Ishilove:
Different day, different stories.

This kain shokoto in a very public sef, na wa. When no be beach she dey.

Our Nigerian society is not yet ripe for this kind of 'liberal' dressing.

OP, I can't tell you what to do. Use your tongue to count your teeth

Zikonna:
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

Cashio:
Your mother is simply not so civilized. And if anyone on this forum is calling that picture bad, then the person too is uncivilized. I personally bought those bum shorts for my woman, with waist beads, eye lashes and nails. These things make me see her as beautiful and she is the most sensible woman I have ever come across. One who doesn't put herself first unlike others I've met.
My mum or anyone can never detect for me the woman to marry because I am the one to live with that decision for the rest of my life and not anyone else.
As for the story of your father and mother, like someone already said, women will always paint the father as evil in cases of breakup even if they might be the bad ones in the story. A typical case is one am a witness to. You need to let go of any grudges and be at peace with your dad since he is no longer alive to tell his own side of the story.
Finally, you sound so soft as would someone who was trained by a woman. Every home needs a father figure and you should be one for your family.
It is never good to have any part missing in a home. Women bring the meekness while men bring the authority......I wish you the best in your choice, but let that choice not depend on what your mum thinks.

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

Zikonna:
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

Zikonna:
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

Karlifate:


You wanna open a can of worms

od501:


Legend!!

Kholiwe:

Your mother is an idiot.

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

Wordsfrombimpe:
E don tey wey I comment on post

But what I will say is

I also dress sexy as well

In fact I go out without bra and pant it doesn't change the fact that am reserve and celibate

Your mum need to understand modesty is a thing of the inner heart not just outward appearances

Don't judge the book by the cover

Pray about it

Is either she don't like her from the beginning and just use this as an excuse to scatter the relationship

edungene7:
Your mum is over protective she feels yr girl might be into public service but u are the one to convince her that the world is about going naked as the latest trend in fashion and yr girl is only trying to catch up gud luck man

pleasureosondu:
imagine o. And d op was cautioning a real nigga who stated same. Is the OP mad? Which normal mother inlaw will accept such? I won't have said much if it was just normal dating. And the idi.ot wants to pick a fight with his mother bcoz of a bit.ch. I for punch that op for face if to say I see am.

Yamiriflathead:


Ashawo, Shut up! You're proud of saying you're celibating when ur mates are keeping their virginity for their husbands.

Modesty is not a thing of inner nonsense or any gibberish you're tryna defend immoral dressing with. Infact Your appearance reveals the abundance of your heart.

You cannot be a runs girl and be dressing like a Nun and u can't be a Nun and be dressing like a runs gal.

Inner modesty of the heart kee u there, olosho

Zikonna:
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

EriMma1:
This one is a confirmed runs girl. No responsible and serious minded girl will wear this and post on her status where all her contacts can view it.

I know one here. This is how she dresses. She has a boyfriend too but does serious hookup. Marry her at your own peril. Since they are telling you but you don't want to hear.

Zikonna:


Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl.

dochenaj:
A girl who posts such pictures in her status update is still advertising. She is still in the market.

It is one thing to wear such in public, and it is yet another thing to take a picture of it to upload on your whatsapp status.

If you understand the difference then you know the answer.

Wordsfrombimpe:
You can dress decently and still be a
LovePeddler

A LovePeddler is not a definition of what you wear is the ability of lack of self control and lack of discipline

It's only in this part of the world we don't tell ourselves simple truth

Jennyclay:
You brought this insult upon yourself, so enjoy the insult my dear! Yeye boyfriend!!

You need to grow up, you're not a man. Why would you allow your mother dictate for you? ..

Biko, answer my following questions:

Is your girlfriend disrespecting you?

Is she wasteful or lazy?

Is she cheating on you?

Is she neglecting her duties as a wife to be?

So why is you and your mother creating problem were there is none?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with her dressing. Most times I dress like that to salon, market, restaurants, bank and malls.

Biko, don't allow your mother to use her hand to destroy the beautiful relationship you have your girlfriend oo!

Yamiriflathead:



I'd rather date and marry a lady that dresses decently and isn't a love peddler. I won't compromise on my standards because the society has begun to normalize indescent dressing... if there are no virtuos, decently dressed women then I'd rather not marry.

These are the same women that call guys who Sag and carry dreadlocks irresponsible 'Boiz' that are not Ripe for marriage. But somehow they won't us to accept bum shot wearing hoes as wife materials

Btw can you wear that cloth to church on Sunday?

Jagermeister:


Ishi did you hear of gamine' passing?

Ruined my day!