Shinatu:

I  consider myelf to be an independent woman, constantly appraised as one of the best in what I do to earn a living and do not believe in a girl demanding an allowance in a relationship, but I would advice any young woman to fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee from a stingy man.

Stinginess is a vice that does not move alone, it goes around with it's brothers and sisters like insensitivity, selfcenteredness and irresponsibility


I was taught not to be materialistic and I think that has a fault because it prevented me from opening my eyes well to be able to identify stinginess.


Men start the materialism accusation when they want to eat their cake and have it, you are attracted to a girl who everytime looks like a movie star, her hair is renewed every week or two and you are happy to show her off to your friends, you see a natural beauty with a nice 'shuku' and you say she is not your spec. How do you expect the 'sweet babe' to take care of these things, if she is a student, how many parents give money for a beauty workover every week?


Many people still expect a girlfriend to wash clothes, plates(piled up) and clean up the whole house, they insist it shows how good a wife she would be, so these girls keep on labouring for the dangled carrots!

sugabelle:

whitelexi or what ever you are called, I know your type, your antecedents and your level; you're not worth licking one of my toenails. You and that barely intelligible person who has posted above me^^^^^^^^, kelvinj. I won't repeat myself so I suggest you re-read my posts, but next time with more objectivity and maturity.

Later, you'll accuse other people of being insultive. See all the filth spewing from your mouth when you came under attack? It doesn't feel so nice does it?

sugabelle:

"The average Nigerian girl" does not enjoy feeling used. I've seen guys who doggedly go after a girl, pretending to love her, and feels its okay to want her to trust and love him enough to jump into bed with him before marriage, but can never lift a finger to help her when she's in need, just because he feels "it's over my dead body to give my gf money, is it payment etc. The bottom line of what I have been saying, is that, be more generous and trusting. Not everyone is a materialistic shark. Spending or giving does not make you a mugu. Yes, some girls have "scrapped" many guys, even using the money given by innocent bfs to finance their other bobos. Shit happens. But if you go into a r/ship thinking every girl who needs you to support her once in a while or regularly is a gold-digging leech, then too effing bad.

sugabelle:

whitelexi or what ever you are called, I know your type, your antecedents and your level; you're not worth licking one of my toenails. You and that barely intelligible person who has posted above me^^^^^^^^, kelvinj. I won't repeat myself so I suggest you re-read my posts, but next time with more objectivity and maturity.

femionasan:

Ride on Spiky! hehehehehehe!!!!!

Sweetie, you know how I do.

sir t:

@ Poster,

There is nothing wrong in taking care of your girlfriend, but when it becomes "a must do ritual", then flee the evil being.

chiejik:

no idea but the topic is all against ladies is not fair

hackney:

Some people are asking men who question this allowance thing if they dont want their girls to look good.
Are you people mad?
So if she hasnt a boyfriend she wont look good.
She was looking good when i picked up her single ass; so how come she was looking good then?

I can understand a man doing stuff for his girl (which i think comes natural), but having a stipulated allowance?!!
That's a hooker situation in which case give the allowance to her hairy love-vendor round the corner.
bleeping hell,man.

banom:

and not your usual timid way of asking for your petty needs, ( send me recharge card, buy me Bra, buy  me pant,buy me pad, buy me condom,buy me chewing gum,buy me sweet,buy me ice cream, buy me hair tie ,buy me skirt) like a hungry lizzard.

Lol. My step brother gets terribly irritated by people like these.

banom:

That is how to do it, and not your usual timid way of asking for your petty needs, ( send me recharge card, buy me Bra, buy  me pant,buy me pad, buy me condom,buy me chewing gum,buy me sweet,buy me ice cream, buy me hair tie ,buy me skirt) like a hungry lizzard.

and not your usual timid way of asking for your petty needs, ( send me recharge card, buy me Bra, buy me pant,buy me pad, buy me condom,buy me chewing gum,buy me sweet,buy me ice cream, buy me hair tie ,buy me skirt) like a hungry lizzard.

sugabelle:

Hmmn, whitelexi, now it's a joke, abi? Well, you told me what you thought of me, and I was merely returning the favour. Anyway, being who you are, I'm sure you know all about girls with stinking mouth. Animal lover. I still maintain, you no dey my category. Quench.

spikedcylinder:

Feeling used equates to not being given money? What if you're given the money (because there's spare to burn) and you're still used as a rag regardless? Will that elevate your self esteem?
As iice said, if you need to make your hair, reach into your pocket. If you need to pay your bills, reach into your pocket. Asides birthdays, anniversaries and other important events in which a partner needs to give gifts (which should be reciprocal by the way), a boyfriend should not be regarded as a parent.
I have friends (even on NL) who are strong independent women. They have no other form of support for themselves and will never collect stipends from any man. These are the kind of people that earn my respect. Not some howling, hungry girl who grabs an opportunity with every man that is willing to giver her a nickel or two.[/color]