Nazgul:

Well said.

Hunger and greed is what has made relationships terrible, most girls just keep longing for what will destroy them.

Only a foolish girl will accept to date a successful guy whom she rejected when he was still struggling. Such relationship will definitely have no future cos the guy will make sure he bangs her brains out then kick her off and still mock her, some guys can be that childish.

pansophist:


Guyman wey sabi

Self-awareness is something you will hardly find in a woman. If he doesn't have money, her brain will convince herself, with proof, while she is not attracted to him. Her brain will generate numerous verifiable points that will fool the untrained mind and herself, that she just doesn't feel him.

But when he has money, her brain will restructure itself to see the positivity in him, and she would actually genuinely fall in love with him. She will train herself to love you, and convinced she found true love. It's miraculous to observed, and this is a well-known phenomena in psychology, it's called "the Halo effect".

Even worse, if he later becomes broke, her brain will rewrite history, and convinced her again that she was immature, didn't knew what she want, and he has not been good to her. She would question herself how on earth did she fell in love with such looser, and her other dumb friends will pander to her that "she is too good for him, she should look for something better". Classical female advice.

RPirez:


Isn't it so funny that the unattractive girls seem to be the loudest?

purples25:
I just stopped laughing.

Something I'm used to happened today. A guy that I had politely refused last year came to me this morning. He immediately told me he has a job now. Told me the full name of the company and everything else. Then he started asking me aggressively about where I have reached in life and all that.

I chatted normally with him, I told him I was happy for him. Later, he asked if he could call me at a certain time. When I told him he could, he started saying that it was not so before, that before, my anthem was that he cannot reach me for various excuses.

I laughed, because, I now understood the whole issue. He believed it was because of money that I didn't allow him access to me anyhow. I just told him that he shouldn't worry because my phone was bad. He continued to reply in a sour tone. The funny thing is that I have no business with his money, because I am sure that none will land in my palm...so why would i be tripping because he got a job?

Another guy I rejected politely acted normal at the time. But after years he came back, asking me with full spite about my marital status and my job. Lol. He told me how he has a company now. I knew that was true because I had seen evidence of it growing and info about it in public over the years. He insisted that we should be dating now. But it couldn't happen because i knew he was just bitter, and thought that i should fall now because he has made it.

Guys, its not all about the money. Some women don't use your money to survive. Some have parents and don't really care to be bound in chains because of indomie and egg, credit, or sharwama. There are more serious issues. E.g the relationship should be going somewhere. Sometimes its tribal or religious, maybe she knows her parents wont accept you. Why would a woman smell what she won't eat, just because of your feelings?

Guys, take a chill pill.

purples25:
I just stopped laughing.

Something I'm used to happened today. A guy that I had politely refused last year came to me this morning. He immediately told me he has a job now. Told me the full name of the company and everything else. Then he started asking me aggressively about where I have reached in life and all that.

I chatted normally with him, I told him I was happy for him. Later, he asked if he could call me at a certain time. When I told him he could, he started saying that it was not so before, that before, my anthem was that he cannot reach me for various excuses.

I laughed, because, I now understood the whole issue. He believed it was because of money that I didn't allow him access to me anyhow. I just told him that he shouldn't worry because my phone was bad. He continued to reply in a sour tone. The funny thing is that I have no business with his money, because I am sure that none will land in my palm...so why would i be tripping because he got a job?

Another guy I rejected politely acted normal at the time. But after years he came back, asking me with full spite about my marital status and my job. Lol. He told me how he has a company now. I knew that was true because I had seen evidence of it growing and info about it in public over the years. He insisted that we should be dating now. But it couldn't happen because i knew he was just bitter, and thought that i should fall now because he has made it.

Guys, its not all about the money. Some women don't use your money to survive. Some have parents and don't really care to be bound in chains because of indomie and egg, credit, or sharwama. There are more serious issues. E.g the relationship should be going somewhere. Sometimes its tribal or religious, maybe she knows her parents wont accept you. Why would a woman smell what she won't eat, just because of your feelings?

