sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.

effnepa:
Why do they come to your place? Do you feed them ice cream and candy?You don't know how to get rid of people, are you some kind of ajebo?

BalogunIdowu:
Prevention is better than....

frankblinkz:
am late on this thread,but OP just brought out a major problem am passing through right now,like I don't know how to tell her I really don't like her coming to see me almost every day and end up having sex.....Am tired like really tired..
worse part is I keep getting girl's without saying I love you, just talk to Dem as friends,next we on bed.
See...truth is girl's love sex more to guys.....

Headlesschicken:
Stop making friends with gals that stay in d hostel,most of em need help n not love,they might give u sex for free,buh all dey want x help take note n stop confusing yuhself...

koyyes:
You don't have a problem.

Carry christian literatures and magazines and use them to decorate your room. Borrow from all those spirit koko people you know.

Go and look for where you dumped your bible. Clean the dust off and put it on your bed before they come.

When they see your 'decorations', they will start behaving like vampires under sunlight and take off.

sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.

clive2u:
do u by any chance dress like homo?

femi4:
Thank God, you didn't use "fully well". Tired of seeing that shit!

femi4:
Thank God, you didn't use "fully well". Tired of seeing that shit!

uuzba:

....than total stupidness.

uuzba:

Let them discover you are not even a serious Christian (Dust on your Bible?) and they will steal all your Christian faith and condemn you to a life of sin with themselves.

Macon1212:


Liar story for the gods.

sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.

OCEANMORGAN:

Just tell them you steal pants.

rawfact:


Do you want him lynched?

Czarugo007:
How I wish I were you,imagine what we are praying for,and you are here telling us nyaanyaampu.

babadee1:


How have you been curbing it up till now? Continue doing that same thing.

Jiang:


You no do strong face, no want women to annoy you,? don't go beyond Hello, Good day, & just pass, no long stories. I figured out long ago having female friends increases my monthly expenses by 70% . Being a man of few words makes them very respectfull & refer to you always with "sir'

soul95:

Not everyone lacks self control like you. I can definitely relate to the OP. He basically described some aspects of me. Sex while pleasurable is not something that freaks me to the extent of dedicating time and resources chasing women. If I am to chase a woman, its because I really do like being around her,.sex or no sex (unfortunately that doesn't happen often as many folks lack a sound personality and mind, and me I'm well reserved). I've had a girl for 4 years, never cheated, even when she was messing up, not because I want to prove anything to her, its just my principle.

I live by my principles. At a time, I was feeling jaded about the whole marriage thingy in lieu of the feminism wave and general apathy of our generation to values like loyalty, honoured trust and truth. I was bold enough to tell my spiritual head that I might have a baby mama or be a serial polygamist and I backed it up with reason.
I only dropped it when I was shown that doing so will be in violation to God's ordinance, otherwise I would have done it without batting an eyelid.
You see Principle before hormones. Sex is not some ultimate prize.

uuzba:

Sex is meant for marriage. Don't get any gilrfriend if you have no job, cannot pay rent, cannot support yourself. It is unrealistic and irresponsible to use your father's money to be doing boyfriend-Girlfriend.
They will tell you people, you won't hear.

You will soon impregnate a lady and start murdering an innocent baby in the name of abortion.