darlenese:
no sex before marriage kwa. 80 percent of these no sex before marriage crew have been over used by their exes

Nigerian girls are very unintelligent. You don't use sex or virginity to keep a man, you use brain (intelligence) and good character.

Kiss kor, Gold Circle ni..
Only a virgin has d right to say no sex b4 marriage.
Only a mumu man will agree to that term!!
Nonsense & spices!!!!!!

Your strategy is totally wrong. This kind of strategy will chase both the good guys & the bad guys away. Even if he decide to stick to the rules. Does that mean he is going to be a good husband or treat you right? Does that mean he is not going to cheat? To knw a good man. Spend enough time with him & just pay attention to the signs. That's all.

But honestly, what do you think is the real intention of most men when they meet a lady? Love them like a sister? . Are you expecting those scenes in "telenovela" series to play out in real life? If you think there are men out there without intentions of getting into a woman's pants, u are in for a rude awakening, and still learning. It's an insult to manhood. . It is what it is. From whence cometh man goeth man.

Gina2019:
Lol...A lady will never give you her cookie as long as she's not collecting money from you. She has alot to lose if she tries it.

You want the guy to have the cookie then leave her afterwards? She's a wise girl if you ask me...Now the real intention of the guy is now showing.

But why? hope everything is ok down there

MedicH:
Rules are rules and no need breaking them. If i see a woman i want to settle with like marry, i can agree to no sex till marriage if and only if she's a virgin with intact hymen of course i have to verify that. I can pay her bills out of my own will, money no be problem and i will be allowed to keep as many side chicks as i want without checks and sniffing and low budget jack bauer. Anything aside these i am not interested in the relationship.


He is wrong by trying to break the rule,

you did not overreact,

let him go

I want to know u bro

I'm a virgin and I really feel like having sex with my boyfriend(he asks me for it too)...bh I'm scared
Cos we're both broke..
If kasala Goan burst
I no get money to take care of baby
Also, he's not also trying to make money
He can't take care of me
Shey me that I can't take care of myself

Brightgem:


If you yourself had any dignity, any common sense, any self respect, any values, any parental teachings, any good guidance, then you would have understood my post on one hand and on the other hand you would have not stooped low to use MIA KHALIFA as an example.

But I don't blame you, this generation doesn't know how to define success, that's why you can use pornstars or a scammer as an example of success.

90% of people don't have sense, as a friend of mine said.

You lack decency or intellectual capacity to hold a discussion with me. So dey your lane of pornstars abeg. This is my final exchange with you.

See person talking about intellectual capacity. A person whose claim to dignity is only in her virginity (that's even assuming she is one).

You think you are more successful, educated or more intelligent that Mia Khalifa? In terms of money (or prosperity as you guys like to call it), she is worth over $3 million. How much are you worth? In terms of relationships, she is currently engaged to a celebrity chef, to be married this summer. You can bet the marriage will be a media event.
I am not exactly supporting or promoting mia khalifa's lifestyle, what I am against is imposing your morals and beliefs on others. I used her to show an example of 'who will marry you will marry you, virgin or not.'

Gina2019:
This is not about a Nigerian girls mentality thing. This is a different scenario entirely.

The guy didnt pick her call cuz she didn't give him sex. Does that make any sense at all? Do the math yourself and tell me what the result is going to be if eventually she say yes to the sex.

I guess he didn't pick cause she said she walked him out in an angry tone. Like she disrespected him.

Your wisdom is not of this world. Genius

HARDDON:
I wouldn't dignify the op with a response...
I'd rather advise the average guy out there.

1. Never start off any r/ship/ marriage on the wrong foot.
From what the op posted, it is obvious he asked her out and she laid down conditions for her to accept him. The major one being NO SEX BEFORE MARRAIGE. And the mallam accepted. Now she quoted it like they both mutually consented.

Note that this statement is Double edge manipulative punch.
a. No sex if I'm to agree to date you
b. This date must lead to marriage.

This is supper selfish already. Never let jRod rule you and accept this thrash.

DON'T LOSS YOUR BALLS because OF SOME OVERUSED VJAY.

To avoid situations like this, stop flogging a dead horse. There is nothing you want to say she hasn't heard world over before.
A reputable employer has no business begging an employee to come work. When there are a thousand and one more qualified, jobless people out there.

However, if you ever make that mistake and she pull this line,
Tell her to slow down. Grab you balls and let her know where they at. That she has to impress you first. If you like her feminine fragrance, you'd take it a notch up.
Not the other way round.

