RaggedyAnn:

I thought I recognized this mental decay from somewhere!!! We have communicated this ineffectively on NL before, haven't we. Years ago. At least you haven't changed - your commitment to garbage is still steadfast. And yes, I like people who are committed to their natures - no surprises.

But we'll agree to disagree on all issues.


I have always been someone who pays. I don't go into relationships unless I can contribute as much is I get, on all fronts; or I take as much as I'm prepared to give. You'll NEVER get any joy concluding I'm a leech.

shaybebaby:
Your sex life must be boring.

DollyParton1:


And you think that's not part of feminism?
Being able to communicate your feelings to people around you is one of the tenets of feminism.
This is a society where what the man says is final. No communication, no further discussion, nothing. As a woman, just take what the man/husband says. Because female and male are not equal.
Women should be able to bodly let their husbands know that they do not want to be full housewives. That they want to pursue a career too. That they are unhappy with something. Question their husband actions if need be. Etc

eyinjuege:


Can a woman not have her own dreams too? Doesn't she need support too in fulfilling her own dreams?
Are people really that selfish and self deluded to really think the world really revolves around them alone?
No wonder families are breaking up, when self is the order of the day.

dollyjoy:
I don't believe in equality, what matters most is respect and understanding in any form of affair. Women can never be equal with men,there is reason why God made man first. I think the sooner women accept their place in the society/men's life the better..

trilobite:


Hmm.....interesting.
Like I earlier said choose wisely. There are men out there who encourage career women and I happen to be one. The thing is, people tend to get carried away with their life pursuits, for the sake of your home sacrifices must be made.

Pick a career but not one that totally takes you away from your home responsibilities. A husband not remembering the last time he ate food prepared by the wife is just wrong.

As for talking back, do you know there ways of winning arguments by surrendering. Not every time but sometimes boldly correcting people is childish pride.

I have seen a lot of career matured women who have been able to remain good wives while chasing their careers. One solution is settling for careers or positions that give you time to face your home.

Modified: I agree with letting your boyfriend or fiance know that you want to be a career wife not your husband.

Shym3xx:


Lol, now the emotional impulses are starting to come to the fore while feigning you-know-what lol. You can't think you're equal to a man and demand equality, when you can't exhibit the temperament that's innate to most men. Can you see how I'm catching my comic relief while being cool, calm, and supremely collected? Triple CCCs right there lool.

No, I'm only steadfast in keeping you under my tutelage for proper coaching. Since I'm yet to meet a real practising feminist and I find the ideology quite fascinating - I won't mind raising one to the right specs.

I like ya first answer...a step in the right direction. But ya second answer is too vague for a direct question. Or are you being conservative? - cos feminism and conservativeness are two parallel lines that should never meet lol.

Again: do you take charge in bed, or are you submissive?

dollyjoy:
I don't believe in equality, what matters most is respect and understanding in any form of affair. Women can never be equal with men,there is reason why God made man first. I think the sooner women accept their place in the society/men's life the better..

lonelydora:
They never born any woman wey go claim equal right with me. We are Africans and have our culture.


They brought gayism, we all rejected it. They went back and brought this gender equality, we still reject it.

harsysky:
'If only women could understand that a man's second food is RESPECT, it will help them a lot. Men could become beast if respect and honor is stripped off them.

What a man can do, a woman can do better. Us, men no complain for that one but if a woman chuuk hand for our eyes, na big yawa o.

Chuksemi:
Or is it denying many men wives? It's a two way thing, as a lady stays unmarried, so is a man somewhere unmarried.

Husband is not an award. It's a commitment. Not everybody has that strength or time.

fellis:


I think women that can't get any type of male attention in real life are the ones that rush to bring themselves down online so that men will praise them.

They are typically fat, ugly, smelly and dull so they go their whole lives not getting any male attention that's why they become so desperate to the point of turning themselves to footmats online so that men can notice them.

fellis:



You see all these men? They are all superior to you.
They are better than you and their lives have more value than yours.
The first is a theif, the second is a mass murderer and the third are three mentally unbalanced/lunatics in an insane asylum.

They are all superior to you dolly joy.






