have a special needs child who's father still stays and helps out with him a few days a week.

But the first day we saw each other we went for coffee and during his talking he said 'his sister is a doctor who is planning on coming to Canada next year and if we are still together you can meet her'. He wanted to see more of me, so we met up for a movie that same night. When we were leaving the theatre we ran into a group of his Nigerian friends and they talked for a few seconds as we were walking out and he put his arm around me and sped up almost to get away from them. He wanted to see me again before I left home, so we went for lunch the next day. Then I had to do some shopping. So we went out shopping together to get my stuff. Throughout our 2 days spent together at coffee he paid even took the cups back to the counter when we were done, helped put in my shoe I was trying on when I was having trouble, wouldn't let me lift the heavy things into or out of the cart, paid for our outings without me asking or saying anything. He said he was raised to treat women right and take care of them. He held my hand and hugged me often. He has been nothing but sweet. He is in Canada on a student visa though, and starts his program in a few months. I told him he had better not use me to get citizenship and he told me how he was planning on applying when he was finished school. He seems to come from a well off family, his dad is a dr his mom is a principle. I told him I don't want sex for awhile because I have been used before. And he said he was fine with that but kept talking about and mentioning sex, but now after I got mad at him about some stuff on facebook he said he did think of sex with me next time I was down but now no sex until I am ready.

But he just added me to facebook and I saw some pictures which bothered me. They were comments saying he has a beautiful wife and his daughter and his twins. There were no pictures of him with his wife and kids together just a picture of one or the other seperately. so I got mad and confronted him. He was calm about it and explained everything....and he deleted the pictures. But not sure if he is just saying that or if he really does have a wife and kids back home. When we were talking when we were out shopping we passed a couple that had twins, and he was like aww look twins and really seemed to like the kids we came upon.

Please some advice or suggestions or ideas. He is the first Nigerian I have dated and I understand culture and ways of life are different. Just wanting some insight if this is 'normal' or I should be concerned.

Thank you!!
God Bless!!

misspicy:

LMAO

he is using you,move on already

jmaxjohn:
Estharfabian, i beg u, no comment . Dis 1 dat i can c u on d viewing list ehn
Misspicy, wachyasay