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Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by N101: 2:24pm On Oct 31, 2009 |
TheSeeker:I'm curious as to your suggestions to resolve the issue of an unapologetic spouse. Walk out? Shout at them? Pray it out of them? Get family - who may be equally as bad - involved? Marriage isn't about revenge, but some people need to learn the hard way, it's not for me to do what their parents or society failed to instill in them. People sometimes apologise as a way to get you off their back but don't mean it. Is that a better option? Unfortunately there are too many immature people in relationships with unrealistic expectations. One would expect people to go into marriage with their eyes open, but, if some of the marital problems I've read about on NL are anything to go by, too many people get married for all the wrong reasons. Some of those you have highlighted (lack of openness, honesty etc). Remember, you are dealing with a fellow human being whose frailties may not be your own. There is a time to apologise when you aren't at fault, and a time for people to learn the hard way without intervention. When it does happen it's not to resolve it by saying "I told you so", that is adding fuel to the fire, sometimes you have to be there to help pick up the pieces. At the end of the day, being in a good marriage is about good and clear communication, some learn how to do it, some will struggle. Pimping or being a husband, your choice. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by bourdillon: 2:37pm On Oct 31, 2009 |
I'll sit him/she down and talk sense into he/her brain,so @ d end of everything i'll ask he/she to apologise. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by RichyBlacK(m): 6:43pm On Oct 31, 2009 |
No amount of love in this universe can make me stay with such an arrogant SOB! There is nothing to discuss here. First error is starting any form of relationship with such a mofo. Second error is hanging around trying to fix such a pathetic a-hole! |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Macgreat(m): 6:49pm On Oct 31, 2009 |
. . .Change partner |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by ELDINO: 2:32am On Nov 01, 2009 |
Ohoh! It's a pity. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by TheSeeker(m): 3:06am On Nov 01, 2009 |
N101:I didn't say exactly to walk out or yell on your partner. Yes, some people need to learn the hard way, unfortunately I can't argue that properly. A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons because most of them don't even know what they want (you can visualize a situation where a woman says she's in love with two men as if 'love' is some cheap word). I totally understand where you're coming from, but most times I think marriage ought to be peaceful, that's not to say there won't be times when we disagree but it should be like an unusual raucous and not such that it keeps happening the same time over and over again only for a reason. I believe in communication - heart to heart communication - in a relationship. This is what it takes to understand the stance of who you're dealing with because you both aren't bound to have the same charisma and characters, of course, they differ and you've got to check the differences out and work out a solution and that can only be achievable by communicating with all honesty and openness. I don't believe a breakup is the solution to every problem in a relationship but when communication can't solve it, then I don't believe anything else will. Patience lasts and deteriorates after a while, but communication can put a stop to many mishaps, if done in all honesty and cooperation, oneness and openness. But a situation where this fails, breakup is the next thing to consider as an option. Life is too short than spend it all in an unhealthy relationship. There are lots of people out there who deserve better partners, I think it's best to find those than spend it with someone who's always controversial. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Secretz(f): 1:55pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
TheSeeker: @ OP, talk to them - Although some people don't truly understand what it means to 'communicate'. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Opelope(m): 9:42pm On Nov 01, 2009 |
Temporarily STOP doin wat u do that they love. Example, stop being so sweet or seeming like u care. Women always want that care. When she complains, bring it to her attention |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nezan(m): 11:08am On Nov 02, 2009 |
@OP, you let them understand the way that attitude is affecting you and seek for an understanding and possible change. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nobody: 11:23am On Nov 02, 2009 |
@ topic shoot them |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by dramenda(f): 3:16pm On Nov 02, 2009 |
hon |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by mudiwa(f): 5:54pm On Nov 02, 2009 |
life ca be very difficult, my ex was always singing sorrys out of his mouth even for silly useless things and i always used to say babe ur sorry has now lost meaning, when i really wanted his sorry it never came. so to me that proved he was not worth my tears and left him to it, men can be evil and u feel like plucking their eyes out, but hey God made them so we ve to learn to live with them |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by posakosa(m): 6:03pm On Nov 02, 2009 |
mudiwa was ur YIM ? |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by nwainbuekw: 7:21pm On Nov 02, 2009 |
At times d' problem is dat dis partner finds it so hard cos he/she has so much pride, so wat i'd do is move on wit my life, |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Anandel(f): 10:48pm On Nov 03, 2009 |
I can take it when we started dating but i'll walk out when i feel i must have started to sound like a broken record!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by bigfoot79(m): 1:01am On Dec 16, 2009 |
That is not a big deal now, just get even with the pompous partner and see the changes |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by 190: 5:26am On May 14, 2011 |
then u leave them to who-ever they feel is rite to kiss them arse and move the heck on |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nobody: 5:27am On May 14, 2011 |
womp! |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by 190: 5:27am On May 14, 2011 |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by sexylogan(m): 10:49am On May 14, 2011 |
Macgreat: not so easy in reality |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by annita19(f): 11:44am On May 14, 2011 |
I hate unnecessary apologies. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by aminalib(f): 1:07pm On May 14, 2011 |
I dont even deal with friends that cannot admit wrong doing, i could not with a partner |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nobody: 4:18pm On May 14, 2011 |
annita19: Right. Especially when it is obvious that person fails to TRULY see that they are wrong and there fore telling you they are sorry to shut you up. Nothing is more annoying. I would rather not deal with you then accept a fake apology. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nobody: 5:09pm On May 14, 2011 |
beat the fuckkkk outta their fucccking life, if you dnt end up in jail, u might wait to hear the sorry, and if you end up in jail u might get killled in there hey it just an idea lol |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nobody: 5:31pm On May 14, 2011 |
OH MY!! Go to bed Don Little. That's right! rest your head on that nice fluffy pillow and go to sleep! LMAO!!!!! |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Nobody: 5:35pm On May 14, 2011 |
runs to is bed, damn i aint got no pillows hold up am seaching for my pillow, am coming! i will be bck in bed by tomorrow, just hold up lol |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Goldieluks: 6:13pm On May 14, 2011 |
My man hardly says sorry,am the one who says sorry,like i have a bag of ''apologies'',so i changed my approach(don't ask me how) and he started saying sorry,whenever he's on the wrong. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by 190: 6:23pm On May 14, 2011 |
^YAY- KPA!!! aPPRoach abi you meant Sex aPProach, No apology No sex tonight, works like nuclear bomb |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Goldieluks: 6:29pm On May 14, 2011 |
No ,not that. |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by 190: 6:30pm On May 14, 2011 |
^story |
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry by Goldieluks: 6:31pm On May 14, 2011 |
Ok. |
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