I didn't just insult you by the way, you said men will always be superior to women so I am showing you pictures of different men that are superior to you.

chiwetel:
And where exactly is our place??
A place where we are intimidated and forced to give up our dreams?
A place where we are disrespected because we are seen as inferior?I could go on and on,that's more like an animal's place..
I am no feminist, wherever that word came from I just don't see any reason why I should subdue my potentials,and give up my dreams because a society of small minds doesn't tolerate otherwise.
I don't know about you,buh I want to be a successful wife,mother and individual and ofcourse am totally willingly to submit myself in wholeness to a man that not only knows my worth,buh is ready to support me to efficiently utilise my potentials.
isn't that what living is all about?

MrPresident1:
The propagation of concepts such as gender equality, 'women empowerment', women liberation, etc is an insidious attempt by satan to destroy the family structure which is the bedrock of any society. Disfunctional families create dysfunctional societies which ultimately leads to dysfunctional nations.

The 'empowered' woman feels she does not 'need' a man to take care of her, and may find it difficult to submit

The quality of today's men also leaves much to be desired.


It is a dysfunctional world where satan rules.

kikies:


Ur place is beside ur man n not in front, n u bin beside means u shld b supportive n not run d man down with ur skillful tongue.
A sane man wld want u to b successful, I dnt mind marry a woman dat has more qualifications dan I do Bt as long as she knows dat she's not d hubby.....so she shld jst play her role as my wife n not as my "successful" wife.

MsGlobalwonder:
so according to what you can comprehend, being a "feminist" means to "run down a man".. *sigh. I think the issue isn't even feminism, it's men's insecurity and ignorance. It's shameful to say the least!

Owliver:
the concept of "society" is all about hierarchy. head and followers. this idea is imposed by law as societal morals or religious morals. with physical strength of survival we men have ruled over you for centuries and you have relied on us for centuries. now talking about marriage as a smaller society same thing applies. there must be a head and then followers. that's how it works. since time immemorial we men had taken that position either by force or by deception. we have made that our birth right even all religions invented by men dictated such structure. it's a psychological thing.

only the west have been able to deviate from such psychological order. we Africans are new to this, hence the reason for so much defence against such ideology.

so don't interpret in such manner. it's being a long time coming

fellis:


lol

I just tire for some Nairaland women and their severe low self esteem.
Imagine the nonsense she wrote. Whether na PM and toasters she dey find sef I no know.

RaggedyAnn:




And there's her Jackpot prize! A marriage proposal to reward her support for the oppression and neglect of her race. Well done.
All you women advocating the right to your own bodies, your property, equal opportunity and wages - no husbands for you. Whatever shall we do?!!

RaggedyAnn:





Smh. Why even try!
I ask: what color is this coat? You say: I don't like coats. Communication: failed!
Guy, just shift please, there's no redemption here. Taking on the different waves of feminism through time and across the globe is really beyond you. Find something relaxing to read. Suggestion: Green Eggs and Ham.

dollyjoy:
I don't believe in equality, what matters most is respect and understanding in any form of affair. Women can never be equal with men,there is reason why God made man first. I think the sooner women accept their place in the society/men's life the better..

Gerrard59:


Nobody is saying men have to wash dishes, however, leaving dishes unwashed and even clothes for your partner to come and wash when you could do it isn't fair. Saying that a lady who comes from work late in the night to come and cook even when you came earlier than her is not fair. What stops the man from cooking and keeping some for his partner? This transcends beyond feminism, it's about doing to others as you want others to do to you.

Furthermore, feminism has helped the world and obliterated useless misconceptions and culture(s). Why must a lady have a male as a sponsor before she can rent an apartment because she's single? That's what feminism has done to help the society. It has given rights to my sister, nieces, female cousins and definitely my future daughter(s) to do things hitherto they weren't allowed to do or achieve. Saying that women have to put up with terms like "men are polygamous by nature"; which gives you the freewill to cheat isn't fair whatsoever.

Nevertheless, there are fanatics in any system or movement. However, feminism, whichever way you look at it has contributed to global development and advancement. It has given rights to those who didn't have any, hope to the downtrodden, opportunities to those who didn't have any to grab, dreams to those who never had any, education to illiterates and many more.