2. Most gurls that make this kind of proposals are the overused ones and feminists with alot of baggages.
These sets are red flags. Runnnnnnnnnn

3. You hand your balls to a woman the very moment you ask her out.

4. Gurls that are really into you would not put self first but rather put you first. Ready to abandoned Creed and culture, friends and family to be with you.

5. Never settle for less. There are better deals out there.


I pray that guy would not make the mistake of marrying her if not, she would be running the show and calling the shots at home.


Kindly note: I am in no way saying there should be s3x before marriage.
Rather, it should be a mutual understanding between two adults not a manipulative bullet from some vJayfied soft bone

pryme:


And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex?
It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions.
And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.

The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy?
You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them.
The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".

Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?

When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.

@ Pryme: Thank you for your submission. You have said it all. I like your perspective towards relationship. Your statements reflect your level of maturity. God bless you. I really don't understand how a woman would lose anything by having sex in a relationship. And the mentality of a man leaving after having sex is very wrong. If he wants to leave, he will leave with sex or no sex. Not having sex before marriage does not make the people involved in a relationship responsible or irresponsible.

It is called relationship, a romantic relationship, an erotic relationship. It is called dating. Anyone who dies not want sex before marriage should not start any dating relationship whatsoever. They should just meet each other and get married within a week or a month. That's what our forefathers and mothers usually do in the old days, they barely know each other, they just get introduced to each other and they get married. Some of them don't even live in the same location, they would meet onece and then get married.They don't pass through dating phase.Fortunately for then some of them were able to live together for the rest of their lives either successful or unsuccessfully with ether happiness or sorrow. They were full of patients and endurance that time.

But now, time and things have changed. U need to date to get to know each other, and part of what u need to know from the person you want to marry is his/her sex life.

I decide not to sound religious because I'm a realist.

If u don't want sex before marriage, then don't go into dating. Very simple .

And this idea of women believing that when they don't receive money from a man then they are not expected to have sex with him is absurd. I believe only prostitutes engage in sex in exchange for money.

Some women may decide not to have sex before marriage because they are not sure if the man will stay with them in case of unexpected pregnancy, then use condom or other preventive measures. Simple. But this idea of no sex before marriage is unreasonable.

You kiss and curdle a man and u said no sex before marriage? That's called pre-intimacy , as for as I am concerned by kissing and curdling you have started making love with him already.

You are just lucky that the man is inexperience/amateur, if you engaged in a pre-intimacy with an experienced man you won't be able to resist the rest of the package. In fact you will be the one that will UnCloth yourself by yourself ; you will even be the one the will UnCloth him. But I guess the man in not experienced enough as to know how to make a woman lost control in ecstasy.

nifebabe:
I'm a virgin and I really feel like having sex with my boyfriend(he asks me for it too)...bh I'm scared
Cos we're both broke..
If kasala Goan burst
I no get money to take care of baby
Also, he's not also trying to make money
He can't take care of me
Shey me that I can't take care of myself

lol pls how manage lol haha

how do u guys manage to be cool lol

hahaahahah

Offpoint:

smile** I've been through hell and I conquered hell dear.

I'm in Hell
I hope I can conquer like u did

IamPlato:
which One Is Thank You? Answer The Question, are You A Virgin?

I doubt if she can because I am 90% sure she is not a virgin

nifebabe:
I'm a virgin and I really feel like having sex with my boyfriend(he asks me for it too)...bh I'm scared
Cos we're both broke..
If kasala Goan burst
I no get money to take care of baby
Also, he's not also trying to make money
He can't take care of me
Shey me that I can't take care of myself

You have nothing to worry,It doesn't matter if he is broke or not...Just let him commission the road by using a condom then bring it to Papa's men like us to match and pass thru...Men must burst konchas...Money no be problem here unless u want to make it one.

bestabigaelever:

I'm in Hell
I hope I can conquer like u did

I've been there too...Only those that have the balls to look the Devil in the Face and tell him "you're a Devil" make it out alive.

HARDDON:
I wouldn't dignify the op with a response...
I'd rather advise the average guy out there.

1. Never start off any r/ship/ marriage on the wrong foot.
From what the op posted, it is obvious he asked her out and she laid down conditions for her to accept him. The major one being NO SEX BEFORE MARRAIGE. And the mallam accepted. Now she quoted it like they both mutually consented.

Note that this statement is Double edge manipulative punch.
a. No sex if I'm to agree to date you
b. This date must lead to marriage.

This is supper selfish already. Never let jRod rule you and accept this thrash.

DON'T LOSS YOUR BALLS because OF SOME OVERUSED VJAY.