Guys, take a chill pill.

Riscawendy:
If you like make all the money in Nigeria and America joined together, if you like spend all of them on me, but when it comes marriage which l know is a " destiny junction" l can't walk down the aisle with you just because you're rich, if you don't have other qualities l need in my man, l won't marry you.

effort1:


You mean love and affection like a shopping trip to Dubai?

purples25:
.

Nope.

Ishilove:

Are there really women who can be bound by

Sharwarma- 500/1000
Credit- 500
Indomie and eggs- 450

??

effort1:


Then, what's your idea of love and affection, if you don't mind?

purples25:


My price is love and affection, and something that is going somewhere. But sex is the thing that most guys want.

eeithis:
who no won sex?

NeeKlaus:
Purples25, I feel you would just be acting deceptive or dishonestly if you say "Money is not a major factor to win a woman's affection".

Reality check, we are still in Nigeria and you and I know how easily a guy's financial buoyancy sways a woman's attention in this country.

However, I won't commit the offence of Generalization; not all Nigerian women are like that. There are still some that don't care about the fatness of your wallet. Whether you are in this category or not, I do not know.

But at least 80% of women in Nigeria between the ages of 18-40 (the dating age) would always prefer a wealthy man to a broke man firstly, before looking at other factors like "love, trust, character" and all those other things that follow.

You know this.
It might not necessarily apply to you, but you know this.

purples25:


Maybe tomorrow I'll try to explain some things. But if I say some things... They would sound very strange to everyone.

Money matters, not denying that. Guys just need to stop thinking its the one and only.

DrFunmisticGlow:
the one thing that stands out is thier sense of entitlement. It never entered their minds that you just aren't attracted to them?

The niggatry of it all!!

This is the main reason why 'nice' guys never get the girls, because they feel that since they are nice, girls deserve to fall at thier feet. This also goes to those 'church going sisters' wondering why they are not married yet.

People can smell insincerity, and it's repulsive.

purples25:


Showing concern and care by calling, texting and seeing regularly. Being an emotional support in good and bad times. Even if you don't have money, be there physically every step of the way.

Show seriousness by making plans for the future together. That's a start.

peacefull:


Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!

Japan is good season now!
Spring! Not too hot or too cold. Very nice weather!
Coming soon cherry blossoms will start to bloom.

But corona virus is disturbing us.

What about Nigeria? Your place?
Hot? or cold?

effort1:


Lolz. You can't be serious with all these. Stop whining me.

purples25:


Maybe you're too young to understand. You probably haven't seen where there is money but your partner doesn't give a hoot about you.

effort1:


Why do some of you ladies here think everyone on nairaland is a small boy?

What birthed that funny idea? Do you mind sharing?

purples25:


Sorry if that part offended you. But I feel people should understand that characters and problems are as wide and diverse as all the beaches of sand on this earth.

Some people's problems aren't really about money. That's why sometimes the rich man's wife sleeps around, because he really doesn't give a shit about her. He gives her everything, but as a human being, she needs who to talk to, make her laugh, play with her. Some men will never do that, and soon you will hear of cheating.

Caring for me and really being present in my life is very important to me. From there is where true concern will show. From there is where we will both give our last 500 for each other in any crisis no matter how broke we are.

The fact that you don't seem to get that is what made me think maybe you've not been around here for long. But again, I apologize for that assumption.

aynerodcirus:


Duh! Money can buy definitely buy someone’s heart..., why else is there heart transplant

SimplyFacts:


Talo m'egun wa?

zanshi:




Everything is money, you berated us in our early years calling us broke, no problem.
We went to double our hustle and now we want some action all of sudden, money is not important.

Rest abeg.

Don't blame it is the dating cues Nollywood showed to us on how to get women.

Everything is transactional these days and we men love it like that.