I'm proud to be a feminist.

kikies:


I think in d real sense dats wat u understand, bin a feminist simply means u want to b treated same way men r treated
If u work same number of hrs den ur pay shld b same etc
N I support dat......I hope u understand now
Or Berra still u check it up from ur dictionary

MsGlobalwonder:
feminism is mainly addressing dogma and societal norms dat are anti-women. Women liberation from "bondage". It has nothing to do with marriage for God's sake. Why do you all use marriage as cover to cover up insecurity and your proclivity to dominate a woman for God's sake. A relationship between a wife and husband is well explained and assumed understood and agreed upon b4 a man makes a woman his wife. Can we not bring anything "marriage" to feminism? It reeks of ignorance and insecurity.

RaggedyAnn:

Lol, Oh you poor thing! Is that what the sporadic "LOLs" were for, to assure me you're having a fun time? Totally unnecessary, if you didn't you wouldn't be here, would you. I might not have worked tirelessly to convince you of this, but you haven't raised my blood pressure either.

But it's clear that your imagination has taken a beating; you've reverted to the "go-to" qualifications that some men (enough to be considered a trend) use for women when they're frustrated - "emotional". Next, when the temperature rises further, I would expect "LovePeddler". It's typical and good indication of your true state of mind within an argument. "LOLs" won't serve to disguise that.

You do realize that neither of us has anything of worth to say to one another and the reason we are keeping this up is because we each want to have the "last word". One of us gets bored enough to let go and the other can stand on the table screaming: I Won!

Well, it's time for me to begin my OITNB binge. So get on that table!
We'll exchange further unpleasantries in the future, God willing. I'll be wearing the same raggedy name; indication that self deprecation is my thing. You're going to have to try really hard if you want me to feel insulted. Or even get "emotional". I should remember to punctuate with LOLs to appeal to your sensibilities.


I'm more out-of-the-box than you think, so an answer to that last question wouldn't be helpful because you've based it on assumptions that do not apply. That's all I'm going to say on that issue; I'm sorry I couldn't provide you any lascivious details to jerk off to

Shym3xx:


Lol, what’s there not to find amusing while conversing with someone whose beliefs are like a conceptual Tower of Babel and proverbial air castle? I’m ya conscience and I noticed ya heart was beating faster than usual – with ya blood pressure higher than normal. Am I lying? – it’s evident in ya retorts lol. I’m just here to laugh – too bad you’re my victim today loool.

Imagination doesn’t take beatings – it can only be stretched far beyond its normal scope, to newer grounds. And that’s a good thing. Alas, I never needed to use my imagination to see the emotions evident in ya last retort. It’s about being cognisant with pattern arguments induced by emotional impulses follow loool. I remember you’d agree with me the last time we conversed on a different subject-matter that ya emotions do get the best of you sometimes, hence I offered to be coach you on how to make logic supplant emotions. Old habits they say; never die lol.

No, men should always have the last word as a sign of authority. That’s the natural order. Or do I need to remind you? Loool

OITNB? Now I see where you got ya own idea of feminism from and why you believe there’s a woman race with orange skin tone like orange men lol. And this is me thinking that due to ya ethnicity and cultural background - you’d be more into The Colour Purple. Just don’t let Alice Walker get hold of you for grouping her as the same race as traditional feminists, else she’s gonna go ghetto on ya arse lol. Leave fiction alone and get with the real world.

Lmao @ self-deprecation being your thing, when you and I know ya handle is ya favourite cartoon character. In essence, you’re a cartoon character and ya understanding of the ideology you staunchly support, is from a fictional TV series. Can you now see why you’re my tool for comic relief? Lool.

How can you “think out of the box” but accept a disposition you think is based on my assumption and put yourself in a box I created for you? That sentence is an oxymoron and it exemplifies how you keep contradicting yourself from post to post. If you actually think out-of-the-box – you wouldn’t let me put you in a box. Be free. You just lost more points on the feminism grading table for this one looool. Get under my tutelage asap (Rocky) – I’m trying to raise real feminists loool.

RaggedyAnn:

God, this kind of ignorance is just criminal! You're all over the place.

Lol.