To avoid situations like this, stop flogging a dead horse. There is nothing you want to say she hasn't heard world over before.
A reputable employer has no business begging an employee to come work. When there are a thousand and one more qualified, jobless people out there.

However, if you ever make that mistake and she pull this line,
Tell her to slow down. Grab you balls and let her know where they at. That she has to impress you first. If you like her feminine fragrance, you'd take it a notch up.
Not the other way round.

2. Most gurls that make this kind of proposals are the overused ones and feminists with alot of baggages.
These sets are red flags. Runnnnnnnnnn

3. You hand your balls to a woman the very moment you ask her out.

4. Gurls that are really into you would not put self first but rather put you first. Ready to abandoned Creed and culture, friends and family to be with you.

5. Never settle for less. There are better deals out there.


I pray that guy would not make the mistake of marrying her if not, she would be running the show and calling the shots at home.


Kindly note: I am in no way saying there should be s3x before marriage.
Rather, it should be a mutual understanding between two adults not a manipulative bullet from some vJayfied soft bone

wise

wiser

wisest

come take budweiser

Mykel51:


Taste before you buy... The way you taste things before you buy at ShopRite...Right...

Yes

sunnysmile80:



@ Pryme: Thank you for your submission. You have said it all. I like your perspective towards relationship. Your statements reflect your level of maturity. God bless you. I really don't understand how a woman would lose anything by having sex in a relationship. And the mentality of a man leaving after having sex is very wrong. If he wants to leave, he will leave with sex or no sex. Not having sex before marriage does not make the people involved in a relationship responsible or irresponsible.

It is called relationship, a romantic relationship, an erotic relationship. It is called dating. Anyone who dies not want sex before marriage should not start any dating relationship whatsoever. They should just meet each other and get married within a week or a month. That's what our forefathers and mothers usually do in the old days, they barely know each other, they just get introduced to each other and they get married. Some of them don't even live in the same location, they would meet onece and then get married.They don't pass through dating phase.Fortunately for then some of them were able to live together for the rest of their lives either successful or unsuccessfully with ether happiness or sorrow. They were full of patients and endurance that time.

But now, time and things have changed. U need to date to get to know each other, and part of what u need to know from the person you want to marry is his/her sex life.

I decide not to sound religious because I'm a realist.

If u don't want sex before marriage, then don't go into dating. Very simple .

And this idea of women believing that when they don't receive money from a man then they are not expected to have sex with him is absurd. I believe only prostitutes engage in sex in exchange for money.

Some women may decide not to have sex before marriage because they are not sure if the man will stay with them in case of unexpected pregnancy, then use condom or other preventive measures. Simple. But this idea of no sex before marriage is unreasonable.

You kiss and curdle a man and u said no sex before marriage? That's called pre-intimacy , as for as I am concerned by kissing and curdling you have started making love with him already.

You are just lucky that the man is inexperience/amateur, if you engaged in a pre-intimacy with an experienced man you won't be able to resist the rest of the package. In fact you will be the one that will UnCloth yourself by yourself ; you will even be the one the will UnCloth him. But I guess the man in not experienced enough as to know how to make a woman lost control in ecstasy.

How many times can I like this post? I give 1000 likes. You hit the nail on the head and then nail the coffin, Dead and buried, nothing more to add.

A no sex before marriage romantic relationship sounds absurd. Why not ask your parents to arrange the marriage as in the days of old, you meet on the day of the marriage or just before and then have sex on your wedding night? In laws outside the bedroom waiting for the blood stained bedsheets and all.

How exactly do you agree to enter into a no before marriage relationship?

I see a fine lady and I approach her with the usual toasting lines like, hello babe, sorry Sister, I have been noticing you all these days and I think you are a very beautiful lady, I like your smile, your personality. ...... you know the rest. In conclusion, the guy would say, I want us to have a relationship, become boyfriend and girlfriend or lovers.

In response the girls says, I have noticed you too and I think you are responsible and cute too. I agree, let's give it a try, but.... no sex before you marry me.

Or will the girl agree to a relationship, but later give her conditions when the guy want to kiss and press something?

ufotty2001:
the same leg my girlfriend brought to me. now where is she. men are wise now. No sex till marriage is a complete scam! if u are looking for such thing why not go to church and look for a choir master, sunday school teacher even a pastor.. you are a big fool

did you separate with your girlfriend or she allowed you to subscribe to her dish

Offpoint:
Are you a virgin, is he a virgin?

Sex is like a good wine, those who have never taste of it would not have the urges to want to drink it. even if they do have the urge to drink, it won't be as strong as those who have tasted and drank the wine before.

Only virgins can keep to 'no sex before marriage' agreement, anything outside that is just 2 adults fooling themselves.

