d-ROC:

I have asked a few girls out in my time and I've gotten responses like:


How much do you earn?
Can you afford me?
How much you wan give me sef, Abeg your money no reach?
I need a monthly allowance of XXXX before I can say yes.
I have needs.
I'm the first daughter so I need a man that can give me enough to support my family.
My ex-boyfriend was this and that so I cant settle for less sorry.
Excuse me, I don't see any diamonds with you so I'm sorry.

iice:

@Topic, some men don't mind giving or that their gfs ask for allowance. At the same time some men are the cause of this situation.

Personally, never have, never will.

justwise:

I see ur point, some men show off their money just to catch the girls's attention, promise her heaven and earth, it gives some girls all false hopes, sometimes u should share the blame

Yes. . .


But i don't get why a man has to pay for her hair and all that? Is it not her head? Her hair?, isn't it her responsibility?

whitelexi:

I used to do that, then i heard news about where my money was really going. . .  So i had to revisit the issue and now, the only person who has a monthly allowance from me is my mum. Not like it achieves much for her, no, but the mere fact that she will appreciate it and pray for more blessings for u - that alone is a good incentive.

@Topic: Thats a no-no!

@TheSeeker - 110% correct!

sugabelle:

hmm'n, he wasn't a "baller" when we started dating; we were students in uni, and I stuck with him because what he lacked in giving cash, he made up for in being supportive and loving. And now that he's rolling in dough, who else is he going to blow it on but me, huh? . LovePeddler-talk or not, guys are demanding in their own rights, and if the babe is relunctant bc she feels he is too stingy to deserve her most prized possession, na crime? And for the record, I'm quite comfortable in my own right, but it feels extra nice when your man chooses to be generous and not act like he thinks you're a prostitute because you expect him to spend a little.

sugabelle:


mr seeker, i don't know wat u're seeking, but if you want to start something this early Sunday morning, I pity you. You've already shown that you're a broke-ass loser who can't get a decent babe. What ever, save ur name-calling for someone who could be bothered. Monkey.

sugabelle:

hmm'n, let me see: calling someone a gold digger, mumu, maga, and mumu(in that order) is not name-calling in ur own dictionary? You must be dumber than I thought. Please don't take out your frustrations on me ok, and leave this thread for objective and matured posters who can give their personal opinions without getting personal.

You will be the first one, particularly the first female to feel my venom on NL. Your comments and opinions on this thread on this thread so far reek of money mongering and sheer gluttony of someone else's money(This might not be your case as you seem to have 'cleared' the air about your case). You said I'd date someone and give her money, why? Because I'm her father? She's an orphan? If I'm her father, yes, I will; if she's an orphan, I will be more than a father to her. If she has parents, why on earth should I be giving her allowance? If all men do that do you have an idea how many relationships each girl will be in? You said I'm a loser, well, I ain't. California is one of the expensive states to live here and I'm doing so greatly but tell you what, I hustled so so hard to make money to expend and splash it on a gold digger, a nomenclature you fit in judging from your first 3 comments. My girlfriend can't sleep behind my back, you know why? I'll explain to you.

When I want to date a girl, I want someone with prospects, someone who knows what she wants to do with herself, someone who has goals and can act and take care of herself independently, someone who in my absence for whatever reason, will stand her feet and has strong opinions. Someone if at all we get married, can handle my business if I fall ill and whatever. . . . . I'll press on. I'm still in school, when I date, I date girls who don't depend on men for a living, hair or whatever. I don't date lazy girls "gold diggers" who knows nothing than their cosmetological advancements and go boundlessly around treachery when they can't get what they want from their "men" who they had thought would be "mumu". So if I date such girls, why will someone sleep with her at my back for what, money? Girls that have relationships with other men for money's sake are no less than an average prostitute, that's why they are called "Bitch"(Gifts is good every now and then and can be expensive too if I wish).

And to tell you something else, when my girl sleeps around, which is highly improbable, I will definitely know. I think I have what a woman wants, from patience, to prospects, to intelligence, to paper, to policies and ardent actions when necessary. So you see, I'm not taking out any frustration on you, you're the one who's disillusioned because you're yet to experience what a real relationship is all about. Forget about the "air" you thought you "cleared" that don't sway me cuz I definitely know you are outta that class -- you're still a gold digger. OK, let me start from your claims, let's assume you've been with your boyfriend since Uni, and he wasn't a baller then, why else would you ask him for monthly allowance if you weren't a gold digger? Should that have been necessary for a relationship you claim to have been existing in a long time? No, I don't think so. Even in marriages, why can't men pay their women? Why do women have to work? Why do women these days support their husbands in paying bills? Because they are respectable women, women of zeal and valor. Do you sound like that to me? No. Why? Because you get salary from your supposed boyfriend and you think you'll sleep behind his back if he doesn't perform his, what do I call it now, marital? Oh no, what? Ok, boyfriend-girlfriend duty.   .

No man will ever want to, as you've seen everyone say, do that; so why isn't he a mumu? What do you think his mom will say if she hears he's paying you monthly when you ain't married yet? She's a woman too, you know? And don't tell me she'll okay it because I've seen no mother who would let her son do that even if she knows the assurance of getting married is at its peak.  I was going to insult you but I won't because I'm too big for that and I won't stoop so low to argue with you, you think I'm arguing with you? No, I'm simply telling you where you stand with other women of class. That will do for now.

whitelexi:


Naija Girls should learn to get what they need by themselves, when u get gifts from a guy: 1) u understand and appreciate that gift more cos u know what it takes to make money yourself, and 2) u actually come across to guys as someone who can take care of herself and with that comes a greater respect threshold.

whitelexi:

@TheSeeker I saw that post, i just didnt reply cos i knew it was not gonna be good

I get easily irritated by such comments from lazy ass girls who cant be bothered to pick themselves up and get busy. So you've been with him for ages - so what? He still doesn't owe u nothing, if u wanna talk of sex - its a 2-way thing he gave u, u gave him, so whats the beef? If u didnt give him, he woulda got it from elsewhere, so why r u expecting an allowance? what does that make u? what does it say of u? A guy can give when and how he deems fit, u cannot sit there and honestly tell me u expect a monthly allowance cos u've been with him for yrs. . . Thats ridiculous.

I had a gf who was just like this yrs ago, and the mere thought of her makes me cringe - she was the most materialistic person ever and i really wonder how i put up with her demanding nature for 8yrs! Damn.
Naija Girls should learn to get what they need by themselves, when u get gifts from a guy: 1) u understand and appreciate that gift more cos u know what it takes to make money yourself, and 2) u actually come across to guys as someone who can take care of herself and with that comes a greater respect threshold.

sugabelle:

TheSeeker, is it for me you wrote that many many project? So you still haven't grown up. Because someone actually agreed with you 110%, we no go hear word. Rubbish and nonsense. Don't worry your head if my own is salary or not. I no get time to read you pointless post but one thing's for sure: you're not mature enough to be posting on the Romance section on the NL forum. First girl to feel your venom indeed. Is that the best you've got? ((((yawwwwwwnnnnn))))

spikedcylinder:

On one hand, the OP doesn't want to date "poor" girls. On the other hand, he's asking about giving his girlfriend allowance.

You're confused, dude.

@ Question, no, girlfriends mustn't demand an allowance.

whitelexi:

@TheSeeker: I'm sensing some really deep emotional connection here. . . You should get in there mate

_{And dont forget to give her some salary}