U are right. Me and my gf have made that decision, NO SEX till after marriage. She is a virgin while I'm not but determine to stay.
Meeehn e no easy ooo

Elbone2:

I've been there too...Only those that have the balls to look the Devil in the Face and tell him "you're a Devil" make it out alive.

Unfortunately I don't have balls but pussy

Lyydia:

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

.........

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

Your decision of no sex before marriage is a great decision, whether or not you are a virgin. Sex should be had only in marriage. Period. Live by it HONESTLY

However, you kicking him out was actually going too far. Even with your decision, he still is a male, with hormones, you can't remove that from him. So his body will respond to your signals (active or passive). You kicking him out indicates you don't consider his feelings in any way, which is selfish, and also worst of all, it's either its your way, or nothing. I believe there should have been a better way to remind him, and keep reminding him of your decision, not kicking him out. No No.

Unless.... You want to break it off with him, since it's become a sore spot in your relationship and you lack the patience to teach him how to abstain.

bestabigaelever:

Unfortunately I don't have balls but pussy

Lol,U've got Nut and Berries....Be Courageous Sis.

IamCookie:


You can call it anything you want. All I know is that i am emotionally stable and leading a good life. With respect to my daughter, you needn't worry about that. She's mine.

Of course I needn't worry. Just make sure you do family planning for your daughter when she clocks 13

This sex after marriage is a SCAM,except the girl in question is a virgin.

Why hiding what your former bf don scatter finish and be deceiving your life.

Stop this nonsense.

Most of the comments here shows that this generation has totally lost it.

Please, where have we thrown our morality to? So if a person has been involved in sex before, she doesn't have the right to request for a no-sex relationship, really? Can't she make a turn? she doesn't have room for repentance? So she should continue having sex cos she was once involved in it. What happen to "can we continue in sin and ask grace to abound?".

Guys, it's not your right to be given sex, if you want it as a right then marry her. Cos both the christian faith and islamic faith advocates no sex before marriage.


Now consider this instance. She had sex with guy A after a while the relationship packed up, she moved to guy B, then guy C etc if she keeps having sex with them all, what will be her body count before she's married? You guys would still be the same set of people to criticize her on her body count. Now she came to her senses and decided to stop having sex after guy A or B and you guys still criticize her for that.


So because a lady is no longer a virgin, she should become a slave to your lust.

God's command on sex before marriage is clear. Let us return back to God.



And to the girls/ladies be wise. Haba !

sinceraconcept:
Of course I needn't worry. Just make sure you do family planning for your daughter when she clocks 13

A stupid man talking! I will no longer dignify you with a response.

ILoveLight:
Most of the comments here shows that this generation has totally lost it.

Please, where have we thrown our morality to? So if a person has been involved in sex before, she doesn't have the right to request for a no-sex relationship, really? Can't she make a turn? she doesn't have room for repentance? So she should continue having sex cos she was once involved in it. What happen to "can we continue in sin and ask grace to abound?".

Guys, it's not your right to be given sex, if you want it as a right then marry her. Cos both the christian faith and islamic faith advocates no sex before marriage.


Now consider this instance. She had sex with guy A after a while the relationship packed up, she moved to guy B, then guy C etc if she keeps having sex with them all, what will be her body count before she's married? You guys would still be the same set of people to criticize her on her body count. Now she came to her senses and decided to stop having sex after guy A or B and you guys still criticize her for that.


So because a lady is no longer a virgin, she should become a slave to your lust.

God's command on sex before marriage is clear. Let us return back to God.



And to the girls/ladies be wise. Haba !

So after trying it out with different Dicks... it's the prospective Husband that's best to wait till after MARRIAGE?!
My dear u really need Christ.

Toluwashe778:
dear, there are different phenomenon and ideology on sex. my point is , many people decide to hand sex before marriage in different ways. please writer, HANDLE IT THE WAY U FEEL IT PROPER TO YOU. U will definitely see someone like u . I have a friend who is practicing no sex before marriage and she is not a virgin and her fiancee really love it . the truth of the matter is 90% of young adult do not despise sex before marriage . please don't let the people here decide ur way of life. some men still go for decent girls. it is the same people talking here that will come back and say girls are olosho. please preserve urself if u can. someone is despirately looking for a woman like u oo

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You are blessed and you have a blessed reasoning too.��

Gina2019:
Am a virgin :-

bro u sound like one

Elbone2:

So after trying it out with different Dicks... it's the prospective Husband that's best to wait till after MARRIAGE?!
My dear u really need Christ.

Just like the prospective husband has banged alot of females too.

And you don't need Christ abi?